best way to propose...

[Cxizent]

misquote is misquoted! i said that "this is probably what will happen" to me getting wasted off bears and vodka with a few friends and getting over it when i realize im no good to anyone in that state. regarding her saying no to us getting back together.


on another note...shes a super good girl...like she wouldnt even take her top off for anyone she hasnt been with for at least 4 or more months. so im just loling at those comments seeing how shes the exact opposite.

You posited that it could happen, I misquothed nothing.

And how can you know her so well if you left her and now aren't even on speaking terms? I think that you're in love with the idea of her. Seriously, look into dealing with depression.

 

[vampirekid.13]

misquote is misquoted! i said that "this is probably what will happen" to me getting wasted off bears and vodka with a few friends and getting over it when i realize im no good to anyone in that state. regarding her saying no to us getting back together.


on another note...shes a super good girl...like she wouldnt even take her top off for anyone she hasnt been with for at least 4 or more months. so im just loling at those comments seeing how shes the exact opposite.

You posited that it could happen, I misquothed nothing.

And how can you know her so well if you left her and now aren't even on speaking terms? I think that you're in love with the idea of her. Seriously, look into dealing with depression.

you are saying i said "thats prolly gonna happen" to her sleeping with the whole world.

when i said thats prolly gonna happen to me crying, drinking and getting over it if i cant get her back.

im off to bed for the night, thanks to everyone for the advice.

ill try calling her tomorrow and maybe getting her to unban me on skype to talk face to face i guess, and see if theres any hope left for us. if not, ill look forward to deployment and getting over her the hard way... lol.

 

[Ben Legend]

Thers a simple formula tested by time:

gun + her head + priest who'd been paid well.

Tried, Tested, Worked.
Thanks for the advice.

 

[VitalSigns]

to your exgirlfriend that is currently in a relationship.


well....im stumped, someone give me an idea.


oh yea, and we're an ocean apart atm....so that makes it even harder.

Yeah do not do this. If shes happy in her relationship you have no right to do this. Also your probably seeing this from a hollywood movie perspective where everything works out, Reality your probably gonna scare the shit out of her, and then your shit will be kicked out of you by the other guy, and you will deserve it. Move on, don't be a pussy.

As for Depression I suffered major depression and was on suicide watch a few years back, things get better, but Dwelling on some girl never makes it better, I can't believe how bent out of shape some people get over a girl. I love my fiancee with all my heart, and if she left me it would kill me, but I wouldnt let it ruin my life like some people do.

 

[Allstar309]

Just watch a few romantic movies. That'll give you some ideas, theres tons of movies which are based on the exact situation you are in.

 

[Woem]

Remember: you really only get to propose once. And if you just broke up 6 weeks ago, then it looks like it's a better idea not to do something so radical, especially given the circumstances. Also, but this is just my opinion, you don't go after a person that's already in a relationship.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

You broke up with her, and now you want to get her back?
And to do this, you plan on proposing?
Words cannot describe how stupid that is.
Seriously. Think real hard about it. Stop letting your emotions think for you, they have no fucking clue what they want.

This. Will not. End well.

This is your own fault, dude. You had her, and you let her go. End of story. Maybe some day, when the both of you are older and wiser, you can try again, but right now she is in a relationship with someone else, and clearly still hurting after what you've done.
Forget about her. Clear your head. If you're totally co-dependant, do something about it or find someone else.

Just stay away from her. Right now, you are not good for her, and she is not good for you.

 

[JC175]

Express that you do miss her and would welcome her back, but other than that, let her go. You're up shit creek without a paddle. I mean, if she's in another relationship, there's nothing you can do; besides, you broke up with her.

yea, pretty much, i know im neck deep in shit and a roof less than an inch above me.


however my only hope is this. her "relationship" is mainly online. she hasnt met the guy irl yet.


so theres still hope right?


i was thinking of writing her a long letter and having flowers delivered at her door...

something ridiculous like 200 roses.

meh, i dont know.

Look, what you need to do is to call her, and be honest. Save the overdramatics for afterwards, if she gets a huge boquet of flowers randomly one day it's going to be very, very strange.

What you need to do is TALK TO HER. Tell her exactly how you feel, and exactly how you feel about her. Apart from that, I don't think a proposal is a good idea, but if you're serious about getting this girl back then you need to put your emotions firmly and squarely on the table.

Good luck, man.

