do women like big guys?
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Do you mean big as in "big muscles" or as in tall? In my experience, women tend to go for tall men and reasonably muscled men. Being only 5 ft 7, I am not exactly "tall" by Australian standards, and I have had at least one woman tell me that was a critical factor in her decision not to like me. I bear no resentment against her for that - it's not her fault, and she is free to like who she likes and what physical characteristics she likes.
I am sensing a lot of anger at women who do not date shorter men on this forum. This is a ludicrous emotion to have - does not a woman have the right to like who she likes? I do not like being told that I must like women I do not find physically attractive, so why should women be forced to like men they do not find physically attractive? It makes no sense.
You have to play with the cards you're dealt with. Whining about your body does not do anyone any good. If you can take steps to alter your body in a way you want, then do so, and stop complaining. If you can't, learn to live with it. That's what I've done. I accept the fact that most men in Australia are taller than me, and frankly, I don't care. It doesn't bother me.
There's more to life than relationships. The world is so vast and huge, there is so much to learn, so much to do in this world. Relationships are important, but really, they are not everything.
Learn to live with yourself, because at the end of the day, you are yourself, and you can never leave yourself or spend time apart from yourself.
So in order to answer your question: yes, women, like men, have certain preferences in regards to who they find physically attractive. I recognize that I do not necessarily fit the criteria of an "attractive male" for most women. I am slightly too short, I am bone thing, and my skin is... well, pockmarked to say the least due to acne I had in my school years. It has improved since then, but it is still scarred.
I have learned to accept that and move on with life. It's really not that hard.
I am sensing a lot of anger at women who do not date shorter men on this forum. This is a ludicrous emotion to have - does not a woman have the right to like who she likes? I do not like being told that I must like women I do not find physically attractive, so why should women be forced to like men they do not find physically attractive? It makes no sense.
You have to play with the cards you're dealt with. Whining about your body does not do anyone any good. If you can take steps to alter your body in a way you want, then do so, and stop complaining. If you can't, learn to live with it. That's what I've done. I accept the fact that most men in Australia are taller than me, and frankly, I don't care. It doesn't bother me.
There's more to life than relationships. The world is so vast and huge, there is so much to learn, so much to do in this world. Relationships are important, but really, they are not everything.
Learn to live with yourself, because at the end of the day, you are yourself, and you can never leave yourself or spend time apart from yourself.
So in order to answer your question: yes, women, like men, have certain preferences in regards to who they find physically attractive. I recognize that I do not necessarily fit the criteria of an "attractive male" for most women. I am slightly too short, I am bone thing, and my skin is... well, pockmarked to say the least due to acne I had in my school years. It has improved since then, but it is still scarred.
I have learned to accept that and move on with life. It's really not that hard.
If you're talking about stature, then I can say from first-hand experience without flattering myself in the slightest: lord, yes. I was trying to avoid messing around with females in highschool, but being the tallest guy out of 800 (to my knowledge; odds are, there had to be one or two taller than me that I never saw), I was given constant attention despite my best efforts to drive everybody away. I got so tired of being scrutinized and singled out for something I had no control over, that I developed a drinking problem.
Yeah, I got that. The not staring part.AccursedTheory said:
And I mean that the bad stereotype shouldn't just fall on men, cause girls do it too. I'm not saying it should be done, I'm just saying it shouldn't be just a man's fault. I see it happen all the time. The girl goes to her gaggle and says about how shallow and nasty he is because she caught him looking and two seconds later they're drooling over Taylor Lautner.
5'5 guy here, I weigh 143 pounds. I'm short (partly due to some trouble with my back), but I'm pretty muscular. Problem is, I'm pretty damn shy and have trouble adequately conveying my feelings to women. Actually, social interaction as a whole is a little problematic for me.
Anyways.
I don't know if women like chubby people. I do know they generally like people taller than themselves.
And I'm unlucky, I have a crush on this girl who's 5'8. Maybe dating her would be a little awkward?
Anyways.
I don't know if women like chubby people. I do know they generally like people taller than themselves.
And I'm unlucky, I have a crush on this girl who's 5'8. Maybe dating her would be a little awkward?
Wasn't trying to argue, just putting it in my own words. Don't mean to be so aggressive.she_never_was said:
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Depends on how you mean 'big',
If you mean 'a little overweight but still healthy' that's acceptable.
But if he's obese, than no. Call me shallow all you want. Four hundred pounds of fat is not attractive at all.
If you mean 'a little overweight but still healthy' that's acceptable.
But if he's obese, than no. Call me shallow all you want. Four hundred pounds of fat is not attractive at all.
It's not necessarily the size that matters. It's whether or not a guy knows what he's doing with it.Skullkid4187 said:
I've talked with a lot of women on issues of attraction, and in all honesty., I think upbringing plays a larger role than genetics. Another thing to consider is that there are varying tastes. Some men are considered generally attractive, but that doesn't mean that guys that are not don't get their share of looks too. For example, I've known two women (one of which was a really hot dead ringer for Lindsay Lohan back before she.... well, you know...) that thought Steve Buscemi was really attractive and he's skinny, pasty, and sort of looks like Don Knotts mixed with a chihuahua. On the other hand, I've known women that really dug John Goodman.
So really, you just can't generalize what women are attracted to. It's just as irrational as any emotion people experience.
So really, you just can't generalize what women are attracted to. It's just as irrational as any emotion people experience.
Too true. Just like guys worry about hurting a woman's feelings if she asks if her pants make her booty look big, a lot of women I know tend to say whatever they think will help them escape any drama or hurting someone's feelings, usually by saying something about how it really doesn't matter or they don't really want a guy that's well endowed. It's just the same as guys with breasts (only those are more readily gauge-able).Skullkid4187 said:
I found some rather interesting internet sites that beg to disagree.historybuff said:
In related news, I'm going to go vomit now.
"Sorry, World, I'm tall and curvy! Having a taller boyfriend just makes me feel more protected and, honestly speaking, smaller. I've been taller than boys all my life! Oh, cruel world! I used to hate it through middle school and high school. I love being tall now."
she_never_was, Where have you been all my life!
OT: Seriously a bit of weight isn't a problem in my experience. I've found If you don't worry about the weight/height problem, the chicks don't seem to notice either.
she_never_was, Where have you been all my life!
OT: Seriously a bit of weight isn't a problem in my experience. I've found If you don't worry about the weight/height problem, the chicks don't seem to notice either.
im talking about guys who are like 70 percent fat and 30 percent muscle. not to big tho im like 5'6 and 201Julianking93 said:
I've been mistaken for irish - I can do a fairly good accent. Plus, I just dyed my hair a crazy red and look great in green! This could totally happen.Da Chi said:It would be fun! The breaking point would be you have to look good in green. That and an Irish accent, but that can be faked well enough.dorkette1990 said:I don't think I'm the shortest person here... but close.Da Chi said:
I wanna be a lucky charm nowSounds like a good life, I dunno.
I find it depends on the Area. My friend in Vancouver BC is on the large size and does not find any trouble going on dates. However on the Atlantic side I find it tough and I am smaller than he is by a few pounds.
Sweet, you've sold me on this! I'll get a bowl of lucky charms and you steal it from me. But you have to say "they're always after me lucky charms!"dorkette1990 said:I've been mistaken for irish - I can do a fairly good accent. Plus, I just dyed my hair a crazy red and look great in green! This could totally happen.Da Chi said:It would be fun! The breaking point would be you have to look good in green. That and an Irish accent, but that can be faked well enough.dorkette1990 said:I don't think I'm the shortest person here... but close.Da Chi said:
I wanna be a lucky charm now