Do you believe in true love and finding the one?

[brumley53]

I think that with 6 billion people in the world there are multiple people that would fit someones idea of perfect. the thing is when someone finds a girl who's perfect they stop looking and wont notice anyone else who would be perfect so they think that there is only one true love. also anyone who says that someone is shallow for caring about looks if full of shit because a part of attraction is that they attract you by looking good not by making you want to vomit uncontrollably.

 

[BonsaiK]

I was having a chat with my bud today and the topic of true love and findign the one came up and it got me thinking, what does true love actually mean and why do people believe so strongly that there is one person in the world who is absolutely perfect for them?

Escapist patrons, please give me your opinions

Nobody is 100% perfect for anybody. However some people are closer than others. There are several potential "the ones", it depends on how good you are at negotiating the shortfalls with each other that will inevitably come up.

Translated into nerd-speak: nobody rolls a D&D character with straight 18s all the way along, and if they did, that character would be boring anyway. However, some builds are better than others for certain adventures.

 

[gl1koz3]

If you talk about it, there's no such thing. If you go out and keep on looking, you'll find it.

 

[Nickisimo]

No. If there are 6 billion people in the world, let's say half are the opposite sex. So, out of THAT 3 billion, let's say there's 750 million that are in your age range. So, there are 750,000,000 people of the opposite sex that are potential mates for you. Picking the one that's most perfect for you is about 3.5x harder than winning the Powerball.

As Chris Rock said: You don't get a soulmate; you get a mate.

 

[Dapsen]

I believe that there are "Perfect matches". That said, I don't believe there is only one for each person.
I believe you have to be quite lucky to find your perfect match, But love can be "True" even though it isn't towards a person that matches you perfectly. Really, perfection is a bit much to ask, ay? And I believe that you're a paranoid fool if you wait for "The One" and reject anyone else, because you're waiting for The One. After all, imperfection can bring just as much happiness as perfection.

And just as much I believe that, everyone should reflect upon this themselves. "Don't 'Copy and Paste' opinions, man!"

 

[Vaewyn]

I think the perfect partner is just a best friend you are completely comfortable with. They love you for your flaws and your pro's.
And they have seen you at your worst, and at your best, only then can you really know who is right for you.

 

[craddoke]

True love is something you make, not find.

 

[Nomanslander]

What is this the 19th century??.....ohhhh yeah, some people are still raised to think that way...=/

I don't know, the only women that seem to still think that way are those 30-40 something ignorant cougars that religiously watch 'Sex in the City,' and think they still have a chance to compete with younger women at the clubs and bars just because Carrie Bradshaw told them they could...lol


That or a 20 something catholic girl with strong convictions...0o

 

[AvsJoe]

I do not nor have I ever believed in "the one". I believe that any two people can fall in love, though I don't believe that any two people can stay that way. I also believe in long engagements (3-5 years) before the marriage and nothing pisses me off more than watching two people get married after dating for only 6 months.

 

[Ekonk]

Well, it's true that people are more compatible with some than with others - hormones and whatnot - so there is 'the one', it's just that there are multiple. There are very many people on planet earth whom you could end up spending your life with. So there is 'the one', but it's 'the many'. I find that reassuring.

 

[AngloDoom]

I see 'love' as a feeling, not a phenomenon. It's just a desire to fill like hunger or thirst. There's not one particular 'love' out there for you, but just some people are better at quenching your 'thirst' than others. It's not destiny.

I was having a chat with my bud today and the topic of true love and findign the one came up and it got me thinking, what does true love actually mean and why do people believe so strongly that there is one person in the world who is absolutely perfect for them?

Escapist patrons, please give me your opinions

I believe, I've found her

I hope you prove a lot of us wrong. If I catch you making a 'break-up' thread in six months, I'm going to slap you with a brick for getting our hopes up; so you best make it work.

lol, you'd have to beat me to it (hitting me with a brick)

Good man! That's exactly the attitude I want to hear. Too many 'dignified' men in this world, or cynics. Lets be optimistic every once in a while and enjoy it.

Wish you the best of luck with that, hope everything goes your way, mate.

 

[jaing1138]

I do believe in true love and even love at first sight, i'm a bit of a sentimentalist i know but the problem really is self-esteem issues and the relaisation that one of your best friends is that girl...

 

[General BrEeZy]

absotively posolutely. just need to be patient...or ask people out.

 

[A Raging Emo]

I used to, and I thought I had for a while. Now, however? Not really.

 

[DarkHourPrince]

It does indeed, as I have found my "one" that I could not live without. We dated 600 miles apart for two years and only started living together perhaps a week or so ago. I wouldn't have even wasted my time with the two year span when there were girls throwing themselves at me on my home soil if I wasn't serious about her. She's my girl and that's all there is to it, she completes me.

 

[Kukakkau]

It's not so much a case of finding the one and only but finding someone who's personality fits with your own - there's many people who can do that out there just have to look.

Although there do tend to be people that the second you meet them you get a weird feeling like there's something about them that you're drawn to but can't explain

 

[Klarinette]

If there is only one, then my one has already come and gone, and that definitely sucks a whole lot. Fuck that. I like to think there's more than one possible final answer.

 

[slackbheep]

At best it's good chemistry with someone who doesn't disgust you in their sleep and who you can carry at least a passing conversation with.