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After a friends wedding back on the 21st Aug. We came home, got ready for bed then the dreading words 'we need to talk'. Apparently he had been having doubts for a few months, never told me anything but thought it a good idea to tell his friend...who told his wife (who was my best friend)...and all the while neither of them thought it a good idea to let me know anything. The first week of the break up he spent almost all of his spare time over their place, while I was trying to deal with things without involving my friends too much. In the end, both of my best friends decided I was making them uncomfortable with the way I was (emotionally driven and generally not myself) to the point where one of them actually told me she felt like she was gonna have to choose sides...guess who's?
Now, I do not talk to one of these friends while I'm on speaking terms with the other. But I never at any point during our break up tried to involve them to the point that my ex did, nor did I expect anyone to choose sides. But these girls were my friends since high school and he had only known them roughly 2 years. He has come up with every excuse under the sun to justify his behaviour which pisses me off. Even telling me that during our entire relationship that he never felt he could be truly open with me...there's goes my trust completely.
So yeah, there is a lot more to that. But it would take me far too long to go through it all.
Now, I do not talk to one of these friends while I'm on speaking terms with the other. But I never at any point during our break up tried to involve them to the point that my ex did, nor did I expect anyone to choose sides. But these girls were my friends since high school and he had only known them roughly 2 years. He has come up with every excuse under the sun to justify his behaviour which pisses me off. Even telling me that during our entire relationship that he never felt he could be truly open with me...there's goes my trust completely.
So yeah, there is a lot more to that. But it would take me far too long to go through it all.
She was moving away, we where both thinking it, and well before she got on the plane, we ended it.
Well most times I've been dumped it's been clearly my own fault for being a dick. Or they cheated on me. That's happened once.
I think its more a matter of being able to end the relationship quickly. Either that or they're just massive arseholes.LemonMelon said:
One of my friends was dumped the day before his prom/ball/formal (dumped directly after hers) and having already bought the tickets etc, went with her anyway. She was cheating on him with a friend of ours.
I got rejected about 200 times, probably cause I was friends with the girl I asked and just kept sneaking it into conversation as a joke for a while after. I think I tricked her into saying yes once...sam13lfc said:
My then GF at the time and I were together 5 years, I gave her an engagement ring in the 4th of July (Though the fact she was pregnant was the major reason, when the baby didn't make it shortly thereafter, I was just happy to be with her, regardless. Yeah, I was too young for fatherhood, never carried out after the fact).
In December, her parents were going to go to Hawaii for two weeks and her folks wanted her to watch the house, and I said I would love to. But I obeyed my parents. She told me that as I was 18, I could make whatever decisions I wanted to, and many decisions I did do regardless of my parents say so (see "Pregnant").
When I wouldn't do it (I think it was because my parents saying "No" being the only reason) she broke up with me over the phone. Gave the engagement ring back on December 17th.
Bringing this back up made my head hurt and my chest get heavy.
I can't say I would forget about her, I have strong feelings for her, even though she's married now, I'd do it ALL OVER AGAIN.
In December, her parents were going to go to Hawaii for two weeks and her folks wanted her to watch the house, and I said I would love to. But I obeyed my parents. She told me that as I was 18, I could make whatever decisions I wanted to, and many decisions I did do regardless of my parents say so (see "Pregnant").
When I wouldn't do it (I think it was because my parents saying "No" being the only reason) she broke up with me over the phone. Gave the engagement ring back on December 17th.
Bringing this back up made my head hurt and my chest get heavy.
I can't say I would forget about her, I have strong feelings for her, even though she's married now, I'd do it ALL OVER AGAIN.
If she was that important (and by what you were saying I'm pretty sure she was), you wont ever forget, you just learn to live with it. It's hard, it hurts and I don't know if it will ever go away, but you live and you learn. Just don't let it define who you are as a person.shogunblade said:
Everything you love will either reject you or die.MelziGurl said:
I have had a few relationships, but they were all meaningless. There was no passion in any of them, and two ended with her cheating on me. I haven't considered a relationship since freshman year because all of the girls at my school are hypocritic, stuck-up bitches. I have given up on the whole idea of love. Every couple either ends up resenting each other and divorcing, or one of the partners will never be home. I'm just going to focus on my plans for the future.
I have been dumped over the phone twice, which was alright with me at the time. I find as I get older women grow balls and actually want to end things face to face. This is the way I have ended any relationship I have been in so I am glad that the people I date a least can do things face to face.
The worst was being dumped for some random guy online. I pretty much lost all respect for that girl.
The worst was being dumped for some random guy online. I pretty much lost all respect for that girl.
I had a relationship for a month, with the first love of my life.
But she was an Emo who never told me anything about her personal problems, rejected my help and she even cut herself ... so I had no other choice then to just break up with her ... still miss her though.
But she was an Emo who never told me anything about her personal problems, rejected my help and she even cut herself ... so I had no other choice then to just break up with her ... still miss her though.
Dude...that's rough. I wouldn't even know how to react to that.FargoDog said:
OT: I've only been in two relationships. The first I ended because we lived kinda far apart and I couldn't drive yet. The second one she ended because she didn't feel the connection anymore.
I'm still good friends with both of them.
My woe is me story begins with a three year relationship with its ups and downs and ends with not hearing from him for a day and a half. He cheats on me with a girl he just met at college orientation, calls me over and dumps me cause he knows he can do better then me. Needless to say it was pretty brutal, but up until then i had always done the dumping. At least now i know i can handle it.
You keep saying stuff I want to respond to. Did you volunteer to take up some of Outright Villainy's workload?Aylaine said:
I think the whole act of 'breaking up' with someone is fraught with problems. We have the idea that a face to face break up is better than phone/text/email/IM - it's certainly braver than them, but there's factors. For example, if you have a long distance relationship, travelling to someone to break up with them is pretty much out of the picture. Either you do it right at the end of your visit or you do it right at the start but the whole prospect either way is going to totally colour the experience. Phone or whatever is the only remotely sensible way to do it.
As far as other relationship types go, there's always the possibility that 'easy ways' to break up with people actually limit heartbreak in the long run. How many people stay together because breaking up is just too hard? How much unhappiness is caused because the idea of just taking that step is so... big in that persons mind they can't do it? It certainly sucks for the recipient - the stigma of being 'dumped by text' is considerable. But is it worse than being lead on for months in a loveless relationship you actually think is going somewhere? I'm not so sure about that.