Do I deserve to be spat on for saying this to a gay person?

[Snotnarok]

Everything is always racist when it's against a minority. "Please keep it down, I'm trying to watch the movie" - You're racist against black people. "Let me get that door for you" - You think handicapped people are weak and can't do things on their own.

Simple fact is, if things were as they say they were, they were being uptight pricks, and you were trying to just enjoy a movie that you paid for.

Honestly I'm more irritated how average non-racist people have to tread lightly because the slightest slip up and you're racist and deserve 8 minutes of news coverage where you're the asshole. People are too sensitive, FAR too sensitive.

 

[Byere]

Being gay myself, I must both agree and disagree.

I agree in that they had no right to attack you like that. You asked them politely to stop, you didn't say anything bad about or to them. They were rude as hell.
I also agree that the newspapers always spiral things out of control and take things too far.

The only part I disagree on is that they were out and had paid to go to see the film too. While I don't condone their actions, nor do I go against yours, they weren't really harming anyone by making out.

All in all, they were out of line. I don't quite know how being spat at escalated into a brawl, but when they did, you and your friend should have calmly walked out of the theatre and gotten a member of staff to eject the two of them (on a little note of greed, causing a fuss over it might have scored you a pair of tickets to go see something for free )

 

[Xiorell]

I only really skim read the post, basically I don't need to know the ins and outs of it to say, If anyone spat at me, for ANY reason even if I was in the wrong, I don't care, I would fucking destroy them. They'd need a lot of pull with the man upstairs to physically walk away.
Then again I am somewhat aggressive toward people at the best of times.

 

[Chaos Marine]

I completely agree that there's too much hatred towards homosexuals (though lesbianism is widely accepted, yay double standards*), there was no excuse for actually spitting on someone. Not unless he asked them to give it a rest with far worse language.

 

[Lancer723]

So, never being one to suffer in silence, he gently (according to him) said something alone the lines of "here lads, would you give it a rest? We're trying to watch a movie".

I bet he didn't really say it like that, or had a certain tone to his voice which led to the spitting. It would have been obvious that a comment like that would lead to such a reaction. Your friend could have simply moved and avoided the confrontation in the first place.

Or the guy who spat on him was being overly sensitive and completely over-reacted. Gay people are the same as regular people, occasionally complete douches. No need to jump to conclusions on either part.

I beleive what he asked to be completely reasonable. If a straight couple were macking in front of me while I was watching a movie, I would ask them to stop just the same as I would a gay couple. Homosexuals should be treated the same as everyone else, because they are just like anyone else. If that equality is to have any meaning, it must be universal.

 

[kickyourass]

No, that was a HUGE over reaction on the part of the guy spitting. Sure I think it would've been perfectly fine if they just got mildly annoying at him or responded in a similar vain to "If you don't like it then why are you watching us make out?" or something but spitting at him because he asked you to stop making out in public? That's way over the line.

 

[s0denone]

The gay guy was an asshole.
He should have been beaten into a bloody pulp.
Was he?

It doesn't really matter.

I cannot, for the life of me, understand why he would spit on your friend. I can maybe see why, not not truly understand. What an asshole. Seriously.

 

[KiKiweaky]

Interesting topic this, some people really cringe when they see guys going at it in front of them. I'm not too bothered by it tbh. But I've even asked friends of mine [guy + girl] to 'give it a rest' when they start going at it right in front of you and you think, christ get a fucking room you two >.<

But anyway, while the 2 guys in the cinema didn't neccesarily have to stop simply because your friend wasnt all that comfortable having to watch them and the movie at the same time. There was no need at all to spit in your buddies face, its just fucking feral. He'd have received a shovel to the back of his skull in the parking lot if he'd done it to me.

I know people who really dont like seeing 2 guys kiss, so I can kinda see where your friend is coming from. But I uppose it just depends what side of the fence you sit on.

 

[Nigh Invulnerable]

Spitting wouldn't be my personal choice (a bit of an overreaction, I'd probably just continue to kiss, maybe be a bit more passionate about it), but yeah, your friend should have just ignored it.

Really? No offense, but I hope I never see a movie where your in the theater.

OT: People making out during movies is a big pet peeve of mine. I didn't pay to see/hear two teens with trouble keeping their hormones in check, I paid too enjoy a movie. If two people sitting near me start making out, I politely (but I still make sure they know that I mean it) tell them to stop. So far, they always have, without incident, and yes, one time they were a gay couple.

My philosophy concerning obnoxious movie watchers involves pouring cold soda or throwing candies at the offenders if they've been warned.

