Do you like to share your bed?

[Rhayn]

One of my dogs sleep in my bed. Every night, has done it since the very first day we bought her.

It's not quite a girlfriend, but at least it's warming my feet.

Mine does that, too. He seems to be magnetically attracted to my feet somehow, he finds them in the pitch black and plonks himself next to them.

Does yours ever wake you up? Lately mine has been doing it with annoying consistency...

Yes she does, however I rarely wake up unless she steps on me, which she doesn't do often for some reason. However, I do wake up once she starts sitting next to me, staring at me and whining occasionally.

 

[Susan Arendt]

One of my dogs sleep in my bed. Every night, has done it since the very first day we bought her.

It's not quite a girlfriend, but at least it's warming my feet.

I'm constantly amazed at the sheer amount of space a small dog or cat can take up. They bend the laws of physics, I swear.

 

[Kholdgrave]

I loved sharing a bed with my ex although I was an alleged blanket hog for the first night. I do love my freedom but if I can hold someone during my sleep then I am golden.

 

[Danglybits]

When I was younger, in my preteens and early teens I thought that sharing my bed with a romantic/sexual partner would be wonderful. Almost like having a living stuffed animal that loves you.

And then I started doing it and I realized just how much I can't stand sharing my bed. I hate not being able to turn over when I want to and to have to do it very carefully so as not to disturb whoever is in the bed. Then there is snoring, cover stealing, people taking the spread eagle position and forcing you to sleep in a chair or jab them in the chest. Speaking of which, ever smack your bedmate and pretend to be a sleep to stop them snoring? So does anyone actually like sharing their bed or is it just me and my selfish ways?

It doesn't get any better with a king sized bed. Ugh, I wish it did.

It did for me, allows you to move about more without waking them up and on hotter nights you can be farther apart. And both people can sleep in whatever position they want without intruding on their mate's space.

 

[Isaac Dodgson]

One of my dogs sleep in my bed. Every night, has done it since the very first day we bought her.

It's not quite a girlfriend, but at least it's warming my feet.

I'm constantly amazed at the sheer amount of space a small dog or cat can take up. They bend the laws of physics, I swear.

Ah but the amount of space a dog takes up on the bed is not proportional to their size, but rather inversely so, whilst being directly proportional to how stereotypically annoying the particular breed happens to be...

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Well, there's only one situation in which I would be sharing a bed. And thats goooood.

 

[Susan Arendt]

One of my dogs sleep in my bed. Every night, has done it since the very first day we bought her.

It's not quite a girlfriend, but at least it's warming my feet.

I'm constantly amazed at the sheer amount of space a small dog or cat can take up. They bend the laws of physics, I swear.

Ah but the amount of space a dog takes up on the bed is not proportional to their size, but rather inversely so, whilst being directly proportional to how stereotypically annoying the particular breed happens to be...

Indeed. Mine has determined that she must have her back to your ribcage at all times. Try to shift her, and she'll get up, readjust accordingly, and then utter a very irritated "harrumph."

 

[Danglybits]

If you're done insulting me; I have been with my SO for 6 years so don't tell me I'm demeaning or foolish or rushing in. The stuffed animal thing was because it would be like having company in your bed and someone to cuddle with only better because you have a relationship with them. Someone above said it better than that. I wonder if you'd have thought I was being so demeaning if you knew I was female? And when I was sparkly-eye I was 11 years old. And no, I'm a very pleasant person to sleep next to according to my SO, I don't snore, steal covers or kick. Calm down.

Actually, I was responding to your OP which was purely negative and in fact seemed to overtly imply that you did not like sharing your bed. Something about your own selfish desires I believe. So it's you that needs to calm down. I told you how I felt which apparently rubbed you the wrong way. I'm not pyshic, I don't know that you've been in a relationship for 6 years or that you actually liked to share your bed. If you want people to get the correct idea of what your views are then you have to state them.You made it sound like you had all these problems in the present - perhaps looking at how your wording things would change how people respond to you.

And yes, I still think it is very demeaning regardless of what sex you are to envision someone else as merely a stuffed animal there for your enjoyment. I am also a woman. What the hell does gender have to do with it?

No, you're being insulting "Like you don't do anything to annoy the other person" And calling how a person felt about love and affection at 11 years old hardly amounts to being demeaning. And telling me that I'm rushing into sharing my bed like some kind of overly promiscuous child (you're handy statistic on how many men you've shared your bed with)and I've only shared my bed with one person romantically. And did I say that I thought they were toys for my enjoyment? Did I? No I didn't I said I wanted a person to cuddle with, share the peacefulness or the unknown noises of the night close to, like a child does with a stuffed animal. Only it would be a person sharing that with you and so be something really special. They would also be holding onto me and needing my comfort,as a partner. That is not using someone, that's company.

You're making some really wild assumptions about how I feel about the people I'm with. I'm sorry my relationship politics and phrasing don't jibe with you. I just said that I didn't like sharing my bed with someone who does aerobics in their sleep.

 

[Danglybits]

One of my dogs sleep in my bed. Every night, has done it since the very first day we bought her.

It's not quite a girlfriend, but at least it's warming my feet.

I'm constantly amazed at the sheer amount of space a small dog or cat can take up. They bend the laws of physics, I swear.

