Escape to the Movies: Love & Other Drugs

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Watch Havoc. Thank me later.

Anne Hathaway in eastide gangland with Channing Tatam? Yes, I will definately give that a go.

And she takes her clothes off 3 or 4 times. Which apparently makes for a good movie should this review be believed.

To be fair, I've heard good reviews on this movie elsewhere as well. But using sex as the selling point is kind of silly, given Bob's reputation here. Even if it's true, it won't be taken seriously because he spends a lot of time drooling on the girls as a positive point in a movie. You can say they are more realistic characters without harping on so much about the sex.

 

[Verp]

Yeah..... Sorry Bobby, but i don't buy it. Sex isn't the be-all and end-all of romantic relationships, and relationships that are built around/fueled mostly by mutual physical attraction tend to feel flimsy and plastic in comparision to relationships that stem from gradual and progressive emotional involvement, at least in my experience. Indetifying Sex as the key ingredeant in devoloping a tangible relationship speaks volumes about yourself good sir.

Eh, anyway, between I Love You Too and Scott Pilgrim my Cinema Rom-Com quota is filled for this year. Probs check it out when it comes to DVD

How can you say that? I mean I can sort of get where your coming from but REALLY?

I know im going to sound like an absolute twat for this sentance but relationships with people tend to be similar to relationships with most other things in terms of progression. Its the visuals, the aesthetics that first catch your eye and drag you in but its only a connection on a deeper level that keeps a relationship going and for me at least this applies for most things. Even if you dont value it as an integrul part you cant deny it as a catalyst.

Denying sex (aesthetics) as a key foundation in a relationship is not only wrong in many ways but quite mean. Could you honestly look at someone your in a sexual relationship with and say "Hey I love hanging out with you but I am not the least bit interested in you physically" FUCK THAT, I would hate to be with a girl who found me unappealing to look at. Its not natural, its not nice and even though there is far more to a good sexual relationship then JUST sex casting it in the negative way your making it out to be, just seems wrong to me.

I know there are exceptions, I know there are people who truly dont care but I at least am not one of them and for you to look down on people like me because I find it insensitive, calling me shallow and what ever else, really is offensive. Not that im to bothered, I get stick off my Mum every now and then for not finding overweight girls attractive so im used to it.

Y'know what's also pretty damn offensive? You saying the part I emphasised. You may not be aware of it, but there are people in this world right now, trying their best to please their significant other by having sex with them despite feeling disgusted by sex. It might not be nice, but they're just as much of a natural occurrence as you are. Just like sex is a basic need to most people, the emotional connection and other benefits of long-term relationships are a basic need to them, so it's not like they have much of a choice, especially with everyone and their mother saying that there's something wrong with them for not liking sex so they keep trying.

If you think you have it bad because your mother occasionally gives you smack, try having no choice but to live in relationships where you're constantly expected to take the bullet and do your best to nurture your relationship in a way that makes you feel sick or else be dumped and told that there's something wrong with you and that you're some sort of freak of nature.

 

[VenusInFurs]

Yeah..... Sorry Bobby, but i don't buy it. Sex isn't the be-all and end-all of romantic relationships, and relationships that are built around/fueled mostly by mutual physical attraction tend to feel flimsy and plastic in comparision to relationships that stem from gradual and progressive emotional involvement, at least in my experience. Indetifying Sex as the key ingredeant in devoloping a tangible relationship speaks volumes about yourself good sir.

Eh, anyway, between I Love You Too and Scott Pilgrim my Cinema Rom-Com quota is filled for this year. Probs check it out when it comes to DVD

How can you say that? I mean I can sort of get where your coming from but REALLY?

I know im going to sound like an absolute twat for this sentance but relationships with people tend to be similar to relationships with most other things in terms of progression. Its the visuals, the aesthetics that first catch your eye and drag you in but its only a connection on a deeper level that keeps a relationship going and for me at least this applies for most things. Even if you dont value it as an integrul part you cant deny it as a catalyst.

Denying sex (aesthetics) as a key foundation in a relationship is not only wrong in many ways but quite mean. Could you honestly look at someone your in a sexual relationship with and say "Hey I love hanging out with you but I am not the least bit interested in you physically" FUCK THAT, I would hate to be with a girl who found me unappealing to look at. Its not natural, its not nice and even though there is far more to a good sexual relationship then JUST sex casting it in the negative way your making it out to be, just seems wrong to me.

I know there are exceptions, I know there are people who truly dont care but I at least am not one of them and for you to look down on people like me because I find it insensitive, calling me shallow and what ever else, really is offensive. Not that im to bothered, I get stick off my Mum every now and then for not finding overweight girls attractive so im used to it.

Y'know what's also pretty damn offensive? You saying the part I emphasised. You may not be aware of it, but there are people in this world right now, trying their best to please their significant other by having sex with them despite feeling disgusted by sex. It might not be nice, but they're just as much of a natural occurrence as you are. Just like sex is a basic need to most people, the emotional connection and other benefits of long-term relationships are a basic need to them, so it's not like they have much of a choice, especially with everyone and their mother saying that there's something wrong with them for not liking sex so they keep trying.

If you think you have it bad because your mother occasionally gives you smack, try having no choice but to live in relationships where you're constantly expected to take the bullet and do your best to nurture your relationship in a way that makes you feel sick or else be dumped and told that there's something wrong with you and that you're some sort of freak of nature.

