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JohnnyDelRay

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Try n make this quick: No.

1) World IS overpopulated, so what if western populations are on the decrease, the developing nations are on the increase, and they're the ones making up most of the population, and I blame it as the main source of problems for *everything* in the world. Yes, *everything*. I learned fractions in primary school, I know there's enough to go around for everyone.

2) Think I'd be a lousy father. First of all, forgetful as all hell, and too self-absorbed and selfish to be able to care for my family. I am married, and that's hard enough (don't get me wrong, I love my wife, she thinks I'd make a great and fun dad, but I digress)

Maybe one day I'll change, we are wired to want to have kids anyways, just like I thought girls were icky when I was, like 4 or something. But as it stands, put me on the No list.
 

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I want children and then dress them in mini pinstripe suits, tiny converse all stars and tiny trench coats!
 

Plurralbles

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yes, yes I do.

If I dont' have to take care of them that'd be awesome. Sperm donor! Just have to convince somone that my family history of alzheimers and heart problems isn't a problem.
 

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I am unsure. But I know that if I choose to have children I will adopt American - I cant have kids naturally, so why not help someone who needs it instead?
One motivator is also to prove there can be good parents in the world. I hate my mother and family in general, and I would want to do better than they ever even tried to.
Also purpose. I dont know how my life will turn out at this point. Maybe raising children will be what I want to do with the rest of my later life.
 

Macgyvercas

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I would like to have kids someday. The wierd thing is, I have plenty of names for daughters, but only one or two for sons.
 

PurplePlatypus

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No, because I don?t want to.
Becoming pregnant, being a parent and raising a child? No thank you to any of that.
 

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Only in small doses, or done with a nice bbq sauce.

Seriously, I don't know that I'm able to have them, but I also have realized that I much prefer spoiling the children of my friends. I'd be a willing conspirator most times the child got in trouble, and I'm not precisely a great role model at the best of times.
 

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Abbyrose07 said:
Nope I have never wanted children and at 26 I still don't, I just don't like kids and never have...I guess I don't have the maternal instinct or was dropped on my head as a child one too many times...lol. Some people at work asked me once if I had children and told them no,they acted like I was some sort of sinner. People think I am horrible because I am a girl and don't want kids...oh well I guess I am.
Yeah I think if your female its probably considered "not normal" to not want kids

Iv NEVER found the whole motherhood/babies thing apealing, like when I was a kid Id never play with a baby doll or want to play "mums and dads" (much prefer to play with action figures....or lego) and the Idea of somone having a baby didnt exite or interest me at all, so yeah I have 0 maternal instinct


and even now that Im older, I dont dislike kids but having them? no fucking way

that said Im far away from child rearing age so things might change

but it makes me think what if I never want kids? how many guys actually REALLY feel the same way? ........for ever alone?....

eh better than changing a nappy
 

PhiMed

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Vern5 said:
I'm going to go ahead and assume that we can mostly agree that the world is ridiculously overpopulated right now. People are dying in the streets. There isn't enough food to go around. Yet, for every plague, famine and genocide you hear about the world population still seems to be rising or at least maintaining itself.

So, I've got to know, do any of you want children and, if so, why?

Its a strange thing to ask people. There are many in the world who just go through life the way other people are (a process known as Social Validation) and readily cling to the idea that life has a specific progression. Some people get married and have children, not because they really want to, but because they figure its about time they did. I know everyone talks about "oh, it was the greatest moment of my life when I saw my newborn boy/girl" and I can't argue with that. But at the same time I can say that the idea of bringing even more children into the world instead of adopting the nearly endless sea of orphaned young sounds selfish. Also, my childhood was pretty bad. Not that I was ever starving but, emotionally, that stuff sucked. I don't think I could consciously put another human being through the same experience I had growing up. But, hey, thats just me.

So how about it? Do you want kids? State your reasoning (Full credit will not be awarded to partial answers of Yes or No).

EDIT - Yes, I do realize there are two other threads that are roughly like this but I feel ashamed about grave digging.
You can assume that if you like, but you'd be wrong. The world is not ridiculously overpopulated. Selected regions of it are. People are only dying in the streets in large numbers in regions where the food supply chain has broken down, either through incompetent or deliberate actions. Regional warlords, regional anarchy, and regional oppression: these cause hunger, not a worldwide lack of food.

As for "bringing another person into the world": First I'd like to say that if everyone your message can reach stopped reproducing today, the only people left on earth after a few decades would be the people who are currently reproducing like mad despite abject poverty. So pleading with literate people who are wealthy enough to have access to the internet to stop breeding is about as useful as pissing in your own face. That's not going to stem population growth. It's just going to encourage a situation where a greater proportion of the population is illiterate and impoverished.

Second, I'm relatively successful by most standards. So is my wife. If I'm going to work hard enough to be a good parent (and it is hard work) I'd rather do that to help propagate our own DNA, rather than work tirelessly to support the continued propagation of the DNA of someone too stupid, too careless, or too heartless to avoid reproducing despite their inability or unwillingness to care for their own offspring. Most children adopted internationally are not institutionalized due to parental death, but due to abandonment. Many institutions prohibit asking the situation leading to institutionalization prior to adoption. In places that allow such inquiries, stories told by the personnel are frequently false. In the cases of abandoned children (the majority) the parents who abandoned them are pieces of shit. Why should I take the chance of making myself the permanent legal guardian of someone with the "piece of shit gene"? I'm being facetious, but seriously: Why do those people's DNA deserve my efforts? I'm relatively altruistic in most respects, but that's where I draw the line. I gave at the office, man. I admire people who have that level of devotion, but that's just not me.

