Do you think it feels empowering or good to be a jerk/mean?
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It does when they deserve it. Being a dick to innocent people not so much, but screwing over people that thoroughly deserve it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
Absolutely. Its very empowering when you learn to stand up for yourself and tell somebody whose pissed you off to go get fucked instead of being a doormat. I used to get walked all over at work when I was young being a carpentry apprentice Id have some big scary dudes abusing me sometimes, now Im not scared of them anymore as ive gotten older and used to it, being a snarky sarcastic bastard who doesnt take shit Feels good man.
I can see how it would be easy to go on a massive powertrip if you had the position at work to abuse your underlings and fire them if they bite back.
I can see how it would be easy to go on a massive powertrip if you had the position at work to abuse your underlings and fire them if they bite back.
Unless I feel like they absolutely deserve it (little punk shooting on my goalie in NHL15 and NOT throwing down!), I think that being nice is a far better high for me than being a dick to people.
Even people who are dicks, kill them with kindness. There are some people who only understand a smack on the nose but I will give just about everyone a shot of nice before I get mean. If I HAVE to, I will (and have) gotten mean but I use it as a very last resort.
I don't know if that's just my nature or anecdotal evidence (I coach soccer; I've seen coaches who are dicks and I've seen coaches who are nicer and I find it's almost always the nicer coaches that get the better performances out of their teams) but being nice is far better than being a dick.
Even people who are dicks, kill them with kindness. There are some people who only understand a smack on the nose but I will give just about everyone a shot of nice before I get mean. If I HAVE to, I will (and have) gotten mean but I use it as a very last resort.
I don't know if that's just my nature or anecdotal evidence (I coach soccer; I've seen coaches who are dicks and I've seen coaches who are nicer and I find it's almost always the nicer coaches that get the better performances out of their teams) but being nice is far better than being a dick.
It can feel good to tell someone off at times, but in general... no.
Plus, I'm not very good at face-to-face confrontations, since I'm a big, fat coward. Also, being a dick requires much more energy and results in way more stress than not being a dick, so that tends to be the road I chose most of the time.
Plus, I'm not very good at face-to-face confrontations, since I'm a big, fat coward. Also, being a dick requires much more energy and results in way more stress than not being a dick, so that tends to be the road I chose most of the time.
I think that the more often it does, the more likely you've got something wrong with you. That kind of behaviour can be infectious if you let it -- I've met plenty of people who let the past trespasses of others make them distinctly unpleasant, to say the least -- so if it's something you find necessary to be happy then you should probably pursue help for the sake of yourself and those around you.
I try not to be a dick if I can help it, if I don't like someone I try and avoid them as much as possible however, if that isn't an option I will restrict my interactions as much as I can, and if I do have to talk to them, then I will try and keep it civil. I find that life is easier that way.
I don't particularly enjoy it. That doesn't mean there aren't people I don't particularly enjoy being around, but I'm not going to just be a jerk towards them because I don't happen to like them. Treating them as badly as I feel towards them (or worse) really just makes me feel childish at best, and it can also leave me distressed.
If it wasn't empowering or it didn't feel good, I don't think a lot of people would ever be jerks.
So yes. I think it can feel good. Do I like to be a jerk? Depends on who I'm talking to, in all honesty. But for the most part, I try to stay as polite as possible around most people.
So yes. I think it can feel good. Do I like to be a jerk? Depends on who I'm talking to, in all honesty. But for the most part, I try to stay as polite as possible around most people.
It clearly does to some people, since they keep doing it. Not to me, though, I just feel like an asshole. I generally try to be an amiable person. Most people grow out of this, though, when they realize being as asshole will get them arrested. I don't frequent the places they do, so I don't worry about it. My trouble with assholes ended with highschool.Sung-Hwan said:
It does feel good to put an asshole in his place, though, if he's being awful to someone else, or to me.
No. I just don't feel good about it (unless what I am saying is intended as a joke, even if it is a mean joke, although I only make such jokes with people that I know can take it). Maybe if it get something off my chest in the short term, like not helping someone who needs my help so that I don't have to do extra work, I might be glad of it, but eventually I'll feel a bit bad but I won't lose sleep over it. Usually sleeping gets rid of feelings like that, like an emotional reset.
