Flirting with strangers :-D

[TwistedEllipses]

Move out of your place, and rent a cheap apartment, quit your job while at it and buy a nice Collie dog.

Go around the streets and become a street performer, wearing a Tuxedo with your collie by your side doing tricks.

See a girl you like? Tell collie dog to 'play' with her, maybe snatch her purse or something (even a glove).

Once that is done, recoup it, and smell it, as soon as she comes to you to ask for the item back, pretend that you already know that it belongs to her because of her smell.

Then, start dancing with her, without saying another word.

Bang, done. You now have a girlfriend...you're welcome.

This referencing something. My guts says the animated Titanic movie (the one where no-one dies)...

 

[Who Dares Wins]

Playing hard to get works. Gender doesn't matter.

 

[bushwhacker2k]

that's not the way to get girls dude.
You don't flirt you start building a relationship. Try and find something you both like, take an intrest in or that you both hate. Then when you think you both know eachother enough then you can start flirting.

I agree with what you're saying, but then on that note: How do you become friends with someone you don't know? Flirting and getting to know people are connected.

 

[Vern5]

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Here's an excerpt from the forum rules

"Flaming
Calling people names (or groups who may visit The Escapist), this includes calling others a troll"

Just because you don't find something funny does not mean the other person is trolling. Trolling is not subjective, and calling someone a troll is not giving someone the benefit of the doubt.

And oh no, self-depreciating humour. How terrible. So he's asked for advice on getting girls, and then light-heartedly told us he can't get girls? THOSE THINGS ARE TOTALLY UNRELATED

Oh wait, they're not, in fact, one leads directly from the other. Just because he wants to be happy and light hearted does not make him a troll.

It's extremely relevant. I wouldn't want to sit through a bad joke and apparently people on this thread aren't too keen on it either.

Anyway, I think the reason that everyone was getting on AnnoyingTurd is because of the self-deprecating humor especially in a thread where people are trying to instill confidence and give advice to him. Its sort of like trying to help somebody up from a bad fall and, when you extend your hand to aid them, they tell you to fuck off (except in a less harsh tone of voice).

Then leave. Noone is forcing you to "sit through it", as you say.

And what's with people on here and fucking terrible analogies? This isn't even hard. Here you go

It's like trying to help someone up after they've had a bad fall, and when you extend your hand to them, they go "haha man, I'm fucking retarded for falling over all the time". Apparently this is a terrible reaction and he should be scorned for it.

Well if you're going to react so venomously...

 

[Android2137]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BDMZjj2G2qw&feature=channel_video_title

It worked for me.

That made me laugh so hard, but as a female, I have to say it'd probably work on me.

 

[Ambi]

For every moment you eye someone and extrapolate about their personality, confronting them will seem a little more awkward, in my experience. Don't put someone or certain types of people on a pedestal and let your brain be so tuned out to others that you miss casual opportunities to talk to people who could be just as interesting, for all you know. Just talk to them normally (by this I don't mean "be boring and strictly follow convention"), be nice, and have a sense of humour. You should refine your tact and confidence after a while.

Omegle

Enough said.
Meaning yes.

That place was boring. People never appreciate when I try to make meaningful or interesting conversation. I mean sure, I came across as a freak who wasn't taking them seriously, but they could at least play along. I may as well have been talking to robots who are thinking "non-generic response. Do not compute. Abort operation. Next."

 

[PatSilverFox]

For every moment you eye someone and extrapolate about their personality, confronting them will seem a little more awkward, in my experience. Don't put someone or certain types of people on a pedestal and let your brain be so tuned out to others that you miss casual opportunities to talk to people who could be just as interesting, for all you know. Just talk to them normally, be nice, and have a sense of humour. You should refine your tact and confidence after a while.

Omegle

Enough said.
Meaning yes.

That place was boring. People never appreciate when I try to make meaningful or interesting conversation. I mean sure, I came across as a freak who wasn't taking them seriously, but they could at least play along. I may as well have been talking to robots who are thinking "non-generic response. Do not compute. Abort operation. Next."

