Do the girls depicted in 500 Days of Summer/Juno/Adventureland etc. exist?

[CarpathianMuffin]

It's only the first week or so, a bit too early to judge. I'm not saying that you should open up more than you already have, but if you meet somebody and she has plans for sometime that week that you can join in taking part in, ask if you can come along. Well, that is if you want to. Clubbing might be on her list, but I wouldn't join in that either.
Also, it's university. If you don't meet somebody in those thousands of people who you get along with really well, I'll be completely shocked.

 

[illas]

"Yes". Intelligent and emotionally sophisticated people are in the minority. Sorry about that.
A significant consideration is whether you value said women enough to wait/search for them.

Secondly, don't assume that such girls of your age exist only within the university system. Independent, charming young women might (one could argue) avoid university; so try to stay open-minded... there is a world outside "Fresher's week"! [Hopefully this doesn't come across as condescending, I just interpreted from your post that you were focusing on the girls at your University. Apologies if it does.]

Furthermore, given the population of the human race, the odds that you will find at least one person who you're attracted to; has similar interests as you; and who's flaws you're willing to overlook given their merits, are very good. Remain open minded.

My advice would be to avoid focussing on "I want this type of girl..." etc, and focus simply on spending time with people that you enjoy, and bailing (politely) on those you don't. Eventually, basic maths and process of elimination will take their toll, and you'll end up surrounded by people you like; hopefully/probably one more than the others!

Oh, and be sure to enjoy London!

 

[JanatUrlich]

You know why you haven't found a girl like that?

Because they're all characters from films.

 

[Wyes]

You know why you haven't found a girl like that?

Because they're all characters from films.

Indeed, one must beware of the Manic Pixie Dream Girls [http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ManicPixieDreamGirl] in real life, because they tend to only have the 'manic pixie' part down pat.

 

[omega 616]

(and especially in London)

Whats so special about London, it's just a place, just like every other.

I am just like you, although Juno was a ***** ... Theres edgy, then theres her. Anyway, it sounds like your looking in clubs etc, look in "gothy" type places, while some of them will still like the whole "it's Saturday which means I must get pissed 'cos the peer pressure is way too much" but you also get the intellectual types.

Although the "gothy" places round my area are full of skater/emo/immature fucks who constantly hug, scream stupid shit and think there so awesome by wearing a spongebob backpack over a black and red stripy jumper, which is unzipped so you can see they really like metalica ... not forgetting the tunnels, oh the tunnels "hey, I can fit my bf's wang through my ear", well done, come back in 50 years when your lobe is dragging on the floor.

... Sorry about the rant, there just prolific in my area.

 

[Adzma]

You are certainly not alone in your opinion my dear fellow.

 

[Blackality]

Agreed, I want Haruhi goddamnit!

 

[The Rockerfly]

I am with you. I think the way to avoid the slutty girls is by not going clubbing. It sounds stupid and obvious but that's how I did it, you want a nice girl? Don't go clubbing

You want one with a beautiful voice? Join a choir
How about an athletic one? Go to a gym

Sounds painfully obvious but it is, there is no secret or science behind getting a girl you want I mean there is an element of luck with people at university and who you're living with but it's still very possible to find a girl who isn't a slag

 

[Thaius]

I'd say your problem is that you're looking.

She's out there somewhere, and you'll find her. But if you're actively looking, chances are you'll find a lot more than the girl you should actually be with, and the process will be long and painful. Wait until you've found a girl you know you really, really get along with, and don't go searching in the meantime; that will just lead to heartache and a huge possibility that you'll be taken when "she" finally shows up.

That type of girl is out there, but I highly doubt you'll find her with an active effort.

 

[Last Valiance]

So, basically the OP is attracted to Tomboy type chicks.

Of coruse he is; girly-girls are fucking annoying. I don't see how anyone could be in anything more than a physical relationship with one of those types of people.
A bit of tomboy-ish-ness is nice (In mind, not in body, ofc)

 

[Criquefreak]

You're expecting to find a woman similar to those depicted in popular media? Expect disappointment, there's a disturbing frequency of female characters being written as nothing more than male fantasy fulfillment. Yes, there's a similar inverted case of male characters, but it's less frequent and female audiences appear to expect a more well-rounded personality than a stereotype in their fantasies.

