Ethical Help Needed.

[WolfMage]

Look, I'll get to the point.
My best friend has a sister. I love this sister. She kinda likes me. I must know, is it ethical to date my best friends sister? And if I do, any advice on how not to fuck up my relationship with my friend or his sister?

Anyone who helped on Dayne Gonsalves' forum, I'm looking at you.

And I asked Jim, but I forgot his answer. ^_^"

 

[John Galt]

Not your personal therapist, but I say go for it. Can't see any reason that would piss someone off unless they were over-protective.

 

[Tsurugi]

Having a sister I can say it is hard for me to think of one of my friends going out with her. So on that note I think I would check with your friend first...you don't want to just leap into it without warning your friend because that might ruin your friendship.

 

[Aginor27]

First off ask your friend if he has any problems with it. If he does just say you'll try to keep the two things separate.

 

[Easykill]

Just be very sure that if the relationship ends, it ends very well.

 

[Ares Tyr]

Look, I'll get to the point.
My best friend has a sister. I love this sister. She kinda likes me. I must know, is it ethical to date my best friends sister? And if I do, any advice on how not to fuck up my relationship with my friend or his sister?

Anyone who helped on Dayne Gonsalves' forum, I'm looking at you.

And I asked Jim, but I forgot his answer. ^_^"

I'd say plow her, and then tell your friend all about it.

But honestly, I don't see the problem with it. Just try to be sure your friend is cool with it and doesn't have an adverse reaction to it. And also don't be a meanie to her, because thats a good way to lose a friend and girlfriend all at once.

 

[Chemotherapy]

If he's your best friend, you can talk to him about it. You don't really need our advice; just talk to your friend and sort it out together.

 

[Lvl 64 Klutz]

It depends how old you are, in my opinion. If you're in High School, I can guarantee there's only a slim chance of the relationship going well, and if it ends it has a somewhat good chance of screwing up your friendship. In High school, everyone changes so much that maintaining a relationship beyond is unrealistic, but friendships have a much better chance of surviving.

Learned all that the hard way.

 

[Calobi]

I'd say plow her, and then tell your friend all about it.

Ah yes, the Internet. Quite possibly the best place for help, especially ethical help.

But really, I have a friend who has a sister that basically all our other friends have, at one point, gone out with. He seems OK with them doing it, if a little weirded-out at times. So, like others have said, just check first. And if you really like her and she really likes you, your friend shouldn't have any problem with it, unless you do something really bad to her, in which case you deserve whatever happens.

 

[BardSeed]

There's no point asking about ethics, I have a firm belief that the individual defines his or her own code of ethics.
See what your friend thinks and if he doesn't agree with it then you'll just have to decide which is more important.

 

[howard_hughes]

If you're in High school it's doubtful you'll be hanging out with him very much after you go to college any ways. Go forth and date his sister, the relationship wont last but it'll make a few good memories and you'll grow as a person.

 

[Ronmarru]

All ye bow to the master of advice!(trumpets announce my entrance). Sorry 'bout that. This is heavily age depentant, if you're under, say, 25 then no. Life-long relationships don't tend to start until your 30's (statistically speaking). Breaking up with her would make things rocky with him, unless he's really cool about it. Think of it like this: both his and her feeling toward you are linked. That is if you hurt her, she'll tell him, and your friendship might be called into question. Tell him(don't ask) that you're going to see her and judge his reactions.
Just be prepared to put your friendship on line if things go sour.

Let us know how things turn out!

 

[Ares Tyr]

I'd say plow her, and then tell your friend all about it.

Ah yes, the Internet. Quite possibly the best place for help, especially ethical help.

But really, I have a friend who has a sister that basically all our other friends have, at one point, gone out with. He seems OK with them doing it, if a little weirded-out at times. So, like others have said, just check first. And if you really like her and she really likes you, your friend shouldn't have any problem with it, unless you do something really bad to her, in which case you deserve whatever happens.

Internet = serious business...

Bu I offered serious advice. It just took an edit.

 

[Drmortuss]

Dude, just ask your friend, and if he says no, show him that it would be a good thing if you and his sister hooked up. I was in the same boat but mines easier as he's in Korea for the time being.

 

[syrinx black]

I have witnessed this situation a few times and all of the times the guy ended up going out with the sister and it ended up being fine. That said I don't know your friend, he could be super protective. I think it is just best to man it up and confront the situation head on. Talk to him and sort it out, be blunt and honest.

 

[The Wooster]

Look, I'll get to the point.
My best friend has a sister. I love this sister. She kinda likes me. I must know, is it ethical to date my best friends sister? And if I do, any advice on how not to fuck up my relationship with my friend or his sister?

Anyone who helped on Dayne Gonsalves' forum, I'm looking at you.

And I asked Jim, but I forgot his answer. ^_^"

Just do it. Then go and see your therapist because your life sounds like an episode of boy meets world.

 

[Sayvara]

Look, I'll get to the point.
My best friend has a sister. I love this sister. She kinda likes me. I must know, is it ethical to date my best friends sister? And if I do, any advice on how not to fuck up my relationship with my friend or his sister?

This may sound harsh... but it actually isn't:

What a silly question! Of course it's allright to get into a relationship! Why wouldn't it be?! It's nto as if the brother owns her or anything.

You want to not mess up the relationship with yoru friend? Well... don't make the girl sad or be unfaithful or anything like that.

/S

 

[Altorin]

I found, when my best friend dated my sister, I spent a lot more time with him, as he was ALWAYS over at my house

the only drawback though, is when he broke up with my sister

now I NEVER see him, and he's moved onto other friends leaving me all alone