I go there to troll. ;3

 

[Vern5]

Well if you're going to react so venomously...

I am. Self-rightious people calling others "trolls" for no good reason other than disagreeing with them on some level is an unfortunate trend on this forum. Hell, it's bad enough to get a specific mention in the code of conduct.

So you're going to combat self-righteousness with a vindictive attitude, "civility be damned"?

You know I was one of the people who offered what little advice I had and there were several others who also had wonderful ideas to boost his confidence and give him the advice he was looking for. He repaid that mountain of good intentions with self-deprecation that was not easily identifiable as humor.

From where I was sitting it easily looked like trolling. Maybe it wasn't but he didn't exactly make that easy to figure out. Troll-like behavior was noticed.

Either way, calm down. This is a forum. Subtle humor doesn't transfer well here. Mistakes of translation will always be made.

 

[Gladiateher]

Get licensed to carry a concealed firearm and let it casually dangle from a shoulder strap. Inside your jacket acting as though you didn't realize it was showing. The ladies love danger. Throw in a poorly concealed bulletproof vest and a close cropped haircut and they'll flock all over you. Sometimes it helps to have some scars but not too many or in the wrong places. Hit the gym and become a living weapon. This'll net you some ladies.

 

[dmase]

Don't be afraid there are plenty out there, you fuck up once... well your only limitation is time not really women eventually you'll get it right. And yes there is a right and wrong way of going about things.

 

[Annoying Turd]

I know I'll 'compromise my integrity' someday. Keep giving me amazing advice, and you can feel better knowing that your useless exhortations might have helped a loser like me become happy :-D

Thanks for the genuine advice though. Maybe I should stop seeking advice and simply approach girls with 'hello'.

 

[Griffolion]

I want girls to like me, so what do you guys have for a bro on flirting with strangers?

Go up to a girl you like, tell her you think she's beautiful, say you'd love to take her out for coffee/dinner sometime and ask for her number.

You think I'm trolling, but I've realised that honesty is the best way.

 

[Annoying Turd]

I want girls to like me, so what do you guys have for a bro on flirting with strangers?

Go up to a girl you like, tell her you think she's beautiful, say you'd love to take her out for coffee/dinner sometime and ask for her number.

You think I'm trolling, but I've realised that honesty is the best way.

That honestly works. I just get creepy smiles from girls when I start inviting them to dinner/asking for a number.

 

[Griffolion]

I want girls to like me, so what do you guys have for a bro on flirting with strangers?

Go up to a girl you like, tell her you think she's beautiful, say you'd love to take her out for coffee/dinner sometime and ask for her number.

You think I'm trolling, but I've realised that honesty is the best way.

That honestly works. I just get creepy smiles from girls when I start inviting them to dinner/asking for a number.

Well you need to sound genuine, so often precede the request with 'forgive me for being so forward'. Also, giving your name is a must, i didn't state that because i thought it was a given, but i feel the need to iterate it now. If she say's no then fine, break it off and tell her to have a great night/day. If she lets you in in any way, offer to buy her a drink (if in a bar) and begin a conversation with her about general stuff (basic info about each other).

It's just a simple case of being transparent in your intentions and showing the genuine side of you from the off. I often consider that to be better than 'playing the game'. Though be warned that many girls won't understand/want that sort of thing. But the ones that react to it positively are the ones to keep anyway .



Other small tips:

Eye contact
Don't be afraid to smile
When in conversation with her, be interested and focus on her
For the love of your personal deity, don't stare at her breasts when she's talking to you
Lastly, and most importantly, SHOWER.

EDIT:

One last thing, if you've watched Hitch (Will Smith), he say's a really cool line at the end of the film. I'm paraphrasing but you'll get the idea: "The rules to dating are... there are no rules."

