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Keela said:
I don't disagree with you. I know from personal experience that everything you said was true, and that when the OP's situation happened to me, I did need to suck it up and quit my bitching. It just wasn't easy. I hate speaking for people I don't know on the internet, but it seemed to me that the OP just wanted encouragement and support, which the cold hard truth is not.
You keep implying that I told him to "suck it up and get over it" which I did not. You're thinking that I'm being harsher than I am by adding words that I did not say.

I did give him encouragement. You just can't view it as such due to your personality or otherwise who you are.
 

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Aby_Z said:
Keela said:
Aby_Z said:
Keela said:
Aby_Z said:
You'll get over her soon enough once you find a new girl to obsess over. Go find her.
Wow... just wow.
Do you deny the truth of my words? That's pretty much how this thing so many people think is 'love' works.
You have the right to your own opinion. But damn. That just seemed cold to me. He was asking for encouraging words, and you just told him "suck it up and quit whining". I just don't think that was really what the OP was asking for.
I said nothing of the sort. He will get over it eventually and fall head-over-heels for some other girl in time. That's how the mind works.

It may seem harsh to you, but that can't be helped.
Well done. I agree.

OT: You'll find some other girl, as stated by many. You're not going to like hearing it because you want to keep thinking about that other girl, but eventually you'll get over it.
 

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Aylaine said:
runningtable said:
So I just found out that the girl I've been in love with my entire life does not return my feelings. Now I feel worse than I have ever before and could use some encouraging words
(thus the title of this post).

So got any?
You will get through this. Feelings come and go, and you can love more then once. While it does suck that things did not work out this time, this should tell you that shes not the one for you if she can't return your feelings and your search for the one woman who will return them will continue when you are ready to do so. I know it's hard, but just get through each day with the notion that things will pass on, and you will begin searching for someone new and even better. <3
*chokes up, claps enthusiastically*

Well, Aylaine certainly is better at this whole "positivity" thing than I am. You can pretty much tack on her paragraph on at the end of my post, as a far more elegant and cheery final note.
 

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Keela said:
Aby_Z said:
Keela said:
Aby_Z said:
You'll get over her soon enough once you find a new girl to obsess over. Go find her.
Wow... just wow.
Do you deny the truth of my words? That's pretty much how this thing so many people think is 'love' works.
You have the right to your own opinion. But damn. That just seemed cold to me. He was asking for encouraging words, and you just told him "suck it up and quit whining". I just don't think that was really what the OP was asking for.
I'm sorry but that is the best encouragement he can get. It may not be what he wants to hear but it is what he needs to hear.
 

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My encouragement depends on how old you are. There is an teen/kid version, and then there is the "you parents are gonna call the police on my ass" version? :)
 

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You're never going to forget her; don't even try. However, keep that feeling in your heart. You know now what it's like to love someone and you'll know what it is when you feel it again.
 

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Good luck man, almost everyone's been there and it sucks and the pain fades with time but you know it's sometimes a bit too painful to see her right away so back off for like 2-3 weeks and see if you guys still talk and stuff if you wanna still be friends etc if you dont just slowly fade yourself outa her life and start a new chapter in yours.

Do something that occupies your mind after you feel good enough to start doing things again, and don't wallow in any self pity or self hate.

Best I can do man being recently there myself
 

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VanillaBean said:
On the bright side only about 3 more months until Portal 2.
Suddenly I don't feel so bad anymore... no wait I still feel terrible but not as terrible I guess.
 

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runningtable said:
So I just found out that the girl I've been in love with my entire life does not return my feelings. Now I feel worse than I have ever before and could use some encouraging words
(thus the title of this post).

So got any?
How old are you? If you fit this site's demographics, your whole life hasn't been very long so far. I wouldn't worry about it, you'll find others.

Also, here's some kittens.
 

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Trite but true - there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Besides, at least now you know how she really feels. There is some pain in that, true, but there is also a freedom there worth savoring; at least now you aren't pining for someone who does not return you affections.

If that isn't entirely coherent, I apologize. Going to bed now. You should get some sleep, too; usually a good night's sleep helps to put things in perspective.
 

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Aby_Z said:
You'll get over her soon enough once you find a new girl to obsess over. Go find her.
Same thing happened to me and honestly, that ^ is the fastest way to get over it...
 

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Don't worry, champ. I've been through the same. Several times.

You'll get over it with time. Occupy yourself doing stuff you love, hang out with friends, attend parties and get drunk (if you're a drinking person). There are many things you can do to get your mind off her, and keeping good company is the better things to do, I believe.

Get your friends with you and do something that would make for a great story to remember!
 

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Its all good. In a month or so you will feel a lot better. I loved (or so I thought) a girl for my entire high school life. Didn't date anyone because I was sure I would be with her. Didn't work out and a month later I barely thought about her anymore.
 

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DuctTapeJedi said:
runningtable said:
So I just found out that the girl I've been in love with my entire life does not return my feelings. Now I feel worse than I have ever before and could use some encouraging words
(thus the title of this post).

So got any?
How old are you? If you fit this site's demographics, your whole life hasn't been very long so far. I wouldn't worry about it, you'll find others.

Also, here's some kittens.
OMG KITTIES!~

soo adorable!
also you can find another gal who is better! and she must not be that fantastic if she does not like you back.