Boyfriend is Mad! Need Some Advice.

[Jinxzy]

The story goes something like this...
Last night around 6pm I asked him if it was alright to log into WoW around 8:30pm and do some raiding. He said it was fine. So around 8:30pm I made my way to the computer and logged in. I turned to see him playing CoD:MW2 and put his headphones in. I asked him why is putting his headphones in. He said "It's just better for the both of us." in a snappy way. So I shrugged it off as no big deal. After 2 hours I told the guild I couldn't raid anymore and logged off to watch some tv with my boyfriend. When I asked him what he wanted to watch he yelled at me saying "I hate it when you play that game cause we never get to do anything! You should just stop playing or I'm going to leave you." After that he went to bed and I stayed up to watch some tv.
We do live together so we see each other every day. He's normally playing console games that we use to play together. We don't because we don't have 2 systems when we moved in together. So every now and then he'll be playing something while I have nothing to do. So I turn on my pc and start playing games. It always seems like when I start to play he's done and I have to stop what I'm doing. Sure I don't mind watching him play a few games but I need to play something too. I cut my gaming down by alot. I only turn WoW on once a week for 2-3hours. So we could do stuff but now it's always about him saying "what about my time?" "Why do you always have to play that game?" "You can use the console when I'm done."
I dont know what to do anyone since it's been like this for a few months.
I need someone's help.

 

[Altorin]

hehe, I've been in the "Jealous of my girlfriend's wow habits" state of mind before, but I'm a bit more mature about it then just to get cranky.

He just sounds like a pretty shitty boyfriend (at least when it comes to your hobbies - he might be a gem in all other regards - I really can't say).

My advice is to be straight with him and tell him exactly how you feel, and if he can't get it, and he still acts like a tool, it would be prudent to mark that down in the "What a jerk" category, and consider moving on, because if he can't get it, it probably won't get better.

 

[Axolotl]

Tell him to grow up and stop acting like a child.

 

[Tofuuu]

how old is he ? does he have midlife crisis?

 

[Quaxar]

Sounds a bit like an attention whore. Also, try BonsaiK's relationship problems thread.

 

[TheDist]

Tell him to grow up and stop acting like a child.

I would have to agree with this.

He sounds very childish, frankly the only thing you can do is tell him what you feel, if he cannot understand or if he doesn't want to hear it and do something about it, then move on.

A relationship has to be a two way thing, sounds to me as if he doesn't think so.

 

[Jinxzy]

hehe, I've been in the "Jealous of my girlfriend's wow habits" state of mind before, but I'm a bit more mature about it then just to get cranky.

He just sounds like a pretty shitty boyfriend (at least when it comes to your hobbies - he might be a gem in all other regards - I really can't say).

My advice is to be straight with him and tell him exactly how you feel, and if he can't get it, and he still acts like a tool, it would be prudent to mark that down in the "What a jerk" category, and consider moving on, because if he can't get it, it probably won't get better.

He is one of them guys that doesn't say how he feels until he snaps or yells. I don't know how to cure his jealous fits.

 

[Jinxzy]

how old is he ? does he have midlife crisis?

he just turned 25.

 

[Kenko]

Tell him to grow up and stop acting like a child.

I would have to agree with this.

He sounds very childish, frankly the only thing you can do is tell him what you feel, if he cannot understand or if he doesn't want to hear it and do something about it, then move on.

A relationship has to be a two way thing, sounds to me as if he doesn't think so.

Pretty much this, one person in a relationship shouldnt do all of the sacrifices.

 

[Worgen]

sounds like hes got allot of uncertainty, dont give up your gaming, if you give into him too much he might be come more domineering and try and control you
besides, worse comes to worse you two break up and you get to find someone else which shouldnt be too hard, gaming girls are hot even if it is mostly wow

 

[Robyrt]

It sounds like the real issue you two are fighting about is time spent with each other versus time alone. (Your boyfriend also seems stressed about something else in his life, but I have no idea what that might be.) Here are a couple suggestions:
[ul][li]Track how much time you spend on different leisure activities for a few days - not in a showy way, just to see if your perceptions are accurate. The guy may not realize he's hogging the console so much - or maybe it's just you like to play later at night than he does, so your schedules never overlap.[/li]
[li]Set up a familiar routine - something like "Thursdays are raid nights, and Sundays my favorite show is on, but the rest of the week I'm happy to spend time with you if you like." It sounds like you've largely kicked the WOW habit but your boyfriend hasn't internalized that yet - letting him see that you're not spending all your time playing alone could reassure him, along with keeping the peace.[/li]
[li]Try to find ways to play together, which makes everybody happy. (I know - easier said than done.)[/li][/ul]
This is not an insoluble problem by any means. Good luck!

EDIT: I used to be one of those "Wait until it snaps" jealous types. Heck, I still am, on a bad day. It sucks pretty bad, and some not-so-subtle drawing this guy out of his shell ("Is something bothering you?") probably wouldn't go amiss.

 

[Polaris19]

Especially after you ASKED TO PLAY, there should have been no reason for him to snap like that, and hell, you only played for two hours. Leaves plenty of time to watch TV or go out.

Tell him to straighten up, and try and explain what is going on from your pov.

EDIT: Monetary situation nonetheless, if your not happy, your not happy, and you gotta do something about it.

 

[Legion]

I am not calling you a liar but obviously we are only hearing your side of the story.

If you honestly feel you have done nothing to warrant this kind of behaviour then I'd suggest having a straight up conversation about this, and depending on how that goes, decide where you want the relationship to go (if anywhere).

 

[Palademon]

Just explain the situation, call him a hypocrite and if he can't deal with it, dump him.

 

[AugustFall]

Your boyfriend sounds like an asshole tbh, not because he won't let you play WoW but because he sounds selfish immature and needy.
Confront him and take it from there.

 

[Jinxzy]

I'm not a good source for relationship advice, but your boyfriend sounds really petty and unreasonable.

He seriously has a problem with you playing WoW for 2-3 hours a week? Is that really all you play? I hope you have some more time to yourself, because otherwise he comes off as smothering and needy. At least that's how I'd feel with only 3 hours of personal time per week.

I use to play wow every day, non stop. But then I met my boyfriend and seemed it would only be fare to give him more time then WoW.