Do the girls depicted in 500 Days of Summer/Juno/Adventureland etc. exist?

[ScatterBen]

This post is from a male point of view, but I'm sure women can relate and participate with their experiences.

Arriving at University last week I was told that I would meet many interesting and different people during "Freshers" and, obviously, being male, I contemplated what kind of girls I would meet here. Well the answer is: the same kind of girl that I seem to find in most places. Now, I'm not devastatingly unsociable and awkward, I just detest "clubbing," listening to the same awful shit every night, and "going out on the lash", but it seems that everyone else in London is the opposite? Its not as though I'm a metal-head with long, greasy hair (sorry to stereotype - I'm sure many of you enjoy metal without having long or greasy hair). I'm just pretty ordinary, but with a particular - arguably elitist - taste in everything, and I value those things.

Anyway, I haven't yet seen a girl who compares to Juno or that douchey, broody girl Kristen Stewart played in Adventureland. Admittedly, I've not exactly gotten into the depths of anyone's personality in this first week, but that is the first impression that they gave (which, as we all know, is important, even if it shouldn't be). To put it simply, it's got me disillusioned with the variety of person there is.

Now, it's not the first time we've been lied to by the movies, and the three I've brought up clearly had characters made to be attractive to guys like me, but I was convinced that there had to be some girl who had similar tastes to me in this world (and especially in London), but I just cant seem to find her, or anything closely resembling her. It wouldn't even have to be similar really, but just an interest in something that is large enough to be classed as a 'taste' in it and to have an opinion on other aspects of it. It seems like everyone just has passing interests in things these days. Obviously, Escapist, that's hyperbole, but is that type of guy/girl a rarity where you all are, too? I mean, they have to be somewhere right? Yet, I don't think I've never met one.

I don't mean to come off as pretentious and arrogant, I'm just making an observation with a slight rant. I'm friends with many girls who are into all of the stuff that I've said I don't enjoy, and I wouldn't even say no to going out with some of them because we get along very well, but I'm yet to find that girl with the personality that just clicks with mine. I'm sure many here can relate to that?

I also feel the need to say that I'm not just pissed off because I cant get laid. I've been there and done that and it's not a concern for me. This thread is about how difficult it is to find someone of the opposite sex who has similar tastes to you. I'm only speaking from a guys perspective, but I'm sure that there are many girls out there who have had similar concerns?

 

[Brotherofwill]

So you're saying that the girl from Juno is attractive to you? I'm slightly wierded out now.

 

[Supersquee]

Well hi there, first of all congratulations on getting to universirty. Secondly, i'm also in your position. But I don't think you can take this first week as a good judge, you've got 3 years ahead of you, and Freshers week is not that long. You're going to be meeting many more people as your course progresses, you join more societies and clubs, and you just meet people around your halls and such. All I can say is don't give up or get exasperated, just roll with life.

That's my plan anyway, week one of Freshers has been okay so far, just make the most of it.

 

[Kpt._Rob]

It's hard for everyone to find the right person. I've met a girl or two in my time who I absolutely clicked with... I've also managed to fuck up those relationships, but that's another story. I mean, I understand where you're coming from, most of the girls at the university I attend... god it's like they're fucking carbon copies of some boring archetypal girl with some minor aesthetic changes. But if you get lucky you'll find the diamond in the rough. Just don't give up.

 

[ScatterBen]

So you're saying that the girl from Juno is attractive to you? I'm slightly wierded out now.

Nooo I mean that type of girl ... even if she is a little annoying, but I suppose she's an exaggeration.

 

[ProtoChimp]

So you're saying that the girl from Juno is attractive to you? I'm slightly wierded out now.

Hey I think she's hot. She's hot in Inception.

 

[soilent]

Well hi there, first of all congratulations on getting to universirty. Secondly, i'm also in your position. But I don't think you can take this first week as a good judge, you've got 3 years ahead of you, and Freshers week is not that long. You're going to be meeting many more people as your course progresses, you join more societies and clubs, and you just meet people around your halls and such. All I can say is don't give up or get exasperated, just roll with life.

