Being an Adult Sucks
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While there are aspects of adulthood that are annoying as hell, like paying bills, certain responsibility-type situations, etc... Its all in how you manage yourself in the end. I've had plenty of awesome adult adventures (that had nothing to do with what you might be thinking, gutter-folk!) that I could never have done as a kid. Hell at one point I lived near an amusement park and had a year long pass that I would use almost daily, if just for a few hours, to ride the rides and blow off some steam. I never could have done that as a kid.
I think about all the times as a kid that certain aspects sucked royally, like school. I really disliked two of the three schools I attended as a kid and had pretty much no say in changing them. As an adult, I can change jobs if I want (though it takes work and planning, and such so not just an impulsive thing). If a job sucks, I can always look for a different one as long as I'm responsible about it and don't fuck myself over. Thankfully I work mostly for myself now and don't have to worry about a lot of the aspects of "normal" jobs that bother the shit out of me.
Its easy to look back at things that you've already lived through in life and romanticize those things, but in reality I'd bet you would find that being a kid isn't as easy or fun as you remember it to be. Human tendency is to smooth over the rough patches in life, especially those we experienced when younger. As fun as it may have been when I was a kid, I'd bet anything after a few days of the bullshit I've forgotten about, I'd be itching to get back to adult life.
I think about all the times as a kid that certain aspects sucked royally, like school. I really disliked two of the three schools I attended as a kid and had pretty much no say in changing them. As an adult, I can change jobs if I want (though it takes work and planning, and such so not just an impulsive thing). If a job sucks, I can always look for a different one as long as I'm responsible about it and don't fuck myself over. Thankfully I work mostly for myself now and don't have to worry about a lot of the aspects of "normal" jobs that bother the shit out of me.
Its easy to look back at things that you've already lived through in life and romanticize those things, but in reality I'd bet you would find that being a kid isn't as easy or fun as you remember it to be. Human tendency is to smooth over the rough patches in life, especially those we experienced when younger. As fun as it may have been when I was a kid, I'd bet anything after a few days of the bullshit I've forgotten about, I'd be itching to get back to adult life.
Today my day consisted of rolling out of bed at about 9.30am and having to go to work.
I rolled back about 1.30pm and had sausags/chips with curry sauce (it was amazing).
I played DA:I for a couple of hours and then had a nap.
Went for a shower and then to the shop on the corner for something cold to drink, came back and played more DA:I
About 11pm I got hungry so walked 5 minutes to the local late night takeout place, I chatted to my friend who worked there for half an hour and another friend who lives close by came out for a chat too, I brought some food back for my house mate and then in the 90 minutes I've been back I've played more DA:I <<< Some variant of that is literally my day most days... I'm 24, it's pretty great tbh
Having to interact with utility companies can be a huge chore, paying bills is annoying, and some people sort of look down on you for playing video games once you hit your 20's but freedom makes up for all of it most of the time. Just do whatever you want to do. Most people won't actually give a shit.
You'll regret pretending to be more grown up than you are than you will ever feel shitty about people judging you for not being grown up.
I rolled back about 1.30pm and had sausags/chips with curry sauce (it was amazing).
I played DA:I for a couple of hours and then had a nap.
Went for a shower and then to the shop on the corner for something cold to drink, came back and played more DA:I
About 11pm I got hungry so walked 5 minutes to the local late night takeout place, I chatted to my friend who worked there for half an hour and another friend who lives close by came out for a chat too, I brought some food back for my house mate and then in the 90 minutes I've been back I've played more DA:I <<< Some variant of that is literally my day most days... I'm 24, it's pretty great tbh
Having to interact with utility companies can be a huge chore, paying bills is annoying, and some people sort of look down on you for playing video games once you hit your 20's but freedom makes up for all of it most of the time. Just do whatever you want to do. Most people won't actually give a shit.
You'll regret pretending to be more grown up than you are than you will ever feel shitty about people judging you for not being grown up.
I have Dragon Age Inquisition to play, but no damn time. Dragon ball Xenoverse will prolly end up similar as will Gat out of hell. Heck, most of my games.
Still, I have hobbies to keep me from completely going off my rocker. game when I can, shop for rare figures that strike my fancy.
The way I see it, you absolutely ust get time to yourself. Being miserable all the time shouldn't become a way of life. Even if you gotta wedge something in.
Just coz you're an adult doesn't mean you gotta follow some arbitrary bullshit rules like "You can't buy toys for yourself" or "stop playing videogames" or "watch the news" and junk.
Thank you. I kind of see your point, yes.Unkillable Cat said:
(no worries, I wont elaborate)
I have to remember those tips whenever faced with such a situation and just continue to try.
(I might even get it before my retirement ,) )
Hopefully these tips can help anyone else that is reading this and have the same question.
