Do you "owe" your parents grandchildren?

[Screamarie]

My brother just knocked up his wife so I don't have to *does a happy dance!*

I keep looking at that sentence and reading it the wrong way. Though you'd presumably be happy to not need to knock up his wife regardless.

Well seeing as I lack necessary equipment...I meant it more that my sister-in-law is pregnant so now I don't have to get pregnant, but yeah I can understand how it can be read wrong. I'd edit it, but I think it's funny the way it is.

 

[game-lover]

Hell to the fucking NO.

I didn't really feel it back when I was younger but now? With each of my siblings having at least one child when they were never ready and changing our lives ultimately in good ways and bad?

EFF That noise. I may owe my mother a lot of things but children aren't one of them. And actually, I think at this stage, she'd actually agree. She became a grandmother way too early and stuff. She doesn't necessarily need more grandchildren. At least not from me.

 

[Phasmal]

Nah. I don't think you owe your parents grandchildren.

My mum loves kids. She pretty much thinks my/womens role in life is to have kids, she started to put the pressure on me when I was (no kidding) 16. My older sister has 3 kids now so my mum has backed off a bit. But if I should talk about my relationship, she'll be like `Have a baby`.
I'm 21 now and wont be babying-up any time soon. (Partially because pregnancy squicks me out).

 

[Cazza]

I don't feel I owe children for my parents. Though I hopefully plan around having children and one of the reasons is "continuning the line" though it's not the only reason.

 

[Hoplon]

Yes, but it's off set by owing the rest of humanity not to.

 

[deidara]

I don't feel any obligation to do so, and chances are I never will.

 

[Vault101]

Nah. I don't think you owe your parents grandchildren.

My mum loves kids. She pretty much thinks my/womens role in life is to have kids, she started to put the pressure on me when I was (no kidding) 16. My older sister has 3 kids now so my mum has backed off a bit. But if I should talk about my relationship, she'll be like `Have a baby`.
I'm 21 now and wont be babying-up any time soon. (Partially because pregnancy squicks me out).

Alien...

chest brusting scene...yeah I know what you mean

its a good thing that your sister is the baby maker of the family, as you said gives you some leeway....Im 20, the Idea of having a child now is..NUTS ..Im bareley an adult myself

persoanlly I cant help but smirk and shake my head at that kind of attitude (but that said some people want that..so I wont say otherwise)

I honestly dont know what my mum thinks...I dont think she minds too much (and she wouldnt want one of my sisters having kids...make a bad situation 100x worse) we have a 3 year old cousin she gets to play grandma too anyway (and another on the way)

 

[Sehnsucht Engel]

No, I don't, but then again, I have two sisters that will probably get children of their own one day.

 

[MetalMagpie]

My mother's word on the matter:
"I had three children for a reason. I don't care what the other two do, but one of you needs to give me some grandchildren. You can draw straws if you like."

We're not entirely certain she's joking...

 

[malestrithe]

No, you do not owe your mom a grandchild.

My mom wanted a grandchild. She kept on me about it for a few years, leaving out subtle hints all over the place, like baby pacifiers where I could find it. There was a time when she put diapers in my room. She claimed that it was because my cousin needed a place to stash them, but I did not trust her. It even got to the point where she told me that if I was born a girl, she would already have three grandchildren by now. When I tried to explain to her that this is learned behavior and I would probably be like her, still a virgin at 25, she did not buy it. She knew that I would have been some little slut and bed every guy that looked my way.

Unfortunately its too late for me to give her one.

 

[Helscreama]

I don't feel an obligation, I actually WANT to continue the line. Call it subconscious reaction but it's just the way I am.

 

[Smurf McSmurfington]

Short answer? No.
Long answer? Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

Yes, I stole that from Yahtzee.

In any case, this is not a question that truly even needs to be asked, seeing as the answer is just so bloody obvious.

Personally, thankfully noones actually forcing anything of the sort on me, though it occasionally comes out from conversations with my family members (I don't see them very often) that they seem to assume that I'll get married and have kids at one point or another. Thankfully they've shut up about it after I explained to them in great detail that I don't want that, and I also explained why.

Not entirely sure if the point stuck, but heres to hoping.

Obviously this is all subject to change (our brainchemistry sort of changes as we get older, which brings said changes), but I'm doing my best to avoid said change.

 

[Zeema]

no i don't my parents anything. they will be lucky to even see me

i hate them and will cut all ties from them at a drop of a hat

 

[Vault101]

Short answer? No.
Long answer? Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

Yes, I stole that from Yahtzee.

thats almost a meme here so..yeah


[quote/] Personally, thankfully noones actually forcing anything of the sort on me, though it occasionally comes out from conversations with my family members (I don't see them very often) that they seem to assume that I'll get married and have kids at one point or another. Thankfully they've shut up about it after I explained to them in great detail that I don't want that, and I also explained why. [/quote]

its a good thing the worst people can do is give you a hard time..and guilt trip you, back int he day..esecpaily if you were female you might not have been that lucky (well I guess your family would always be dissapointed in you)

[quote/] Not entirely sure if the point stuck, but heres to hoping.