That's my plan anyway, week one of Freshers has been okay so far, just make the most of it.

Welcome to the escapist!

I think you will fit in well here.

OT: I think you'll be alright, OP. Just dont end up taking advantage of pledge girls, as that is equal to rape in my mind.

 

[Brotherofwill]

So you're saying that the girl from Juno is attractive to you? I'm slightly wierded out now.

Hey I think she's hot. She's hot in Inception.

That's a totally different character, man. I was talking about the character in that movie, not really about the actress haha. The actress is ok.

So you're saying that the girl from Juno is attractive to you? I'm slightly wierded out now.

Nooo I mean that type of girl ... even if she is a little annoying, but I suppose she's an exaggeration.

Yeah. So you're atracted to that type? I don't blame you but it's almost polar opposite to what I like.

Don't worry though, you'll find your girl.

 

[Nickolai77]

Oh dear, welcome to my world, you poor bugger. I'm starting my second year and i'm still a bit shaken by the culture shock of university. Hell, there are a lot people out there who actually arn't gamers and listen to crappy chart music. 0.0 You only realise it once you get into university, and it can be quite a shock.

The fact is that girls like you describe are very rare but they do actually exist. I advise you try and find as many different social groups as possible, go join a few societies etc, and you will come across girls more to your taste.

I found a girl more to my taste, but she has a boyfriend, go me. I hope you have more luck than i did.

Yours sincerely, a jaded old bastard.

 

[jamesworkshop]

I have not watched any of those movies and i'm not quite sure why I am even posting

Actually I was in London today at eurogamer expo so maybe you should worry less and gone and done that today, unless you already did in which case I have no futher advice.


Bye.

 

[faspxina]

I know it's not related to the topic but this thread reminded me of this College Humor sketch.

 

[freedomweasel]

There are loads of those types of girls at my old university. I avoided them..

That being said, like you said, I too have specific tastes in things and am pretty selective in what I like. You don't need to find someone with the same tastes in everything. I would say of the movies & music my fiance watches I can tolerate about a third of it. The same goes for her with my stuff. She hates gaming, and I despise her silly tv shows.

However, this means that when I turn on my ps3, she can turn to hulu and we both get some time apart. I good friends with a lot of people who I have very little in common with, with regards to music/movies/hobbies. We share similar values, and that's more important than if you like Taylor Swift's new CD.

Also, it sounds like it's your first week of college, can't meet everyone in a day. Avoid clubs, you can't meet people with all that noise anyway..

 

[Trivun]

Where exactly are you looking at uni? Having been at a UK university for two years, just starting my third now (University of Leeds, if you're interested), I can safely say such girls do exist. I'm sharing a flat with two similar girls right now.

Thing is, you need to look all over the place to find people of different personalities and whatnot. While at university, join some societies and groups. You will meet plenty of people who are interesting and all different types, both male and female, who you will get along well with outside the usual skanks who go clubbing every night and just seem to be there to find someone to shag.

I'm personally heavily involved in the Leeds film-making society (and am this year's treasurer), and I'm involved in our Theatre Group somewhat as well. I know plenty of people who fit the sort of person you seem to be looking for, through joining those societies, and I've made some great friends in doing so (one of the girls I live with is secretary of film-making society, I actually met her through the group). I spend a lot of time at our student union's under-regarded common room place, a place notorious in the university for attracting mostly 'hippies', various campaign groups, and feminists. I have a few friends there, again fitting yet another unique social position and with all different types of personality.

My point is, as one student to another, I can assure you that such girls, and indeed guys, do exist. You just need to look in plenty of different places to find them. And for the record, you're a fresher, so most people you meet will spend the first month blowing their first student loan installment on partying and clubbing almost every night, then go out clubbing at least once a week (usually at least twice a week, actually) from there on in. And then when you reach second year, you'll all calm down and spend more nights in watching DVDs than going clubbing. Trust me, that's exactly what I and my former housemates did, and what I continue to do now.

 

[ScatterBen]

I know it's not related to the topic but this thread reminded me of this College Humor sketch.

