Becoming Asexual

[Julianking93]

Good for you I guess.

Many people here claim to be asexual (Idealist Commi, Namelessguy...others) and while I'd consider myself asexual, I don't reject sexuallity.

While I would happily take a girlfriend and while I sometimes cry over how lonely I actually am, I don't go chasing after it.

I don't reject sexuality, I'm not not interested in it, and I would gladly date a girl who's actually willing to.

Is there a word for that? Apathetic right?

 

[Glademaster_v1legacy]

You unless you are a hermaphrodite I don't you can be asexual and even then I still don't think you would be able to be asexual.

 

[Soxafloppin]

It seems like a completely awfull way to live to be honest.

Probley not to them, as they dont know any different.

But never being attracted to anyone ever? Thats just crazy.

 

[Casual Shinji]

Asexuallity? No thanks.

I'll have some sex and a side of fries.

Though, it does seem that a lot of people on this site are showing off their asexuallity for no apparent reason.

 

[Katherine Kerensky]

Well, being nonsexual/asexual is a damn good thing for me. Makes the world a whole lot nicer, plus I cannot be seduced
Never will my bank account be emptied by someone who pretends to love me, just to get at my money...
Sure, I've been called a freak for being nonsexual, and many other things besides, but I revel in the freedom I gain from being nonsexual, the insults mean nothing to me.

EDIT: Also, I don't know of anyway to become asexual/antisexual in the sexuality thread. It just seems to happen. Sounds kinda stupid, but it just happened to me, luckily I wanted to be nonsexual

What I wanna know is: Do asexual people masturbate??

Like, is it an aversion to all sexual acts, or just sexual acts with other people?

1. Well, speaking for myself, no. No point in masterbating (I feel dirty typing that word...)
2. Being asexual isn't really an aversion towars sex/sexuality, it is more of a lack of interest. So you may be thinking of Antisexuals
Well, I hope that was helpful.

 

[Oneirius]

A good friend of mine happens to be asexual. Most actually find this trait disturbing and weird. Just so you no.

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

The only benefit to that would be not being attracted to other girls and never attracting any. Seriously, that isn't even upsetting, its just annoying. I know I'm not ugly, but nobody has ever fancied me to my knowledge. It'd be a lot easier to not find either sex attractive, that way I wouldn't care about my generations delusion:

"You need a significant other to be happy".

Why do all the girls I know get new boyfriends and claim to love them as soon as they leave their previous one?

 

[Kif]

No offence; but I'm sure a lot of people who say they're asexual are asexual in the same way a lot of people who say they have OCD have OCD... i.e. they're not and they don't.

Personally, no, I quite like that I'm not asexual and much prefer it this way.

 

[BonsaiK]

Would any of you want to stop feeling sexual attraction towards people?
I would love to be asexual, after all, whats the point of being attracted to people when you can never have them?

I certainly would like to feel asexual toward certain individuals who are obtainable to me. Apart from that, I work on the assumption I can have whoever I want until they tell me otherwise, so therefore I have no problem feeling sexual toward whoever. I know the truth in fact isn't anywhere near this, but I find that it pays to think positive with these things.

 

[Berethond]

What I wanna know is: Do asexual people masturbate??

Like, is it an aversion to all sexual acts, or just sexual acts with other people?

I'm not ripping on asexuals, I totally respect their choices, I'm just curious haha

Some of them do, to relieve tension or for such reasons.

 

[Adzma]

Would any of you want to stop feeling sexual attraction towards people?
I would love to be asexual, after all, whats the point of being attracted to people when you can never have them? Any of you know how to become asexual? This is pretty pointless isnt it.

Every day of my life for the exact reason you are. Why would someone want to live with a desire that can never be fulfilled?

 

[Koeryn]

Would any of you want to stop feeling sexual attraction towards people?
I would love to be asexual, after all, whats the point of being attracted to people when you can never have them? Any of you know how to become asexual? This is pretty pointless isnt it.

Become asexual? Isn't that like becoming homosexual? Or Heterosexual? Or pansexual?

From the sound of it, you're just being whiny 'cause you can't get a girlfriend. Give it time.

 

[Nickolai77]

I wish i could have a switch in my brain which would allow me to switch, at will, from hetrosexual to asexual and vice versa. This is so i don't have to worry about all the social and biological anxiety's and stigma's that come with not having a girlfriend/having a girlfriend/getting over an ex-girlfriend.

It's chemically possible to become asexual, although as already said it can screw you up. I doubt you could mentally make yourself asexual by cognitive techniques. It seems to me that some people may be lucky enough not to be as interested in the opposite sex as most others by virtue of their own nature (looking at Furburt here). In a way i envy those people who are able to distance themselves from the whole thing, you avoid a lot of mental anguish.

