Casual sex

[Volturism]

From experience, I found it amusing how after having sex with someone I didn't care about romantically made me feel tremendously lonelier than however lonely I felt before.

 

[FamoFunk]

What about it? You get all the fun without the commitment. If it's not your thing, that's cool. I have no problem with others or I having many different, random sexual partners whom we're not commited to.

 

[TheFPSisDead]

What do you people think of casual sex or being friends with benefits? What do you think of women/men who sleep around a bit? Would you consider going steady with someone like that? Any experiences on the matter?

I myself am female and quite open for sex with friends (supposing that all parties are single etc). Consequently, I've had some sweet sexy times with a few of my friends. I have enjoyed these encounters a great deal. However, I know this is met with some scorn and would like to hear what others think of the subject.

Do what you want to do, no one else has a right to judge your actions. That doesn't mean they won't, just try not to hang around religious people who would.

I had sex with a girl i met the day before, it was great, really solid sexual chemistry, and you know what, i haven't seen or spoken to her since, and she hasn't facebooked me or tried to contact me either.

Casual sex is awesome as long as you are safe and all parties involved have the same expectations. So I say, be safe and have fun.

 

[Stako]

I used to have a "sex friend" or a "friend with benefits", however you want to call it. Besides the sex part we were really close, we knew everything about eachother and were really best friends... and then sex happened for the hell of it. It was fun at first, but slowly that destroyed our beautiful relationship and now we don't speak to eachother at all - everything was destroyed. It was a really, really dark period for me, so my advise to people who have really close friends of the opposite sex [or of the same sex... I guess...] and start having ideas for having sex for the hell of it - don't do it, it's not worth it. A friend is forever, a sex-friend is not. At least I've never heard of one such benefited relationship lasting long...

 

[RoyalWelsh]

As long as you play it safe, go nuts!

 

[CommanderKirov]

What do you people think of casual sex or being friends with benefits? What do you think of women/men who sleep around a bit? Would you consider going steady with someone like that? Any experiences on the matter?

I myself am female and quite open for sex with friends (supposing that all parties are single etc). Consequently, I've had some sweet sexy times with a few of my friends. I have enjoyed these encounters a great deal. However, I know this is met with some scorn and would like to hear what others think of the subject.

Wait what? Going steady with someone you want to just have casual sex with... Does that not defeat the purpose slightly?

And to answer the question, casual sex is perfectly fine now-days. Even the society stopped to socially prosecute for it.

 

[RollForInitiative]

You disgust me. There is nothing wrong with an action that doesn't hurt anyone or anything.

But go ahead, it's better for us all if people like you keep together in your narrowminded circles

I find this kind of offensive. Sex is fun and if you can find a single, STD-free person to have it with, no strings attached, then why not go for it? Personally I don't understand prudish people, why do they make such a big deal out of it?

Seriously how is wanting and having sex frequently a bad/dirty/noxious thing to your body?
It's as natural as it can get, if it's our way to reproduce why should it be so damn bad?

I don't get you, honestly no offense though

Amusingly, I find this more amusingly narrow-minded than anything I've said. As I clearly stated, to each, their own. I don't see a need to attack people who act like that, or tell them I find them disgusting. I said no such thing. I simply called it as I see it; in my experience, the people like this that I've dealt with have had serious issues with self-respect. Interestingly enough, those that eventually learned a healthy degree of self-respect actually dropped the mindset and the lifestyle that came with it. That's simply a side effect of something they did for themselves, though.

Calling me "prudish" is just laughable, as there's no lack of sex in my life; girlfriends are great like that. Why would not wanting to fuck people I'm not committed to imply that I have something against sex? That seems like a ludicrous leap in logic to make.

Personally, I don't expect to ever "get" people like you, nor do I expect people like you to "get" me. We're from two fundamentally opposed mindsets, neither of which is ever likely to convince the other, so why bother attacking unless you feel like you have something to be genuinely offended about? Did something in my remarks hit too close to home?

Personally, I don't care one whit. If I've offended you, kindly grow thicker skin and learn to understand that there are varying opinions on any given topic in this world. Your stance doesn't offend me, so why should mine offend you? How silly. Next you'll tell me that you're offended because I believe Hitler was secretly a ninja vampire commando super-werewolf.

