Flirting

[MissShortosity]

Indeed.

It's a sidequest that boosts your stats for the main questline.

(nerdiest metaphor ever)

Oh wow... that was freakin hillarious!! >.< hehehe...

Seriously though...
I interpret flirting to mean behaviour in order to woo/charm/interest the opposite sex.
One of the greatest bits of advice I can offer in regards to wooing women would be to ASK. Ask what they do for a living, what they enjoy doing in their spare time, what they did on the weekend, whatever. Let THEM talk, and pay attention. Genuine attention is extremely flattering, and it lets you get to know her better. If you're finding yourself having to feign attention at her responses, then that's a pretty good indicator that you're just not right for each other. This form of flirting is extremely subtle and can be used as more of an icebreaker.

In my rulebook, pick-up lines are a big no-no. Don't go there unless you enjoy instant rejection. They just don't work! The message it sends to the female recipient is that they're only sexually attracted to you and that you have a set purpose - not a good idea.

I disagree with an earlier post that suggested it's best to start with flirting or sexual behaviour - it generally makes the flirter appear extremely sexualised and the flirtee extremely uncomfortable. Gradual progression is much less confronting - a casual compliment about her eyes, hair, skin or even clothes or jewellery (and I stress casual here. Don't overemphasise it or it seems creepy. Just something simple like 'your hair really suits you like that' or 'you have really nice brown/blue/green/grey etc eyes' will often do the trick.

As it's been mentioned previously, BE YOURSELF. No point in securing a date/girlfriend by acting completely different to who you are, then once you grow comfortable around her let your façade down. Just don't.

Touching isn't necessary in the flirting stage, but if you don't like touching, do you really want a girlfriend? All that holding hands and cuddling and maybe even kissing... AAAH!

Best of luck though

 

[MiracleOfSound]

Indeed.

It's a sidequest that boosts your stats for the main questline.

(nerdiest metaphor ever)

Oh wow... that was freakin hillarious!! >.< hehehe...

Seriously though...
I interpret flirting to mean behaviour in order to woo/charm/interest the opposite sex.
One of the greatest bits of advice I can offer in regards to wooing women would be to ASK. Ask what they do for a living, what they enjoy doing in their spare time, what they did on the weekend, whatever. Let THEM talk, and pay attention. Genuine attention is extremely flattering, and it lets you get to know her better. If you're finding yourself having to feign attention at her responses, then that's a pretty good indicator that you're just not right for each other. This form of flirting is extremely subtle and can be used as more of an icebreaker.

This is true.... you gals love to talk about yourselves.... we do actually like to listen too (every now and again)

More imporatant advice:

Never crowd a girl's space. Let her make the decision to get closer to you. This is a simple and very primal sign of not appearing too predatory.

 

[Nickolai77]

heh, don't really know how to flirt, but then again i don't think i have ever seriously tried. That, and even now i carn't think of anyone i would want to flirt with (and i'm a university student)

Oh well, when the time comes i may need to give this thread a good read over.

 

[destroyer2k]

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It depends how is he by personality. If he is more quiet person then he mustn't be him self at start. Then usually his personality will change and actually have a great time talking (but again a lot of times I see some friend being dump for above reason as they didn't changed for her even a little).

 

[BENZOOKA]

1. Smile
2. Appear confident, even if you are not
3. Don't be afraid to poke some friendly fun at a beautiful girl, treat her just as you would the ugly girls
4. Win her male friends over before you approach her.

Trust me... this works wonders.

I totally agree. Although I'd say number 4 is more optional, or at least has been if my memory serves me right.

Indeed.

It's a sidequest that boosts your stats for the main questline.

(nerdiest metaphor ever)

He he. Well put, nonetheless.
I like your current avatar much better than the previous one.

Also, one can't forget the female friends either (when it's made somewhat clear you're not going for just any/all of them). Those are the ones the target often seeks advice and confirmation after all.

 

[Emilie Diabolica]

i accidentally flirt.

seriously, i dont realise that i'm doing it until someone tells me how i shouldnt flirt with other people in front of my boyfriend... =\

maybe that's why i always get the most tips at work?
eesh.

anyway, seeing as i have no idea when or how i do it, i'm not much help.