Attempting to pursue a 'perfect person' is an exercise in futility, especially as they'd probably just get really dull in the long term due to being everything a person expected. A lot of people forget/never learned that long-term relationships are built on mutual compromise, similarity of personalities and interests, and acceptance (if not also support) of differences. A good friend is a better choice in romantic pursuits than most anyone met in random circumstances, especially someone you know little to nothing about.

As for finding someone to voice definitive, strong opinions, that usually takes a long time of getting comfortable and knowing the audience for many people. Someone willing to do such in a public domain is even less common as it could lead to losing people to socialize with.

May as well give a try to dating those you don't 'click' with, maybe it's like a puzzle device and it won't happen without exploring a person in-depth. If it doesn't work out, you can go back to seeking your 'clicker' but with a better idea of what you want and expect from a romantic partner (and more importantly, without the illusions of the cinema).

 

[Shoqiyqa]

OP: sex is easy to find but somebody to love is looking like a myth? Yeah, I can relate to that.

It wouldn't even have to be similar really, but just an interest in something that is large enough to be classed as a 'taste' in it and to have an opinion on other aspects of it. It seems like everyone just has passing interests in things these days.

So ... you're looking for someone who's sufficiently interested in some things to have joined the relevant societies and clubs and maybe progressed to a position within them beyond member, who goes every week or twice a week or whatever the schedule is and ...

Wait. You're looking for a real woman, as in "real women have minds," aren't you? YAY! As mentioned, though, if you're looking for a real woman, looking for someone like a fictional character in a Hollywood film is not going to make it easier.

Check out the clubs. Not the beer-and-130dB-bass-'til-3am clubs. The sports and hobbies clubs. Don't join all of them, because that's just a waste of money. You can't take full part in more than three or four. Talk to people. Find other interests. Find someone who's really into something outside your field of experience and go along to see what it's like, because if there's a LARPers' Rock Band Session With Experimental Home Cooking the first Friday night of every month or something like that and one guy from your Jiu Jitsu class goes along and he's really into it, the chances are that the other people there are also really into it, and while "going on LARPs to meet single girls is like climbing mountains to meet fish," you might just find that one of the others brings a friend who'd normally be out on her horse no matter what the weather and that friend is exactly your type.

Also: don't look for a girlfriend. Look for friends. Let girlfriend interest build after meeting. "Hi I want to have sex with you a lot" is a lousy way to say hello, even if it works a lot.

I'm probably the number one Ellen Page fan in the world. I. FUCKING. LOVE. HER.

YOU ... HAVEN'T ... MET ... HER!

Massive crush?
Lust?
Instinctive desire?
Protective instinct?
Prehistoric urge to add her to the genetic mix of your tribe?

Yes. All of those are possible.

Love? It can happen fast, but through photographs and film roles? No.

 

[MissPixxie]

Don't judge people by how they look. Being a girl myself I guess I can't really comment on how rare 'that thing that guys look for in a girl' is, but stop looking for it. Get to know people. It's by getting to know them that you learn who they really are.

 

[procyonlotor]

You know why you haven't found a girl like that?

Because they're all characters from films, that were all written by men.

Fixed.

 

[Shadowfaze]

They exist in theory, but because of that fact they also dont. Am i making sense? maybe, i'm in a funny mood.

 

[Lord Monocle Von Banworthy]

You know why you haven't found a girl like that?

Because they're all characters from films.

Indeed, one must beware of the Manic Pixie Dream Girls [http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ManicPixieDreamGirl] in real life, because they tend to only have the 'manic pixie' part down pat.

Damn, player. You ninjaed the link I was getting ready to insert as soon as I read the title of this thread.

And yeah, OP needs to stop looking at fiction to find what he wants in real life. That applies to a lot more than just romance, too. You are not going to f#$%, fight, drive, cook, play sports, speak, or look like the people in the movies. Ever. Accept that and you'll be a big step closer to happiness.

OP needs to join some clubs/societies/whatever and he'll run into someone he clicks with because the club naturally excludes people with incompatible interests and gathers those with compatible interests. As for being so above the girls in the dance clubs, all I can say is they're out there trying their best to enjoy life and he's complaining about them on a video game forum, so actually, read the first sentence of this paragraph again.

 

[Nickolai77]

You know why you haven't found a girl like that?

Because they're all characters from films, that were all written by men.

Fixed.

Or, to be more exact, nerdy men with a "nice-guy" complex who could never quite understand why they never had any luck with girls.

See Scott Pilgrim V World.