First man-to-man talk with your father.

[Smooth Operator]

Never did, because he is an uber alpha male, he cannot be in a conversation with anyone without pushing his ideas on others, and he want's to be always right even if he made up half the things he said.
So I simply accept what he is and lead short meaningless conversations with him, it's pretty sad but I can't change him, and I don't intend to meat him head on in continuous shouting matches.

 

[ObliviousGenius]

A large portion of the posters ITT have families that have separated and/or fathers that have passed away at an early stage of their lives.

I think that the people who are most inclined to be interested in this topic are people who have never really had the experience before. That's just a theory.

 

[superbatranger]

I've never had a man-to-man talk with my dad. On top of that, I haven't seen or heard from him in almost 7 years, so that isn't going to change anytime soon.

 

[GrimTuesday]

I know it sounds fucked up and I'm sure people who's fathers weren't there for them due to being dead would disagree, but sometimes I wish my father had died when I was young, before I came to know what an ass he is. That way I could still hold him in high regard instead of thinking of all the times he has made me feel like shit. We never really did man to man things, the bastard never even taught me to shave, I learned by myself.

Things are getting better now but I still have a lot of trouble respecting him due to how he treated me in the past.

 

[Rylot]

I never really had a talk with him. I do remember he tried to give me a hug before I went off to college. It was freakin weird.

 

[Zeema]

Trust me my Man to Man talk didnt go to well it was Xmas and after are chat he comes out and says to my relatives [WHO ARE Super CHRISTIANS]

'Trezu's [he said my real name] is Gay i wont you all to understand that its his choice'

My face

:O [Facepalm]

first off i was like 17 and also im not gay i have no idea how he even thought i was talking about homosexuality.

EDIT: FAIL at Age

 

[organiclockwork]

Trust me my Man to Man talk didnt go to well it was Xmas and after are chat he comes out and says to my relatives [WHO ARE Super CHRISTIANS]

'Trezu's [he said my real name] is Gay i wont you all to understand that its his choice'

My face

:O [Facepalm]

first off i was like 8 and also im not gay i have no idea how he even thought i was talking about homosexuality.

Really? An eight year old? D:

 

[Zeema]

Trust me my Man to Man talk didnt go to well it was Xmas and after are chat he comes out and says to my relatives [WHO ARE Super CHRISTIANS]

'Trezu's [he said my real name] is Gay i wont you all to understand that its his choice'

My face

:O [Facepalm]

first off i was like 8 and also im not gay i have no idea how he even thought i was talking about homosexuality.

Really? An eight year old? D:

Nope i did a Age Fail it was 17

 

[wooty]

Never met my scumbag of a father (and hopefully never will), so therefore never had any "man talk". I've basically learnt everything I needed to know in life through my own trial and error, seems to of worked out pretty well so far.

 

[norwegian-guy]

Dunno if they count but when we hit th cabin in the mountains we often talk about mountain life and how it would be easier to live like that.
When I lived with them back during the norwegian answer to high school we used to have all kind of intelectual talks at brekfast (political, school, ideology, philosophy, etc)

 

[FortheLegion]

I only got to see dad every other weekend and the only time he ever tried to give me that talk was when I was just a little bit to young so i had no idea what he was talking about. He never brought the subject up again

 

[rutger5000]

Ha ha! My dad's never been much of a talker. When I was 16, he walked into my room, without knocking... I was mid-coitus (fucking) with a girl... He turned and walked out. Later that night he asked me;

"So, she was naked right?"

"Yep"

"You two were... uhhh, right?"

"Um, yep."

"Cool. I wish I was doing that at your age..." (leaves room)

Cool, that's all I can say.

 

[rutger5000]

I know it sounds fucked up and I'm sure people who's fathers weren't there for them due to being dead would disagree, but sometimes I wish my father had died when I was young, before I came to know what an ass he is. That way I could still hold him in high regard instead of thinking of all the times he has made me feel like shit. We never really did man to man things, the bastard never even taught me to shave, I learned by myself.

Things are getting better now but I still have a lot of trouble respecting him due to how he treated me in the past.

Never hoped my father to die, but did hoped that he would just divorce my mother and work/life somewhere far away at times. But then again where would I then live? No way in hell I was going to live alone with my mother.

 

[Ohhi]

Does a first man to man talk count as my retired coast gaurd captain dad finding weed in my bedroom and when he asked me about it and I said it wasnt mine he slammed me through the coffee table then proceeded to beat me senseless and after he was done proceeded to tell me to pick myself up and come at him with everything I got because that is how we solve our problems in our house. Its a wonder that we dont have to buy more furniture.

 

[Raven's Nest]

My dad passed away when I was nine. I never got to have a man-to-man talk with him. I hardly feel at 33 that I'd be man enough to speak to him on the level even if he were alive today---my life has been a poor attempt to imitate the man.

Well, they say imitation is the highest form of flattery right? I'm sure your dad would have been proud to see you try.

They say children only come into their own after their parents pass on. Although my dad is still around I can sort of see the wisdom in this. I'm 23 now but I don't really recall ever having to ask my dad for advice about man things. All of the usual suspects I guess I just kind of dealt with by myself. Puberty, Girls, Shaving, all of it... Hell, I've probably had more manly chats with my mum if anything (I live with her, they divorced a while back).

But I can't help but feel that i'll never truly step out from under his shadow if you know what I mean? Least not until he's gone and I have children of my own.

It makes me a little sad to think the same feeling might be holding you back despite having already lost him.

Though I do have a fond memory of the time I told my dad off and he responded like a child being scolded by his dad (he was supposed to be in control of a boat, but he figured the noise it made whilst revving it was more interesting than the wall he ploughed it into as a result) He's kind of eccentric and almost foolishly naive so it feels kind of weird to think of myself as more mature than he is...

 

[Not-here-anymore]

Probably since I started going to uni - all of my talks with my Dad since then have been man-to-man (without 'the talk' itself). Seems I've officially hit grown-up or something...
Also, ever since my parents split up he's spent more time trying to be a friend than a father - that just happens to be easier now I'm a bit older.

Actually, scratch that - the first proper man-to-man talk I had with him would have been last year during my massively depressed phase, at which point we had a long talk about how proud he was of me, and wished he'd had half the opportunities I had. Then went on to a how much stress I was under, stressful moments from his past bla bla bla... It went on for a while, but I felt more connected to him after that than I had in the preceding 19 years of knowing him.

Seems we both have very similar personalities, right down to the perpetual childishness. I just wish I got to see him more often...

 

[higgs20]

me and my dad have very different skills and interests, we get on well but the first 'man-to-man' went something like this:

him: "son I've been cheating on your mother for 2 years."
me: "you stupid prick."

at a guess i would say that was about 4 years ago.

 

[higgs20]

Does a first man to man talk count as my retired coast gaurd captain dad finding weed in my bedroom and when he asked me about it and I said it wasnt mine he slammed me through the coffee table then proceeded to beat me senseless and after he was done proceeded to tell me to pick myself up and come at him with everything I got because that is how we solve our problems in our house. Its a wonder that we dont have to buy more furniture.

yeah that probably counts.

 

[SteewpidZombie]

Dad was a loser who abandoned my family when I was 2 and leaving my mum in his debt to the bank without any money (Which lost us our house and possessions), I've grown up going through like 3-5 step dads. At this point if I ever find him, a Man to Man talk with my biological dad would be with him facing down the barrel of a loaded gun.