Do you like to share your bed?

[Amoreyna]

I don't mind at all. Though it can be dangerous. I remember a dream where I was hitting some pikey and my girl said that in the night I'd swung out my left fist, punched her chest of drawers with some force, muttered "ouch" and went back to sleep.

Be mindful of your bedmates! If you have suppressed violent tendencies, make sure your partner isn't on the same side as your main attack arm.

Actually, my ex-fiancee was a cop so he has some nasty dreams. The one big thing is when you have someone who has violent dreams don't lean over them and shake them awake. I knew better not to do this but apparently his ex-wife didn't. He had been having a dream about fighting a guy with a knife and ended up punching her in his sleep, but fotunately didn't hurt her.

If your partner is having a bad dream call out their name and slowly wake them up before you touch them.

Hehe, though on the non-violent side I have spooked out a couple of men by sleep walking - apparently I'm good at that. One night I tricked one into believing I was awake for over 10 minutes before it dawned on him slowly that I wasn't blinking.

 

[ParkourMcGhee]

Never done it. Probably never will knowing my luck with the opposite gender. However I will say that sleeping in a barracks I had absolutely no problems with hard mattresses or people snoring. Those sleeping bags are so nice - if you open them up to the right degree (not too cold/hot) I can sleep like a baby... until people start getting up or somebody wakes me up quietly (weird how I react to that really quickly).

 

[cyber druid]

all i have to say is lol

 

[LaxLuster]

I lived with a girl for a year who was a horrific snorer. It was funny because she was such a skinny little thing. But she'd roll over on top of me some nights and be snoring right into my ear.

Funny thing was, after we broke up I couldn't sleep because it was too quiet.

Nowadays my wife and I will usually fall asleep back-to-back.

 

[Fronken]

If it's with a chick, i love it, but if its more of a "sleep only" basis with some drunk mate who passed out in your bed and you need somewhere to lay down, its not all that lovely...

So depends on the situation

 

[r4ndom]

Get a bigger bed and seperate covers.. No biggie..

Exactly what i've done.

As for me, no I never had any ideals or thought of my lover like a living stuffed animal. To me that is just demeaning. I don't think of my pets that way, why in the world would I treat my lover, the person I was intimate with, like that?

I think the stuffed animal comment was referring to how she felt when she was young. Young enough to have a stuffed animal, and no concept of love. There's no need to suggest she's demeaning anyone.

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[EeveeElectro]

I think all the people in this thread should share a bed!

 

[Brokkr]

I like sharing my bed. I definitely will buy a king size the next time I buy a bed though.

 

[Piphchan]

Don't complain, you should see the dorm bed I have...if I'm in there with anyone, we roll an inch to the left and fall out.

Oh gosh yes. I usually did not get much sleep when my boyfriend came over last summer :/

 

[Combined]

I sleep on the floor in the corner. No problems there.

 

[Danglybits]

When I was younger, in my preteens and early teens I thought that sharing my bed with a romantic/sexual partner would be wonderful. Almost like having a living stuffed animal that loves you.

And then I started doing it and I realized just how much I can't stand sharing my bed. I hate not being able to turn over when I want to and to have to do it very carefully so as not to disturb whoever is in the bed. Then there is snoring, cover stealing, people taking the spread eagle position and forcing you to sleep in a chair or jab them in the chest. Speaking of which, ever smack your bedmate and pretend to be a sleep to stop them snoring? So does anyone actually like sharing their bed or is it just me and my selfish ways?

And you don't do anything that would bug the other person? After that list of complaints it makes me admire the people that have actually choosen to fall asleep next to you.

As for me, no I never had any ideals or thought of my lover like a living stuffed animal. To me that is just demeaning. I don't think of my pets that way, why in the world would I treat my lover, the person I was intimate with, like that?

