Are you socially awkward by choice?

[The_root_of_all_evil]

Most people (geeks or not) are socially awkward outside of their normal group.

Even the most extroverted of people prefer the company of equals.

 

[joshuaayt]

By choice? Maybe so, maybe so. I know that conversations never end the way I want them to- I just can't keep up with the damn things. So many variables- it's too easy to offend someone, and I don't like doing that. I'd rather not speak to anyone.

The only person I seem to be able to talk with safely is my sister and, consequently, I tend to enjoy conversations with her.

 

[flyhawk]

I Over think and Over analyse and when I finally reach my conclusion the conversation is already over

I just do it like JD (from Scrubs) look up to the left and think people will accept as daydreaming

Girls however........ I can never figure them out and I feel like they can figure me out in a second ore maybe judge me in a sec dunno....

 

[LordFisheh]

With people I don't know I just... don't know what to do. Not by choice at all; I'd say that's my biggest resentment in life.

 

[Vault101]

Im less socially awkward that I used to be, but no it was never by choice, I like people just fine

I can interact with most people pretty well, (somtimes though I obsess over the fact that I feel like I come across as a retard then feel guilty about it...well thats more of a work thing)

however I know I'd much rather spend a saturday night with a soft drink and the PS3 rather than go out clubbing...somtimes the social thing..I just dont enjoy it

 

[Casual Shinji]

I've recently discovered that I want people to be interested in me, but that I forget to be equally interested in them.

Not by choice, it just doesn't seem to occur to me that they might care what I have to say about them.

I have a strong urge to want to meet new people and socialize, but when I do I'll get kind of exhausted by their presence after about 3 or 4 hours. With my family I'm totally okay, but with casual acquaintances I just can't seem to relax or feel at ease.

 

[Esotera]

I hate most people, so can't really be bothered to socialise with them properly; they find this awkward. I'm perfectly fine around people who are my friends though, so don't really see the issue.

 

[SL33TBL1ND]

I hate most people, but that doesn't make me socially awkward. I have no trouble talking to anybody; I simply choose not to talk to people. I think people like to self-label far too often and that's why this site is rampant with, well, everything.

That's pretty much the best post I've seen today. Good job.

 

[luclin92]

well i stopped being socially awkward when i got to high school. so now i might be one of the more open people at the school i go to.

 

[CrazyGirl17]

Hard to say. I'm a bit socially awkward for other reasons, though...

 

[TheAceTheOne]

OP, I'm socially awkward at times... But it's more because I talk a lot. And it's definitely not by choice, brother.

 

[Xixikal]

No way...
I actually only just found out that I was socially awkward... which was awkward in itself

 

[staika]

I am only socially awkward when talking to people I haven't met before or don't know that well. When I'm with my friends I am very talkative and quite loud.

When I was younger my family moved a lot so I was very socially inept but for some reason the quieter I was the more people liked me. I'll elaborate, Every class I took I was the one kid that really didn't talk at all and everyone just ignored me but after about 2 weeks everyone wants to know everything about me and then I become one of the more popular kids in the class. I honestly have no Idea why this kept happening but it happened in just about every class I took in High School.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I think a lot of it is by choice because people are afraid they'll screw up their social interactions. I'm not a big fan of most people, because most people seem to either be sheep or dumb as posts. I CAN talk to just about anyone, but that doesn't mean that I'll enjoy it.

In fact, I talk to most people in my classes (I'm in college) and some people at places I go to regularly. Some of them I enjoy talking to. Some of them I don't. I'm not good with large crowds of people, but only because they tend to be noisy and I can't talk to people in depth like I usually like to.

 

[Keepitclean]

I'm not socially awkward, just shy. Especially around girls. I never was when I was younger so I don't know what changed.

It's probably caused by my less than smooth transition to my new school when I moved to the city.

 

[Vivi22]

I can be socially awkward, but largely because I find many social conventions to be pointless and stupid, and don't consider normally taboo discussion topics to be off limits. I suppose you could say I have boundary issues.

 

[Drummie666]

I always feel uncomfortable around people. I've tried to figure out why, but I can't come up with anything I'm really scared of. It's not like I'm scared of them judging me or something, for fucks sake my facebook and twitter have MLP avatars. I just don't like being around other people, so I only talk to people unless there's a pressing need to or they talk to me first.

I also hate when people notice that I don't talk to people, come over to me and talk to me about how I should be more social.
I've already tried that, but when I'm around other people, all I want to do it go back to my house and be alone.

 

[TriGGeR_HaPPy]

Well... I'm not really socially awkward, to be honest.
I join in on the drinking nights/events here at uni, I get along well with people who I've only recently met, I've got a large group of friends (some of whom I've known for many years).
...
I probably don't even belong in this thread in the first place. ;>_>
*jumps out of thread*

EDIT: Damn Ninjas.

Well since I am not socially awkward at all I probably dont belong in this thread.

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