Cheating in relationships: your views?

[Vanguard_Ex]

WHAT IS UP.

A thread I made recently caused many Escapists to share their views of cheating in a relationship and how they would personally react. However, there were a select few who genuinely didn't see their significant other, say, sleeping with someone else a problem. Apparently the difference between lust and love or something. How do you guys see cheating? Would you carry on knowing they'd done anything with someone else?

Personally? I find it disgusting. When it comes to general behaviours, there isn't much that I find repulsive...usually it takes something graphic or visceral for that. But the idea of sleeping with someone else whilst in a relationship genuinely fills me with revulsion. The way I see it, lust or no, you're still breaking a kind of commitment that should be sacred between you both.

So please, do discuss guys

 

[jopomeister]

I clicked this thread thinking it was about gaming.
I am disappointed.
Still, I'll comment.
I believe cheating is bad, and I don't see why anyone might think it's a good thing to do.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

I clicked this thread thinking it was about gaming.
I am disappointed.
Still, I'll comment.
I believe cheating is bad, and I don't see why anyone might think it's a good thing to do.

Hah, I thought that might happen. This is a gaming news site after all. I'll tweak the title.

 

[Timmey]

I clicked this thread thinking it was about gaming.
I am disappointed.
Still, I'll comment.
I believe cheating is bad, and I don't see why anyone might think it's a good thing to do.

ninja on the gaming bit, and the OT bit actually, well said.

 

[jelock]

I dont think you should be cheating in a relationship. My view is if you want to be with someone else then you dont want to be with me so leave.

 

[Aur0ra145]

Don't cheat. Ever.

 

[D3l7a3ch0]

"love is geographical"

so imo, if physical distance wasn't the cause, you were doing it wrong.

"you and me baby, ain't nothin' but mammals..."

as soon as I let go of the notion that mind controls body, I was able to see that sometimes... we're just mammals.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

"love is geographical"

so imo, if physical distance wasn't the cause, you were doing it wrong.

Heh, funny you mention that actually, that pretty much encompasses the reason behind the thread a few weeks back I mentioned.

EDIT: What on earth are you talking about with that addition to your post?

 

[tomtom94]

It's kinda stupid and it makes someone feel like shit. Take responsibility for your actions.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Cheating is unacceptable for me as it breaks both trust and loyalty. That's pretty much all I have to say on that topic, if my significant other cheated on me the relationship would be over instantly.

Some people have open relationships, and that's fine if they consent to it. I personally don't understand such a relationship. If a significant other is so significant, why fuck everyone else but that person? I just don't get it.

Agreed, the thought of someone going behind my back and doing something like that just causes such pain I wouldn't be able to stick around. Luckily I bounce back [relatively] easily from stuff like that, because I'm one of those sadness > anger > hatred people.

 

[T-Bone24]

It's unacceptable, I think. So long trust, so long respect, so long dignity after cheating because you'll never get it back in my books if you cheat.

 

[hurfdurp]

I would react the same way Jesus does in JCS, when his temple is turned into a den of thieves.

 

[SimuLord]

She cheats, I leave. One strike and you're out. I find this sort of clarity does wonders for eliminating the "I didn't think it'd bother you" excuse from a slut.

I expect the same from the girl---I don't cheat and if I did I wouldn't expect her to stay with me (and if she didn't dump me, I'd be tempted to break up with her because of what that said about her character.)

 

[Guitarmasterx7]

I don't get why people who cheat even bother with relationships. If you don't want a commitment, get a few fuck buddies.

 

[Shemming]

I myself..never cheat. EVER.

A partner, i'd be upset but its forgive able if they stop.

 

[Firoth]

There's a difference between cheating and having an open relationship. I'm fine with open relationships, for some people it just works better that way. I wouldn't do it, but, that's just me. Cheating, on the other hand, it stupid. Why can't you just break up with the person you're with if you want to do someone else? I've been cheated on before, not a good time. Definitely unforgivable, and I'm always open and upfront about that.

 

[Pegghead]

I believe that there is no love without commitment, therefore if you cheat you're clearly not cut out for a relationship that actually means something more than being a herpes-riddled, douchebag "playboy".

 

[Broady Brio]

I really don't know. Obviously it's bad. But would I end the relationship then and then?

I should do.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Jesus, if they can't be loyal enough to keep it in their pants, why the fuck would you WANT to be with them.

I mean, I have no feelings to hurt, so it's not like I'd go all crybaby. But the complete lack of self control would irritate the fuck out of me so much. Like, you have no idea. I would bust something impotently raging about it.

Not a situation I am ever likely to be in, though. Thankfully.