But I'm also very particular in who shares my bed - call me old fashioned but less then 1% of the men I have ever dated have gotten that privilage. To me it's not about having some sort of romantic ideal that you want to live in. Rather it is simply extending that part of your life and opening yourself up. So yes, when I truly love someone their little quirks don't bother me. And trust me I've been with some real snorers.

I think the problems you are encountering is that you are trying to rush into something with stardust still in your eyes instead of waiting and allowing your own wants, needs and desires to show you where to go.

If you're done insulting me; I have been with my SO for 6 years so don't tell me I'm demeaning or foolish or rushing in. The stuffed animal thing was because it would be like having company in your bed and someone to cuddle with only better because you have a relationship with them. Someone above said it better than that. I wonder if you'd have thought I was being so demeaning if you knew I was female? And when I was sparkly-eye I was 11 years old. And no, I'm a very pleasant person to sleep next to according to my SO, I don't snore, steal covers or kick. Calm down.

 

[Zersy]

When I was younger, in my preteens and early teens I thought that sharing my bed with a romantic/sexual partner would be wonderful. Almost like having a living stuffed animal that loves you.

And then I started doing it and I realized just how much I can't stand sharing my bed. I hate not being able to turn over when I want to and to have to do it very carefully so as not to disturb whoever is in the bed. Then there is snoring, cover stealing, people taking the spread eagle position and forcing you to sleep in a chair or jab them in the chest. Speaking of which, ever smack your bedmate and pretend to be a sleep to stop them snoring? So does anyone actually like sharing their bed or is it just me and my selfish ways?

do the smart thing

get a single bed and sleep on top of each other

1.it's fun
2. the weight will stop any snoring
3. theirs no cover stealing
4. it's erotic

 

[FightThePower]

If a girl was sharing my bed, I doubt we would be sleeping.

 

[poleboy]

Yes, particularly with women and cats.
I've never had any trouble with people sleeping in my bed, even small beds. I don't take up a lot of space when sleeping. But after a while, you should definitly consider getting a king-size one. Actually, get one even if you're single (and can afford it). You're going to be spending around 20-30% of your life asleep in bed ( sort of depressing innit? :/ ), might as well make it comfortable.

 

[Danglybits]

Dorm beds are the worst. I shared one for 4 years and to this day I don't know how I managed to do it. I woke up with two heads on my shoulders or to an elbow to the back of the neck so many times. It wasn't so bad when we moved into a double and pushed the beds together, effectively making a king size bed. It was nice to be able to be close or far depending on what you wanted. There was that huge gap in the middle though...

 

[Specter_]

Nowadays my wife and I will usually fall asleep back-to-back.

Cross-Thread-posting is fun!

That's cause you don't share One Tree Hill with her

 

[mokes310]

Ah, glad to see the young ones with their opinions ^.

Well, it's give and take. I started sharing a bed with my old gf, and it was a full size bed. I'm a bit guy, 5'9", 190, so I take up my fair share of space, while she was quite a bit smaller. It worked, and I got used to it.

Over the years, I've actually noticed that I sleep better with someone in the bed. I currently have a California King, which is a bit bigger than a regular King, and I have a lot of covers, so none of those issues seem to arrise.

I guess if you can't get a bigger bed, it's something that you'll learn to love, or something that you'll dislike forever.

 

[plastic_window]

One of my dogs sleep in my bed. Every night, has done it since the very first day we bought her.

It's not quite a girlfriend, but at least it's warming my feet.

Mine does that, too. He seems to be magnetically attracted to my feet somehow, he finds them in the pitch black and plonks himself next to them.

Does yours ever wake you up? Lately mine has been doing it with annoying consistency...

 

[Chiasm]

First time I shared my bed was with my puppy, I still feel sorry for him as I used to get comfy then kick out my legs and end up sending the puppy tumbling down to the floor.

But after you get used to spending time with your partner I think sharing the bed is the best way to see if your compatible or not and if you can stand the smell of them and also if they snore. Though I would suggest getting many many many pillows on the bed. Can never have enough pillows when sharing.