Ah but the amount of space a dog takes up on the bed is not proportional to their size, but rather inversely so, whilst being directly proportional to how stereotypically annoying the particular breed happens to be...

Indeed. Mine has determined that she must have her back to your ribcage at all times. Try to shift her, and she'll get up, readjust accordingly, and then utter a very irritated "harrumph."

Mine sleeps on my chest above my breasts which is so fun inhaling cat hair all night. Or in the very center of the bed, meaning that one wrong roll could result in disaster for us both. My cat has never been shy with his claws and teeth.

 

[poleboy]

One of my dogs sleep in my bed. Every night, has done it since the very first day we bought her.

It's not quite a girlfriend, but at least it's warming my feet.

I'm constantly amazed at the sheer amount of space a small dog or cat can take up. They bend the laws of physics, I swear.

Never slept with a dog, but cats always seem to insist on lying right in the centre of the bed. If they're particularly skilled, they can actually take up more space than an average human, simply by lying in a spot that makes it impossible for anyone else to comfortably fit in the bed with them. This in spite of the fact that you saw the same cat happily dozing in a cardboard box about the size of a child's head a couple of hours earlier.

Of course, to anyone who knows about cats, this should not come as a surprise.

 

[MelziGurl]

Sometimes I find it difficult to even get to sleep without my partner there. We both like to steal the sheets and it annoys me to know end, when in the middle of the night I have a huge leg slumped over me. I kick him off me, literally, because he sleeps like a rock. But, I love sharing my bed with him.

 

[thisbymaster]

I like sharing with two chicks at the same time.

 

[Beckaa]

LOL @ that post above mine ;]

And I don't know, as long as the other person doesn't snore I've never had a problem. And if they do snore, a good whack on the head generally sorts them out :] And if I'm sharing the bed with someone I like being with, it's nice to wake up close to someone I guess. I'm a romantic at heart, baha.

 

[Sennz0r]

This thread is hilarious.

Anyway I haven't had a lot of sleeping partners but I must say it's nice when you have the right bed. It's not nice when you are:

-Laying on a single mattress with two people.
-Have a matching blanket which you have to share.
-One of you two squirms around a lot.

I acytually woke up in the middle of the night finding myself in the most awkward position which included me having my elbow in her face. I derived from that that this situation was bound to repeat itself in one way or another so I went to sleep on the couch out of courtesy.

 

[mikecoulter]

Yeahhh, especially when they wake up and tart pulling at my carefully tied rope =[

 

[darkless]

I only have a single bed never shared it with no one.

 

[Amoreyna]

call me old fashioned but less then 1% of the men I have ever dated have gotten that privilage

That means if you've ever shared a bed, you've dated over 100 men. Lol @ your whoritude and/or lack of math skills.

I'm sorry - I was taught that to be a whore you slept around. Silly me for not thinking that it included going out to dinner with someone. Hell, most men I go out with I don't even kiss let alone do anything that would remotely qualify me as a whore. I was making a point at the small number of men that have ever shared my bed compared to the multitude that I've met, flirted with and gone out with. Perhaps I should have phrased it that men have a less then 1% chance to share my bed.

But no, dating does not make you a whore - and carrying around that kind of limited thinking won't endear you to women.

 

[Gitsnik]

Wow, I never actualy considered that I might have a problem with sharing a bed. I assumed it would be all closeness and huggles and all that good stuff.
Well, I suppose I've done a fair amount of non-intimate bed sharing, and that really isn't all that bad. The ability to spoon with your partner would just make things easier, wouldn't it?

Not if she's got long hair. My current SO doesn't get many spoonings from me because I'd rather not wake up with three feet of hair in my mouth. Besides which a smaller bed gives you the opportunity to hop out of it (no snuggling, which gets surprisingly important as things progress I've found - though I don't know why) after anything that has happened. Thankfully mine realises that when the blood is rushing all over the place is when my mind is most active, so I get told to run off and finish whatever math problem I've got racing through my head.

I actually hate sharing a bed. It's great to wake up and be intimiate, and go to sleep and be intimate, and it's not affecting my sleeping patterns much, but I keep waking up in significant pain. I've done enough in my life to have constant muscular and joint pains, and sleeping (and thus not being able to move where I want etc.) with someone in the bed causes thm to be put into nasty positions.

That and when it gets hot she wants to snuggle me and I'm about ready to burn up.

Oh and we fall asleep back to back too. It would probably be face to face but like most couples we hav "sides" of the bed and we sleep on opposite sides of our body. If we were to swap bed-sides we'd be face to face.

Edit: Amoreyna: Of course you're not a whore! Not many people can claim the mental discipline you have. And for the "lol" record, 1 in 80 gives you an downwards-rounding 1% (1.25% IIRC and my hangover isn't affecting me too badly), and a FLOOR() should take you as low as 1/51 if you needed. So mock the childish mathematics all you like!

 

[Beckaa]

Oh and we fall asleep back to back too. It would probably be face to face but like most couples we hav "sides" of the bed and we sleep on opposite sides of our body. If we were to swap bed-sides we'd be face to face.

I always found that sleeping back to back was much more comfortable. It doesn't take away from the closeness, although sometimes I worry that the person I'm with thinks that they've done something wrong. It's never that, I just like to sleep facing away - regardless of the size of the bed.