Explain teenage mothers to me
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Yeah, becuse calling someone stupid without giving an argument as to why isn't at all cuntish. And I'm well aware I'm being a *****, captain obvious.Colour-Scientist said:
And yes, it's really great for her that she's pulled through, as I stated, but again not everyone is that fucking lucky and prepared. In fact, most people are not at all that lucky and prepared. She's the exception, not the majority.
That does not happen often in the netherlands most schools teach "it" in dedicated biology lessons
Here you practically get a lesson on every fucking thing about sex
Hell they even showed me every type of condom and to show how they were used they brought a life size pink dildo.
oh and they also showed you lets just say......... questionable images
they even had you a test about the menstruation cycle alone and every genital dissease you can get
Oh god those were horrible lessons
Almost everybody vomited atleast once from the images they showed
Is this overkill?
Here you practically get a lesson on every fucking thing about sex
Hell they even showed me every type of condom and to show how they were used they brought a life size pink dildo.
oh and they also showed you lets just say......... questionable images
they even had you a test about the menstruation cycle alone and every genital dissease you can get
Oh god those were horrible lessons
Almost everybody vomited atleast once from the images they showed
Is this overkill?
Violent thread at times.
What this comes down to is a person to person basis. Overall, most teenagers are not ready for children, that is true.
Also overall is that most *adults* nowadays aren't either. I've known, and are friends with teen moms who are doing great, as well as government moochers and others that struggle.
You cannot lump them all together in an overall category.
As a foster parent, it's not very often I deal with teen parents...later 20s through the late 30s seem to be far worse parents than most teenage ones.
That is just my personal experience.
What this comes down to is a person to person basis. Overall, most teenagers are not ready for children, that is true.
Also overall is that most *adults* nowadays aren't either. I've known, and are friends with teen moms who are doing great, as well as government moochers and others that struggle.
You cannot lump them all together in an overall category.
As a foster parent, it's not very often I deal with teen parents...later 20s through the late 30s seem to be far worse parents than most teenage ones.
That is just my personal experience.
It's human stupidity at it's finest. Now before people all start flaming me at once, just go with me on this. At least when I was in school, kids were bombarded with information on how getting pregnant (or getting someone pregnant in my case) as a teenager was a bad idea as well as dozens of ways to avoid doing that and even a few for what to do just in case it happened anyway. Now assuming that this education is still being made readily available to our young people and despite that we still have teenage moms running around all over the place. If that's not stupidity then I don't know what is.
They want children for the same reasons older women want them. There really isn't a difference between a teenager who wants a baby and a woman who wants one.
My guess is a lot of them delude themselves into thinking everything will be bliss and happiness; she'll get married with her prince charming (who promises they'll get married and have a family, tells her everything she wants to hear), that everything will be perfect happy happy joy joy. Thinks getting pregnant will be great and they'll be together forever, and they'll live happily ever after and that the guy won't ever leave her.
Of course it's possible for that to happen, but it generally doesn't at that age. At that age people generally aren't quite ready to settle down, which is my guess on why so many of those relationships are doomed to fail (and part of the reason for such high divorce rates).
Of course it's possible for that to happen, but it generally doesn't at that age. At that age people generally aren't quite ready to settle down, which is my guess on why so many of those relationships are doomed to fail (and part of the reason for such high divorce rates).
Well, we are "cool shit." If we weren't, you wouldn't have had the capacity to post that, or even think it. We may be animals, but we're also the most developed species on our planet. That naturally places us above the rest.Wushu Panda said:
Raising a child is hard for a teenager in modern times, which is why it's been registered as a taboo.
I'll give you one of my many experiences on the matter:Vern5 said:
A girl and guy are going out, they are happy. Their relationship starts to fall apart, they are less happy. Then, they cheat on each other and both are very unhappy. Then, the woman proposes that they should get a kid since that will bind them together foreverz. They think it's a great idea and are happy.
The moral of the story? Some people are really stupid.
Calling someone stupid, with or without a reason, is an admission that you believe yourself to be better than they are.MassiveGeek said:
If they've become mothers, I think they've already done something harder than you've experienced yet. Perhaps a little humility, or acceptance of their life choices?
The problem with teenage preganacys is that when you graduate and move out youre supposed to leave the dependent stage and move on towards the independent. When you get married or give birth you are are either skipping the independent stage or moving on to a more advanced stage in which you have to take care of a dependent.
Genetics.