*smiles* The problem the OP has is that he's still reeling from the first wave of being an adult. The sudden address of bills, and tension. He's not seen the curtains yet, let alone been able to pull them back. Those people he sees as watching him and judging, he doesn't realize they don't really matter. Eventually you will figure out the few people you actually care about, and the rest disappear once you step into your own house. Yes, you still have to play with strangers, but this time the game is work, and you get to pretend to be anything you want as long as you keep winning. In time, OP you'll learn how to put on a second skin of professionalism, that helps with the tedium of that. You will, eventually win that game enough to make more then your base needs, and then the real fun begins.Queen Michael said:
But, the most important thing you haven't found yet is the spark of being an adult. Others have said to not care about things, but that isn't actually the truth. You need to find out what you care about. That sacred mission all adults that matter have where they figure out what they want their life to mean and work tirelessly toward it. Sometimes that doesn't came to everyone all at once, and just because you think you know what makes you happy doesn't always work out that way. I am an artist. I make money with my talent, and I know what I want to leave when I go. What do you want to be?
Welcome to the real world. Yeah bills might suck but you're paying your own way in the world and standing on your own two feet, the value of which shouldn't be underestimated.Paragon Fury said:
It isn't really as if all these responsibilities and obligations have suddenly materialised out of nowhere either, it is just the case that now you're an adult and it's you rather than your parents/guardian(s) picking up the slack.
If you want to feel better, instead of thinking in terms of being put upon now, look at it that you got a free pass for 18 years.
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Fuck what others think.
I wear shorts and sandles everywhere I go regardless of stuff and I don't give a fuck that my hair is past shoulders.
My family think I have no respect for myself because of it and I simply don't care.
Live how you want not how others want. If you want a toy or poster then go for it fuck anyone who belittled you for it.
I love living in my own style of life.
And to anyone who says you need to act and look like a adult and enjoy only adult things to have any self respect can fuck off.
I wear shorts and sandles everywhere I go regardless of stuff and I don't give a fuck that my hair is past shoulders.
My family think I have no respect for myself because of it and I simply don't care.
Live how you want not how others want. If you want a toy or poster then go for it fuck anyone who belittled you for it.
I love living in my own style of life.
And to anyone who says you need to act and look like a adult and enjoy only adult things to have any self respect can fuck off.
Yeah, I'm really feeling the whole 'being an adult sucks' thing right now, as currently:
- I have three jobs and still can't afford a basic living
- Trying to keep a relationship together (and apparently not doing such a good job of it)
- Looking at being homeless by the end of the month or so
- Having to make one meal last three on an almost daily basis
- Trying to keep it all together so I don't get committed again (not doing so hot there either it seems)
All of this, and I'm not even 23 yet. Quite frankly, I'm surprised that the stress/myself hasn't done me in already.
- I have three jobs and still can't afford a basic living
- Trying to keep a relationship together (and apparently not doing such a good job of it)
- Looking at being homeless by the end of the month or so
- Having to make one meal last three on an almost daily basis
- Trying to keep it all together so I don't get committed again (not doing so hot there either it seems)
All of this, and I'm not even 23 yet. Quite frankly, I'm surprised that the stress/myself hasn't done me in already.
Ditto. As an adult, I can drive to hang out with a friend in another town, do a kickboxing class a few hours later, and then drive to a mall to go shopping for games/clothes/stuff I like. I don't have to report to anyone, or ask anyone's permission to go out anywhere. I don't have to get dragged along to some store/restaurant that I really don't want to go to.Imperioratorex Caprae said:
I have to cook my own food, but I'm such an egotistical prick that I'd much rather eat something cooked by me than something from a restaurant, or cooked by anyone else. I can make what I want, when I want, and the way I want it. Instead of eating shitty restaurant salads with lettuce, bread croutons, and whatever weird milk cream thing they use as a salad dressing, I have my salads the way I want, with spinach, chopped carrots, mustard as a salad dressing, and beans/ham/almonds/whatever the hell I want.
Sure, there are some parallels between adult life and teenage life. Instead of school, I go to work. Instead of waiting until my birthday/christmas to get something I really want, I wait until it comes on sale. Or if I really want it, fuck it, I'll buy it full price as soon as I get the chance.
I vastly prefer being an adult:
Someone doesn't like your hobbies?
Kid: They get taken away.
Adult: Your problem, not mine.
Responsibilities?
Kid: You are responsible for your school and your chores and have no say whatsoever in what this consists of.
Adult: Virtually every responsibility is optional, in one way or another. It's tough as hell to live off the grid, but people still do it. And when you say you don't anything out of it? What are you talking about? My bills got me a car to get around with and a place of my own to live in and decorate as I pleased, and that's just for starters.