That made me chuckle and actually lifted my spirits about this. I've been conditioned by those kinds of movies far too much, perhaps, but I don't think that what I'm asking for is too ridiculous.

Anyway, the main point of this thread was to find out whether these girls do exist or whether they are just a fabrication of films, particularly these days when making studs out of Michael Cera and that other guy is all the rage (even though I do love those shitty films despite their unbelievability). I was fishing for some anecdotes from real people about the real thing, whilst ranting about my distaste for the attitude behind freshers week.

Edit: I think it's also worth pointing out that I'm a year older than most of these people because I had a year out. Maybe I've just grown up that tiny bit more? Either way, it's exhausting for me...

 

[Furious Styles]

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The girls in my flat are all very nice and I actually get on with them but I do feel like a hopeless shut in when they say, "You coming out tonight?" And i say, "No, I'll give this one a miss but have a good time."
I have met a couple of the sort of girl you mentioned, one likes The Pogues and all the bands I like including some that no one knows I like. There was also a girl at the alternative music society stall who was similarly inclined towards good things and while buying posters i met a couple more while admiring a poster of Breathless by jean luc godard and london's calling by the clash.

They are out there, just give it some time, they'll emerge eventually... i hope. In any case, similar tastes aren't everything.

Also, freshers week tends to bring out the obnoxious clubber in people, after people settle down and settle in, things will get better.

 

[Trivun]

So you're saying that the girl from Juno is attractive to you? I'm slightly wierded out now.

Nooo I mean that type of girl ... even if she is a little annoying, but I suppose she's an exaggeration.

I've already answered your question in my previous post, but I feel I have to post again just to say this. Ellen Page (the girl in Juno) is very attractive. Have you seen Inception? Watch it. Now. She's in that (as Ariadne - meaningful name alert...), and looking mighty fine.

Actually, after seeing that I'm very jealous of Joseph Gordon-Levitt. He gets to kiss Ellen Page in Inception, he has an on-screen relationship with Zooey Deschanel in 500 Days Of Summer, and he has an on-screen relationship with Larisa Oleynik in 10 Things I Hate About You.

A string of beauties. He is a lucky, lucky man... ;D

 

[Palademon]

Idk. The only girl I've found truly unique and great and relatable is perfectly fine with being alone her entire life and would prefer it.
...And she lives in a different country.

So yeah, they are rare.

 

[ScatterBen]

So you're saying that the girl from Juno is attractive to you? I'm slightly wierded out now.

Nooo I mean that type of girl ... even if she is a little annoying, but I suppose she's an exaggeration.

I've already answered your question in my previous post, but I feel I have to post again just to say this. Ellen Page (the girl in Juno) is very attractive. Have you seen Inception? Watch it. Now. She's in that (as Ariadne - meaningful name alert...), and looking mighty fine.

Actually, after seeing that I'm very jealous of Joseph Gordon-Levitt. He gets to kiss Ellen Page in Inception, he has an on-screen relationship with Zooey Deschanel in 500 Days Of Summer, and he has an on-screen relationship with Larisa Oleynik in 10 Things I Hate About You.

A string of beauties. He is a lucky, lucky man... ;D

Haha, yes I have seen all of those movies and, yes, he is a very, very lucky man. If he wasn't so awesome I might even hate him for it....

Edit: Also, in relation to your earlier post, I did join societies and stuff (though not too many - I'm doing Law and didn't want to spend lots of money on joining societies I wouldn't have time to participate in). I'm hoping to meet some interesting people in those (particularly the humous society). Its not like all the people I've met are massive pricks, they just don't click with me like I'd have hoped they would, being in such a diverse place (but I suppose, with diversity comes ... well, diversity).

 

[Imp Poster]

Man, it's a university. Who cares if you can't find some girl type from a movie? You have a libido like a jack rabbit. There are girls who are now taken out of their comfortable high school environment who desparately want to relate to someone they can get comfortable with, but ready and maybe have accepted to try new things and meet new people.
The best way to approach this is. Sleep with every girl you can. No, but once you get pass the "cover", you would be surprised on how different people are compared to how they look.
This way, you will know what you really want and don't want when it comes to the opposite sex.