Sex is as important as being emotionally invested in someone. It's 50/50. Sex is not more or better than having an emotional relationship, but it's equal to it. If you're not sexually compatible then it's obvious you guys are not meant for each other. Sex is very important, just like having an emotional investment with the person is. I'm baffled at the comments here. I would have never thought The Escapist would attract so many sexually conservative people, or should I say sexually dissatisfied individuals. I was in school a couple of hours ago and showed my friend, who is a 23 year old girl, some of the comments here and she can't believe some of the comments posted. She wonders if any females commented on this forum.

I don't want to sound mean, but what the fuck is wrong with you people? It's very obvious a lot, not all, have had little experience in this department.

Again, it's all about sexual compatibility. If you are not compatible with that person then it's more than a good enough reason to leave, or live a miserable life like you stated. If you don't like sex then look for someone who doesn't like it as well. Also, it's pretty obvious you're talking about yourself.

 

[AdmiralMemo]

Love & Other Drugs

This week MovieBob takes a long hard look at Love & Other Drugs.

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I'm going to assume when you're saying "all [insert actresses here] movies put together" you're just talking about their romantic comedies, and not including things like Meg Ryan in InnerSpace or Sandra Bullock in The Blind Side.

Bob hates the blind side, thinks it has racist undertones.

Not going to deny that, but think about this: it was based on real life. Real life people have racist undertones. Therefore, according to Bob's logic from this video, it should be good because it's like reality.

It's kind of hard to do a movie that depicts people doing racist things without the movie itself being called racist.
The movie itself is not racist. It's about real people, some of whom are racist, doing real things.

 

[MovieBob]

I don't want to sound mean, but what the fuck is wrong with you people? It's very obvious a lot, not all, have had little experience in this department.

Again, it's all about sexual compatibility. If you are not compatible with that person then it's more than a good enough reason to leave, or live a miserable life like you stated. If you don't like sex then look for someone who doesn't like it as well. Also, it's pretty obvious you're talking about yourself.

Venus,

I believe what the person you're responding to was refering to (and I welcome a correction if I am mistaken) was not a "lack of compatability" or "experience;" but rather "ASEXUALITY" - i.e. people who do not have what you'd call a "sex-drive." Basically, they are otherwise healthy and simply have no biological impulse toward or desire for sex: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

Unfortunately, it's a widely misunderstood identity - but the folks who've brought it up here are quite correct: It's very real, and it's every bit as natural and normal as most other forms of human sexuality. There's nothing "wrong" with it, in other words.

 

[PunkRex]

Yeah..... Sorry Bobby, but i don't buy it. Sex isn't the be-all and end-all of romantic relationships, and relationships that are built around/fueled mostly by mutual physical attraction tend to feel flimsy and plastic in comparision to relationships that stem from gradual and progressive emotional involvement, at least in my experience. Indetifying Sex as the key ingredeant in devoloping a tangible relationship speaks volumes about yourself good sir.

Eh, anyway, between I Love You Too and Scott Pilgrim my Cinema Rom-Com quota is filled for this year. Probs check it out when it comes to DVD

How can you say that? I mean I can sort of get where your coming from but REALLY?

I know im going to sound like an absolute twat for this sentance but relationships with people tend to be similar to relationships with most other things in terms of progression. Its the visuals, the aesthetics that first catch your eye and drag you in but its only a connection on a deeper level that keeps a relationship going and for me at least this applies for most things. Even if you dont value it as an integrul part you cant deny it as a catalyst.

Denying sex (aesthetics) as a key foundation in a relationship is not only wrong in many ways but quite mean. Could you honestly look at someone your in a sexual relationship with and say "Hey I love hanging out with you but I am not the least bit interested in you physically" FUCK THAT, I would hate to be with a girl who found me unappealing to look at. Its not natural, its not nice and even though there is far more to a good sexual relationship then JUST sex casting it in the negative way your making it out to be, just seems wrong to me.

I know there are exceptions, I know there are people who truly dont care but I at least am not one of them and for you to look down on people like me because I find it insensitive, calling me shallow and what ever else, really is offensive. Not that im to bothered, I get stick off my Mum every now and then for not finding overweight girls attractive so im used to it.

Y'know what's also pretty damn offensive? You saying the part I emphasised. You may not be aware of it, but there are people in this world right now, trying their best to please their significant other by having sex with them despite feeling disgusted by sex. It might not be nice, but they're just as much of a natural occurrence as you are. Just like sex is a basic need to most people, the emotional connection and other benefits of long-term relationships are a basic need to them, so it's not like they have much of a choice, especially with everyone and their mother saying that there's something wrong with them for not liking sex so they keep trying.

If you think you have it bad because your mother occasionally gives you smack, try having no choice but to live in relationships where you're constantly expected to take the bullet and do your best to nurture your relationship in a way that makes you feel sick or else be dumped and told that there's something wrong with you and that you're some sort of freak of nature.

Ok, I agree. Your right its a two way street. Its not fair for these people to be looked at like freaks as much as it is for me to be seen as shallow.

I apologise for the way I put my previous comment (at least the last bit) as it is a tad preachy and it was twatish of me to focus in on only the negative, sorry. Its just the way you put how what MovieBob focused on as speeching volumes about him as this has been something constantly cramed down my throat. Ive had stick from my friends as well on this matter were theyve tried setting me up with girls in the past and ive said no because I did not find them sexualy attractive. I still enjoyed hanging out with them in a group I just did not want a relationship with someone I did not find attractive and I refuse to accept that this makes me some sort of pig.

I understand that there is a deeper connection required for a good relationship and one of these is the ability to understand what makes your "other half" tick and weather or not you tick the same boxs e.g. sex drive or as you mentioned a lack of. Everyones different and its just a massive annoyance to me when people judge but as I sort of did this in my previous post all I can do is again apologise for sounding so righteous.

