Do you like feeling safe with someone.?

[gmacarthur81]

Sigh......

My job is to make people feel safe. I have been doing it for almost 10 years. By this point, people feel safe around me naturally. I exude a feeling of safety and security constantly, to the point that people who I barely even know their names will tell me the most intimate details of their lives.

 

[Ace of Spades]

When I'm with someone I care about, the crap I have to deal with in my life feels far away, and that's always a nice feeling.

 

[El Poncho]

Girls are more likely to cause trouble but i'd still risk the trouble just to be with someone I like.

 

[The_ModeRazor]

I suppose that means that I feel safe telling her the stuff I think and feel, so yeah, definitely.
Man, I seriously require some human contact.

 

[hurfdurp]

I've protected men ..mentally? I've verbally defended them before, if they found some sort of confrontation they couldn't deal with. There's also the emotional aspect, since most men I've met have some serious interaction issues.

 

[cocoadog]

Nope I'd rather feel like that person is going to take a sandpaper dildo and shove it up my ass... SSSSOOOOOOO HOOOOTTTT. *shutter*

 

[DefunctTheory]

Nope I'd rather feel like that person is going to take a sandpaper dildo and shove it up my ass... SSSSOOOOOOO HOOOOTTTT. *shutter*

I know, right?

 

[The_Chief]

im the protector, so obiviously people like to cling to me to protect them. but i only feel safe around my mom and this one girl whos is a really good friend to me. she always looks out for me and takes care of me.

 

[avenged undead]

I like feeling like the protector, but I also like feeling protected. I don't really know which I prefer though

 

[Aurora219]

My girlfriend often tells me she likes how she feels safe around me. I think that's a sign that I'm doing something right.

 

[Ambi]

I'm a guy, but hell yes I like feeling safe with whoever I'm with. Maybe that's not in a literal physical sense, but on a spiritual level, can you really say that you've never felt safer when you're really close to someone? When I really love someone, the trust that I feel around them lets me take down a lot more of my walls than I usually would. I feel safe then, and I really like that. And, if I had a girl who was the sort to physically protect me, I think I'd like that too. Not that I feel like I need all that much protection, but if you've got someone who's willing to protect you, then it really speaks to how they feel about you.

Basically sort of like this, but from a girl's perspective.

I like when I feel safe enough to look and act how I want without feeling awkward around them. It takes a while for me to get to that level because I am usually self-conscious. I don't want to always be feeling like they want something from me that I don't feel like giving them because they pressure too much, whether it be a relationship or more time spent together, and feeling like I want to not push them away by not complying.

Physically, growing up, I always idealised myself as being tough and adventurous like the kids on TV, in books, and movies but I've come to terms with the fact that I'm not Alex Rider, Nancy Drew, Aravis, Robin Hood, Peter Pan, Alex Mac, Princess Leia, or Carmen Cortez... I'm not naive enough to believe I could fight away kidnappers with a painted stick or suddenly gain black belt martial arts skills or suddenly become a skilled traceuse or believe the morale generated from pretending I have super powers would be enough to defend myself in a situation of crisis, but I still don't really like to think I must assume the role of a timid, helpless girl, but nor do I want to be really.. butch, if that's the word. I'd rather not be treated as helpless, but I know I do have weaknesses.

Sometimes non-violence is the best approach and I would want whatever guy I end up with to realise that, and first be able to defend/help me with his wit, intelligence, and wisdom in reacting to situations, not just "RARRR IMMA SMASH PPL WITH MY BIG MUSCLES!!!1" kind of thing. I was always indifferent to pictures of muscular shirtless men (which seems to be unusual for girls), probably because of all the stuff I just mentioned. I look beyond physique when it comes to feeling safe, but it's nice if they are at least physically capable in some way and wouldn't just stand there like an idiot if something bad was happening.

Sometimes I have tried to assume the "protective role", but in the emotional rather than physical sense by being attracted to guys with low self esteem or sickness and wanting to make them feel better about themselves. Sometimes I just made things worse, unless we learned something from it in the end, I don't know.

Edit: Actually, thinking about it, it might just be possible to fight away an unarmed kidnapper with a stick and I wouldn't be a bad traceuse, but the other stuff I said still stands...

 

[Bruin]

I just had a conversation where a girl expressed that she liked feeling safe around her boyfriend. We were talking about physical attributes and how she likes someone tall to be a protector.

Now on the other hand, I've never once found myself thinking I'm safer with a girl around. Women rarely if ever play the protective role in my life aside from my mother and one other girl(Who stopped her dad from beating me up in a bar by clinging to me.)

So I want everyone to comment. Girls do you ever play the protective role? Guys do you like protective women.
Guys, have you ever been forced to protect someone you love.

Just comment, I'd love to hear your points.

I do like protective women. I would rather have a woman who is willing to risk her neck for me than one who isn't--because I'm the type of stupid bastard who would risk his neck to protect her.

I wouldn't let her fight people for me (if I did, it'd probably be a "Fight Club" scenario and I'd just make money off of her), but protective in arguments is always good. I grew up around emotionally strong women. I don't think I could stand being around a woman who has some flimsy piece of cardboard for emotional strength.

 

[Elle-Jai]

I love the feeling of being protected, but in turn I'm also highly protective of my friends, especially my boys. If I really like someone I want to help protect them, as I'd hope they want to protect me.

Although I've never needed to save one from a physical stimulus, usually I'm the one clinging to their arm going "Just because he insulted me doesn't need we have to beat him up... He has to live with himself, punishment enough, and I prefer you not arrested!!"

 

[Betancore]

I feel protective of my sister, and of my friends. And my brother, but he's 8. That'll probably change soon enough. I generally feel protected by others, since there's not much a 5'5 girl can do in terms of protecting someone else. But I do want to protect the people I care about from all the emotional pain in the world, if I can.

 

[snide_cake]

It's amazing having that feeling of wanting to protect someone overwhelm you.

I would take bullets for a few people in my life, and they would do the same for me.

I live for the people I love, and importantly, I would kill for them.

But most important of all is the fact that I really do feel safe around them, emotionally, physically and spiritually safe-guarded. I've worked hard at my relationships and my home to ensure this.

 

[sensitive artist]

I am a sensitive artist. I love the feeling of being protected from a girlfriend. I always liked it when a girl offered me a jacket or sweater when I was cold. I also love the feeling of sitting on my girlfriends lap. It feels so loving and nurturing. I did some research and the word for people like me seems to be "gender queer". I am a house-husband and I love it! My wife likes my "damaged artist" disposition. I don't know what I would do without her!

Phrases like "take it like a man" really mean "fake it like a man" as men are not as tough as society makes us think we are. Women are not as weak as society wants us to think they are as well. Women scored higher in physical and emotional pain tolerance tests. There is a documentary called "The Warrior Myth" that studied WWII Vets with PTSD. It was banned for a time as to not let out the truth that males are fragile human beings too. It takes guts for a guy to express emotions and even cry;not the other way around. There is a documented phobia called "femephobia", which causes some males to be too scared to even hold a purse for their wives for a mere moment while she changes or something!

"The weakness of man is his facade of strength
The strength of woman is her facade of weakness-Lawrence Diggs

 

[Gamer_152]

Male here. I think there's a difference between feeling safe with someone around and feelings that specific person is your protector, but yes, I do like it.