Do you know ANYONE who has actually gone from gay to straight post-puberty?

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Hitokiri_Gensai

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Personally, i think our mental state has SOME effect over our decisions and so on. I used to date men and i was sexually attracted to both men and women, and after a couple bad relationships, and unhappy times, i found myself completely unattracted to men any longer. Whether or not that means anything besides the fact that the men i was repulsed me or not remains to be seen.

eitherway, to the original topic, I havent ever met anyone like that. I do know transsexuals who have been attracted to one gender before hormones and another after, but i dont know anyone otherwise who has.
 

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Yeah, but not due to puberty. I know of a woman who got married to a man after a 27 year gay relationship. She became really conservative and shit, and said gay was not the way to go and should be banned. Bit of a twat really.
 

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thebobmaster said:
Like I said, I'm only sharing a case that has happened close to me, with someone I know quite well for decades. I am no expert in human sexuality, but I have my personal opinions based on what I've read and experienced, so far.

No sane person would choose the 'get you bashed' option, sure, and that's why I think that sexuality is not choice, but that there are some internal mechanisms that may put you to one side of your sexuality or the other, based on environment, relationships, mental health, cultural background, etc.

Granted, it's not the norm, but I wouldn't say strange cases such as these are unheard of.
 

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u2rocksbaby said:
I am not asking if you know a bisexual! Okay, now that I've cleared that up, I was wondering if you or someone you know has at one time been a self-accepting homosexual, and then become heterosexual. I've certainly never heard of such a case, and I'm curious about its biological plausibility, as many people seem to think it is possible for very non-biologically based reasons.
Yep. I know two people who ideantified as gay younger in life (Around 20) but now claim they are heterosexual and no longer attracted to members of the same sex.
 
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StrixMaxima said:
thebobmaster said:
Like I said, I'm only sharing a case that has happened close to me, with someone I know quite well for decades. I am no expert in human sexuality, but I have my personal opinions based on what I've read and experienced, so far.

No sane person would choose the 'get you bashed' option, sure, and that's why I think that sexuality is not choice, but that there are some internal mechanisms that may put you to one side of your sexuality or the other, based on environment, relationships, mental health, cultural background, etc.

Granted, it's not the norm, but I wouldn't say strange cases such as these are unheard of.
Agreed. I think the only thing we can say for sure is that some combination of nature and nurture is involved, not just one or the other, but the proper ratio is unknown.
 

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While I don't know him personally, there was this documentary where this one guy used to be over the top gay and then turned complete around and turned into a pray the gay out nut.

I personally think he is a very confused individual.
 

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StrixMaxima said:
However, no matter how many bold words you use, we must accept that we don't know exactly what is the homosexual behavior, where does it stem from, and just how deeply the environment plays a role in it.
Yes we do. In fact, we know quite well whether or not someone can change their sexuality. Hint, the answer is no. No amount of living and no social environment will ever change a persons sexuality. At least according to the Royal College of Psychiatrists and the American Academy of Pediatrics plus a lot of other organizations but they're all wankers anyways.

Scipio1770 said:
I'm curious as to how exactly you are so sure of this, there have been hundreds of studies conducted in search for a combination of "homosexual trigger genes" and none have been able to conclusively disprove the null hypothesis. Please refer me to the geneticist who is telling you otherwise.

Sexual behavior is affected by a HUGE range of factors: cultural education, gender identity, social evolution, etc etc.

You cant seriously believe the old eugenic fallacy that a person's personality is utterly predetermined by his DNA.
You're making the rather stupid and erroneous assumption that sexuality equals personality. It doesn't. Your sexuality can influence your personality but not the other way around. If your sexuality as affected by cultural education, we wouldn't be seeing homosexuals worldwide. Also, social evolution? I don't think it means what you think it means. The same goes for gender identity.

The fact of the matter is every single major psychiatric association has agreed that homosexuality is not a choice. Whether it's caused by genetics or just because mommy made you play with dolls instead of planes when you were young, it doesn't matter. It's not a choice, it will never be a choice.
 

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Scipio1770 said:
AndyFromMonday said:
Education and hormones have no effect on a person's sexuality. If you're born gay, you will always be gay and I cannot stress this enough.
I'm curious as to how exactly you are so sure of this, there have been hundreds of studies conducted in search for a combination of "homosexual trigger genes" and none have been able to conclusively disprove the null hypothesis. Please refer me to the geneticist who is telling you otherwise.

Sexual behavior is affected by a HUGE range of factors: cultural education, gender identity, social evolution, etc etc.