 

[PunkRex]

Yeah..... Sorry Bobby, but i don't buy it. Sex isn't the be-all and end-all of romantic relationships, and relationships that are built around/fueled mostly by mutual physical attraction tend to feel flimsy and plastic in comparision to relationships that stem from gradual and progressive emotional involvement, at least in my experience. Indetifying Sex as the key ingredeant in devoloping a tangible relationship speaks volumes about yourself good sir.

Eh, anyway, between I Love You Too and Scott Pilgrim my Cinema Rom-Com quota is filled for this year. Probs check it out when it comes to DVD

How can you say that? I mean I can sort of get where your coming from but REALLY?

I know im going to sound like an absolute twat for this sentance but relationships with people tend to be similar to relationships with most other things in terms of progression. Its the visuals, the aesthetics that first catch your eye and drag you in but its only a connection on a deeper level that keeps a relationship going and for me at least this applies for most things. Even if you dont value it as an integrul part you cant deny it as a catalyst.

Denying sex (aesthetics) as a key foundation in a relationship is not only wrong in many ways but quite mean. Could you honestly look at someone your in a sexual relationship with and say "Hey I love hanging out with you but I am not the least bit interested in you physically" FUCK THAT, I would hate to be with a girl who found me unappealing to look at. Its not natural, its not nice and even though there is far more to a good sexual relationship then JUST sex casting it in the negative way your making it out to be, just seems wrong to me.

I know there are exceptions, I know there are people who truly dont care but I at least am not one of them and for you to look down on people like me because I find it insensitive, calling me shallow and what ever else, really is offensive. Not that im to bothered, I get stick off my Mum every now and then for not finding overweight girls attractive so im used to it.

Y'know what's also pretty damn offensive? You saying the part I emphasised. You may not be aware of it, but there are people in this world right now, trying their best to please their significant other by having sex with them despite feeling disgusted by sex. It might not be nice, but they're just as much of a natural occurrence as you are. Just like sex is a basic need to most people, the emotional connection and other benefits of long-term relationships are a basic need to them, so it's not like they have much of a choice, especially with everyone and their mother saying that there's something wrong with them for not liking sex so they keep trying.

If you think you have it bad because your mother occasionally gives you smack, try having no choice but to live in relationships where you're constantly expected to take the bullet and do your best to nurture your relationship in a way that makes you feel sick or else be dumped and told that there's something wrong with you and that you're some sort of freak of nature.

Sex is as important as being emotionally invested in someone. It's 50/50. Sex is not more or better than having an emotional relationship, but it's equal to it. If you're not sexually compatible then it's obvious you guys are not meant for each other. Sex is very important, just like having an emotional investment with the person is. I'm baffled at the comments here. I would have never thought The Escapist would attract so many sexually conservative people, or should I say sexually dissatisfied individuals. I was in school a couple of hours ago and showed my friend, who is a 23 year old girl, some of the comments here and she can't believe some of the comments posted. She wonders if any females commented on this forum.

I don't want to sound mean, but what the fuck is wrong with you people? It's very obvious a lot, not all, have had little experience in this department.

Again, it's all about sexual compatibility. If you are not compatible with that person then it's more than a good enough reason to leave, or live a miserable life like you stated. If you don't like sex then look for someone who doesn't like it as well. Also, it's pretty obvious you're talking about yourself.

Sorry if I miss understood your comment guy but I think you may have misunderstood Verps a little. He was not saying that those with no sexual compatability should try to relate on a deeper level and be happy with that, he was saying that there was another side of MY argument that I ignored. I think I may be the one at fault here, I think my previous comment may have been to focused on the negative side of the argument.

You are right, it is split down the middle for most however there are those who are fine with either one or the other. I had a friend who dated several overweight ladies and when I asked weather or not he was attracted to larger girls he said no. He said he did not really see the difference which is healthy (I assume) but he still made a point about their sex. I suppose there are different outlets for different emotions.

 

[Verp]

Yeah..... Sorry Bobby, but i don't buy it. Sex isn't the be-all and end-all of romantic relationships, and relationships that are built around/fueled mostly by mutual physical attraction tend to feel flimsy and plastic in comparision to relationships that stem from gradual and progressive emotional involvement, at least in my experience. Indetifying Sex as the key ingredeant in devoloping a tangible relationship speaks volumes about yourself good sir.

Eh, anyway, between I Love You Too and Scott Pilgrim my Cinema Rom-Com quota is filled for this year. Probs check it out when it comes to DVD

How can you say that? I mean I can sort of get where your coming from but REALLY?

I know im going to sound like an absolute twat for this sentance but relationships with people tend to be similar to relationships with most other things in terms of progression. Its the visuals, the aesthetics that first catch your eye and drag you in but its only a connection on a deeper level that keeps a relationship going and for me at least this applies for most things. Even if you dont value it as an integrul part you cant deny it as a catalyst.

Denying sex (aesthetics) as a key foundation in a relationship is not only wrong in many ways but quite mean. Could you honestly look at someone your in a sexual relationship with and say "Hey I love hanging out with you but I am not the least bit interested in you physically" FUCK THAT, I would hate to be with a girl who found me unappealing to look at. Its not natural, its not nice and even though there is far more to a good sexual relationship then JUST sex casting it in the negative way your making it out to be, just seems wrong to me.

