First date advice/experiences

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Okay, so blah blah backstory blah I'm going on a first date with someone but I have no idea what to do. I've heard movies are bad because you talk too little, but dinner is bad because you talk too much. I've only been on one date before where we walked around the local park, and it was a trainwreck of awkwardness.

What would you guys recommend for a first date, and how have your previous first dates been? Feel free to share stories and whatnot. (And ftr, she's not a stranger, I've known her since school started, and we already hang out.)

 

[WolfThomas]

Coffee at a cafe or drinks at a classy bar maybe? You can talk, but you're not locked into a meal or a movie if it's awkward because you can end it early.

Wait should have read the OP more, actually I think probably dinner and a movie if you know the person. You want to establish that this is different from your regular hanging out, if you already know her you know that you can talk to her for a period of time without awkwardness. Just actual normal, she made a decision on going on the date because of actually knowing you, not some first impression.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

Dinner is always my vote, depending on where you go. I recommend a place that is classy but low-key, so there's no worries about getting dressed up or whatever. If all else fails, invite her to your place and cook/get takeout and pass it off as your own cooking.

My best first dates have always been a meal (usually I cook). There's time to talk, and you're not hurried to do something else or go somewhere else.

 

[Chasing-The-Light]

I agree that dinner would be a good idea. If you want to talk and have conversation than that's a good place. But if you don't, then a good excuse is eating. Now, whether or not it should be classy or not, that completely depends on the person you're going on a date with and what they would prefer more.

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

I took my girl out to see a movie.

Then again, I asked her out when she was over at my house making cookies with me, so...

 

[Kinokohatake]

I enjoy things like putt putt golf, or batting cages or things like that for a first date.

 

[rabidmidget]

"When in doubt, flop it out"

Words to live by.

 

[Crenelate]

I'd say a movie is perfect, because you're spending time together without having to deal with awkward conversations, then after you could go for coffee and voila! You already have something in common to talk about! Deciding upon the movie may cause problems though...

 

[Dags90]

Movie and a meal/drinks. It gives you something to talk about during the meal/drinks without being too impersonal. From personal experience, don't lock your keys in your car on a first date.

 

[AnarchistAbe]

Don't get pulled over while taking her home. Also, when the cop comes up to your window, don't be nervous and fumble around...he WILL make you step out of the vehicle, put your hands on the hood, and pat you down. Then, he may proceed to make your date get out of the car, and stand there while they search the vehicle...

But, ya know, not like that happened to me or anything...*true story*

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

No idea, I've never really been on a date. Even though I've been with 3 girls and am now married.

I can tell you what I did do. We invited each other over to each others houses and did whatever. Sometimes we played video games, sometimes we watched movies, sometimes we left the house to go get something to eat or walk in the park. But it always was a "hey do you want to come over?"

Never understood the "dirtiness" of just going to their house or them going to yours. It doesn't mean your having sex...

 

[babinro]

No idea, I've never really been on a date. Even though I've been with 3 girls and am now married.

I can tell you what I did do. We invited each other over to each others houses and did whatever. Sometimes we played video games, sometimes we watched movies, sometimes we left the house to go get something to eat or walk in the park. But it always was a "hey do you want to come over?"

Never understood the "dirtiness" of just going to their house or them going to yours. It doesn't mean your having sex...

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I've got very little experience in the area but simply hanging out and having fun seems to do the trick. The more forced the activity is for you, the less comfortable and natural things will be.

 

[spartandude]

Id say go to a nice pub, but an actually nice one

also just be yourself, unless ofcourse you can be pikachu, always be pikachu

 

[Tsukuyomi]

No idea, I've never really been on a date. Even though I've been with 3 girls and am now married.

I can tell you what I did do. We invited each other over to each others houses and did whatever. Sometimes we played video games, sometimes we watched movies, sometimes we left the house to go get something to eat or walk in the park. But it always was a "hey do you want to come over?"

Never understood the "dirtiness" of just going to their house or them going to yours. It doesn't mean your having sex...

This, basically. You almost inject more worry and awkwardness into it by blocking it out specifically as a date. Doing particular date-ish things is even worse. Not worse as in a bad idea, but worse in that it'll make you more nervous and you'll try harder and harder to make a good impression. Actually going on a 'date' where one actively tries to put their best foot forward and all that just causes you to have to jump yet another hurdle later on if a relationship is established by removing that 'trying to impress you/on my best behavior and not bleching in public' wall you built via the first few dates. It's not insurmountable obviously. Many people do it, but keeping things casual sort of hedges your bets so to speak on if the person honestly accepts you for you because they've been seeing you from the start. Yes you try and impress them/be nice and all, but you need not and should not go out of your way, especially if you know this person already and they already know you.

After all, they could think it's sweet/cute that you're trying so hard. It could also make them worry that all of a sudden you go out on one little date, which to them may not be anything serious, and suddenly you've changed when what they really wanted was to spend some time with the person they knew before the D-word came up. So...it really just depends, I guess.

 

[Rawne1980]

Never understood the "dirtiness" of just going to their house or them going to yours. It doesn't mean your having sex...

Me neither.

I've never been on a "date" but I have been with quite a few women.

Usually meet them in a club/pub and take them home or go back to theirs.

I've had 2 proper relationships, by proper I mean longer than a weekend. Was with one for 18 months we didn't date, met her on a bus and we got talking, went round to her house for a few beers and a pizza and it went from there.

My wife I met on leave from the army in a club. Went round to her house the day after for beer (yep there is a pattern) and food and 8 years later we're married with kids.

In fact I don't know anyone thats "dated". They met, slept together and took it from there.

Then again i'm just a simple kind of guy. Beer and a pizza and i'm happy.

If a woman expects more from me then they aint the lass for me. I'll take a woman out once we're in a relationship but I won't go out of my way to "date" someone if we're not in a relationship.

 

[Burs]

mine is a kinda mix between the Movie/dinner.

I say invite him/her over for dinner/takeout (but be honest about it) and put on a movie afterwords (not a soppy one, just a good all round film) and then you can snuggle up to one another on the sofa and you can talk when you want but if you dont have anything to say you can just watch the movie ^.^

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

Never understood the "dirtiness" of just going to their house or them going to yours. It doesn't mean your having sex...

Just adding on to this. All the girls that I've been in a relationship with have all said I'm the sweetest, most loving person they have ever met. I do have a hunch that that is partially due to the fact that I invited them over and behaved myself like a gentleman. So that might also score you major points.

 

[The Artificially Prolonged]

Going for drinks, more relaxed setting and if it goes well you can move up to some dinner or whatever, but if doesn't its easy to get out early. Plus the problem of not having much to talk about can be solved by getting more drinks

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[AngryMongoose]

Wherever you go, bribe a bear to turn up at the event. Then, as it's running around, wrecking havoc, flumoxing the animal control people by pulling a gun, you can rip of your shirt in a display of manly aggression and wrestle it to the ground. Slip it an extra £20 on the ground so it's willing to stay down.

You're welcome ^^