I myself am, i think naturally inclined, to be highly hetrosexual- when i'm single i am always, sub-consciously, looking for someone to be my next-girlfriend, and when i am in a relationship,put a lot of time and effort into it. I wish i was more laid back about the whole thing.

 

[Adzma]

This thread is depressing
Just because you didn't experience any positive relationships, that doesn't mean that you should just give up. I mean come on, a gamer's motto should be:"never admit defeat!"
You have to earn your love soldier.
+ Not even sociopaths and emos don't consider turning asexual!

I would argue that the difference there is that when playing games I know that I will eventually overcome that one insane obstacle that stands in my way through continued perseverance. On the other hand relationships are something that will never end in one's favour through continued perseverance. Giving up would be much easier if asexuality could be induced.

 

[no3]

Being a human is to control your urges and strong feelings connected with pleasure. In my opinion, when it could be so easy to just give up our humanity and exchange it with... I don't know: medicine for example, then what's the point in living?

 

[CommyGingerbreadMan]

Okay sorry but I have to get this off my chest. People who say their asexual aren't and are just making excuses for not being able to find anyone, because we cannot EVER have something our fault, it always has to be a force no one can contend with.

I've met real asexual people, why are they liek that? Their parents literally NEVER hugged them or showed them ANY affection. It became the norm. They are also ALL disgusted by even friendly hugs and cannot handle seeing anyone kissing. They become physically ill.

People who I met that claim to be asexual usually HAD a girlfriend at one point and a bad breakup, go figure.

Call yourself asexual or w/e. Bash me all you want, I ain't buyin into it.

ALSO: Don't just give up man, there's someone out there for everyone. No human may have the exact same interests, but people can come damn near close. Hell I'm willing to bet there are girls out there attracted to asexuality. Just get back on the saddle. So what if you don't find the one until your 40? It will be all the worth it when you do. You can't give up the chase after one bad thing happened.

 

[sumanoskae]

If you're desperate there's always crack cocaine, other then that I'm lost

I never got why anyone would want to be asexual, maybe my chance of getting laid is just higher then most, or maybe I just think it is. Either way, if the urge starts to get annoying, you can always masturbate, seems to me like everything else in life, be patient when you can't get it and work towards it, and enjoy it when you can

If our answer to everything we can't have right away was to go find our soul and beat him up until he agrees to stop wanting it, we'd all be like Dr. Manhattan

My advice, just be patient, distract yourself, don't pay it mind. Maybe find a friend with benefits if you can

 

[sumanoskae]

Nah, 99% of asexuals are virgin high-school nerds that suck at having a relationship.They'll all end up with a bitchy wife someday.Now, being apathetic is a different thing but it depends on your personality not you biological needs

Well i'm in university doing a degree in contemporary dance but apart from that, "high school virgin nerd" pretty much sums me up. And theres no method to not caring about never knowing love? Other than being born that way? Man life is pretty cruel.

From what it seems like, women respect confidence beyond everything else. Dosnt matter if you have an I.Q of 138, are a professional dancer, a writer, and will care more about them than anyone else ever will, if you dont have the confidence to generate the immediate attraction than its all over. Its fucked up is what it is. I swear i'm going to burn the whole fucking thing down and start again. The world is a cruel place, but it dosnt need to be. People make it that way.

Remember, attraction doesn't work the way friendship does. You can be friends with someone just because you think their a good person, friendships can be built on respect. Attraction works more like magnetism, even if party A thinks party B is the perfect example of the opposite sex, if the physics don't add up then there can be no genuine attraction. Everyone's got a button somewhere, but quality isn't the value that decides weather or not that button get's pressed.

I could go more into detail as to how I think it works, but I'm not in the mood for doing a psyche profile, especially with such a young theory

P.S: if you grow 100 apples, most of them will rot

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Why would you want to? I don't really see the point I suppose neither do they.

But really, I'm sure it would make life a whole lot duller, but then, they few people who I've met that claim to be asexual are only so because they've given up at trying to get a partner.

 

[mip0]

Would any of you want to stop feeling sexual attraction towards people?
I would love to be asexual, after all, whats the point of being attracted to people when you can never have them? Any of you know how to become asexual? This is pretty pointless isnt it.

1. No, I would not want to stop feeling sexual attraction towards people.
Because: 2. Combined with escapism sexual attraction is great. "What's the point of being attracted to people when you can't have them?" is like saying "What's the point of anime? ...".
3. I don't know, perhaps brainwashing or sterilization?