I know there are exceptions, I know there are people who truly dont care but I at least am not one of them and for you to look down on people like me because I find it insensitive, calling me shallow and what ever else, really is offensive. Not that im to bothered, I get stick off my Mum every now and then for not finding overweight girls attractive so im used to it.

Y'know what's also pretty damn offensive? You saying the part I emphasised. You may not be aware of it, but there are people in this world right now, trying their best to please their significant other by having sex with them despite feeling disgusted by sex. It might not be nice, but they're just as much of a natural occurrence as you are. Just like sex is a basic need to most people, the emotional connection and other benefits of long-term relationships are a basic need to them, so it's not like they have much of a choice, especially with everyone and their mother saying that there's something wrong with them for not liking sex so they keep trying.

If you think you have it bad because your mother occasionally gives you smack, try having no choice but to live in relationships where you're constantly expected to take the bullet and do your best to nurture your relationship in a way that makes you feel sick or else be dumped and told that there's something wrong with you and that you're some sort of freak of nature.

Sex is as important as being emotionally invested in someone. It's 50/50. Sex is not more or better than having an emotional relationship, but it's equal to it. If you're not sexually compatible then it's obvious you guys are not meant for each other. Sex is very important, just like having an emotional investment with the person is. I'm baffled at the comments here. I would have never thought The Escapist would attract so many sexually conservative people, or should I say sexually dissatisfied individuals. I was in school a couple of hours ago and showed my friend, who is a 23 year old girl, some of the comments here and she can't believe some of the comments posted. She wonders if any females commented on this forum.

I don't want to sound mean, but what the fuck is wrong with you people? It's very obvious a lot, not all, have had little experience in this department.

Again, it's all about sexual compatibility. If you are not compatible with that person then it's more than a good enough reason to leave, or live a miserable life like you stated. If you don't like sex then look for someone who doesn't like it as well. Also, it's pretty obvious you're talking about yourself.

It's NOT 50/50, it's anywhere between 100/0 to 0/100 depending on the individual.

To you it may be 50/50, to your friend it may be 50/50, and to everyone you personally know it may be 50/50, but you and those people are not everyone or even the majority of people. On the extreme end of the spectrum there are romantic asexuals who only crave the emotional side of a romantic relationship and on the opposite side of the spectrum there are aromantic sexuals who pretty much only need the sex. Most people are located somewhere between and as a bonus, there are people like me who fall outside the spectrum altogether: people who crave a solid ratio of 0/0 when it comes to sexual intimacy and romantic intimacy, collectively known as aromantic asexuals.

Try to get it through your head that generalisations like "Everyone wants this and this is how much they want it compared to this" do not work no matter what you're talking about, whether it's romantic relationships or the ratio of milk to coffee.

Also, I'm not sexually conservative, I'm very liberal about sex. I think everyone should be able to do whatever the fuck they want with their sexual lives as long as the participating individuals (if living) consent to it and no expectations should be forced down anyone's throat. The truth is though, the expectation that everyone likes sex and values it all the same is a misconception, a harmful one, because it simply isn't true and it will never be true.

 

[370999]

Love & Other Drugs

This week MovieBob takes a long hard look at Love & Other Drugs.

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I'm going to assume when you're saying "all [insert actresses here] movies put together" you're just talking about their romantic comedies, and not including things like Meg Ryan in InnerSpace or Sandra Bullock in The Blind Side.

Bob hates the blind side, thinks it has racist undertones.

Not going to deny that, but think about this: it was based on real life. Real life people have racist undertones. Therefore, according to Bob's logic from this video, it should be good because it's like reality.

It's kind of hard to do a movie that depicts people doing racist things without the movie itself being called racist.
The movie itself is not racist. It's about real people, some of whom are racist, doing real things.

Never saw it so I can't comment

 

[dekster]

Why is everybody getting so hung up on this? Bob didn't say that the ONLY reason why a movie is good and realistic, is if the characters are going at it. He simply said that these kinds of movies usually suck because they pretend that sex doesn't exist. And that's exactly what they do. It's in a way the exact opposite of porn, where sexual desires is all that exists, with total lack of emotion.

I don't think he meant that a movie necessarily needs to feature sex scenes to be realistic, rather than the characters not being completely unaware of sex and sexual attraction. Even if a character were asexual, I'd think they'd be very aware that sex exists and also very aware and afraid, that the person they love might not feel the same way about it and maybe wants to have sex one day, a need that they can't please. So yes, not everybody feels that sex is a very important part of a relationship. Sure, not every love is based on physical attraction. But sex exists and while it's nice to actually care about someone's personality and even nicer if that's more important to you than appearance, we all know that the physical part is still an important one of a relationship and even if you don't particularly like it or want to practice it, you are at least well aware of it's existence.

So what Bob critizises, is not lack of sex and nudity but lack of realistic behavior. The character's missing sexual drive is not an actual part of their personality or the script, but either (or a combination of) bad writing and basicly a forced inconsistency, simply there so they can also collect the money of those people, who are so afraid of sex and children, who aren't supposed to know about it anyway (or at least only know of it as a pure technical thing to reproduce, but sure as hell not that it could be fun).

It's not new, that business decisions tend to harm the quality of a movie and since RomComs are built around relationships, they're messing with the core of the movie which is pretty damn harmful, I'd say. Still, that doesn't mean that you can't enjoy these movies, it just means that they aren't particularly good or believable.

 

[VenusInFurs]

Yeah..... Sorry Bobby, but i don't buy it. Sex isn't the be-all and end-all of romantic relationships, and relationships that are built around/fueled mostly by mutual physical attraction tend to feel flimsy and plastic in comparision to relationships that stem from gradual and progressive emotional involvement, at least in my experience. Indetifying Sex as the key ingredeant in devoloping a tangible relationship speaks volumes about yourself good sir.