Naturally speaking, humans were originally designed to live for about 22 years. We stop growing and start aging around that age.
And we still carry the genetics to reproduce before then, around age 13. Horny teenage boys and slutty girls - a genetic impulse to breed. Getting pregnant triggers the chemical reaction that makes them happy and eager for it.
Naturally speaking, humans were originally designed to live for about 22 years. We stop growing and start aging around that age.
And we still carry the genetics to reproduce before then, around age 13. Horny teenage boys and slutty girls - a genetic impulse to breed. Getting pregnant triggers the chemical reaction that makes them happy and eager for it.
They are young
Got allot of hormones
Nake terrible decisions
Can't think 3 years ahead
I am not sorry to say but well that is youth. Youth makes you do stupid things. They belief they can make it sometimes they do sometimes they don't. But yeah stupid ideas stupid mistakes.
It takes 25 years for the brain to grow fully into reason. Why do 5 year olds run around in the most stupid places and do stupid things.. reason isn't activated yet.
Got allot of hormones
Nake terrible decisions
Can't think 3 years ahead
I am not sorry to say but well that is youth. Youth makes you do stupid things. They belief they can make it sometimes they do sometimes they don't. But yeah stupid ideas stupid mistakes.
It takes 25 years for the brain to grow fully into reason. Why do 5 year olds run around in the most stupid places and do stupid things.. reason isn't activated yet.
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)Hard for me to even speculate on this, because I don't like kids, never will, and am pretty sure that my hormones really aren't going anywhere anytime soon. (I believe the Magical Age 30 Clock does not exist in me.)
Still, my guess here is a combination of culture and hormonal urges. If we didn't have the huge driving desire to procreate, we as a species would not exist, or not in the capacity that we already do.
Assuming the teen got pregnant because she wanted to, well, she has essentially chosen her career: Mom. I know women can hold down jobs and kids at the same time, but that usually happens when she gets a career first and has kids later; witness how college grads tend to have kids much later than high school grads, and the delay is proportional to the quality/level of their education, and how "hardcore career woman" types often wait until 30 or 35 to pop babies. Someone having kids in her teens is putting all bets on her primary life's work being a couple of kids. If that's what she wants to do with herself, good for her, although I have no idea why anyone would want this to be their eternal fate, so to speak.
My other guess is that she had a very romanticized view of what it means to be a mom. Certain cliques, groups, whatever, emphasize the lovey-dovey parts. It's like how rom-coms emphasize the infatuation stage of love, not the "old married couple issues" part of love. Your friend might have seen kids as a great opportunity to raise a human being from scratch, someone of your body, blah blah all that. What she isn't thinking much about is the countless amount of time she will spend changing diapers, wrangling friends and clubs and schoolwork and all that for the kid, feeding it, spending all her money on it...so on. And thus, as you said, she ends up poor, bored, and her babydaddy has run off to live his life.
It could also be that some of these women grew up in cultures where having kids really early was a thing, so they were essentially pressured into it by culture and history. They may not have a choice, from their perception.
Still, my guess here is a combination of culture and hormonal urges. If we didn't have the huge driving desire to procreate, we as a species would not exist, or not in the capacity that we already do.
Assuming the teen got pregnant because she wanted to, well, she has essentially chosen her career: Mom. I know women can hold down jobs and kids at the same time, but that usually happens when she gets a career first and has kids later; witness how college grads tend to have kids much later than high school grads, and the delay is proportional to the quality/level of their education, and how "hardcore career woman" types often wait until 30 or 35 to pop babies. Someone having kids in her teens is putting all bets on her primary life's work being a couple of kids. If that's what she wants to do with herself, good for her, although I have no idea why anyone would want this to be their eternal fate, so to speak.
My other guess is that she had a very romanticized view of what it means to be a mom. Certain cliques, groups, whatever, emphasize the lovey-dovey parts. It's like how rom-coms emphasize the infatuation stage of love, not the "old married couple issues" part of love. Your friend might have seen kids as a great opportunity to raise a human being from scratch, someone of your body, blah blah all that. What she isn't thinking much about is the countless amount of time she will spend changing diapers, wrangling friends and clubs and schoolwork and all that for the kid, feeding it, spending all her money on it...so on. And thus, as you said, she ends up poor, bored, and her babydaddy has run off to live his life.
It could also be that some of these women grew up in cultures where having kids really early was a thing, so they were essentially pressured into it by culture and history. They may not have a choice, from their perception.