Could you be a Househusband/Housewife?

[soren7550]

I already sort of do that.

I live with my boyfriend, and he has work while I don't. Regardless of that though, I'd still clean up the place and make him dinner because I love him and junk. I'd probably bother him a bit more to help tidy up if I had a job though, but since I don't, the only chore I really ask him to help out with is garbage.

Since we have roommates though, I do sometimes leave some chores undone since the boyfriend and I feel that they should help around as well (they usually don't, so I end up doing them anyway).

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

Well I don't want to marry or have kids so I wouldn't even consider becoming a house-spouse.

 

[suitepee7]

no, i do that shit anyway, and work, and go uni... if i was limited to just doing errands i'd get bored, but most importantly i never want to be financially dependent on other people, so even a charity job would not keep me going.

i wouldn't want my girlfriend to be one either, i like that we both work and have shit to do in our lives

 

[Augustine]

I thought the concept of a housewife/hubby is an artifact of the yonder days.

Personally, I don't know of any in my circle. Then again, I hardly constitute the majority...

In the situation you described it would be a logical thing to do. So yes.

 

[ShadowStar42]

As this is pretty close to how I live right now, yeah I could be just a house husband. I have a job, only part time and my wife makes several times what I do. Since I have much more free time I do all the cooking, probably 90% of the housework and do most of the general life stuff that happens during the day. Haven't experienced any stigma regarding this so I'm not sure what people are talking about with that, although I'll admit that when we first started living like this I had to fight back some shame at not doing my part as a man.

Wanted to address the people who think that as a house spouse you are a slave, you have a super unhealthy attitude about relationships. For one, house work even in a home with just two people comes out to about 4 hours of work a day. Making meals (at least meals that are worth eating) keeping everything clean and doing general life maintenance is a job. Your mistake here is thinking of the money the bread winner makes as their money. When you're in a healthy relationship you're a team and everything is shared. Someone taking care of the home allows the wage earner the freedom to focus on their career and improves their quality of life. Similarly the work that the wage earner does improves the life of the spouse at home. I don't work for my wife and she doesn't earn money for me, we both do what we do for the team.

 

[Beffudled Sheep_v1legacy]

I could easily be a house husband. I hate going outside, I hate dealing with people, I like to cook, I dislike cleaning (I'm a bit of a slob) but I can do it no problem, and if I don't have kids than I will still have plenty of time for hobbies, fun, and general lazing about. I also have pretty bad sleeping problems which make me have a hard time doing certain jobs and dealing with people. I can do housework safely and calmly even if I go days without sleep.

And if I did have kids, well, I like kids and would love to stay home with them.

I don't really care about losing respect from other men/women either. Like I stated above I hate dealing with people and generally don't give a damn about what they think or say. And if any other guy gives me shit about not being a man then i will prove him wrong with a sock to the jaw.
The manliest way to solve one's differences

 

[Godhead]

As long as she appreciates game night, I'm all for being a house husband. Hell I could even get a part time job for some extra cash in a profession I enjoy doing.

 

[Davey Woo]

I'd be an awful househusband. I hate cleaning, and children. So my bread-winning wife would come home to a filthy house with whinging children, domestic bliss? I think not.

Also. generic foreveralone never getting a wife thing.

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

depends on factors, like the duration of being a househusband, if we have kids (and how many) and what my limits are on continuing my hobbies/education.

if I have to be a robot that just cooks/cleans/groceries all day err day 24/7 like a boss, then no, probably won't last very long, but if I get some leniency and get to continue my hobbies/career part time, then hell yes, that would be awesome and I would have no problem in it.

It's a "partner"ship, my better half will be doing what she does, being my better half, so hopefully I can hold the fort down while she is out kicking ass.

 

[Snowbell]

Absolutely. I recently suffered a really bad illness and am currently disabled, there's not really any other option than for me to be a housewife

 

[DSK-]

I could. I'd love to stay home and do the housework/raise the kids when it comes to it.

 

[Cowabungaa]

As far as I know being a house-spouse is the only thing I'm actually good at. I'm a caring person and I'm rather good at housework. It also feels quite satisfying, I feel in control. So yes, I wouldn't mind at all.

 

[Hagi]

Sounds rather depressing honestly.

Not because being a househusband is inherently bad or something. Rather to spend your days doing something you've no real drive or enthusiasm for.

And I really have none for housework. I'll do it because I have to, but really no other reason than that. And doing that full-time? Sounds like a drag.

Also, I have to wonder. Although this probably says more about the amount of time and attention I spend on housekeeping than anything else. But how could one possibly spend an entire work-week, 40 hours, on housework? I don't see how you could conceivably spend more than one to two hours a day on housework if you're doing it daily (and thus never face situations where things haven't been cleaned in weeks). Even if you're taking kids into account and have to spend the afternoon taking case of those, you've still got about 6 hours a day from 9:00 to 15:00 to do housework, how would you possibly fill that time with useful work if all there is is cleaning a single house?

 

[EyeReaper]

Coming from a guy? Hell yes I could, infact, I totally want to.

I'm one of those oddballs that likes cleaning and cooking. If you're asking me if I would enjoy to continue doing both of those things, while also married to the love of my life, and having her dealing with all those pesky interactions of the outside world and bring money back to me? How the hell could I say no?

 

[Autumnflame]

i would do this with no problems.

as a ex chef cooking is no issue and housework is easy,

and i would still have time for gaming.

 

[Shinkicker444]

I could be a house husband, but then again I like staying at home and pottering about (health issues and introvertness aside). I'd be fine staying at home doing house work, since I find that to be relaxing for the most part, and keeping the missus happy.

 

[TheIceQueen]

I wouldn't mind, so long as I got to go around all day in nothing but an apron and underwear or a maid outfit. Hey, if I have to do the domestic work, I better at least get to do it in a kinky, idealized version of it.

 

[Ieyke]

Forewarning: This is not a place to discuss gender issues. This is meant to a fun question, not start another gender war. If you see an opinion you disagree with, please refrain from hitting the quote button and starting something.

The Scenario

You and your partner for the past three years have just graduated college. You got married straight out of college and now own a home together. As it turns out, your spouse got lucky and got a well-paying job with plenty of chances to advance. It turns out that they can easily afford to pay all the bills and afford any future plans you may have. You on the other hand are still looking for a job. Your spouse proposes a solution to you.

The Question.

Could you live as a househusband/housewife for your spouse? Now of course you will have to do household chores. You just can't sit and play video games or watch TV all day. You have to cook, clean, etc. Divorce is of course always a possibility. I'm not big expert on divorce cases, but I believe the person with the smallest wage receives alimony. So fellow guys, I know househusbands can get a lot of shit for not being the bread winner. Could you handle that? Women, (if this is sexist in anyway or not the ideas of feminist, my deepest apologizes.) it seems it has become more unpopular for women to be housewives and move into the workforce. Could you handle that?

TL;DR: Read the title. Remember keep things civil and explain your reasoning.

My Answer: I could. Housework has always been easy to me. Cleaning never bothered me and with modern technology advancing it has become easier. I'm not the best cook in the world, but I'm sure I could learn with the aid of a few cooking classes. I have no problem with my wife making the money. Social norms never bothered me anyway.

Edit: Kids are optional. If they change your answer, go ahead and put two answers.

Also for those speaking of working, for this situation I will allow a 16 hours a week job.

Hell yes. I am completely okay with that.
Maintainer of my domain and keeper of order are things I naturally gravitate towards.
We would have the most ridiculously efficient...everything.

My brain is just constantly grinding away in the background on new ways to optimize how I have things set up and how I do things. Mine is a world of shortest distances between two points, alphabetization, things at right angles, etc.
I've also seemingly inherited my parent's formidable interior design skills.

I would probably end up remodeling and upgrading all sorts of stuff.

I also have a knack for dealing with kids.

And I've inherited my mom's and her parents' cooking talents (German cooking FTW).

And I pretty much can't stand most people. Can't deal with living in the country where everyone is overly friendly and knows each others' business, and don't want to deal with the daytime masses of a city. So if I spend the day around the house and only go places in the anonymity of the city with the depleted population of the night...that's pretty ideal.