Paragon Fury said:
Apparently "normal" isn't good enough though.
Of course it isn't good enough. It isn't even good enough for *you.* You said yourself:
Paragon Fury said:
There are only two women I've ever really liked liked, and they both were way out of my league, even when I got into college. And I'll admit that I have trouble being attracted to "average" women, particularly after knowing the both of them; they were just that far above what most women. I try and deal with it.
So there are these normal women who exist, many of whom I bet are "nice"--but they aren't good enough for you. So why should you think it should be different when the shoe is on the other foot?
You have got crazy high standards while at the same time you have no self-confidence...that isn't going to get you very far.
Let's get into some details:
1. You said you don't think you are attractive. If you don't think you are attractive there are going to be problems in getting other people to think you are attractive. You need to work on that. Do you need to start working out? Get a new haircut? Start dressing better? Do something to make yourself feel attractive. Work on feeling attractive.
Probably not going to happen.
2. Being nice isn't enough. You need to have some other qualities. Luckily you have some: video games and anime. So find girls who similarly like video games and anime. They exist.
People keep telling me this. And then it never comes true.
3. Develop some more hobbies. Expand your horizons. Make yourself even more awesome. So maybe you decide to get involved in the SCA and take up swordfighting. Or maybe you join the gamelan ensemble at your college. Or learn an instrument. Or learn to dance. Or join the Quiddich team...especially good is something that involves interaction with other people.
Not really welcome at the LANs anymore. Can't dance, wouldn't anyway. Quiddich? Really?
4. Make sure you know about what is happening in the world so you can make small talk about things that are not your hobbies. Know what is on TV a little. Know what is happening on the radio a little. Know what is happening in the news a little. In sports a little. Be interested in the world around you...it makes you more interesting.
I pay plenty of attention to the news; I just have no interest it sports or pop culture for the most part.
5. Work on your conversational skills. If you can converse with people that makes you attractive.
6. Give those girls who are compatible with you and who are nice but not supermodels...give them a chance. If you can't, then you've got some hypocrisy problems...and you'll need to work on that.