Eh, anyway, between I Love You Too and Scott Pilgrim my Cinema Rom-Com quota is filled for this year. Probs check it out when it comes to DVD

How can you say that? I mean I can sort of get where your coming from but REALLY?

I know im going to sound like an absolute twat for this sentance but relationships with people tend to be similar to relationships with most other things in terms of progression. Its the visuals, the aesthetics that first catch your eye and drag you in but its only a connection on a deeper level that keeps a relationship going and for me at least this applies for most things. Even if you dont value it as an integrul part you cant deny it as a catalyst.

Denying sex (aesthetics) as a key foundation in a relationship is not only wrong in many ways but quite mean. Could you honestly look at someone your in a sexual relationship with and say "Hey I love hanging out with you but I am not the least bit interested in you physically" FUCK THAT, I would hate to be with a girl who found me unappealing to look at. Its not natural, its not nice and even though there is far more to a good sexual relationship then JUST sex casting it in the negative way your making it out to be, just seems wrong to me.

I know there are exceptions, I know there are people who truly dont care but I at least am not one of them and for you to look down on people like me because I find it insensitive, calling me shallow and what ever else, really is offensive. Not that im to bothered, I get stick off my Mum every now and then for not finding overweight girls attractive so im used to it.

Y'know what's also pretty damn offensive? You saying the part I emphasised. You may not be aware of it, but there are people in this world right now, trying their best to please their significant other by having sex with them despite feeling disgusted by sex. It might not be nice, but they're just as much of a natural occurrence as you are. Just like sex is a basic need to most people, the emotional connection and other benefits of long-term relationships are a basic need to them, so it's not like they have much of a choice, especially with everyone and their mother saying that there's something wrong with them for not liking sex so they keep trying.

If you think you have it bad because your mother occasionally gives you smack, try having no choice but to live in relationships where you're constantly expected to take the bullet and do your best to nurture your relationship in a way that makes you feel sick or else be dumped and told that there's something wrong with you and that you're some sort of freak of nature.

Sex is as important as being emotionally invested in someone. It's 50/50. Sex is not more or better than having an emotional relationship, but it's equal to it. If you're not sexually compatible then it's obvious you guys are not meant for each other. Sex is very important, just like having an emotional investment with the person is. I'm baffled at the comments here. I would have never thought The Escapist would attract so many sexually conservative people, or should I say sexually dissatisfied individuals. I was in school a couple of hours ago and showed my friend, who is a 23 year old girl, some of the comments here and she can't believe some of the comments posted. She wonders if any females commented on this forum.

I don't want to sound mean, but what the fuck is wrong with you people? It's very obvious a lot, not all, have had little experience in this department.

Again, it's all about sexual compatibility. If you are not compatible with that person then it's more than a good enough reason to leave, or live a miserable life like you stated. If you don't like sex then look for someone who doesn't like it as well. Also, it's pretty obvious you're talking about yourself.

It's NOT 50/50, it's anywhere between 100/0 to 0/100 depending on the individual.

To you it may be 50/50, to your friend it may be 50/50, and to everyone you personally know it may be 50/50, but you and those people are not everyone or even the majority of people. On the extreme end of the spectrum there are romantic asexuals who only crave the emotional side of a romantic relationship and on the opposite side of the spectrum there are aromantic sexuals who pretty much only need the sex. Most people are located somewhere between and as a bonus, there are people like me who fall outside the spectrum altogether: people who crave a solid ratio of 0/0 when it comes to sexual intimacy and romantic intimacy, collectively known as aromantic asexuals.

Try to get it through your head that generalisations like "Everyone wants this and this is how much they want it compared to this" do not work no matter what you're talking about, whether it's romantic relationships or the ratio of milk to coffee.

Also, I'm not sexually conservative, I'm very liberal about sex. I think everyone should be able to do whatever the fuck they want with their sexual lives as long as the participating individuals (if living) consent to it and no expectations should be forced down anyone's throat. The truth is though, the expectation that everyone likes sex and values it all the same is a misconception, a harmful one, because it simply isn't true and it will never be true.

What part of " If you don't like sex then look for someone who doesn't like it as well" you didn't understand? I never said he was a "freak" or insulted him. My problem is that he stated his opinion as fact. Also, asexual are a minority. I've met them. They do exist, but it's not a majority. Humans are animals. We're sexual animals with needs. Did you know that humans are the only animals that can have sex for more then two minutes? There is a reason for that, but I digress.

 

[Verp]

Yeah..... Sorry Bobby, but i don't buy it. Sex isn't the be-all and end-all of romantic relationships, and relationships that are built around/fueled mostly by mutual physical attraction tend to feel flimsy and plastic in comparision to relationships that stem from gradual and progressive emotional involvement, at least in my experience. Indetifying Sex as the key ingredeant in devoloping a tangible relationship speaks volumes about yourself good sir.

Eh, anyway, between I Love You Too and Scott Pilgrim my Cinema Rom-Com quota is filled for this year. Probs check it out when it comes to DVD

How can you say that? I mean I can sort of get where your coming from but REALLY?

I know im going to sound like an absolute twat for this sentance but relationships with people tend to be similar to relationships with most other things in terms of progression. Its the visuals, the aesthetics that first catch your eye and drag you in but its only a connection on a deeper level that keeps a relationship going and for me at least this applies for most things. Even if you dont value it as an integrul part you cant deny it as a catalyst.