You cant seriously believe the old eugenic fallacy that a person's personality is utterly predetermined by his DNA.
Maybe not DNA, least not in the way a lot of people would think (anything to do with the brain is murky as hell) but there are clear structural differences in the set up of the brain between gay and straight people of the same gender that then tend to match the structures in straight people of the opposite gender in the people identifying as gay.

why this happens has a big fucking question mark over it, but it is hard baked in to the structure of the individuals brain.

EDIT: and a link the the article describing the research [http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn14146-gay-brains-structured-like-those-of-the-opposite-sex.html]
 

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AndyFromMonday said:
The causes of homosexuality might be relatively unknown but what is known for sure, 100%, is that your sexual orientation is not a choice, it never has been a choice and trying to pass it off as a choice is just a way to further stigmatize the gay community. Your sexual orientation is NOT a choice, it's NOT a mental disorder and it can never, ever, EVER be changed.
you seem very sure of this. why?
 

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AndyFromMonday said:
OT: Your sexuality is set even before birth. You can't change that and hell, why would you want to? Do whatever makes you happy and fuck everyone else.
AndyFromMonday said:
Your sexuality cannot be changed.
Scipio1770 said:
I think you're putting way too much emphasis on genetics in this, sexual and emotional behaviors are heavily influenced by social environment, education, hormonal balance, etc. the person's gnome is hardly the defining trait in determining sexuality.
StrixMaxima said:
Scipio up there summed up what I'd say quite well. The link between sexuality orientation and genetics/psychology is still full of gray zones, and I think it is a bit foolhardy to put all your chips into one or the other.

I've heard way too many stories to think this is simply a genetic issue. The society we live in interfere profoundly in all our behavioral actions.

And, I would never say that "If you are gay, you are gay" with such confidence, just as I'd never state that heterosexuality is etched in stone.

We need to accept we don't know as much as we think we do, when we are talking about the brain and its processes.
AndyFromMonday said:
If you're born gay, you will always be gay and I cannot stress this enough.
Okay... way too much misunderstanding about genetics' relationship to brain processes... As a psychologist, I will try to explain.

First, if homosexuality was purely genetic, gay people would need a "gay gene" somewhere up their family tree (or an unlikely random mutation), and, as far as anyone can tell, straight people are the ones who keep having children who turn out to be gay.

Secondly, sexual attraction is part of several complex brain processes. When children are very young, they go through cycles of rapid synaptic growth and rapid pruning, essentially completely rewiring their brains twice between 2 and 8. This is why no one can remember anything younger than 2 or 3 (and if they say they can, they either have false memories or they're lying). This synaptic growth and death is largely influenced by: nutrition, society, heavy metals (don't eat lead, kids!), family environment (delayed gratification is largely set by 6), and education. If memories can't survive, why do you think anything as complex as sexuality would? Especially since the synaptic pruning eliminates neural paths that aren't being used (and I don't know any four-year-olds who think about sex).

Thirdly, babies are never homosexual. Nor are they heterosexual. They are asexual. Children "discover" their sexuality during puberty. Anyone who claims sexual memories before puberty is reinterpreting nonsexual memories to have a sexual meaning later, lying, or was horribly abused as a child.

I know there's a lot of pressure to say that homosexuality is purely genetic and can't be changed because then you won't have religious crazies trying to "convert" gays to being straight, but the data doesn't back it up.

Now, I'm going to explain how schizophrenia works and make an analogy between homosexuality and schizophrenia not because I think homosexuality is some kind of sickness, but because they're both complex brain processes that affect a small proportion of the population and for which no "cure" (either chemical or behavioral) has been developed ("cure" is in quotes because homosexuals shouldn't need to be "cured", I just can't think of a more succinct word).

So:

Schizophrenia has a genetic component (if one identical twin develops schizophrenia, the other is likely to as well), but is not purely genetic (if one identical twin develops schizophrenia, the other does not necessarily develop schizophrenia as well).

There also appears to be some effect where if the mother gets the flu when she's pregnant, the child is more likely to develop schizophrenia. No one knows why.

Finally, schizophrenia usually develops at the tail end of/just after puberty, so many have hypothesized that the hormone rush of puberty changes their brain structure, triggering schizophrenia. However, the potential to develop schizophrenia must already be there, and is likely a result of some combination of the following: genetics, heavy metals, nutrition, and culture (more important than you think... catatonic schizophrenia has been very prevalent in some cultures, but is almost unheard of in others).

To compare...

With homosexuality, there is a genetic component, but it's not purely genetic (a homosexual twin does not necessarily have a homosexual sibling, which blows your "purely genetic, born gay" hypotheses out of the water).

