Asked out a girl today... :D
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Yeah, I kinda felt the same way.Colour-Scientist said:
It's good you're being straightforward, OP, because those passive-aggressive `man that ***** doesn't notice me while I love her from afar!` dudes suck infinite amounts of ass, but retail workers are kind of supposed to be nice and make conversation and laugh at customers jokes.
Basically the person behind the till is usually different when they aren't working.
I spent the entire day yesterday texting a girl until about 3am and even though I am positive she's into me I still don't have the bollocks to ask her out.
Good on you boy, you deserve a hug from the honeypuff monster.
Good on you boy, you deserve a hug from the honeypuff monster.
I almost worked up the courage to sit next to a girl the other day... almost. Seriously though I gotta check if this getting drunk thing works because even if they dump me the moment I'm sober it still counts right?
I never got the whole thing about asking out a person you know for all of an hour.
Like, sure you can make a joke and find that attractive, but I can do that with nearly fucking anyone. I still know nothing about them.
I wouldn't want to start any kind of romantic relationship with someone when I'm later going to find out that they have completely opposing views to me.
Also yeah it's very possible that she was being nice to try and sell you stuff. I imagine people who work in retail are told to be as nice as possible, to an extent.
Like, sure you can make a joke and find that attractive, but I can do that with nearly fucking anyone. I still know nothing about them.
I wouldn't want to start any kind of romantic relationship with someone when I'm later going to find out that they have completely opposing views to me.
Also yeah it's very possible that she was being nice to try and sell you stuff. I imagine people who work in retail are told to be as nice as possible, to an extent.
You went the wrong way about it. You should be a bastard. Chicks dig the bastards [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rqTE-ig7NhY]. Does this work in real life? I dunno. I'm too scared of people in general (not to mention women) to ever try something like this.
You know, she may not have known what a Venn diagram theoretically is but she still could've known what a Venn diagram practically is. Like me, I had to google "Venn diagram" to realize I do actually know this. Who cares what it's called?dunam said:
I have said it before and i will say it again, girls are hard and so are boys everyone is hard to talk to to me so i take my hat off to you for giving a try. I know i would not have.
I know this is unsolicited, but I feel compelled to give you a bit of advice, but first let me commend you on your effort. It takes a lot of courage to ask a girl out for a guy, even one who isn't shy. So, Kudos on giving it a go. A few points for the next time you try.I_am_a_Spoon said:
1: A guys number one tool in his arsenal of water testing is the bad joke. Seriously, if you can get a girl to laugh at a stupid joke, she at least has enough interest in your personality to enjoy being around you. This is a key factor in getting a date. If she can't stand being around you, she isn't going out with you.
2: Confidence is key. This is where you stumble and fail a bit. Girls want to know that they guy they are considering going on a date with is confident enough in himself to not either A: Do something totally creepy, or B: not spend the entire time worrying about how they feel. They want a guy who can keep them laughing and having a good time. I am not going to say this is the most important part in obtaining a lasting relationship, as that relies on completely different requirements for each and every girl, but for a first date, it is important (most of the time, I know there are some girls that like the shy guy).
3: Timing. The more time you take to express your interest, the longer she has to consider why you might be a bad idea. You don't want to move too soon, but too late is going to kill your chances. Shortly after you've engaged her and made her laugh and enjoy your company, you need to move in for the kill. Running away to collect your thoughts and coming back just screams lack of confidence.
4: Expressing your interest early in the conversation. Make sure to keep the topic on point. If you are interested in dating this girl, you have to make it known. This is where the shy guy tends to fall into the "Friends Zone" (take not I put it in quotations as I realize this is bad terminology). If you let her start thinking of you as a friend and not something more, that is where she will place you. As a friend. Don't do the passive aggressive thing of being her friend in hopes of getting in her pants, it won't work (unless you are extremely attractive) and it will only succeed in making you look really creepy. So make comments about how pretty she is, or how you like some feature. You don't have to come on strong, just let her know that you are thinking of her that way.
Like I said before I know the advice wasn't asked for, and I won't claim that everything I said holds true in every situation, as every situation is different (just like everyone woman). I do know that these things helped me to get dates in the past, and I am now in a steady strong relationship that is going on 2 years, with an amazing woman that I love.
Just read through the thread then, thanks for all the advice guys.
I realise she was probably just doing her job by being nice (three books and a stalker, she should get a raise), but honestly?... At that point it was about proving to myself that I could actually go through with it. And it felt incredibly awesome to finally do so.
Hope you all had a great Christmas!
I realise she was probably just doing her job by being nice (three books and a stalker, she should get a raise), but honestly?... At that point it was about proving to myself that I could actually go through with it. And it felt incredibly awesome to finally do so.
Hope you all had a great Christmas!
i've actually never had to ask people out. i've had people of both genders (i'm Male BTW) come straight up to me and hit on me. i even met some of my friends that way, and one of my female friends. and i'm not talkin' at a club or anything. just randomly at a store and stuff.
i guess that sounds a little pompous of me though, but my point is that you've done something i wouldn't know how to do, because i was never given the need to actually learn. and that takes courage.
i guess that sounds a little pompous of me though, but my point is that you've done something i wouldn't know how to do, because i was never given the need to actually learn. and that takes courage.