 

[_Cake_]

They where all being dicks. No one should spit on anyone, but would you have said something if it was a guy and girl?

 

[Azure-Supernova]

I don't quite know how being spat at escalated into a brawl, but when they did, you and your friend should have calmly walked out of the theatre and gotten a member of staff to eject the two of them...

I don't know where you're from, but where I live (West Midlands, UK) spitting on someone is considered a pretty offensive act. You spit on the floor, spitting on a person is basically saying that they're no better than the earth they walk on, or probably even lower. It's disrespectful, rude and down right unsanitary.

Sure he could have calmly walked away and reported it to a member of staff, but sometimes the red mist descends far too quickly.

 

[spartan231490]

Of course ur friend was justified, they were distracting him from the movie. this woudlnt even be fucking discussion if he had told them to stop talking so loud. If you for one second think that ur friend was rude, you are guilty of reverse discrimination by them moral authority they don't deserve. On a side note: i hope your friend got in a good shot to the face, a fist hurts a lot more than a little spit.

 

[Kasawd]

For me, it would all depend on the movie. With a movie like Inception, I would like my undivided attention to watch it. If it were a movie that was boring me(Beowulf), I would have probably just watched the couple(Homosexual or Heterosexual) until they realised that I was observing them. Eventually, those couples notice me so I can smile and wave.

Mind you, if someone spit on my friend for asking them to give it a rest while the movie was on, I wouldn't hesistate to begin throwing fists(Or, considering the spit, elbows) for such a transgression.

As long as your friend didn't let loose any slurs, they over-reacted.

 

[TwitchierGuitar]

Your friend did ask nicely, as he said, at least. The queers were being a little obnoxious, so there's no problem with asking them to stop. Just as long as your friend won the fight, there's nothing wrong with this situation at all. These things happen...

 

[garjian]

if a straight guy spat in your face for that, youd consider him a chav, the responce normal, and this wouldnt be brought up...

the guy who spat in your friends face is just a ****.
it doesnt have anything to do with sexuality, and by the sounds of things, anything to do with the opposition to homosexuality either...

 

[Mercsenary]

Justified. The movie theater or cinema in your terminology I think is not your home. There is a certainly level of decency that should be expected. Yes so het couples could do the same thing, but if they were interrupting the movie as you say your case was, the het couple would also be asked to stopped.

The fact that the media decided to spin it as a hate crime is retarded and only shows the fact that anything about homosexuality must either be "I support it." or you will be labeled a homophobic and your opinion does not matter.

 

[rockera]

Most people sit at the back if they want to kiss, but their reaction is wavering on over reaction and misunderstanding did you're friend try to explain that it wasn't about them being gay? but it was an over reaction and the guys should of asked them why you're friend asked them to stop.

 

[Cutlesnap]

If I take the story of the OP at face value, of course I agree with all the other sheep in this topic. The spitter was wrong and your friend is completely justified, man! Oh boy! Isn't it fun to have a topic where practically everyone agrees?

OF COURSE, THE OP'S STORY IS FULL OF SHIT

I don't believe for a second that your friend was polite when he asked those guys to stop. I know your friend's type. At the very least he'd say something that was funny in a smug, predictable, dumb way. Naivety offends me to no end, and this topic has made me furious.

And no, I have no idea if what he actually said was enough to warrant spitting. It'd have to be pretty damn nasty... No, it would have to border on threatening to warrant spitting. But given the fact that your friend is unwilling to even admit what he said, I have no choice but to assume he had it coming.

Of course, it is quite the curiosity how "your friend" managed to get distracted by the couple kissing. I don't know how theaters in Ireland work, but where I live they turn off the lights in the audience when the movie starts. You wouldn't be able to see two people kissing in the next row, unless you were specifically staring at them. Which also brings up the question: If the theater was almost empty, why did they sit so close to the couple? And what did they expect a couple at the movies to do? Kiss? A couple kissing at the movies?? Why, that's completely unheard of!

 

[lwm3398]

If the couple in front was so obsessed with kissing at the time, they could've moved so they didn't annoy your friend. Like you said, the theater was mostly empty. They could've easily scooted to the left a couple seats.

Why the hell would you spit at someone for politely asking you to stop doing something that some find annoying?

Also, fuck newspapers.

They where all being dicks. No one should spit on anyone, but would you have said something if it was a guy and girl?

If it were distracting one from the movie? Probably.

 

[lee1287]

i woulda just waited for him outside the cinema and shoved a... no, friend should of spat back, fucking kids.