Bit of Advice please
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I have a couple of bisexual friends I do not find it disturbing at the very least. I think you should tell them sometime but first see what they think of gays and Bis
Well, you definitely have nothing to be ashamed of. But your not really hiding it until you have a boyfriend, right? I mean, the way I think of it, they don't really need to know. You say your bisexual, so that doesn't exclude the possibility of a girlfriend. I have one who's cool with it, so I don't feel the need to tell anyone else my sexuality (although if any of them are reading this, they really should have guessed). If you do find a guy you like, or really want to tell someone, tell your closest friends and see how they react. The reaction will determine who your real friends are.Hugh Mann said:
I get what you mean by your friends suddenly being scared your attracted to them. That's because they don't get that there's a such thing as friend-zoned on both sides.
I don't think I'm getting my point across/ making much sense. Too much studying Statistics has addled my brain. Basically, don't worry too much about telling them until it's necessary is my opinion. Although I'd suggest telling them before they catch you making out with the guy you have in mind.
Also, my sister has a gay friend who, when he told his dad, was thrown down two flights of stairs by him.Hugh Mann said:
So if you do come out, don't do it around the homophobic violent types.
(Which is literally 2/3rds of my school, bigots)
You must be one confusing guy to know.
Its usually easy to tell if a person 'likes' you but if another guy exhibited that towards me and then towards some girl as well...
It'd confuse me more than a '2' confuses computers.
Anyway, just try not to be attracted to any of your male friends, they will run for the hills.
Its usually easy to tell if a person 'likes' you but if another guy exhibited that towards me and then towards some girl as well...
It'd confuse me more than a '2' confuses computers.
Anyway, just try not to be attracted to any of your male friends, they will run for the hills.
The best thing to do (i.e. what I did - similar situation) is to just not make a massive deal about it. From your point of view, this is just just who you are; there's no need to change the world based on it. Don't expose it to your friends in a massive way, but don't keep it hidden either. Tell them when it feels right and, if they're the friends they should be, they'll be absolutely fine with it.
If someone isn't going to be friends with you because of who/what you are then that speaks more about them than it does you.
Hope this helps.
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If someone isn't going to be friends with you because of who/what you are then that speaks more about them than it does you.
Hope this helps.
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Yeah... Not the cool kind at all. Hope you'll grow out of it. Do that much. Or you have to bite the bullet and probably lose all your friends and a fair whack of your family. It's unfortunate but it's what will probably happen.Hugh Mann said:
You are who you are and your friends should accept you for that. Think of it this way; if they don't accept you for who you are do you really want them as friends? Besides you'll be surprised how well friends can understand a situation. I'm sure they like you for who you are as a whole and not because your straight or not. That's what I think anyway.
Umm, I'm homophobic, so I'll avoid expressing my personal opinion.Hugh Mann said:
from a technical standpoint let your female friends know this first, after all they'll be more comfortable knowing this than your male friends, trust me. secondly, be wary; tread carefully now. having a sexual orientation other than the opposite sex is rather radical to other people. I suggest... actually, chances are your male friends are homophobic too. soooo, ask the other Escapists. (but still take my first advice) good luck, do not be fearful. ^.^
Perhaps tell one of your parent's first? Keep it sorta personal, then mayby when you feel confident enough, tell your friends and the rest of your family?
Seriously though, just give it some time, don't rush it.
Seriously though, just give it some time, don't rush it.
You are either not very good at joking or you have no concept of reality. Which is it?JonnoStrife said:
According to Xbox live nothing you say matters. But on a serious note I would go ahead and tell them as cheesey as it seems if they think of you as family too it won't matter.Hugh Mann said:
I have a better sense of reality than you Maxi boy. A lot of people aren't comfortable with bi-sexual males, one of my friends is and since revealing himself he has lost about 90% of his social network. Most bisexuals are just kidding themselves anyway and they are either gay or attention whoring. I don't mean to sound negative, but i'm being the voice of realism.MaxChaos said:
Hey Hey! Someone's put my old avy to use!seydaman said:
Still, I want him to answer with a date. I mean, I've seen countless threads with 17 year olds proclaiming their in love and will get married. Which I can't help but laugh at.
I mean, children are much more open to sexuality. I think we had a gay kid back when I was in 6t grade. Thats like 12 or something, needless to say, the facade didn't last till the end of middle school.
Unless the OP is 17+, I'd advise him to just relax and not make put yourself in a position where it may change. He tells people he's Bi now, he'll be bi forever.