Bitter, bitter rejection.
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If you dated them, I assure you they are not like me. And especially not the girl loose in this building!lee1287 said:
I've been regected lots of times. And by rejected, I mean accepted. I've never been turned down once, however I have had the equivelant, where some guy beat me to the punch and asked out my object of desire just hours before I have. That has happened to me several times now. Christ I was an unlucky guy for a long time. I guess you can only laugh this off. They sure did...spiteful bitches.
Lets put it this way. Not. Half. As. Bad. As. Dating a girl you weren't quite sure you liked simply because she asked you first and then you were so poleaxed you apparently gave a positive answer While being drunk at the time (both of us) and waking up in bed together. Worst part of that part is, don't remember a single fucking (ba dum tish!) minute of it. Three months later, I ended the relationship and there was still bad feelings on both sides.
Long story short. Being rejected isn't half as bad as dating when your not sure.
Don't hesitate to move, but look before you leap!
Long story short. Being rejected isn't half as bad as dating when your not sure.
Don't hesitate to move, but look before you leap!
dude, he was just stating a fact (about the dime a dozen thing im not calling you emo)you dont have to get all pissed at himtheflyingpeanut said:
as for my advice, if life gives you lemons you make lemonade, but if life doesnt also give you sugar and water, your lemonades going so suck
even worse is being rejected and then realizing that you were a complete idiot to have liked them in the first place
Well unlike you, I've never had that problem. The secret is to not try, because trying with the opposite gender will result in failure 90% of the time, and of 99% of that other 10% won't last a week anyway. That's a lot of pain and unhappiness there. So why bother?
I refuse to speak to girls while they're in this "indie" phase. get a grip the singer of florence and the machine is not hot so dying your hair ginger and wearing dresses from the 70s wont make you hot either.
and while we're on it, only girls who ACTUALLY require glasses are hot; if you wear them without proper commendation from an optitian then your are mentally unstable. and therefore legally required to go to hell.
I was rejected a few days ago though. and although i was sad, i could see where he was coming from.
Halo 3 splitscreen on a 14 inch tv would be breathtakingly tedious. no amount of fake geek chic glasses would change that. Thats f'sure.
and while we're on it, only girls who ACTUALLY require glasses are hot; if you wear them without proper commendation from an optitian then your are mentally unstable. and therefore legally required to go to hell.
I was rejected a few days ago though. and although i was sad, i could see where he was coming from.
Halo 3 splitscreen on a 14 inch tv would be breathtakingly tedious. no amount of fake geek chic glasses would change that. Thats f'sure.
Read this thread, the whole thing. It's long as it'll take you a few hours.theflyingpeanut said:
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=1
There's no advice in there that I put in there specifically for you, but hearing about the myriad of other people's problems in this arena may cheer you up somewhat.
Yeh, it hurts. Ive been rejected twice, by the same girl, over the course of 5 years, hmm i think im overdue, I should ask again soon... But yeh, it knocks you around, one thing i've learned is to try to let your head go as blank as you can and then start to say whatever you're gonna say, that way you're less likely to get into a state of constant worry and you won't doubt yourself nearly as much.
My Rejection Story: I confided feelings in a girl, she confessed that she felt the same for me. IT WAS THE COOLEST FEELING EVER. She said she needed some time to think before we rushed into a relationship, and a week later she informed me that she didn't want to commit to a relationship, rather she wanted to date other guys, interview style, first. I found this contradictory to her so-called "feelings" for me, and I was also stricken by the fact that apparently "other guys" meant "not me."
But yeah, it sucks. Especially when the girl is a good, long-time friend of yours.
But yeah, it sucks. Especially when the girl is a good, long-time friend of yours.
I just got rejected by a psychotherapist maybe 5 minutes ago. I finally gather the balls to get help and call a psychotherapist, and GUESS WHAT! They're full until the end of May! How FUCKING typical! Pissed as hell right now as the need is rather urgent.
As for girls, well I thought it clicked really well with a girl about a year and a half ago. She was the first to actually show interest in my hobbies, we could talk insanely well and all that. So I started developing feelings and all that, and she confessed that she was actually a lesbian. She wasn't. She just wanted to 'spare my feelings', yeah because lying to me really spares my feelings. Just shows how well you know me...
That hurt for a while, but the realisation that she was actually a ***** did soften the pain up a bit.
As for girls, well I thought it clicked really well with a girl about a year and a half ago. She was the first to actually show interest in my hobbies, we could talk insanely well and all that. So I started developing feelings and all that, and she confessed that she was actually a lesbian. She wasn't. She just wanted to 'spare my feelings', yeah because lying to me really spares my feelings. Just shows how well you know me...
