Do We Want to Hate Others?

[tthor]

When I'm driving, i find myself often thinking, 'that guy over there will probably run that stop sign,' or 'why is this asshole driving so slow?!' or something of the sort. I've started to realize, I think I'm actually HOPING these people do something wrong or annoying, just so that i can be upset with them. and today, as i listened to my mother talk, I noticed the same sort of thing with her, she talked as if she was specificly looking for reasons to be upset with people.
Do people actually look for reasons to hate others? And if so, why do we do this? Does it give us some sense of superiority knowing another person is doing something wrong, or what is it?
Also, have any of you ever noticed this, in yourself or others?

 

[MorsePacific]

This happens to me all the time. I blame it on the extremely low expectations I have for most people.

 

[Pimppeter2]

We expect shit. So we are always ready for it.

 

[Et3rnalLegend64]

I don't, but sometimes I suspect my parents do. I also suspect that it sorta kinda rubbed off on my little brother. They just look for flaws and then put them under a magnifying glass. Then we fight. Yeah...

 

[tthor]

I think that we are fed up with our routines and are looking for conflict and a focus for anger to add variety.

i never thought of that, thats a very intriguing way to look at it

 

[Jedamethis]

I think that we are fed up with our routines and are looking for conflict and a focus for anger to add variety.

Damnit.

*grumblethisgrumble*
I hate quoting and saying 'this'

 

[Halo Fanboy]

I hate hate in all its forms. Hating someone is wrong no matter how incompetent/immoral.

 

[tthor]

I hate hate in all its forms. Hating someone is wrong no matter how incompetent/immoral.

if you hate hate, then i think that would mean you hate yourself, because you hate hate, so you hate, so you hate you. lol

 

[Wayte]

People notice negatives far more than positives. It's the same reason a kid could come home with 5 A's and an F, and he'd still get his ass beat for the F. People are naturally biased towards negative rather than positive expression. Or at least it seems that way fomr what I've seen.

 

[Heart of Darkness]

I don't think it's so much that we want to hate others, but that we rather expect to hate others. I mean, a lot of us already think of humanity in general as being uneducated, self-centered, and a general danger/nuisance to others...

 

[Jark212]

It's in our nature... We must hate to survive...

 

[Swaki]

i do this all the time, i even have a terrible habit where i show people how much i hate them, for an example when ever i see someone whit a popped collar and waxed out porcupine hair, i giggle and then laugh at them, just to make them feel as bad as i.

also it looks stupid and even though most of them are younger than i they are the same as the kids who bullied me when i used to prance around singing Broadway songs when i was a kid, so its partly payback.

 

[Taerdin]

AS long as you're not under the false illusion that you're better than everyone else, then whatever I guess.

You may think other people are stupid, but chances are many or all of them think the same of you. Except you know... the ones who realize we're all just human, have off days, make mistakes, and shit happens.

It would be nice if there was more tolerance and understanding but I doubt I'll see any kind of promising change before I die. Stupid flawed humanity.

 

[tthor]

I don't think it's so much that we want to hate others, but that we rather expect to hate others. I mean, a lot of us already think of humanity in general as being uneducated, self-centered, and a general danger/nuisance to others...

but why do we expect to hate others? hate is an emotion, something you control, so you in a way choose whether or not you hate someone. so the fact that we expect to hate says that we expect to make this decision about someone, meaning we pretty much already hate them before they could give us a reason,

 

[Neonbob]

I do not really need a reason to hate people. I can be quite arbitrary in assigning levels of hatred to random people I do not know at all.
Especially on the road.
The fact that they are in front of me is enough.
I have been known to spend a good ten seconds swearing at the top of my lungs at someone in front of me/behind me/within five hundred feet of me when I think they did something stupid.
Oddly enough, it's therapeutic.

 

[Kollega]

It's Guantanamo Bay Approach backfiring. You want them to be stupid so you can have your smug self-satisfaction, and you want it more than a pleasant surprise of meeting a nice person.

 

[tthor]

AS long as you're not under the false illusion that you're better than everyone else, then whatever I guess.

You may think other people are stupid, but chances are many or all of them think the same of you. Except you know... the ones who realize we're all just human, have off days, make mistakes, and shit happens.

It would be nice if there was more tolerance and understanding but I doubt I'll see any kind of promising change before I die. Stupid flawed humanity.

thats sorta pretensious to say, considering you are a member of humanity as well,

 

[Swaki]

I don't, but sometimes I suspect my parents do. I also suspect that it sorta kinda rubbed off on my little brother. They just look for flaws and then put them under a magnifying glass. Then we fight. Yeah...

i don't know if this will make you feel better or worse, but that sounds like most family's i have met, including my own (except for me its my little sister, my baby brother is perfect).

 

[Danpascooch]

Yes, hate and throwing knives.

Hate and throwing knives.

Makes life short, but fun.