Denying sex (aesthetics) as a key foundation in a relationship is not only wrong in many ways but quite mean. Could you honestly look at someone your in a sexual relationship with and say "Hey I love hanging out with you but I am not the least bit interested in you physically" FUCK THAT, I would hate to be with a girl who found me unappealing to look at. Its not natural, its not nice and even though there is far more to a good sexual relationship then JUST sex casting it in the negative way your making it out to be, just seems wrong to me.

I know there are exceptions, I know there are people who truly dont care but I at least am not one of them and for you to look down on people like me because I find it insensitive, calling me shallow and what ever else, really is offensive. Not that im to bothered, I get stick off my Mum every now and then for not finding overweight girls attractive so im used to it.

Y'know what's also pretty damn offensive? You saying the part I emphasised. You may not be aware of it, but there are people in this world right now, trying their best to please their significant other by having sex with them despite feeling disgusted by sex. It might not be nice, but they're just as much of a natural occurrence as you are. Just like sex is a basic need to most people, the emotional connection and other benefits of long-term relationships are a basic need to them, so it's not like they have much of a choice, especially with everyone and their mother saying that there's something wrong with them for not liking sex so they keep trying.

If you think you have it bad because your mother occasionally gives you smack, try having no choice but to live in relationships where you're constantly expected to take the bullet and do your best to nurture your relationship in a way that makes you feel sick or else be dumped and told that there's something wrong with you and that you're some sort of freak of nature.

Sex is as important as being emotionally invested in someone. It's 50/50. Sex is not more or better than having an emotional relationship, but it's equal to it. If you're not sexually compatible then it's obvious you guys are not meant for each other. Sex is very important, just like having an emotional investment with the person is. I'm baffled at the comments here. I would have never thought The Escapist would attract so many sexually conservative people, or should I say sexually dissatisfied individuals. I was in school a couple of hours ago and showed my friend, who is a 23 year old girl, some of the comments here and she can't believe some of the comments posted. She wonders if any females commented on this forum.

I don't want to sound mean, but what the fuck is wrong with you people? It's very obvious a lot, not all, have had little experience in this department.

Again, it's all about sexual compatibility. If you are not compatible with that person then it's more than a good enough reason to leave, or live a miserable life like you stated. If you don't like sex then look for someone who doesn't like it as well. Also, it's pretty obvious you're talking about yourself.

It's NOT 50/50, it's anywhere between 100/0 to 0/100 depending on the individual.

To you it may be 50/50, to your friend it may be 50/50, and to everyone you personally know it may be 50/50, but you and those people are not everyone or even the majority of people. On the extreme end of the spectrum there are romantic asexuals who only crave the emotional side of a romantic relationship and on the opposite side of the spectrum there are aromantic sexuals who pretty much only need the sex. Most people are located somewhere between and as a bonus, there are people like me who fall outside the spectrum altogether: people who crave a solid ratio of 0/0 when it comes to sexual intimacy and romantic intimacy, collectively known as aromantic asexuals.

Try to get it through your head that generalisations like "Everyone wants this and this is how much they want it compared to this" do not work no matter what you're talking about, whether it's romantic relationships or the ratio of milk to coffee.

Also, I'm not sexually conservative, I'm very liberal about sex. I think everyone should be able to do whatever the fuck they want with their sexual lives as long as the participating individuals (if living) consent to it and no expectations should be forced down anyone's throat. The truth is though, the expectation that everyone likes sex and values it all the same is a misconception, a harmful one, because it simply isn't true and it will never be true.

What part of " If you don't like sex then look for someone who doesn't like it as well" you didn't understand? I never said he was a "freak" or insulted him. My problem is that he stated his opinion as fact. Also, asexual are a minority. I've met them. They do exist, but it's not a majority. Humans are animals. We're sexual animals with needs. Did you know that humans are the only animals that can have sex for more then two minutes? There is a reason for that, but I digress.

... What have you been smoking? There are lots of animal species that can have sex more than two minutes at a time. There are animal species that have dozens of frequent, separate short sessions for hours and then there are some, like tortoises and rhinos, who really, really take their time with just one act. Hell, even something like a dragonfly mating takes longer than that, which is why they need to be able to take off and fly even during mating.

 

[PunkRex]

Yeah..... Sorry Bobby, but i don't buy it. Sex isn't the be-all and end-all of romantic relationships, and relationships that are built around/fueled mostly by mutual physical attraction tend to feel flimsy and plastic in comparision to relationships that stem from gradual and progressive emotional involvement, at least in my experience. Indetifying Sex as the key ingredeant in devoloping a tangible relationship speaks volumes about yourself good sir.

Eh, anyway, between I Love You Too and Scott Pilgrim my Cinema Rom-Com quota is filled for this year. Probs check it out when it comes to DVD

How can you say that? I mean I can sort of get where your coming from but REALLY?

I know im going to sound like an absolute twat for this sentance but relationships with people tend to be similar to relationships with most other things in terms of progression. Its the visuals, the aesthetics that first catch your eye and drag you in but its only a connection on a deeper level that keeps a relationship going and for me at least this applies for most things. Even if you dont value it as an integrul part you cant deny it as a catalyst.

Denying sex (aesthetics) as a key foundation in a relationship is not only wrong in many ways but quite mean. Could you honestly look at someone your in a sexual relationship with and say "Hey I love hanging out with you but I am not the least bit interested in you physically" FUCK THAT, I would hate to be with a girl who found me unappealing to look at. Its not natural, its not nice and even though there is far more to a good sexual relationship then JUST sex casting it in the negative way your making it out to be, just seems wrong to me.

