Quoted for truth. I also cannot understand this... Maybe it's the hopeless romantic in me or something, but cheating is one of the biggest forms of treatchery and breaking trust one can do IMO.snowplow said:
Cheating in relationships: your views?
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I think it's a bad thing. But, I don't think it necessarily means the end of a relationship if it occurs. I think people make mistakes, and it can be worked through and the trust earned back.
Pretty much this. I think I'd be crushed if I had a partner who cheated on me.Icy Lemon said:
In an open relationship though, is anything really qualified as "cheating" (since it implies deception or lies, which wouldn't need to be present in such a relationship)?
Obsession is a young man's game, and what is cheating other then being obsessed with flesh if your willing to gamble the breaking of your partner's heart.
For that I respect you. Dignity, pride and other personal values should never be sacrificed for somebody who can't be trusted with your spirit.xanith02100 said:
Eh, to me, an open relationship is not really a relationship. I understand that this may be arrogant, ignorant or even hurtful to people who are in them but frankly I don't care. A relationship is a bond between two people and it, to me at least, is a sacred thing.zhoominator said:
I instantly love you for this post. What a profound yet sensible way of putting it.asteroth21nox said:
Cheating is, at best, something worthy of calling out the most vile passions of those who have been cheated on. At worst it is a hanging offense, figurative or literal. I know that might seem extreme (I don't really mean it literally), but I sometimes find myself being more tolerant of those who flip out over being cheated on than those who do so for other reasons.
That's my position. I take personal honestly very seriously on a general level, but especailly so for intimate relationships where such honesty is vital.
That's my position. I take personal honestly very seriously on a general level, but especailly so for intimate relationships where such honesty is vital.
I prefer open relationships myself, so to me cheating is having romantic or sexual intimacy without getting the consent of everyone else you are romantically or sexually involved with currently. In this sense a few months ago I was 'cheated on' with a person I had expressly said was not cool with me. It ended up in a shouting match because I felt ignored and betrayed. I did try to salvage the relationship because I really loved my girlfriend, so cheating is clearly not an automatic deal breaker for me.
Sex, love, and partnership are sacred to me. But sacred things should be shared, not hoarded imho. Sure it feels nice to be someone's 'Mr./Ms. One and Only' until you realize you are far more likely their 'Mr./Ms. Right Now.' I fear that many people prefer Monogamy due to Insecurity Issues and justify it as 'being right' or 'what I am entitled to in a lover.'
Love is hard, and life is too short, imho, to discard relationships over sexual and romantic indiscretions by default. Ask yourself this question, "If I really loved her, would I leave her because she cheated? If the answer is yes without a thought...that is not love imho. Love is worth forgiving and forgetting imho.
Sex, love, and partnership are sacred to me. But sacred things should be shared, not hoarded imho. Sure it feels nice to be someone's 'Mr./Ms. One and Only' until you realize you are far more likely their 'Mr./Ms. Right Now.' I fear that many people prefer Monogamy due to Insecurity Issues and justify it as 'being right' or 'what I am entitled to in a lover.'
Love is hard, and life is too short, imho, to discard relationships over sexual and romantic indiscretions by default. Ask yourself this question, "If I really loved her, would I leave her because she cheated? If the answer is yes without a thought...that is not love imho. Love is worth forgiving and forgetting imho.
Normally I would say cheating is bad, and I do agree but it is how I ended up with the love of my life.
I fell in love with him when I was 14, I had known him all my life but he was with someone else. He kissed me when I was 15, being a teenager in love I let him and didn't know how much damage it would cause.
When he eventually ended up single, I was with someone else (who was less than commited to me) I then ended up cheating and we ended up together. We're all still friends with our exes and stuff, and realise that it obviously happened for a reason and that me and my boyfriend were meant to be together.
But I don't agree with just outright being slutty and sleeping around (which by the way neither of us did whilst in our relationships, not that it excuses it) x
I fell in love with him when I was 14, I had known him all my life but he was with someone else. He kissed me when I was 15, being a teenager in love I let him and didn't know how much damage it would cause.
When he eventually ended up single, I was with someone else (who was less than commited to me) I then ended up cheating and we ended up together. We're all still friends with our exes and stuff, and realise that it obviously happened for a reason and that me and my boyfriend were meant to be together.
But I don't agree with just outright being slutty and sleeping around (which by the way neither of us did whilst in our relationships, not that it excuses it) x
The only way I can see it being even possibly okay is if one's partner was fully aware of and okay with it. In general it strikes me as a stupid and hurtful thing to do to someone and I can't understand why anyone would want to.
I would never forgive a cheater, even if they didn't sleep with them but kissed them. I just wouldn't be able to get over that kind of betrayal.
I have no issue with it, we're all just animals, accepting the basic fact of sexual drive in all of us would lead to a lot less rage induced murders. Unlike most people, I don't connect sexual acts with how close I am with somebody or how much I care for them.
cheating is bad, open relationships, however are acceptable.
cheating implies the other doesnt know.
cheating implies the other doesnt know.
It's only cheating if you don't tell her you're sleeping around for hedonistic purposes and that you're not trying to move onto a new relationship.
Of course, you have to both stomach the idea of someone else doing it with your partner.
Of course, you have to both stomach the idea of someone else doing it with your partner.