Obviously this is all subject to change (our brainchemistry sort of changes as we get older, which brings said changes), but I'm doing my best to avoid said change. [/quote]

you can't fight it...the desire to produce spawn will eventually consume you....

one of us...one of us...one of us...one of us....

 

[Therumancer]

this little dilema ocured to me while (not intentionally) catching some of a reality TV show on TV last night

besically as far as I can tell its about thease mothers who hand pick potential partners for their sons

now this may be a little harsh but what kind of a limp-dick asshole lets his mother choose his partner for him? (ok ok..there is arranged marrage which can actually work somtimes) but THIS just made me angry

now anyway...although it was never outright stated you can just tell thease are the kinds of bitches who demand granchildren..no doubt to fuel their ego with their little "matriarch" fantasys...(again if my feelings about this arnt clear up to this point)

so what was I constantly yelling at the TV last night? "if the dried up old twat wants grand children she should fucking adopt them herself!" <-several times

the reason I feel so strongly about this is because I guess Im all for people choosing what they want, I dont think that the mother has any entitlment to what her children choose to do in their lives...its that kind of controlling matriarchy thing that I find downright disgusting (I know its cultrual somtmes..but IMO family should stay the fuck out when they arnt wanted)

*sigh*..so anyway do you feel any obligation to have grand children if thats what your parents want? perhaps from a "continuning the line" point of veiw? [/B]

Well, family is a big deal to many people and oftentimes your parents want to be sure that the line isn't going to die with you so to speak. There is often the issue at times that parents feel like they have given up a huge amount of their lives for you, and want to see you ultimatly doing the same thing as opposed to say doing all the things they chose not to instead (which is a side of things rarely discussed).

To be honest if you ever read up on what books have been banned and why, you'll notice that for quite a while books that are seen as being anti-family were a popular target to be banned. The whole issue of the family unit, and the responsibility/obligation to have and raise children is not something that has only recently been being questioned.

Speaking for myself I believe there is enough of a population problem where I'd prefer people not have children, at least enough to see the population reduce itself somewhat. I think a lot of social problems are caused, or at least heavily contributed to, but there just being too many bloody people.

 

[Esotera]

My parents are quite bad about this...they expect grandchildren, and at least one grandson, from at least one of us, probably more. Apparently it's to continue the family line but I sort of doubt I'll be helping in that process, kids cost a lot of money.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Hell no. My mums got 6 grandchildren at the minute, she can make do with that for the time being.
I would like children, but lack of a stable relationship and money warns me against it. That's my choice though, my mum has never suggested I start planning for kids and I think she'd understand I want to do it in my own time.
My dad used to tell me to keep my last name when I got married to keep the name going. I think me changing my last name was probably the best "Fuck you, ****" I could have given him.
Parents have no right to run their children's lives. Unless it's warning them against drugs or whatever, that should go without saying.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

this little dilema ocured to me while (not intentionally) catching some of a reality TV show on TV last night

besically as far as I can tell its about thease mothers who hand pick potential partners for their sons

now this may be a little harsh but what kind of a limp-dick asshole lets his mother choose his partner for him? (ok ok..there is arranged marrage which can actually work somtimes) but THIS just made me angry

now anyway...although it was never outright stated you can just tell thease are the kinds of bitches who demand granchildren..no doubt to fuel their ego with their little "matriarch" fantasys...(again if my feelings about this arnt clear up to this point)

so what was I constantly yelling at the TV last night? "if the dried up old twat wants grand children she should fucking adopt them herself!" <-several times

the reason I feel so strongly about this is because I guess Im all for people choosing what they want, I dont think that the mother has any entitlment to what her children choose to do in their lives...its that kind of controlling matriarchy thing that I find downright disgusting (I know its cultrual somtmes..but IMO family should stay the fuck out when they arnt wanted)

*sigh*..so anyway do you feel any obligation to have grand children if thats what your parents want? perhaps from a "continuning the line" point of veiw? [/B]

I used to, my grandpa mentioned it. But he also said I don't owe him anything. Which I see as noble considering he paid for my 70k college tuition, my 4k notebook computer, my 15k car, and some of my housing.

It sounds more like you watched a "rich" families way of life. There is still lots of arranged marriages especially with the royals. (there are more of them than you think) Its designed to keep the money within the family or grow it with another equal family.

In the end they really can't do anything at least in the United States. But it sounds to me he was either fine with it or he grew up seeing that as normal.

 

[manic_depressive13]

I don't owe my parents shit and I'm never having kids. What if I turn out like my mother? Or worse, what if my kid turns out like me.