I know there are exceptions, I know there are people who truly dont care but I at least am not one of them and for you to look down on people like me because I find it insensitive, calling me shallow and what ever else, really is offensive. Not that im to bothered, I get stick off my Mum every now and then for not finding overweight girls attractive so im used to it.

Y'know what's also pretty damn offensive? You saying the part I emphasised. You may not be aware of it, but there are people in this world right now, trying their best to please their significant other by having sex with them despite feeling disgusted by sex. It might not be nice, but they're just as much of a natural occurrence as you are. Just like sex is a basic need to most people, the emotional connection and other benefits of long-term relationships are a basic need to them, so it's not like they have much of a choice, especially with everyone and their mother saying that there's something wrong with them for not liking sex so they keep trying.

If you think you have it bad because your mother occasionally gives you smack, try having no choice but to live in relationships where you're constantly expected to take the bullet and do your best to nurture your relationship in a way that makes you feel sick or else be dumped and told that there's something wrong with you and that you're some sort of freak of nature.

Sex is as important as being emotionally invested in someone. It's 50/50. Sex is not more or better than having an emotional relationship, but it's equal to it. If you're not sexually compatible then it's obvious you guys are not meant for each other. Sex is very important, just like having an emotional investment with the person is. I'm baffled at the comments here. I would have never thought The Escapist would attract so many sexually conservative people, or should I say sexually dissatisfied individuals. I was in school a couple of hours ago and showed my friend, who is a 23 year old girl, some of the comments here and she can't believe some of the comments posted. She wonders if any females commented on this forum.

I don't want to sound mean, but what the fuck is wrong with you people? It's very obvious a lot, not all, have had little experience in this department.

Again, it's all about sexual compatibility. If you are not compatible with that person then it's more than a good enough reason to leave, or live a miserable life like you stated. If you don't like sex then look for someone who doesn't like it as well. Also, it's pretty obvious you're talking about yourself.

It's NOT 50/50, it's anywhere between 100/0 to 0/100 depending on the individual.

To you it may be 50/50, to your friend it may be 50/50, and to everyone you personally know it may be 50/50, but you and those people are not everyone or even the majority of people. On the extreme end of the spectrum there are romantic asexuals who only crave the emotional side of a romantic relationship and on the opposite side of the spectrum there are aromantic sexuals who pretty much only need the sex. Most people are located somewhere between and as a bonus, there are people like me who fall outside the spectrum altogether: people who crave a solid ratio of 0/0 when it comes to sexual intimacy and romantic intimacy, collectively known as aromantic asexuals.

Try to get it through your head that generalisations like "Everyone wants this and this is how much they want it compared to this" do not work no matter what you're talking about, whether it's romantic relationships or the ratio of milk to coffee.

Also, I'm not sexually conservative, I'm very liberal about sex. I think everyone should be able to do whatever the fuck they want with their sexual lives as long as the participating individuals (if living) consent to it and no expectations should be forced down anyone's throat. The truth is though, the expectation that everyone likes sex and values it all the same is a misconception, a harmful one, because it simply isn't true and it will never be true.

What part of " If you don't like sex then look for someone who doesn't like it as well" you didn't understand? I never said he was a "freak" or insulted him. My problem is that he stated his opinion as fact. Also, asexual are a minority. I've met them. They do exist, but it's not a majority. Humans are animals. We're sexual animals with needs. Did you know that humans are the only animals that can have sex for more then two minutes? There is a reason for that, but I digress.

MORE THEN TWO MINUTES!!! I better practice more...

 

[PunkRex]

Yeah..... Sorry Bobby, but i don't buy it. Sex isn't the be-all and end-all of romantic relationships, and relationships that are built around/fueled mostly by mutual physical attraction tend to feel flimsy and plastic in comparision to relationships that stem from gradual and progressive emotional involvement, at least in my experience. Indetifying Sex as the key ingredeant in devoloping a tangible relationship speaks volumes about yourself good sir.

Eh, anyway, between I Love You Too and Scott Pilgrim my Cinema Rom-Com quota is filled for this year. Probs check it out when it comes to DVD

How can you say that? I mean I can sort of get where your coming from but REALLY?

I know im going to sound like an absolute twat for this sentance but relationships with people tend to be similar to relationships with most other things in terms of progression. Its the visuals, the aesthetics that first catch your eye and drag you in but its only a connection on a deeper level that keeps a relationship going and for me at least this applies for most things. Even if you dont value it as an integrul part you cant deny it as a catalyst.

Denying sex (aesthetics) as a key foundation in a relationship is not only wrong in many ways but quite mean. Could you honestly look at someone your in a sexual relationship with and say "Hey I love hanging out with you but I am not the least bit interested in you physically" FUCK THAT, I would hate to be with a girl who found me unappealing to look at. Its not natural, its not nice and even though there is far more to a good sexual relationship then JUST sex casting it in the negative way your making it out to be, just seems wrong to me.

I know there are exceptions, I know there are people who truly dont care but I at least am not one of them and for you to look down on people like me because I find it insensitive, calling me shallow and what ever else, really is offensive. Not that im to bothered, I get stick off my Mum every now and then for not finding overweight girls attractive so im used to it.

Y'know what's also pretty damn offensive? You saying the part I emphasised. You may not be aware of it, but there are people in this world right now, trying their best to please their significant other by having sex with them despite feeling disgusted by sex. It might not be nice, but they're just as much of a natural occurrence as you are. Just like sex is a basic need to most people, the emotional connection and other benefits of long-term relationships are a basic need to them, so it's not like they have much of a choice, especially with everyone and their mother saying that there's something wrong with them for not liking sex so they keep trying.

