can i be called a pervert??
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Certainly not, but you know how things grow out of control. What was once a well-intentioned fear is borderline panic. You sleeping beside a kid is almost the same level of sin as molesting them because it's "unwholesome."DemonicVixen said:
No your not a pervert....it might look a little bit better if you had a GF who showed her face...ya know like LOOK HE TOUCHED ME NOT THEM kinda thing...i mean as long as someone dosent walk in and your in an...awjkuard possition...and keep away from the twister for a while...
You're not a pervert, but acquiescing to the request of especially the 11 year old is not age appropriate. Kids are gonna have to grow up eventually. I mean, of course it's fine to sleep in the same bed as a kid if they really wanted you to - it's probably quite comforting to them. But sooner or later, like drinking from a bottle or sleeping with a nightlight, it starts to look really weird. You should probably quit, for their sakes and yours.
This is a difficult situation. I've babysat many children before and once or twice the parents have asked me to stay with them or even lie down with them until they go to sleep. I sometimes sit on the bed next to them while reading their bedtime story but after that I might sit next to the bed until they goto sleep before slipping away. More commonly the children (or child) asks you to stay with them until they sleep.
I don't really find anything wrong with it or have a problem with it. But I'm always very concious of what happened to Michael Jackson and so sometime feel uncomfortable when I do it so I'm very careful how I behave and what I say to the children and around it. Thankfully, all of the parents I work with are quite laid back about it as they trust me to handle it appropriately. But if it was with a family I didn't know well it would be a different story.
I don't believe you are a pervert but I would discourage the children from sharing your bed, especially the 11-year-old, and do something similar to what I do. And unfortunately, if you're a guy (though I'm guessing you're not - Demonic Vixen), sleeping with a young girl is definately a big no-no unless it's your own child.
Sitting with them untill they go to sleep is one thing but staying and sharing a bed is another. I know the children and their parents trust you but I understand completely that the neighbour finds the concept inappropriate and she proberbly won't be alone.
I would avoid it if for no other reason that if the children say something completely innocent that can be taken the wrong way and that can quickly destroy the parents trust and get you in trouble with the police. Or at the very least destroy your reputation as a good babysitter.
It doesn't take much, you are treading an awfully fine line. I'd get out of the children's beds (or get them out of yours, whichever way it is) or avoid babysitting for them in the future ... honestly from one babysitter to another.
I don't really find anything wrong with it or have a problem with it. But I'm always very concious of what happened to Michael Jackson and so sometime feel uncomfortable when I do it so I'm very careful how I behave and what I say to the children and around it. Thankfully, all of the parents I work with are quite laid back about it as they trust me to handle it appropriately. But if it was with a family I didn't know well it would be a different story.
I don't believe you are a pervert but I would discourage the children from sharing your bed, especially the 11-year-old, and do something similar to what I do. And unfortunately, if you're a guy (though I'm guessing you're not - Demonic Vixen), sleeping with a young girl is definately a big no-no unless it's your own child.
Sitting with them untill they go to sleep is one thing but staying and sharing a bed is another. I know the children and their parents trust you but I understand completely that the neighbour finds the concept inappropriate and she proberbly won't be alone.
I would avoid it if for no other reason that if the children say something completely innocent that can be taken the wrong way and that can quickly destroy the parents trust and get you in trouble with the police. Or at the very least destroy your reputation as a good babysitter.
It doesn't take much, you are treading an awfully fine line. I'd get out of the children's beds (or get them out of yours, whichever way it is) or avoid babysitting for them in the future ... honestly from one babysitter to another.
Good god that was awesome.Erana said:Well, let's take a look at the instruction manual for Manliness for geeks. It says:
Looks like there's no issue here as long as it went down like that. In fact, it makes you Manly.
And no, it's not perverted so don't worry about it. I'm assuming there is some level of trust between you and their parents to make it even less of an issue. I can understand some slight discomfort from other parents, so I don't think it's really wrong to feel like that way necessarily depending on the degree of discomfort.
no when I was little I saw night of the living dead and for like 2 years(I was 3 at the time) and until I 5 I couldn't go to sleep unless I was laying next to someone sometimes it was my babysitter sometimes it was my dad.
Shit, that means my parents are pervs.
OT: No your not, you have no intention to do anything. people are just hardwired to believe so.
Off Topic: besides, all humans are perverts to some degree. otherwise we wouldn't masturbate or get aroused watching attractive people of the opposite sex dance.
OT: No your not, you have no intention to do anything. people are just hardwired to believe so.
Off Topic: besides, all humans are perverts to some degree. otherwise we wouldn't masturbate or get aroused watching attractive people of the opposite sex dance.