Extremley Bad Self Image

[thenumberthirteen]

I thought everything was upside-down in Australia not on it's side. Was the photo taken at the equator?

Any yes she is very nice (as long as she isn't pulling that face all the time). I've known a lot of girls who won't believe they're not ugly it must be a phase or something. I could suggest taking her to one of those beauty salons where you get those weird treatments involving seaweed and ear candles, but if handled wrongly it may be misconstrued as confirmation that you think she's ugly.

At least she's not one of those girls who think they're way hotter then they actually are and act like total bitches.

For what it's worth she has my seal of approval

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Thank you that was actually very helpful

You're welcome. While I am a man and therefore the inner workings of the Female mind shall forever remain a mystery the way forward may not to be to get other people to confirm she is beautiful. If she thinks there is something wrong then it may take a lot of people's opinions to sway her. Winning Miss World may finally convince her, but that's an awful lot of hassle.

Look for beauty salons in your area and get lists of the treatments they do. Then book in a facial scrub, or nail treatment, or whatever she thinks is "wrong". Sometimes package treatments can work out a little cheaper, and look for relaxing ones as some are quite painful.

That can help her by making her actually feel more beautiful. A good tip is to see if they have students working at the salon. My sister is doing a course in beauty therapy and works in a salon on weekends. If a student is carrying out the treatment then it's usually a lot cheaper (it was 1/3 price where my sister works) and they're just as good. Remember it's not really how much different she looks afterwards, but in making her feel better.

I've had quite a few of these treatments because my sister needs people to try them on for her exams and is sure made me feel like a woman. Particularly the false nails

 

[RobThePrezodent]

ewwwww, who's that guy on the left?! jokes. Yeah don't ever expect a girl not to have a terrible self image. And don't ever expect to be able to compliment a girl without being called a liar. It's what drove me to become the apathetic wreck that I am today

 

[RobThePrezodent]

yeah shes adorable, but again she wont believe us.. have you tried shaking her and going your beautiful what part dont you get!!!

yeah that works. Then maybe start slapping her around a bit, maybe start yelling and...ohwait...

 

[thenumberthirteen]

Yea sorry about the hikey and the weird face, it was the only pic i could find of her online and i didn't know how to upload one from my computer

If you put upload photos onto sites like Photobucket or Flikr then they give you the img tags.

 

[RaphaelsRedemption]

Be careful with posting photos of yourself or anyone else you know online, especially without their permission.

Apart from that, you are a cute couple. If she's as nice as her looks suggest, then hold on to her!

 

[Arkzism]

yeah shes adorable, but again she wont believe us.. have you tried shaking her and going your beautiful what part dont you get!!!

yeah that works. Then maybe start slapping her around a bit, maybe start yelling and...ohwait...

never said anything about hitting.. thats wrong.. unless shes into that kind of thing.. then just dont leave a bruise... unless shes into that.. then well.. um best of luck to you...

 

[Zhukov]

Aw come on. Seriously?

Anyone who can still look pretty while pulling that face clearly doesn't have anything to worry about.

(Also, the more cynical parts of my brain suspect that you started this thread just so you could show off your girlfriend.)

 

[Sebass]

My Girlfriend has an extremely bad image of herself and no matter what i say she wont believe me that she is beautiful, she always calls me blind in what i see in her. i just wanted to know if i was really blind and check if others see the same thing that i do. shes 17 and i live in Australia so don't feel like a pedophile if your older . I am also not new to the forums, iv been lurking for over a year. I also don't know if this is allowed in the forums as i couldn't find any rules

Also, yes we get it: you scored a pretty girl (I'd even say she's out of your league, tho pictures can be deceiving) that gave you a hickey. Stop showing off.

I'm almost jealous .. asians are cute. (I'm guessing she's filipina?)

Edit: double ninja'd =(

 

[Rakkana]

Just how girls are. Keep telling them they look good. Nothing else you can do.

 

[Nickisimo]

She's pretty, but looks aren't everything.

I know what you mean though...I think my girlfriend is extremely cute, but she has her moments where she's so down on herself because of some minor thing that I didn't even notice. I usually counteract this by saying something like, "Yeah, but if it was that bad, would an amazing guy like me be with you?" That gets a laugh every time.

 

[jamesworkshop]

bad self esteem is a good way of getting compliments out of people, just sayin

Yup, whenever my female friends use to say things like "OMG I'M SO UGLY! OMG I'M SO FAT!" I would normally just reply "Yes, yes you are."

My favourite example was a girl asking me if her ass was fat and I said no but that wasn't a compliment as I prefer women with a sizeable booty

 

[infinity_turtles]

I don't know if this works for everyone, but in my experience the following is a pretty good way to raise the self-esteem of a girl you're with. Be physically possessive. I don't mean restrain her or anything, but just do things that in general say "you're mine". Put your arm around her waist and hold her hand when walking, stroke her hair/cheek, put your hand in her pocket, and anything more than that you think she'd be fine with. It's easy for her to argue with your words, less so with your actions. Telling her she looks nice is still important, but I find it's better to save complements for right before you're leaving, even if only to grab something from the concession stand, so she doesn't have time to say anything back.

 

[BonsaiK]

My Girlfriend has an extremely bad image of herself and no matter what i say she wont believe me that she is beautiful, she always calls me blind in what i see in her. i just wanted to know if i was really blind and check if others see the same thing that i do. shes 17 and i live in Australia so don't feel like a pedophile if your older . I am also not new to the forums, iv been lurking for over a year. I also don't know if this is allowed in the forums as i couldn't find any rules

I've answered this in the relationship problem thread at the following link: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=41#7158532

 

[hurfdurp]

Awh, such league disparity. Everything is relative though, so even if you find her attractive, it doesn't count for much until she can make peace with it for herself.

 

[Meemaimoh]

Maybe I'm unusual (sounds like it, from the comments so far), but as a female I can safely say that while I certainly don't see myself as anything special, I don't think I'm ugly, either. So when I say things like what your girlfriend is saying to you, I'm unabashedly fishing for compliments. Not that I have to do it much. My boyfriend tends to be quite on the ball with saying an outfit looks good on me or whatever.

But then, I'm really not the kind of girl that cares either way. I almost never wear makeup or nice shoes or jewellery. So I guess you should take my opinion with a grain of salt.

(Though it does end up with the same conclusion... just keep complimenting! It's part of the job description.)

 

[JanatUrlich]

She's so cuuuute! She has nothing to worry about at all =D

 

[Dags90]

Isn't there some amount of racial tension in Australia with regards to Asians? Image problems are not at all uncommon in minority women, especially any marginalized minority.