If you think you have it bad because your mother occasionally gives you smack, try having no choice but to live in relationships where you're constantly expected to take the bullet and do your best to nurture your relationship in a way that makes you feel sick or else be dumped and told that there's something wrong with you and that you're some sort of freak of nature.

Sex is as important as being emotionally invested in someone. It's 50/50. Sex is not more or better than having an emotional relationship, but it's equal to it. If you're not sexually compatible then it's obvious you guys are not meant for each other. Sex is very important, just like having an emotional investment with the person is. I'm baffled at the comments here. I would have never thought The Escapist would attract so many sexually conservative people, or should I say sexually dissatisfied individuals. I was in school a couple of hours ago and showed my friend, who is a 23 year old girl, some of the comments here and she can't believe some of the comments posted. She wonders if any females commented on this forum.

I don't want to sound mean, but what the fuck is wrong with you people? It's very obvious a lot, not all, have had little experience in this department.

Again, it's all about sexual compatibility. If you are not compatible with that person then it's more than a good enough reason to leave, or live a miserable life like you stated. If you don't like sex then look for someone who doesn't like it as well. Also, it's pretty obvious you're talking about yourself.

It's NOT 50/50, it's anywhere between 100/0 to 0/100 depending on the individual.

To you it may be 50/50, to your friend it may be 50/50, and to everyone you personally know it may be 50/50, but you and those people are not everyone or even the majority of people. On the extreme end of the spectrum there are romantic asexuals who only crave the emotional side of a romantic relationship and on the opposite side of the spectrum there are aromantic sexuals who pretty much only need the sex. Most people are located somewhere between and as a bonus, there are people like me who fall outside the spectrum altogether: people who crave a solid ratio of 0/0 when it comes to sexual intimacy and romantic intimacy, collectively known as aromantic asexuals.

Try to get it through your head that generalisations like "Everyone wants this and this is how much they want it compared to this" do not work no matter what you're talking about, whether it's romantic relationships or the ratio of milk to coffee.

Also, I'm not sexually conservative, I'm very liberal about sex. I think everyone should be able to do whatever the fuck they want with their sexual lives as long as the participating individuals (if living) consent to it and no expectations should be forced down anyone's throat. The truth is though, the expectation that everyone likes sex and values it all the same is a misconception, a harmful one, because it simply isn't true and it will never be true.

What part of " If you don't like sex then look for someone who doesn't like it as well" you didn't understand? I never said he was a "freak" or insulted him. My problem is that he stated his opinion as fact. Also, asexual are a minority. I've met them. They do exist, but it's not a majority. Humans are animals. We're sexual animals with needs. Did you know that humans are the only animals that can have sex for more then two minutes? There is a reason for that, but I digress.

... What have you been smoking? There are lots of animal species that can have sex more than two minutes at a time. There are animal species that have dozens of frequent, separate short sessions for hours and then there are some, like tortoises and rhinos, who really, really take their time with just one act. Hell, even something like a dragonfly mating takes longer than that, which is why they need to be able to take off and fly even during mating.

I just saw Life in the Under-growth and slugs take hours, they turn into sex chandeliers, its REALLY weird yet slightly hipnotic.

 

[Verp]

I just saw Life in the Under-growth and slugs take hours, they turn into sex chandeliers, its REALLY weird yet slightly hipnotic.

Were they leopard slugs? The bizarre stuff they do is the stuff of legends.

My favourite mating practice belongs to flatworms -- they go through what is called penis fencing. Penis fencing. They have a duel with their reproductive organs and the one who gets stabbed first has to carry the offspring. How awesome is that?

 

[simonzephyr]

you are just the worst and most stereotypically terrible movie critiec ever, other people like different films, for an audience of rom coms, and that not just poeples mums, this will be good as are many of the other movies. you highlight everything wrong with critics.

 

[ZippyDSMlee]

Mmmmm I like romantic comedy and tend to hate T&A, the point of a romantic comedy is a lite take on life while tugging at some emotions while they may be stabs in the dark others are more for the imagination of the viewer to feel in where they are being groped... anyway good review... for a prev.....

 

[ZippyDSMlee]

you are just the worst and most stereotypically terrible movie critiec ever, other people like different films, for an audience of rom coms, and that not just poeples mums, this will be good as are many of the other movies. you highlight everything wrong with critics.

Ya he tends to think to much of himself and dose not stop loathing on things he hates.
While he may be pandering to geeks in their post pre teens and late 40's he is honest enough to ***** and moan about his issues with X or Y before bitching about why he dose not like something.

He only has 2 choices focusing on more generic issues with films in a more formalistic standard approach or go after what he thinks is wrong, one of these choices makes more a more bland and forgettable show. Also its more fun to rant at im for the bastard he is when he goes off teh cliff with teh rantz. lulz

 

[jonyboy13]

So if we uncover the very little bs Bob says, basically it's your everyday romantic comedy crap but with sex so Bob reccomends it.

 

[PunkRex]

I just saw Life in the Under-growth and slugs take hours, they turn into sex chandeliers, its REALLY weird yet slightly hipnotic.

Were they leopard slugs? The bizarre stuff they do is the stuff of legends.

My favourite mating practice belongs to flatworms -- they go through what is called penis fencing. Penis fencing. They have a duel with their reproductive organs and the one who gets stabbed first has to carry the offspring. How awesome is that?

Did you watch the Youtube video too? I would love to be an Argonaut, lauchable, homing penis... no escape.