That hurt for a while, but the realisation that she was actually a ***** did soften the pain up a bit.
You know what? That actually did cheer me up a little. Just a little though I'm still pissed.RamboStrategy said:
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AXOLOTL!!!!
So I'm gonna take the opportunity to go all out on this one...
After facing my first rejection in 7th grade I ended up bottling up my feelings instead of risking the chance of feeling that again. Went the next 18 or so years until trying again with this girl I had become friends with from work. It took everything in me to ask her if she wanted to come over since we both weren't doing anything on Christmas Day. She did, and we started to hang out more after work but only like once a week and mostly just to smoke weed. One time we finally planned to get drunk together and shared a bottle of her favorite wine. We ended up making out and fooling around but it was like the hardest thing I'd ever done making that first move. I was so happy and fucking surprised that she didn't reject me that I couldn't even get a hard on which was the reason why I didn't try to have sex with her that night. Whether she would have stopped me I'll never know but I think she could tell I wasn't hard. I also made out with her the next day both of us sober so I thought maybe this could actually go somewhere after all!
Anyways, a month or so went by of us never once speaking of what happened when I finally decided to tell her I wanted to be more than friends. Unfortunately I didn't have the balls to tell her in person and I was so pissed at myself that I did it through facebook chat right after she got home from being over at my place. I knew it was tacky but I had to tell her right then. She told me she was glad I brought it up and that she was feeling bad ever since it happened. She told me what an amazing guy I am and blahblahblah....but that she just wants to be friends.
Now I tend to overanalyze things and the reason of this rejection was no exception. I came up with so many possibilites some being because of me, some being because of her, some being because of some freak miscommunication. I couldn't help but think that if I figure it out that I can change the situation around. It's incredibly hard to still hang out with her and talk to her just about everyday through txts and pretend I don't have feelings for her. I also want to know if she just didn't want a serious relationship and was cool with friends with benefits or what. Honestly I don't know what to do, because I don't wanna make things even more wierd stressing the issue after she had already rejected me. She's too good of a friend to risk it at this point. Yes I know I should get over it and find someone else, but there aren't too many "someone else"'s around me right now and I'm afraid I might be feeling love for the first time because I can't stop thinking about her.
That feels alittle better to get out...thanks for listening.
After facing my first rejection in 7th grade I ended up bottling up my feelings instead of risking the chance of feeling that again. Went the next 18 or so years until trying again with this girl I had become friends with from work. It took everything in me to ask her if she wanted to come over since we both weren't doing anything on Christmas Day. She did, and we started to hang out more after work but only like once a week and mostly just to smoke weed. One time we finally planned to get drunk together and shared a bottle of her favorite wine. We ended up making out and fooling around but it was like the hardest thing I'd ever done making that first move. I was so happy and fucking surprised that she didn't reject me that I couldn't even get a hard on which was the reason why I didn't try to have sex with her that night. Whether she would have stopped me I'll never know but I think she could tell I wasn't hard. I also made out with her the next day both of us sober so I thought maybe this could actually go somewhere after all!
Anyways, a month or so went by of us never once speaking of what happened when I finally decided to tell her I wanted to be more than friends. Unfortunately I didn't have the balls to tell her in person and I was so pissed at myself that I did it through facebook chat right after she got home from being over at my place. I knew it was tacky but I had to tell her right then. She told me she was glad I brought it up and that she was feeling bad ever since it happened. She told me what an amazing guy I am and blahblahblah....but that she just wants to be friends.
Now I tend to overanalyze things and the reason of this rejection was no exception. I came up with so many possibilites some being because of me, some being because of her, some being because of some freak miscommunication. I couldn't help but think that if I figure it out that I can change the situation around. It's incredibly hard to still hang out with her and talk to her just about everyday through txts and pretend I don't have feelings for her. I also want to know if she just didn't want a serious relationship and was cool with friends with benefits or what. Honestly I don't know what to do, because I don't wanna make things even more wierd stressing the issue after she had already rejected me. She's too good of a friend to risk it at this point. Yes I know I should get over it and find someone else, but there aren't too many "someone else"'s around me right now and I'm afraid I might be feeling love for the first time because I can't stop thinking about her.
That feels alittle better to get out...thanks for listening.
Now click for....
AXOLOTL!!!!
If I was rejected, I'd forget it as quickly as I forget phone numbers, birth dates, & what day it is; minutes after asking.
At least you haven't had two relationships that lasted six months or longer and ended both of them because out of the blue you lose any feeling of love you had for whoever you were in a relationship with! Yeah, I'm a bit of a self saboteur when it comes to romance.
And now for something awkward funny and cute! (slightly related too!)
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