Violence?
Kid: Nobody seems to care much. Kids bully each other with near total impunity in most cases.
Adult: Bullies get in real trouble. Behavior that would be completely overlooked at home or in school gets people thrown in jail, and even the sort of minor harassment that isn't even noticed in children routinely gets adults fired.
Granted, childhood kind of sucked for me. I clashed with my family a lot, and not having to care much what they thought was one of the happiest moments of my life.
Someone doesn't like your hobbies?
Kid: They get taken away.
Adult: Your problem, not mine.
Responsibilities?
Kid: You are responsible for your school and your chores and have no say whatsoever in what this consists of.
Adult: Virtually every responsibility is optional, in one way or another. It's tough as hell to live off the grid, but people still do it. And when you say you don't anything out of it? What are you talking about? My bills got me a car to get around with and a place of my own to live in and decorate as I pleased, and that's just for starters.
Violence?
Kid: Nobody seems to care much. Kids bully each other with near total impunity in most cases.
Adult: Bullies get in real trouble. Behavior that would be completely overlooked at home or in school gets people thrown in jail, and even the sort of minor harassment that isn't even noticed in children routinely gets adults fired.
Granted, childhood kind of sucked for me. I clashed with my family a lot, and not having to care much what they thought was one of the happiest moments of my life.
My 20s were all semi-impoverished flailing, but as I've gotten some distance from them I'm starting to think that's pretty standard. I'm quite enjoying my 30s so far, though (only a couple years into them, so it could all go south soon, but it's good for now!). I'm more financially stable and more secure in myself, and I've beaten and shaped parts of adulthood into what I want to make of it.
This. On the cusp of graduating from university I can say that the prospect of "true" adult (school-less) life is daunting, but I've never abandoned my "childish" drive to do what I enjoy. I game, I follow cartoons/anime, I knit, I write, and I have my own income to put towards embracing all my geeky hobbies that my mate embraces too.JoJo said:
The trick to a happy adulthood, I find, is the same as surviving high school/university/college: find what you like and keep it. Find your niche and enjoy it, because work/school/obligations are inevitable. That's just how it is.
Some friends came over a few days ago and had their nephew with them whom is probably around six or seven. This was a few days after Christmas, I had finished the Lego Guardians of the Galaxy Milano set that my G/f had gotten me which was sitting on the coffee table, she also got me a friggin PS4 which was pretty sweet =).
We ended up playing SuperMario 3 on his request which was surprising to say the least. By the third world he started getting a little upset that I was good at the game, and his aunt says "Hon, he has played this game a million times he has had a lot more practice".
He then looked at me and says,
"Its weird, you are a lot like I am, we both like Lego's and video games but your an adult."
My reply as I continued playing, "I am only cleverly disguised as an adult".
The look on his face was hysterical he had no idea such a thing was possible. My g/f also tells her nieces and nephews that she doesn't have to pick an ice cream flavor, she can have them all because she is a grown up.
I am 35.
Sure bills and work are dumb, that's a mantra around here "Work is dumb" But I like that I can buy what I want and do what I want. I worked moderately hard in school, I am polite as fuck, and not being a dumbass helps too so I landed a good job.
When my factory closes in 8 months or so and depending on if I can find another job that pays as well I will probably have to cut back on my spending on fun but that is just knowing your limits, and part of being an adult. Adulthood is simply being responsible for yourself, and if you procreate, your family. You can still have fun while being an adult, even if times get tough, I can still just go for a bike ride.
When you stop playing, when you stop enjoying the simple things in life is when you actually start to grow old and die.
We ended up playing SuperMario 3 on his request which was surprising to say the least. By the third world he started getting a little upset that I was good at the game, and his aunt says "Hon, he has played this game a million times he has had a lot more practice".
He then looked at me and says,
"Its weird, you are a lot like I am, we both like Lego's and video games but your an adult."
My reply as I continued playing, "I am only cleverly disguised as an adult".
The look on his face was hysterical he had no idea such a thing was possible. My g/f also tells her nieces and nephews that she doesn't have to pick an ice cream flavor, she can have them all because she is a grown up.
I am 35.
Sure bills and work are dumb, that's a mantra around here "Work is dumb" But I like that I can buy what I want and do what I want. I worked moderately hard in school, I am polite as fuck, and not being a dumbass helps too so I landed a good job.
When my factory closes in 8 months or so and depending on if I can find another job that pays as well I will probably have to cut back on my spending on fun but that is just knowing your limits, and part of being an adult. Adulthood is simply being responsible for yourself, and if you procreate, your family. You can still have fun while being an adult, even if times get tough, I can still just go for a bike ride.
When you stop playing, when you stop enjoying the simple things in life is when you actually start to grow old and die.