jimboa25 said:
I've always had a very, very strong contempt for the very idea of suicide and it's very hard for me to even think about the issue without my upper lip instinctively curling into a sneer. Yes, life is hard. Yes, sometimes it's easy to see no way out of your situation. I personally have hit rock bottom in my life twice. Suicide never once crossed my mind. It's the option of the quitter, of the coward, of the selfish bastard who can't see past his or her own pain to know that what they do has an adverse effect on friends and family. And if you don't think it does, then you are a total idiot.
In life, we are called to suffer well - you make your way through the pain and heartbreak and you come out of it stronger than before. Nothing lasts forever, and every situation you face is temporary, be it good or bad. And no matter how black your night is, dawn is inevitable so long as you don't throw a little hissy fit about how insignificant you are and quit life.
This may sound harsh, but it's done with sincerity and life experience:
Suicide is not respectable and weak. It is the ultimate weakness.
Not to be mean, of course. It's just that nobody remembers anyone who's committed suicide with anything other than sadness and pain. There's no sense of 'they lived a good life'. It's a terrible way to go and should be avoided at all costs. It is also the person's lowest point; they reach rock bottom and die feeling terrible.
So I won't sugar coat it and say 'no, you have a lot to live for!' Because honestly, you probably don't have it or see it if you're feeling that bad. Not to say you won't find it, though. That's pretty much the only way to beat suicidal thoughts: make something of yourself and feel like you have something to live for. That's it. Easier said than done, though.
I grew up a very shitty home. Found out I was clinically depressed.
Honestly, the only way I got out of that rut was leaving home, moving in with friends, going to university and getting degrees in economics and accounting. I am now working on a law degree and wanting to start my master's in accounting as I look for an internship. Other thing I suggest: travel around the world. It's pretty cheap nowadays (requiring a bit of saving), assuming you live in a first world country and have a basic job.
Honestly, it's not really about becoming more worldly, the real benefits are the bragging rights. On your resume, as a conversation piece. It's so superficial, but people will respect you more for visiting some random place. It is retarded if you think too hard on it, so the secret is to not think too hard on it.
I don't know how young you are, but I suggest getting into a competitive hobby. I am garbage at most sports, but I grew up around pool tables. People start random conversations with me based on the fact I play pool really well. Again, retarded. But that's just how it is. Just be good at something you can do in public and use it as a reason to meet people. People like talented, 'worldly' people. No matter what they're talented at or even if they only visited some random city (London) for a week's holiday.
You don't even have to be great or very interesting... I moved to a new town and wanted to get to know people, so I joined a football club. It was a small rural town and I was looking after my father who has now passed. But playing football got me laid. And I didn't do much of anything that game. I am not that great looking, either. I am nerdy. But I play a game of football and more girls swarmed me than I have ever had swarm me in my entire life - this was after the game at the pub, celebrating a victory that I really didn't help (I was new to town, which probably helped tbh).
Basically, my advice: get busy and things look a lot better.