He said it in that way because before he changed as part of the film plot, he had very set rules that guaranteed getting into a woman's pants but often were very emotionally damaging afterwards. I suppose the phrase is simply saying to let love reign.

 

[Annoying Turd]

If I tried being genuine, girls find out how much of a loser I am. Losers turn off girls.

Look at how people here take my honesty. I get named and shamed for 'trolling'. I'm correct about myself being a loser, but I hope I don't end up being right about everyone else judging me.

 

[XHolySmokesX]

Slice

David Deangelo. Look him up, he knows his shit on this kinda stuff. and it will chance your life forever, as it has done to mine =)

Go up to a girl you like, tell her you think she's beautiful, say you'd love to take her out for coffee/dinner sometime and ask for her number.

You think I'm trolling, but I've realised that honesty is the best way.

that honestly works for you? either your soo much better looking that the rest of us guys, or you have insane manlyness on your side.

tell her you think she's beautiful,

Telling a girl you think she's beutiful, is nice, for her, but it's too samey and no fun, you wont stand out from the other guys who ask her out that day. add in a playful insult to the beautiful thing and it'll work wonders.

e.g. "your beautiful (pause) for a short girl" or "your beautiful, but your fashion sense could do with a little work."

remember if your going to use something like this, do it seriously but also make it playful and jokey so she doesn't think your jsut being a dick.

say you'd love to take her out for coffee sometime, to get to know her a bit better, becasue your not sure

dinner is a bad idea, you get stuck somewhere and if it doesn't go so well, you cant leave.

coffee/tea, on the other hand is perfect, you can chat for however long you want, and if it doesn't go so well you can tell her, it was nice meeting her, but you planned to meet some friends, and then end the date, trust me, if your bored so is she and she'll be happy you ended it there.
It's also not as much of a big deal as dinner, so your more likely to get results.

the get to know her better think works because it tells her your not just another desperate guy, and instead, you actually, selectively choose your women, putting you in the driving seat, so she knows your in control of yourself, and no m-atter what women say they want, they want a man who's in control.

ask for her number.

this is a must, however, asking if she has email as well, will work to your advantage in many ways.

first off, you can spend as long as you need wrighting the perfect email to get her interested in you, whereas on the phone it's on the spot.
It also means you can keep a written log of your conversations, which you can reffer back to as topics to bring up on a date, as you know she's already interested in them without having to ask.


that's just a few tips i learnt and it's transformed my dating life 10x at least





PS:

If I tried being genuine, girls find out how much of a loser I am. Losers turn off girls.

Your almost right there, almost.

It's not losers that turn girls off, it's guys who think they are losers. You need to change your mindset, i'm sure yoiur a guy with tonnes to offer but you just don't believe in yourself.

Watch the film "She's out of my league", it shows a great example this, and if it all works out for you, you WILL be dating girls as hot as the girl in this film, DEFINATELY.

 

[Shymer]

One theory of building rapport is based on the deployment of four principles of communication designed to increase the amount of understanding you have of each other. These are;

* Asking questions (about the other person) and listening to the answers
* Seeking feedback from the other person about their perceptions (of you)
* Telling the other person something you have noticed (about them)
* Revealing something (about yourself) that the other person may not know

The bits in brackets are for a more personal approach and might be more assertive than you care to be. Perhaps start with telling them your name, revealing why you are where you are, and ask them a question and then riff from there.

Using these four principles in balance, with appropriate courtesy and friendliness tends to increase rapport. People we judge as good at conversation tend to do it naturally.

If you use any of these principles too much, or exclusively, then you may not do as well.

First impressions count from two perspectives: If you know you have made a real effort, you will come across more confidently. Secondly it can speak volumes to others about how much you care about yourself, and, by proxy, how much you care about them.

I find that flirting tends to come later when some common ground has been established between you and there is some degree of mutual attraction and rapport to build on. Launching straight into 'chat up lines' is an aggressive, rather than assertive technique and would not be universally welcomed. Genuine curiosity, humour, open mind and positive attitude works much better.