So that's why I've decided to reproduce rather than adopt someone else's unwanted, abused child. Is it selfish? You bet. Natural selection is inherently selfish, and I won't apologize for behaving the way that every K-selection animal in the history of the planet has.
 

Artina89

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No I don't want to have kids and I am unsure that I ever will. I am only 22 and I can be quite self absorbed.
 

Feralcentaur

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I may like being around children, and they may like me but I would be a horrible parent.
And the world is over populated enough and I'm not exactly the most genetically superior around and relationships seem awfully complicated so I'll just let my genetic legacy die off with me...
 

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Monoochrom said:
Yes, I do, 2-3 of them actually. Why is it selfish to not adopt? Not that the idea ever bothered me, but it still isn't my Child, it's just someones else's child I just happen to be paying for.
They wouldn't be your child biologically but once they are adopted they would become your child in every other respect, so it wouldn't be "someone else's child". I wouldn't mind adopting a daughter one day and if I did she wouldn't be anyone elses child but mine! (except my partner...)
 

Ladette

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I can barely take care of myself, I couldn't deal with children full time. I've got 6 nieces/nephews, i'm more than fine being that crazy aunt that parents fear and kids adore. It's just not something I plan on doing.

If I ever did get amnesia and decide I wanted kids i'd adopt, the thought of being pregnant terrifies me. My parents shares that sentiment.
 

Blue_vision

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I'd like to adopt children, maybe have one if theoretical significant other really wanted to, and then adopt another. I feel like I'd be at least a moderately good father (which is something to say about fathers in this day and age.) It'd be cool/fun.
 

Vern5

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PhiMed said:
Vern5 said:
I'm going to go ahead and assume that we can mostly agree that the world is ridiculously overpopulated right now. People are dying in the streets. There isn't enough food to go around. Yet, for every plague, famine and genocide you hear about the world population still seems to be rising or at least maintaining itself.

So, I've got to know, do any of you want children and, if so, why?

Its a strange thing to ask people. There are many in the world who just go through life the way other people are (a process known as Social Validation) and readily cling to the idea that life has a specific progression. Some people get married and have children, not because they really want to, but because they figure its about time they did. I know everyone talks about "oh, it was the greatest moment of my life when I saw my newborn boy/girl" and I can't argue with that. But at the same time I can say that the idea of bringing even more children into the world instead of adopting the nearly endless sea of orphaned young sounds selfish. Also, my childhood was pretty bad. Not that I was ever starving but, emotionally, that stuff sucked. I don't think I could consciously put another human being through the same experience I had growing up. But, hey, thats just me.

So how about it? Do you want kids? State your reasoning (Full credit will not be awarded to partial answers of Yes or No).

EDIT - Yes, I do realize there are two other threads that are roughly like this but I feel ashamed about grave digging.
You can assume that if you like, but you'd be wrong. The world is not ridiculously overpopulated. Selected regions of it are. People are only dying in the streets in large numbers in regions where the food supply chain has broken down, either through incompetent or deliberate actions. Regional warlords, regional anarchy, and regional oppression: these cause hunger, not a worldwide lack of food.

As for "bringing another person into the world": First I'd like to say that if everyone your message can reach stopped reproducing today, the only people left on earth after a few decades would be the people who are currently reproducing like mad despite abject poverty. So pleading with literate people who are wealthy enough to have access to the internet to stop breeding is about as useful as pissing in your own face. That's not going to stem population growth. It's just going to encourage a situation where a greater proportion of the population is illiterate and impoverished.

Second, I'm relatively successful by most standards. So is my wife. If I'm going to work hard enough to be a good parent (and it is hard work) I'd rather do that to help propagate our own DNA, rather than work tirelessly to support the continued propagation of the DNA of someone too stupid, too careless, or too heartless to avoid reproducing despite their inability or unwillingness to care for their own offspring. Most children adopted internationally are not institutionalized due to parental death, but due to abandonment. Many institutions prohibit asking the situation leading to institutionalization prior to adoption. In places that allow such inquiries, stories told by the personnel are frequently false. In the cases of abandoned children (the majority) the parents who abandoned them are pieces of shit. Why should I take the chance of making myself the permanent legal guardian of someone with the "piece of shit gene"? I'm being facetious, but seriously: Why do those people's DNA deserve my efforts? I'm relatively altruistic in most respects, but that's where I draw the line. I gave at the office, man. I admire people who have that level of devotion, but that's just not me.

So that's why I've decided to reproduce rather than adopt someone else's unwanted, abused child. Is it selfish? You bet. Natural selection is inherently selfish, and I won't apologize for behaving the way that every K-selection animal in the history of the planet has.
You're genes are better than another person's genes because their children are up for adoption? I don't know but that sounds really egotistical.

What about children who need foster parents because their parents died due to circumstances beyond their control? Not every child is left without parents because of some inherent fault in the parent. There is a possibility that the majority of orphans were abandoned by neglectful or immature parents but to base your entire opinion of the orphan demographic upon that idea and willingly proclaim them all to be genetically inferior... doesn't that sound a little heartless? And to look upon these children as collections of genetic material instead of human beings...

Look, there's no way to stem the amount of mistakes among the human gene pool. But do the abandoned children really have to suffer for their parents faults?