*shrugs*

 

[Allstar309]

I usually just rely on my dashing good looks.

 

[PinkAngelKitty]

3. You have to make a move. People argue this a lot. Generally it is believed that men always have to make the first move. Cosmopolitan magazine polled a bunch of men and found them to be almost unanimous in their belief that men must make the first move, and that women just seem desperate if they make the first move. I don't buy that. I think all is fair in love and war and love especially. It's a level playing field, especially this early in the game, so if you are interested and engaged in a person's company make a move! It's always funny to watch young teenagers try to flirt because both parties are too afraid to make a move. Making a move isn't complicated either. There are varying levels and usually you start out with a lower tier move such as the infamous arm touch. "Hahahaha that was a really good joke, Steve! while at the same time reaching out and touching their arm lightly and briefly to place emphasis on "good". Intentionally touching someone (obviously in a non-invaisive non-creepy way) sends all kinds of subconscious signals so it's a good way to let the person know that you are interested. And letting them know that you are interested is important, because it makes them feel more comfortable letting you know that they are interested as well. After a few of these lower tier moves are successful, you usually go for a more direct approach of say... suggesting to hang out another time in the near future or the exchanging of phone numbers. Some people think this is too much for the first time they meet someone but honestly how are you going to keep in contact?

That's something I wonder about. I'm not into the whole touchy-feely thing unless I really trust a person, so what would consist of a nice 'move' then? The whole 'make a move' thing is probably the thing that confuses me the most. I can smile, I'm confident, be funny and all that or at least I try to be (afterall, there is never a guarantee that your flirting partner likes your style or sense of humour). But when it comes to that move-spiel, I'm at a loss.

Isn't just asking to do something together once enough? I mean, that shows a certain interest in the other person, although I do see that he or she would not be sure if that would mean a romantic or friendly interest.

So how to make that difference without resorting to touching? All the touching I know and could do is giving someone a pat on the back or laying my hand on a shoulder.

Haha. Well those kinds of things are personal and everyone is different. Some people are more comfortable with touching than others. I don't really know what to say in that regard. I do recommend to go out and practice flirting often. It's fun and it just keeps on getting easier the more you practice. You've got to find your groove, and that means finding what makes you feel irresistible and comfortable coming out of your shell.

That being said, asking someone to hang out once should be enough. In theory, anyway. Ladies, if a guy is into you, he will make an effort to spend time with you. I hate it when girls are left perplexed by unreturned calls. It's been said many times before but if he's not calling, if he's not making plans with you, and if you have to work really hard just to keep his attention: He's just not that into you. So cut him loose and stop wasting your time. On the flip side, guys, if you're truly making an effort and the girl just seems to resist but never outright rejects you, 9 times out of 10 she's not worth the effort. Throw her back and catch a bigger, tastier fish ;-)

 

[PinkAngelKitty]

H'ok! *cracks knuckles*

What about that guy in the Mummy movie who got eaten alive by giant scarab beetles? Don't fear rejection.

Haha... i dont know why but when i read that it sounded like being rejected results in being eaten alive by scarab beetles... I'd have to say that would be very lame because everyone gets rejected. Even I have been rejected. Funny really the scarabs didnt hurt at all.

Good advice by the way.

Oh I just meant being eaten alive is a far worser fate than being rejected by some bitchy girl at a party so it's silly that people have a crippling fear of it.

 

[Shock and Awe]

I am pretty good at it, but I don't know why though. But I do know there is not real "technique" to flirting, everyone does it a little differently. I do have some general tips though.

1. Confidence is key, most girls don't go for sniveling little bitches. lol jk

2. Be funny, girls love a guy that is funny, just be careful what you make fun of.

3. Eye contact, don't stare at her tits, seriously now.

4. Pickup lines never work, except when it is obviously done as a joke.

 

[MiracleOfSound]

1. Smile
2. Appear confident, even if you are not
3. Don't be afraid to poke some friendly fun at a beautiful girl, treat her just as you would the ugly girls
4. Win her male friends over before you approach her.