Welcome to opinions. Everybody has them. =)

 

[Whateveralot]

My opinion about full-on casual sex; nah. I find sex something you do with love, not JUST lust. Booty calls etc. is just strange (and unfamilliar) in my opinion. It kind of repels me. I might look upon this strangely, but you really don't need love to have sex; would you concider sex with someone that's not your significant other to be cheating? And why (not)?

However, when you date / have a relationship, I don't believe in waiting months and months before stuff like that gets started. It's an important thing in a relationship and it's something you do when you love someone. It's not the ultimate thing, and waiting for marriage is, to me, a rediculous way of thinking. BUT, that doesn't make it casual.


Off Topic: Is it just me or is Captcha unfairly difficult lately? A lot of unknown / untypable symbols =/

Spoiler: You deserve a high-five

Gotta love girlfriends! *squee*

 

[xchurchx]

My take on sex is that its more than "just sex", i think sex should be shared with someone you care about, its a speacial and intimate thing, but i dont think that theres anyting wrong with people who enjoy having sex with strangers or even their closets friends, so enjoy life the way you can, the way you want to!!!!

 

[Madara XIII]

What do you people think of casual sex or being friends with benefits? What do you think of women/men who sleep around a bit? Would you consider going steady with someone like that? Any experiences on the matter?

I myself am female and quite open for sex with friends (supposing that all parties are single etc). Consequently, I've had some sweet sexy times with a few of my friends. I have enjoyed these encounters a great deal. However, I know this is met with some scorn and would like to hear what others think of the subject.

Hey if every consenting party is single, then why not? I personally may not like the idea of friends with benefits, but I don't see anything wrong considering no one's cheating on anyone.

[HEADING=2] What do you think Noob?

...*sigh* Not the best voice of reason[/HEADING]

considering i am after a girl that haves being in several "open relationships" and it has made me doubt tenfold the... "morals" of such girl i have to say it does hurt, the image of a person that haves sex with someone without a commitment makes everyone wonder if she is ready for a commitment at all, and that is not a good idea for someone 18 years old...

thats why i hate casual sex.

Thus is why I personally hate it as well, being someone who's looking for commitment. I just said I don't have a problem with people who do engage in casual sex because it'd be wrong of me to judge. I am well aware of the fact that along the line someone's bound to get attached or hurt, but they were the ones who put themselves in such a situation. If that person does mean something to you then let her know and if she's not looking for commitment then sometimes it's best to drop the infatuation despite how hard it is.


God I sound like an old man...

 

[I am only a man]

I personally don't agree with it. The risks far outweigh the rewards to me. Yeah, sex is freakin' awesome, but just doing it with anyone who consents at the moment can lead to health problems, possible pregnancy, and in some cases (more than we might be willing to admit), emotional attachments. Sex is very personal and intimate and shouldn't be trivialised. But if you feel you're taking the right precautions before doing it, go right ahead. Just be ready to accept the consequenses if it goes wrong.

 

[elcher]

I am one of the morally different from most people : I know what i want and who i want.

I'm not the guy that sleeps around with many different girls "because they are there" - I'm the sort of guy that sleeps with the girl he finds special and meaningful.

Sex, IMO, is not just a bodily function but rather the joining of souls - rare

 

[Dr. Crawver]

I have no problem with others doing it, providing they're not in a relationship themselves, but I never could do it before. I did once (or twice, one night is very hazy in my mind), and all it led to was ruining the friendship. That is my fault, but if others can manage it, go for it, nothing wrong with it at all

 

[orangeban]

Meh, sex if fun, sex is good. So long as you use condoms/other protection and you're sure that the person you're with won't stab you and leave you in a ditch (you will be naked and alone with them) and go ahead.

Heck, I'd be cool with an "open" relationship, where we both don't mind if the other has sex with someone else. I don't think love is a prerequiste for sex. I don't even think wanting to be with the person is a pre-requiste for sex.

