Cheating in relationships: your views?
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Never have had the chance to do it, Never going to do it.
I get too attached to people to risk losing them.
On the other side... I have been in the situation while girls have had boyfriends... But I didn't know it at the time, I'm not one for ruining relationships. I'd like to think I'd be principled enough to stop myself... But yeah I doubt it.
As for someone else cheating (yes I waited til I'd typed two paragraphs to read the topic, sue me)...
I think I'd forgive once with explanation... But I'd still feel pretty bad about it.
Oh and to people saying "Oh I'd dump someone immediately if they cheated"... Don't bother dating a nympho.
I get too attached to people to risk losing them.
On the other side... I have been in the situation while girls have had boyfriends... But I didn't know it at the time, I'm not one for ruining relationships. I'd like to think I'd be principled enough to stop myself... But yeah I doubt it.
As for someone else cheating (yes I waited til I'd typed two paragraphs to read the topic, sue me)...
I think I'd forgive once with explanation... But I'd still feel pretty bad about it.
Oh and to people saying "Oh I'd dump someone immediately if they cheated"... Don't bother dating a nympho.
Speaking as someone who has cheated and has been cheated on, I have this to say: don't do it.
I hated being cheated on, but when I did it, it was just as bad. I got away with it, but the guilt crushed me. Even though I cheated on a pretty terrible girlfriend with someone I genuinely liked, I ruined it on both sides for myself. I ended up breaking it off with both
I hated being cheated on, but when I did it, it was just as bad. I got away with it, but the guilt crushed me. Even though I cheated on a pretty terrible girlfriend with someone I genuinely liked, I ruined it on both sides for myself. I ended up breaking it off with both
I could not do that. I'm one of those people who can't segregate sex and love. If I'm sleeping with someone, it's because I care deeply about her, not because she's willing to impersonally spread her legs for me.Guitarmasterx7 said:
If she cheated on me, I would consider it a violation of the most intimate trust. I couldn't bring myself to do the same to her. If such a thing could happen, I would want both of us to be aware of the metaphor "Where you work up an appetite doesn't matter, but you're eating at home."
A billion times no.
Even though I am enough self confident to know that I can understand every motive for a deed like that, and I know I can forgive anything - I can't justify the lying. It's selfish, it's rude, it's egocentric one to think only for oneself while in relationship. Unacceptable.
Even though I am enough self confident to know that I can understand every motive for a deed like that, and I know I can forgive anything - I can't justify the lying. It's selfish, it's rude, it's egocentric one to think only for oneself while in relationship. Unacceptable.
I think cheating is utterly reprehensible. That said, however, sleeping with someone else isn't necesarrily cheating, if your both cool with it, then no problem. It's the betrayal thats the problem.
Vanguard_Ex said:
That aside, a drunken one night stand I could allow, anything else, and my trust would be lost.
EXACTLYYYYY. Lovemaking is for those in love! You sound very much like you're coming from the same angle as me.DarkSoldier84 said:
I accept that that's your opinion but I have to disagree. We're more than just biological breeding machines, we reason, we have logic. The fact that we form these special relationships in the first place tells you we're more than our impulses.D3l7a3ch0 said:
Well in the Bible apparently cheating is the only legitimate reason to get a divorce (not 100% sure about it so correct me if I'm wrong, please) and I would think it's not exactly the cheating itself that's the bad part, though that's certainly part of it. It's mostly, to me at least, the betrayal and the fact that one would be no longer trustworthy.
I think cheating is wrong but I have no problem with my girlfriend if she tells me she wants to fuck someone else. We talk and discuss if one of us wants to sleep with someone else and its fine. The love in our relationship isn't built around sex, sex is a physical act that we both enjoy. The love we have for each other comes from being together, doing things together, talking and interacting with each other.
Depends on the kind of relationship. I assume this refers to a proper bf/gf one, so yes cheating is wrong.
So if she wants to screw some other guy, you talk about it and she actually goes and does it?clipse15 said:
