Could You Fall In Love With A Shape Shifter?

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Chaos Isaac

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Sure, why not. It could be weird at times, but hell imagine the fucking advantage when playing games that need you to mimic something to guess at the thing.

It'd be awesome.
 

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Probably. It depends on the personality, because one thing that I've discovered about myself is that this the number one criteria for attraction for me(aside from being compatible with my sexuality). If I find a woman's personality attractive, I find them attractive.
 

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Eh, I reckon it'd suck to be a shapeshifter, though, come with a lot of baggage.

I mean, they'd be a suspect in every crime ever. Dave McEvil was caught on camera eating babies again...or it might have been Mystique pretending to be him. Everyone's lawyers will say it was her, not their client, that was spotted doing anything.
 

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Appearance is a fairly minor issue (especially when they can make themselves appear as attractive as they like).
For a long-term relationship I'd feel that personality and compatibility is more important,
so yes, relationships with shape-shifters wouldn't be a problem,
if anything it would add a bit of spicy kinkiness to it.
 

Lieju

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Well, love is a bit different from sexual attraction.

I think I could fall in love with them, and it would probably be interesting sexually.
But for me to want to be in a sexual relationship with them, they'd need to be willing to take a form that's sexually attractive to me when we have sex, at least most of the time.

But it's not like they'd have to look sexually attractive all the time or anything.
Plus if they could turn into like a huge fluffy cat when we wanted just cuddles, that would be great.
 

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thaluikhain said:
Jadak said:
I wouldn't, but I also would't be interested in dating a shapeshifter who isn't into shapeshifting for pleasure. What good is that? I'll find one who is.

But that falls into the same category as any personality based aspect of relationships. People are into different things, so best to look for some overlap.
True.

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Hang on, would you date a not shapeshifter that didn't shapeshift? Coz, isn't that much the same thing?
If they were a shapeshifter that didn't shapeshift, how would I know they were a shapeshifter?

Also no, because clearly they're super lame.
 

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What if their natural form wasn't their true form? Lets say their natural unshapeshifted form is a repulsive blob. But they no more identify with that form than they identify with their Jennifer Lawrence form (to take, at random, some physically desirable form.) In fact, they choose to look like Jennifer Lawrence often and perhaps have come to identify with that form as a major part of their self image, if not their "true" form (because they have no true form.)
I guess my main hang up is the idea of "making requests", for lack of a better term. I wouldn't feel comfortable saying to someone "You need to change the way that you look for me to be attracted to you, because I can't handle what you actually look like". Partially because that seems mean, and partially because I imagine it would lead to resentment on their part once the honeymoon phase was over.

But if they were perfectly happy to look a certain way to begin with, indeed they preferred it even without any suggestion from me, or were just doing it anyway, then yeah. That would probably be fine.
 

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Lightknight said:
KissingSunlight said:
I was thinking about the character Mystique from X-Men. Having been played by Rebecca Romijn and Jennifer Lawrence, it's easy to fall for that character. Even though she is blue. Not that I'm a racist. It's just usually when someone has blue skin that means they're dead. I digress.

I was thinking about the positives and negatives of being in a relationship with someone who can change their appearance at will. No doubt, it would be a complicated relationship that would require a lot of trust. Could you fall in love with someone who can change their appearance like Mystique?
Could I? Boy howdy could I.

As long as the person is compatible romantically/emotionally/etc then i don't see how it would be anything but a positive that they'd have an ability that would make the more intimate parts of the relationship all the more interesting. The real question is whether or not a shape shifter would be able to fall in love with you (not you as in, KissingSunlight but the royal you) when fantasies come to light.

The nature of this ability would leave room for trust issues, of course. But what relationship isn't a potential trust landmine (emphasis on potential)?
First I want to thank everyone who have responded so far to this fun question.

It seems like this question is like a Rorschach test. The response is revealing a part of your personality. I did tip my hand about my response to this question in the OP. I have trust issues when it comes to relationships. So, regardless if she looks like a blue J. Law. or R. Rom.(?), I would have serious concerns of her using that ability to spy, test, or punish me. I can imagine her getting angry with me and turn into bear and maul me. Then telling me before I die from my injuries, "I'm sorry. Sometimes you make me SO mad." Of course, it wouldn't be fair to project my insecurities on her. But I guess, that's how relationships goes. The secret is to find someone you can stand to live with for the rest of your life.
 

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Zontar said:
Caiphus said:
But hey. If falling in love with a shapeshifter involved falling in love with a blue Jennifer Lawrence then put me in, coach.
That's something that always confused me about some shapeshifters in fiction: they're all angsty about having to hid their true form from the public, even though their true form is batter looking then most of the human race and they would have no trouble fitting in (case in point: Mystique).

OT: it's the personality that's important. If they're insufferable, the ability to look like a young pornstar won't make a relationship last long.
Counterpoint, Miss Martian.
Human Form:

"True" Form:

ACTUAL True Form:
 

Ieyke

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And to answer the question, yes. Easy.
Why not?
The funny thing about the people worrying about getting spied on and "talking about her behind her back" is that IF I'm in love with someone neither thing is a worry. Anything I worry about ANYONE knowing will be something done with total secrecy to where NO ONE knows - so the risk is the same as any other person finding out.
And I'm essentially incapable of loving someone I'd complain about, so any "talking behind her back" would just be me praising her, or trying to figure out how to help her, or make things better between us. She could spy, and I'd just come off looking BETTER.
 

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There are two core points at the heart of this, and they're both reasonably related.

The first is the one asked about the 'true' form, assuming they actually have one. In short: if you want a relationship to work, then you need to be comfortable with who a person actually is. In this case, you'd have to be comfortable enough with each other (adjustment period would be acceptable, obviously, though may itself put a strain on the relationship) that you could actually be yourself around one another. Not to go too into it, but you'd also need to be able to be attracted enough to that person/thing to be intimate with them, and I'm not talking just sexually either.


If her true self was something like Mystique or just something like an odd pigmentation that was changed when in public, I'd probably be fine with it and it'd just be a quirk of the relationship. If she was a Cthuloid horror (IE: Galaxy Quest), then I don't think I could do it. Call it shallow, but there it is.


For the second, in much the same way, it would depend on the person. It's a trust issue. If she was someone who had spent her life swapping identities and basically vanishing whenever things got tough, then it'd be hard. Could you trust someone to be there with you when his or her answer in life to date was to slip into a crowd and never come back, or who you knew dealt with stress by swapping into a new identity for a night because no one could ever prove it was him/her who had done whatever it was?

Again, it would depend on the person, but I don't know if I could do it.
 

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Hmmmmmmmm...

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No.

More seriously, depends. I'd ask them what they would really want to be and if they were okay with what I found physically attractive. The personality couldn't change, so that's the real core of the issue. Then again, if this question were to come up, chances are I'd already be on board with them.
 

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I personally find the idea of shapeshifters having a "true form" kind of ridiculous. I mean, maybe if you're like a werewolf or something, and you only change forms under the full moon and are stuck in your ordinary shape 95% or the time, but superpowered people who can just look however they want to look whenever? What the hell does "true form" mean to someone like that?

Well, maybe they have a preferred self-image, possibly to the extent of body dysphoria when they're in other shapes. But it's rare that that sort of consequence of shapeshifting is depicted, and without it even assigning them a "true gender" seems silly.

With that in mind, if someone's a shapeshifter that basically means they're as physically attractive as an entire harem of the most beautiful people in the world, plus fictional and maybe even non-human beauties. Also, superpowered significant other. I honestly don't get the downsides, this is just "would you date a beautiful harem who won't get mad at each other 'cause they're all the same person?" Yes, and/or duh-doy!
 

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Yes. Yes I can.

Given enough time, talk, and -hrmp- compromises I'm sure it can happen
 

Eddie the head

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No, because they don't exist. This is like asking if I would be friends with an elf.

Hypothetically I don't know.
 

Johnny Impact

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EDIT: There was a picture of Rebecca Romijn in the blue paint, but it went away.
Sure. It might cause difficulties depending on what forms it (have to call it neuter since it can switch genders) likes to assume. If it loves me, I hope it assumes forms it thinks I will like. In this case natural form is basically an ideally proportioned human with odd skin. That would be enough for me.

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I think I'd have to pass on that one. Call me superficial but I doubt I could ever love something that was essentially a 300-pound booger.

One thing I know for sure is I could never ask it to assume another form for my comfort/satisfaction/whatever. How incredibly hurtful would it be to say, "Please be something other than yourself," even if I were talking to something that actually could?

Of course, if the shifter offers to design a form based on my aesthetic/carnal-caveman desires, and maintain said form indefinitely, that's another thing entirely.

Interesting question.
 

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KissingSunlight said:
I was thinking about the positives and negatives of being in a relationship with someone who can change their appearance at will. No doubt, it would be a complicated relationship that would require a lot of trust. Could you fall in love with someone who can change their appearance like Mystique?
I think I probably could although it would be a bit of a mindscrew to find out that my past 3 ex-girlfriends were all the same person.
 

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I feel that when it comes to dating a shapeshifter it requires trust (like all relationships) but you also have to have a deep understanding about the shifter in question.

After all no matter how good one is, they always have little quirks about themselves that give them away. The good ones are just those that can hide it very well. But someone who knows them (or the person they are impersonating) very well can see right through it.