Do you believe in true love and finding the one?

[Lalalarzi]

I was having a chat with my bud today and the topic of true love and findign the one came up and it got me thinking, what does true love actually mean and why do people believe so strongly that there is one person in the world who is absolutely perfect for them?

Escapist patrons, please give me your opinions

 

[Julianking93]

I'd like to believe.

I really want to think that I will find a true love some day, but I'm just not sure.

Damn depression and low self esteem. *sadface*

 

[Berethond]

Well, love exists. What most people mean by "true" love is usually not love at all, in my experience.

I also take major issue with people who think that there's only one person on earth for them. There are SEVEN BILLION PEOPLE on earth, and you're egotistical enough to think that only one of them is right for you?

 

[starwarsgeek]

For my understanding, it's not so much that there's only one, perfect match. It's trying until you find someone with whom you'll put effort into making an imperfect match work

 

[Mookie_Magnus]

To an extent, yes.

The concept that there is only one "The One" in the entire world is a bit of a stretch to me, however romantic it is. Personally, I believe everyone has a type of person that is "The One" type for them. There can be variations in individual nuances, but overall, that one type is the type of person they'll end up happy with. Of course, there are multiple people of that type throughout the world, thus making it easier to find someone right for you. Sometimes, people find their first "The One" in their childhood, often resulting in that childhood crush that meant so much more. People move away or die, however, and while your heart pines for them, they will become just a pleasant memory once you meet another "The One" and become happy with them, hopefully committing to them for life... Or at least until you both agree that you're time together is expired... Some people don't like to be tied down for too long.

 

[ultrachicken]

No.
There are many similar people, so why would only one of them be right for you?
There are 7 billion people on earth, finding one person that's perfect for you is very unlikely.
What if "the one" speaks a language that you don't? How would you find out that they're perfect for you if you can't even speak to them?

 

[Pegghead]

Well while I do believe in true love I don't believe that there's only one person on the planet who can complete you.

 

[Hoopybees]

I think it's the kind of subjective thing whereby whether it exists or not depends on the person experiencing it. There are documented cases of people falling in love at first sight, equally others go their whole lives without finding, or even wanting it.

 

[Ambi]

There are many people I would be compatible with out there somewhere, surely. Most people feel romantic love for numerous people.

Maybe I will believe in "the one" when I feel like I've found him, but I try not to fall into the deceptive infatuation trap. It takes a lot to convince my mind, but you I never know what could happen.

I'm not sure what true love is, but here's something I wrote when I was about 14.

"What is this awesome feeling that makes us SMILE? What makes you feel SPECIAL when the person you care about feels the same way? What makes us think LIFE IS WORTH LIVING? What makes life more EXCITING??



What is this feeling that makes us JEALOUS, what makes us feel SELF-PITY because we can't fulfill our SELFISH desires, What makes us CRY, what makes us care about one and NO OTHER, what makes us LIE in fear of rejection, what TAKES OVER, what makes us make IRRATIONAL DECISIONS, what causes HEARTBREAK, what makes us BLIND, what DECIEVES us into thinking that something so good will last forever?

What is this word we use too much without thinking what it really means?
A feeling of affection for a significant other, wanting someone, thinking someones hot, talented, funny etc.

t h i s i s o u r l a m e e x c u s e f o r l o v e ?



If this is love, then.....
What is TRUE? What is PURE? What is UNDEFEATABLE? What is KIND? What is UNDERSTANDING? What is GENEROUS, UNSELFISH and SELF-SACRIFICIAL? What is TRUSTWORTHY? What ENDURES all? What is FORGIVING? What is COMPASSIONATE? What is UNITY? What LOVES UNCONDITIONALLY? What is CARING? What is AWESOME? What is our ONLY HOPE? What NEVER FAILS? What can be TRUSTED? What is all of these things?

What is NOT PROUD, STUBBORN, STUPID, SELFISH, SELF-PITYING, UNTRUTHFUL, HATEFUL, DECIETFUL, VENGEFUL, COMPLAINING, JEALOUS, RUDE, HURTFUL, IGNORANT and UNTRUSTWORTHY?

C O U L D I T B E T R U E L O V E ?"

 

[Bullfrog1983]

True Love is out there, you just have to go out looking for it.

 

[Sonofadiddly]

There's no definition for "true love." The whole concept of "the one" is probably the result of Disney movies.

There is no one person who is perfect for you, will never let you down, and will make your life nothing but rainbows, kittens, and satisfying sex. There are a number of people who have similar ideals and compatible personalities that you could stand to live with for the rest of your life if you decide that's what you want to do. Believing that there is only one perfect romantic partner in the entire world for you is a great way to make yourself miserable forever.

 

[Mookie_Magnus]

I'd like to believe.

I really want to think that I will find a true love some day, but I'm just not sure.

Damn depression and low self esteem. *sadface*

*hug*
You'll find someone, Julian. Someone who'd just love to comfort and take care of you.

 

[MoganFreeman]

I believe in love, but not 'the one'.

 

[Yureina]

No.

Won't happen to me in any case. I'm pretty much in the same boat as Julianking on this one.

 

[linkblade91]

I am a romantic-cynic, if that makes any sense. I would like to believe such concepts as "true love" and "the one" exist, but even if they did, my cynicism would lead me to conclude that I am not so fortunate as to have them happen for me.

If anything, my life is the opposite of a romantic-comedy: it's funny (in a completely dark and sarcastic way...), but there'll be no happy ending.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

I do. I believe it very strongly.

I've found someone who compliments my strengths, and bolsters my weaknesses. And I do the same for him. We're happy together, and looking to spend a very long time as a couple.

I've waited, and screwed up a lot. But I believe I found 'the one', and I want to keep him beside me no matter what. Is that 'true love'?

 

[The Blue Mongoose]

I believe that there is a concept of "the one", but only to the extent that I believe in monogamy. I believe that if you find someone that you are willing to spend the rest of your life with and you are willing to make the sacrifices necessary to make that work then they're your "one".

However, both people have to be committed to this plan. And if not then well...

In the words of The Whitlams:

She was one in a million, yeah,
So there's five more just in New South Wales.

 

[Tourette]

I've found true love loads of times