That said I will go out of my way to be a twat to people I feel deserve it. Here is an anecdotal example:
My older brother (who is 20, by the way, keep that in mind) was playing MGS 3 on the 360, using my power cable because his is knackered. Then I asked to switch seats so that he could keep playing but I could play on the PC. After asking nicely twice, and less than nicely 3 or 4 more times, he stood up, screamed "fucking hell, fine!" at the top of his voice, threw the Xbox pad at me, kicked my PC and unplugged it, punched me and started to storm out. In the past he's always been a lot bigger than me, even though he's only 2 years older, and as a result has always bullied me into getting his way (this was not the first time this week - let alone in his life - that he had thrown a full on ***** fit for little reason). This time, however, I thought 'No, fuck this, I am 18 years of age and am not going to take this from a bitchy man-child' and promptly punched his face. Following this I decided that he could not take the cable back to Uni with him (even though my Xbox is long dead and I play PC now) and that I would do nothing for him. I now very rarely return his calls and only call him to be a dick or in an emergency. I have 18 years of being a complete arsehole to him before I'll be civilised to him. The point is that that punch I gave him made me feel terrific, because he deserved it, and every time I say "no" or "fuck off you entitled little ****" to him, I do feel empowered, very much so. But only because he deserves it.
That said I will go out of my way to be a twat to people I feel deserve it. Here is an anecdotal example:
My older brother (who is 20, by the way, keep that in mind) was playing MGS 3 on the 360, using my power cable because his is knackered. Then I asked to switch seats so that he could keep playing but I could play on the PC. After asking nicely twice, and less than nicely 3 or 4 more times, he stood up, screamed "fucking hell, fine!" at the top of his voice, threw the Xbox pad at me, kicked my PC and unplugged it, punched me and started to storm out. In the past he's always been a lot bigger than me, even though he's only 2 years older, and as a result has always bullied me into getting his way (this was not the first time this week - let alone in his life - that he had thrown a full on ***** fit for little reason). This time, however, I thought 'No, fuck this, I am 18 years of age and am not going to take this from a bitchy man-child' and promptly punched his face. Following this I decided that he could not take the cable back to Uni with him (even though my Xbox is long dead and I play PC now) and that I would do nothing for him. I now very rarely return his calls and only call him to be a dick or in an emergency. I have 18 years of being a complete arsehole to him before I'll be civilised to him. The point is that that punch I gave him made me feel terrific, because he deserved it, and every time I say "no" or "fuck off you entitled little ****" to him, I do feel empowered, very much so. But only because he deserves it.
It really depends on the person in question. I work healthcare security and alot of street people are pretty adept at using the system.
Once in a while you get drug seekers or homeless people who *really* think they need to be admitted to the hospital with their condition of the day. After listening to them hurl abuse at medical staff and social workers I find myself waiting for the "escort" order like a giddy schoolgirl.
Otherwise, everyone is pathetic in their own special way (me included,) I don't usually like being a dick unless I've seen enough first hand to warrant it.
Once in a while you get drug seekers or homeless people who *really* think they need to be admitted to the hospital with their condition of the day. After listening to them hurl abuse at medical staff and social workers I find myself waiting for the "escort" order like a giddy schoolgirl.
Otherwise, everyone is pathetic in their own special way (me included,) I don't usually like being a dick unless I've seen enough first hand to warrant it.
I like this attitude. I think you and I are on the same wavelength.DizzyChuggernaut said:
When someone is genuinely being a dick, almost nothing pisses them off more than being nice to them in return.
Only it's when you're a dick to a dick... Otherwise, you're better off being a smart ass or something...
But for reals, though... I fucking hope not... I mean, sure it could, but it's honestly not worth it for both the short term and long term...
Then again, if it's a sex thing, then I hope both parties know that it's just a sex thing... I'm not a fan of one-sided sex things...
But for reals, though... I fucking hope not... I mean, sure it could, but it's honestly not worth it for both the short term and long term...
Then again, if it's a sex thing, then I hope both parties know that it's just a sex thing... I'm not a fan of one-sided sex things...
Depends on my mood, my target and the level of ignorance they are attempting to infect other people with. If ignorance rears its ugly head, I will be there to kick it in the testacles. When stupidity laughs mockingly at more educated people, I will be there to knock out its teeth.
I like to be a jerk towards other people who is a jerk to me in my mind.
Not because it's right or wrong, but because I'm a social coward....
Not because it's right or wrong, but because I'm a social coward....
Is it really being a jerk if they deserve it? And by deserve it I mean when you are put in a position where you have to stand up for yourself? Like ambitiousmould's story(not to single you out dude) for example. I don't see how not letting his brother walk all over him is being a jerk. Especially since his brother would beat on him. It's not like he owes his brother much. He wouldn't need to let his brother borrow his stuff is necessary either. Not answering his calls might be too much. Calling him just to be a jerk is, imo, too much. It would waste less energy to just not talk to him at all.
I would assume it feels empowering to be a jerk, otherwise people wouldn't revel so much in acting like them with the express purpose of annoying people for kicks.