Flirting

[FranzTyphid]

Flirting is extreamly useful when atempting to start a relashonship.
My problem is that i'm pretty shit at it.
So i was wondering if you guys had and techniques for it at all.
I've heard occasional touching of the arm is good but i dont know.

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[Pimppeter2]

I dunno. I'm pretty good at it. Not really sure why.

I act silly and over egotistical.

 

[TheAmazingTGIF]

Some how I got a girlfriend, and no one really knows how. But I think I managed it by being my witty, sarcastic, pessimistic self. Oh, and extremely awkward and nerdy.

 

[MiracleOfSound]

1. Smile
2. Appear confident, even if you are not
3. Don't be afraid to poke some friendly fun at a beautiful girl, treat her just as you would the ugly girls
4. Win her male friends over before you approach her.

Trust me... this works wonders.

 

[Instant K4rma]

I'm a naturally nervous person, so approaching girls makes me, well, nervous. I can never bring myself to flirt with any girls because I'm so worried I'd make an ass of myself.

 

[Good morning blues]

Flirting is not difficult. What is difficult is learning to accept rejection. The fact of the matter is that you're going to crash and burn every now and then; the thing to learn is that this is normal and totally not a big deal. You're never any worse off when someone rejects you than you were before you met them.

Therefore, here are my tips:

-Don't wait until you get to know someone to start flirting with them. All you're doing is making them familiar with you in a non-romantic/sexual way, which is extremely difficult to change, and building your attachment to them, making it more difficult if it doesn't work out (which will be the case the vast majority of the time.)
-Flirt with a lot of people to get over the whole rejection thing. It's really not that big a deal; the hard part is learning to expose yourself to the possibility, not coping with it happening.
-The sexist human attribute - particularly for males - is confidence. If you aren't confident, do your best to fake it, and eventually it'll be true.
-Be yourself. This sounds trite, but it's the key. Don't put on an act (unless it's the "confidence act.") Don't try to be someone you're not because you think it will be more attractive. If you want to be more attractive, you need to change who you are, not how you act.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Speaking as a girl, don't over-do it. Don't just BAM and flirt, ease it into a conversation.
And like everyone says, just be yourself, no girl wants to fall in love with a fake.

 

[mrx19869]

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=guide+to+flirting

seriously dude..

 

[sms_117b]

I act over confident
Smile frequently
Listen when she's talking
make several personal story jokes after trying to establish her sense of humor.
Final I try to let my body relax

 

[Simalacrum]

Be ambitious. Be confident. Start with innuendo-jokes (non-serious), and then slowly move towards more serious flirting.

If your not confident in person, try practicing through msn/texting first. Its how I got my gf... it can also boost your confidence when flirting in person.

 

[Inco]

-The sexist human attribute - particularly for males - is confidence. If you aren't confident, do your best to fake it, and eventually it'll be true.

Everything in this person's post. Though i just have to bring up something about this and that, like human physical features, some people are attracted to a lack of confidence. This is either because it reflects their own personal views on themselves, or they just 'dig' it somehow.

IT happened to me once (the person didn't know me, and didn't realise that i was quite confident.)
And i have seen one of my friends get a girls number while drunk saying how pathetic and useless he was and how it was cool to be with the cool kids for once. The funny thing was that she was seriously digging him and the next party we went to, the first person she approached (before the party girl even) was him.

These are two personal experiences that reflect my opinion.

 

[orangebandguy]

If the word 'vagina' comes up, you know you've failed.

Sounds obvious but sometimes people forget that most basic of rules.

 

[TheTaco007]

I just jokingly poke fun at them. (BEWARE: You must know them well before this will work)

 

[Good morning blues]

-The sexist human attribute - particularly for males - is confidence. If you aren't confident, do your best to fake it, and eventually it'll be true.

Everything in this person's post. Though i just have to bring up something about this and that, like human physical features, some people are attracted to a lack of confidence. This is either because it reflects their own personal views on themselves, or they just 'dig' it somehow.

IT happened to me once (the person didn't know me, and didn't realise that i was quite confident.)
And i have seen one of my friends get a girls number while drunk saying how pathetic and useless he was and how it was cool to be with the cool kids for once. The funny thing was that she was seriously digging him and the next party we went to, the first person she approached (before the party girl even) was him.

These are two personal experiences that reflect my opinion.

Let's be clear, here, though. Saying how pathetic you are, even if you're kinda-sorta joking, will repulse 99.999% of women. Even if there are periodic exceptions, the very, very solid rule is that women like confident men.

 

[zen5887]

Be confident. Remember that that doesn't always mean being a "I am the best" kind of guy. That just makes you look like a tool. Just make sure you feel good about what you are saying.. I think girls can sense that kind of stuff.. Weird right?

Be subtle. Otherwise you'll be coming out with stuff like "Hey, nice shoes, wanna come back to my house?" which won't work. Unless you are covered in diamonds.

Be witty. Might not work with everyone but this is my approach.

Start small. Don't always try to flirt with the intention of getting a date or an invitation back to hers.

 

[Bat Vader]

I don't flirt because I have never had a need to flirt. I just don't see the point in a relationship. That is great if people are in relationships. A relationship is not for me though. I like the idea of being single.

Plus, it is obvious no women like me for more than a friend.

 

[Sark]

I don't flirt because I have never had a need to flirt. I just don't see the point in a relationship. That is great if people are in relationships. A relationship is not for me though. I like the idea of being single.

Plus, it is obvious no women like me for more than a friend.

You are what 22? Congratulations on giving up on relationships.

 

[Soxafloppin]

I go for the whole cute, shy guy thing. Works for me.