 

[Cxizent]

you are saying i said "thats prolly gonna happen" to her sleeping with the whole world.

when i said thats prolly gonna happen to me crying, drinking and getting over it if i cant get her back.

im off to bed for the night, thanks to everyone for the advice.

ill try calling her tomorrow and maybe getting her to unban me on skype to talk face to face i guess, and see if theres any hope left for us. if not, ill look forward to deployment and getting over her the hard way... lol.

I said that you posited that you would get over her. L2read.

 

[Cpt_Oblivious]

She's you ex.
She's in a relationship.
She's incredibly far away.

[HEADING=1]You don't.[/HEADING]

 

[TOGSolid]

getting her to unban me on skype

^^^^Take a hint^^^^

 

[Daveman]

take ring
put it inside foreskin
put on typical flasher coat
"what d'ya say?"
worst comes to worst, pass it off as a drunken bet

I just hope you rise to the ocasion

 

[Zombie_Fish]

Okay, you seem to have two choices:

Spoiler: Choice one

[HEADING=1]Give up.[/HEADING]
[sup]Trust me, that's a good one.[/sup]

Spoiler: Choice two

Shoot her boyfriend, blame someone else for it, tell her you love her, make up, marry blah blah blah...

 

[WrongSprite]

Tell her it was a mistake. Talk to her. She can only say yes or no.

Do NOT propose.

 

[sorry user name taken.]

Best way to do it in that situation.... DON'T. Unless you like feeling like a jackass.

meh, i broke up with her like a month and a half ago...just to realize i ABSOLUTELY CANT FREAKING LIVE without her.

i cant sleep.

i cant enjoy life.

i cant work.

i cant have fun.

there is seriously nothing in life worth the effort w/o her

i want her back.

its part of a heart break.


you probably only want her because she's with someone else and if thats not the case i hardly think proposing is the way to go given how upset you are.

its very hard (believe i know) you feel this way now but you don't want to make it any worse.

 

[CakeDragon]

If you're intent on getting her back then you should try it, and sooner rather than later - cos the longer you leave it the harder it'll be for you two to click again. Just talk to her, tell her how you're feeling (i.e. what you've said to us) but don't make it sound like you're a depressed obsessed stalker or anything. Telling her you can't taste food will just freak her out slightly. Tell her you wanted some space and not a proper permanent break up.
Don't propose straight away! She'll see it as some sort of radical 'I want you back' thing and she won't be impressed. You need to build back the bonds you had while you were together, and only then would it be safe to propose to her. And especially don't propose if you're not even in the same country. It won't work.
An online boyfriend doesn't really count - no matter how much you tell someone you love them over the Interwebs it's not the same as being told in real life (cos that one gets you kisses and cuddles too).

Whatever you decide to do, good luck with it.

 

[ben---neb]

I think that everyone posting should say whether or not they are married. If yes, then listen to their advice, something obviously went right for them. If no, don't listen to them.

I'm not married and have no advice for you other than the above.

 

[sumanoskae]

Well the fact that her relationship is mainly online means that likely she went looking for it, which could mean she was lonely, which could mean she missed you, but if I were you I wouldnt go straight for marriage, just tell her how you feel and be as sincere as possible, and tell her face to face, travel over seas if you have to, but, since you cannot do that use a webcam or something like that, also do it soon before her relationship gets serious, also tell her that you feel like shit without her and make sure you also tell her that you were told to move on but decided against it. Last but not least MAKE SURE THIS IS ACTUALY WHAT YOU WANT TO DO because if its not then youll break up with her again later and end up making a complete ass of yourself. thats all I can offer with the knowledge I have of your relationship I have, if you would like more advise just give me more information..., wow, I just wrote the script for the next crappy romantic comedy... looks like its purgatory for me

P.S

(Also not that the fact that you went to an internet forum may cause problems down the road so just tell her right away)

EDIT:
what the guy above me said is a good point, so no im not married, im only 13 though so I havent screwed up big time, never bin in a relationship though so dont go into this thinking I have a positive or negative track record

 

[XJ-0461]

Best way to do it in that situation.... DON'T. Unless you like feeling like a jackass.

meh, i broke up with her like a month and a half ago...just to realize i ABSOLUTELY CANT FREAKING LIVE without her.

i cant sleep.

i cant enjoy life.

i cant work.

i cant have fun.

there is seriously nothing in life worth the effort w/o her

i want her back.

You're an idiot. A monumental idiot.

So you had her and YOU broke up with her... And now, instead of talking to her, you're asking a gaming forum how to propose??

Spoiler: If what I'm inferring is not yet clear to you, here is a pointer:

Talk to HER, not us.

Listen to this man. He has the answer.