Childbirth, the mens role

[brtshstel]

If I was ever in this situation (which I will never be, by the way) I would ask her before labor began what she wanted. Then when the time came, that's what I'd do. Simple as that.

Well, most men who have or had girlfriends/wives in the past will tell you they play games with you. They will tell you something while actually meaning something else, and hold a grudge for doing what they "said" and not what they meant, and they hold it forever. And women don't "get over" it despite saying they do; they will bring it up the next year, ten years, twenty year, or whenever you get in a fight with them. So agreeing on anything a girl is never, ever, EVAR simple as that. Girlfriends are vindictive, simple as that.

and to quote Truenuff's video "I'm just saying" on Youtube:

"I don't know why they call it "labor." It's not like they're actually doing anything."

 

[GODoftheRIGOVERSE]

I guess the guy should be there he put the kid in there 9months ago now he should see thekid come out

 

[Timberwolf0924]

I have a son so I'll fill y'all in

Number 1 Keep the girls best friend out of the room, cause she'll go to her for EVERYTHING! I had to kick her out myself.

Number 2 Stay within arms reach of your woman unless you need to step away, holding hand is perferred, and the woman doesn't really crush your hand, I came out fine.

Number 3 Yes you have to be there, even if she says no, or "I'll be fine" she's playing games, and trying to be nice to you. But you'll always have that "YOU WEREN'T THERE FOR ME" on your back, and thats just ammo.

Other than that.. I suppose you should do what you feel.. I stayed up for 48 hours cause I'm awesome like that.. and then I slept for 2 days after words.

But I hope he stayed there,

 

[josetaco]

the mans place during childbirth is at the
tavern across the street from the hospital

 

[TheMatt]

I will be drunk as hell handing out cigars...

 

[cuddly_tomato]

wtf your brother doesn't want to be there to support his girl through childbirth?

That's a bit screwed up dude! It's fucking heartless if you're not there

Of course he wants to be there. It was an offhand comment he made to the midwife because he hasn't slept for over 24 hours. He works 12 hour night-time shifts.

Thanks to those of you well wishers, and for anyone interested I became an uncle (again) at 20:10 UK time (about 14 minutes before this post).

Its his first, and I am getting the impression he is the most traumatised out of the three of members of his new family. I think I should practice my own supportive role by encouraging my girlfriend whenever she is operating the toaster.

 

[Acier]

Well having the husband being there means a lot to the wife. Like a lot. Also, you don't have to see it. Stay up near her face and don't look when it comes out, simple as that.


Silly boys

Also congrats!

 

[BonsaiK]

If I was ever in this situation (which I will never be, by the way) I would ask her before labor began what she wanted. Then when the time came, that's what I'd do. Simple as that.

Well, most men who have or had girlfriends/wives in the past will tell you they play games with you. They will tell you something while actually meaning something else, and hold a grudge for doing what they "said" and not what they meant, and they hold it forever. And women don't "get over" it despite saying they do; they will bring it up the next year, ten years, twenty year, or whenever you get in a fight with them. So agreeing on anything a girl is never, ever, EVAR simple as that. Girlfriends are vindictive, simple as that.

and to quote Truenuff's video "I'm just saying" on Youtube:

"I don't know why they call it "labor." It's not like they're actually doing anything."

Vindictive? That depends on the woman. I've had girlfriends who fit this description and girlfriends who defintely don't. I've also met guys who are as vindictive as anybody, even to the point of being oddly proud about it. I think perhaps you're having trouble finding appropriate women that meet your needs and you may also be having some communication issues. I'd just like you to know that the following thread is available for your perusal and participation if you want to delve further into this issue: ---> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161?page=1

As far as "labor" goes, have you seen the size of a baby? I'm not female, but even I can understand that pushing something of those dimensions through a hole in your body only a few centimetres wide at best would have to be somewhat challenging for most women. Or anybody.

 

[brtshstel]

As far as "labor" goes, have you seen the size of a baby? I'm not female, but even I can understand that pushing something of those dimensions through a hole in your body only a few centimeters wide at best would have to be somewhat challenging for most women. Or anybody.

That was a joke. I know that men in general will never know the the pain a woman goes through in childbirth, and if they do, it's something out of the ordinary like an injury or accident.

 

[Rhade]

Get bitched at for not being able to stay up 52 hours in a row without searing pain to keep you vigilant. Be resented for never being able to know that kind of pain (arguably) and not really knowing what to do or where to be.

Follow with a large and long-nursed cup of getting blown off a lot because of maternal bonding and postpartum.

Wait...sorry, I think I'm channeling my newly married friend, he has a spawn now and mentions things along those lines. Personally I don't want parasites.

 

[SimuLord]

Your brother just lost serious points for bitching when his woman was in fucking labor. Seriously, dude? I've no kids of my own but at my age I know a lot of old friends whose wives/girlfriends have given birth and they've all said the same thing:

"You will never look at women in general and your woman in particular the same way again."

They all came away awestruck and solidly convinced that women are about 100x tougher than even Chuck Norris.

 

[FluffyNeurosis]

But tell him that if he values his sex drive he should under no circumstances whatsoever, watch his baby being delivered... Those images will be burned into his brain forever!

Be there for her and all that stuff but for the love of god THIS ^^

 

[ShotgunShaman]

I just found out that my wife is pregnant on NYE.
I honestly don't know where I'll be or what I'll do during childbirth. But that's the least of my fears at this time. I'm more on the: What kind of Dad will I be? Will I be able to support my family? Etc...

But I guess the role of the Father (or partner) is support.

BRING THE BABY TO THE ESCAPIST

WE SHALL RAISE HIM AS OUR OWN

OT: Men cause the birth, allow the woman to let out some rage when she's going through the pain of childbirth, and support the family after the birth

Just let us handle everything. Your wife will think he was kidnapped, and he'll return big and strong, a hero of our tribe. Think of how joyous and proud she will be.

 

[Slayer_2]

I don't know about you guys, but if I baby was coming out of my ass, the last thing I'd care about is moral support.

I remember when I broke my leg, all I wanted was for people to shut up and stop asking me questions.

 

[InsanityRequiem]

It depends on how you do the childbirth.

Hospital childbirth is cruel and harsh for both the mother and baby. If that is how it's going, then you must be there not just as support, but also as the watcher. If things go bad and only the doctors/nurses are there, they will most likely say that something was wrong with the mother or baby. Hence why there is a roughly 7/1000 infant mortality rate. That's pretty high.

Midwives do childbirth in an entire different and safer way, making it easier for the mother and child during the process. The midwives are able to keep a better watch on both mother/child and with it, will only send the mother and child to the hospital if there is a complication, like irregularly small umbilical chord, or other bad things. With a midwife, a husband really is more for a physical and mental support, giving the mother a comfort to make the childbirth easier.

(Learned about how hospitals and midwives do childbirth different in a special health class)

 

[Thaius]

How important it is would depend largely on the wife and how important his presence is to her. However, no offense, but any father who wouldn't want to be there for the birth of his first kid has issues. I'll be at my wife's side the entire freaking time: nothing could keep me away (except, I suppose, if she wanted me away for that time: but I doubt it).

 

[Srkkl]

Honestly I don't think I will be in the same room, I don't think I could ever have sex with my wife after seeing that.