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

I think it just depends on what your emotional state is at the time. There are times when I've been ready for serious relationships and as a result have had some very good serious relationships. Other times I've just wanted some no strings sex, and that works just fine too.

The only rule I do have though, be honest. If you're planning on just having sex and not getting attached then that in itself is not wrong, but you should make your intentions clear and make sure the other party wants the same thing. If you know that someone is looking for love and you string them along just for the sex, then drop them when it suits you, then that is wrong.

 

[Trololo Punk]

If other people do it, their choice. I wouldn't myself For two reasons, don't really see the point. And the negatives sort of out weigh the positives.

 

[LuckyClover95]

Sex with friends I'd be up for, but not casual sex with strangers.

 

[orangeban]

If other people do it, their choice. I wouldn't myself For two reasons, don't really see the point. And the negatives sort of out weigh the positives.

What are the negatives? Presuming its with contraception and people you know won't murder you of course.

Also, surely the point is that sex is fun and feels awesome? Unless your asexual of course.

 

[Thyunda]

Why? Well, where's the fun in that?

A lot of enjoyable sex followed (hopefully) by a large number of mutually given orgasms? Dunno about you, but that sounds like a whole heap of fun to me...

You don't play a video game to beat the last boss.

I find it peculiar that to you the videogame is what comes before the contact, rather than what comes afterwards. To me, the chase is merely the FMV intro before the game begins - the intro that, in certain games, can easily be skipped to increase the fun and decrease the pointless waste of time.

As for why bother catching...well, sometimes I don't. Sometimes I don't even need the catch to get the satisfaction.

On one hand, you must be the cause of endless amounts of frustration for your targets. On the other hand, people who let themselves get cockteased cause me more irritation than people who cocktease. Or, um, pussytease, since it seems you're a dude.

You're a little too determined to encourage reckless fucking. I see no problem with it

Provided it's done by people who have half a brain (this is pretty damn important), reckless fucking is fun and harmless, and therefore good. So I see no reason to abstain from having as much of it as possible, and encourage others to do the same. Hell, go nuts - threesomes, foursomes, sex parties, bisexuality (or homosexuality for that matter), experimentation, perversions... nothing is inherently bad, evil or wrong, provided you harm no-one (beyond some forms of sexual play) and use protection.

but I would not have sex with a girl who was too easy.

Your loss... maybe it'd be the best sexual partner of your life, but you'll never know.

What was it Stephen King said? Something about people that have sex purely for the paltry squirt at the end, ignoring the whole lovemaking in between.

I don't think anyone's talking about lovemaking here. Lovemaking and fucking for the sake of hormonal release are two quite different concepts. Neither is negative, and in fact both can bring considerable enjoyment, provided one leaves behind prejudices and moralistic/religious bigotry.

The bottom one for me- lovemaking was the word he used. However, fucking would work just as well in this case. If the squirt at the end is what sells it for you, then it must have been pretty bad.
Now sexual experimentation I have no problem with. Group sex, orgies, whatever, doesn't concern me. Physical pleasures are kinda lost on me. I get bored easily. No, I enjoy the power-play more. Nothing is more satisfying than making a girl that can't stand the sight of you have a change of heart and decide she needs you.

With the videogame example, you spend the entire game working your way to that last boss, collecting weapons and abilities that you'll eventually use against him.
You can't tell me that it's more satisfying to enter a cheat code, and use a level-select to go straight to the last boss, trying to use abilities and weapons you've never even seen before to try and nail that fucker. You're gonna spend about ten tries flopping about and shooting yourself in the foot.
I don't think a girl's gonna be that patient. For me, it's all about collecting every little advantage and hint, and getting the moment just right to make it the best.
And, since I'm in a relationship, I can't very well do that. However, the chase amuses me, and with very, very little actual flirtation on my part, I've got the attraction down to an art. So I'm a bad person for getting these people to want it. Ah well. Better than having a lapse of self-esteem and having to go fuck someone to tell myself I'm still pretty.

 

[lord.jeff]

Sleeping around in my opinion is bad and I would have issues dating someone who did that. Also what is the difference between a girlfriend and friend with benefits? Because it seems like that's what my relationships are, A really good friend with perks.