I doubt influenza in utero has influence on homosexuality. I mentioned it because no one knows why it affects a person's likelihood to develop schizophrenia. Homosexuality's in a similar boat in a lot of ways: no one knows the specific mechanisms that cause it to develop.

Finally, homosexuality (all sexuality, really) tends to develop during puberty, which means it's highly likely to be influenced by raging hormones, which can be influenced by (again): genetics, heavy metals, nutrition, culture, family environment, and their peers.

See, the problem with not understanding the basic mechanisms of how something develops means you can't really rule anything out. You can, however, rule out certain things being purely the cause. You can also show that certain things do have some effect. For instance, twin studies (for both schizophrenia and homosexuality) have shown that genetics have some effect, but are not the sole determining factor.

In conclusion: sexuality is not (purely) determined by genes; don't strongly assert ideas you don't fully understand.
 
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AndyFromMonday said:
Jesus, calm down. You don't know for certain, they don't know for certain, both your arguments are both going to based on speculation, so don't get all righteous on everyone.

OT: Nope. At the same time I don't know personally no a single open homo-sexual, so really that doesn't prove anything.
 

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u2rocksbaby said:
I am not asking if you know a bisexual! Okay, now that I've cleared that up, I was wondering if you or someone you know has at one time been a self-accepting homosexual, and then become heterosexual. I've certainly never heard of such a case, and I'm curious about its biological plausibility, as many people seem to think it is possible for very non-biologically based reasons.
I don't believe people switch sexual orientations. One reason people appear to be discernibly straight and then appear to be discernibly gay is because they try really really hard to be straight since it's accepted as "normal" (which I find insulting, since there's nothing vanilla about the way I have sex). The reason there is no inverse of this is because there are very few circles wherein it is seen as more "cool" or more acceptable to be gay.

Bisexuality is a dirty word among many gays and heteros and, because of this, will always be the most understated sexual orientation, slightly less so during cultural cycles wherein pop tarts like Katy Perry popularize self-objectification through bisexual expression (let's face it, Ani DiFranco she's not). A number of gay men and women have told me that bisexuals are all just sluts, and quite a few straight people have asserted that they're just confused or can't make up their minds. During one of the aforementioned periods, you're more likely to meet a person who will describe what they call a "bi phase," as though that's the same thing as a punk phase. Which marginalizes wide swaths of the populace in addition to being super fucking lame.

I know you specifically said you didn't want to hear this answer, and I know that there are quite a few people who engage in gay or bisexual activity, and sometimes gay and bi relationships, who don't like these "labels." Unfortunately, they are also the definitions, prerequisites for finding clarity. If a person has found himself or herself (theirself?) attracted to both sexes during their lifetime, then that person is, to a degree that perhaps Kinsey or one of his contemporaries could articulate better than I, a bisexual person.

E D I T: altered first paragraph for clarity.

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Between about 10 and 13 I had way more homosexual feelings than heterosexual ones, I couldn't find a girl attractive but I found several guys attractive then over about a month at 13 (I remember it well because of all the confusion and such) it just switched over and now I can't even consider being with a guy. So yeah I do know somebody :p

Edit: to clarify, I was "out" about it at that age and bullied like fuck so it wasn't to be "cool" or fit in, but equally I was accepting of myself and didn't care about the bullies so that wouldn't have influenced some jump back in or something. I just sort of swithced in a very short time frame. Confused the hell out of me.
 

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No. As far as evidence suggests homosexuality is from either genetics or a chemical imbalance that is present in the womb.

Furthermore, people don't pretend to be gay in high school to be cool. There are some chicks who I know who claim bisexuality who I am certain will be completely straight within five years of their graduation because they are obviously just doing it to get attention from guys, but being gay doesn't get you anything but negative attention, no reason to fake it.
 

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Quick. What do you call it when you post twice in the wrong thread and then get threatened for it? It's not a "double-post."

Whatever. The only posts meant for this thread are the one on page 1 and my response to the guy who threatened me. Enjoy your weekend, Escapists!
 

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funguy2121 said:
Kept reading. The "author" of your link also thinks that Link should die "because he's gay" (paraphrased).

Sites like this pop up every day if not every few hours. Please, find one that isn't so insufferably virginal. It's the 11th year of the 21st century. Grownups who are secure in their own sexuality, who don't secretly fear that they might have gay feelings for someone, do not insult each other by calling each other "homo."

I'm getting wordy.
True, now I look, 5 warnings from 12 posts, not good is it?