Trust me... this works wonders.

I totally agree. Although I'd say number 4 is more optional, or at least has been if my memory serves me right.

Indeed.

It's a sidequest that boosts your stats for the main questline.

(nerdiest metaphor ever)

He he. Well put, nonetheless.
I like your current avatar much better than the previous one.

Also, one can't forget the female friends either (when it's made somewhat clear you're not going for just any/all of them). Those are the ones the target often seeks advice and confirmation after all.

Thanks! I like it more too... it's Amelie on the ghost train.

The female buddies are indeed very important too... if they like you it makes things much easier for all concerned.

 

[GrinningManiac]

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=guide+to+flirting

seriously dude..

that's cool

Where'd you find that?

OT: Don't ask me, I do that thing where I can befriend ANY girl I meet, but never take the next step.

Bah, I can't wait to move out of the local area when I go to University. Then I can start afresh, and not have that strange taboo of Being the Friend

 

[aPod]

Haha... i dont know why but when i read that it sounded like being rejected results in being eaten alive by scarab beetles... I'd have to say that would be very lame because everyone gets rejected. Even I have been rejected. Funny really the scarabs didnt hurt at all.

Good advice by the way.

Oh I just meant being eaten alive is a far worser fate than being rejected by some bitchy girl at a party so it's silly that people have a crippling fear of it.

I know thats why i thought it was funny when i read it that way.

Flirting is extreamly useful when atempting to start a relashonship.
My problem is that i'm pretty shit at it.
So i was wondering if you guys had and techniques for it at all.
I've heard occasional touching of the arm is good but i dont know.

Hey, I need your help.
Does this Smell Like Chloroform to you?

Alternively!

That comic is awesome, oddly enough if the girl finds thats joke funny... i mean pickup line... she's probably interested. Not in getting in your pants, maybe, but in you.

 

[Xcelsior]

I'm a naturally nervous person, so approaching girls makes me, well, nervous. I can never bring myself to flirt with any girls because I'm so worried I'd make an ass of myself.

...you are not alone, I too suffer from this =(

 

[TransMando]

Be charmingly awkward.

Women surprisingly think it's cute.

 

[RadioActiveChimp]

I don't flirt because I have never had a need to flirt. I just don't see the point in a relationship. That is great if people are in relationships. A relationship is not for me though. I like the idea of being single.

Plus, it is obvious no women like me for more than a friend.

You are what 22? Congratulations on giving up on relationships.

You seem a bit angry with me for myself making a choice in my life that affects no one but me. Unless I misinterpreted your comment.

Yes, I am 22.

It just seems depressing to give up on something so quickly whilst hardly putting up a fight.

As depressing as it sounds it is my life and my decision to give up on relationships without ever experiencing one. All I ask is that you respect it. I don't mind if you disagree with my decision just please do not say whether it is wrong or right.

Like I said it affects no one but me.

i agree with sark. congrats! youre just gonna live a lonely life is all!

you know what pisses me off, people who like to go against the grain and piss on anyone who puts up a fuss. if that's how you feel, fine, just keep it to yourself. you prob have a good reason as to why you made chose that path, but don't go out of your way to make sure that everyone else knows that about you, and then expect them to play a violin for you

 

[RadioActiveChimp]

heh, don't really know how to flirt, but then again i don't think i have ever seriously tried. That, and even now i carn't think of anyone i would want to flirt with (and i'm a university student)

Oh well, when the time comes i may need to give this thread a good read over.

i've got the same problem
i'm rly good at natural/unforced flirting, but nobody to do it with

 

[Jharry5]

I've never really had the self-confidence to knowingly flirt (which is probably why it doesn't go too well if I do...), but there have been a few times where girls have got the wrong impression and thought I was when I wasn't meaning to...

So to be honest, I couldn't really give much in the way of advice. Unless I parroted what's already been said...

 

[Nickolai77]

heh, don't really know how to flirt, but then again i don't think i have ever seriously tried. That, and even now i carn't think of anyone i would want to flirt with (and i'm a university student)

Oh well, when the time comes i may need to give this thread a good read over.

i've got the same problem
i'm rly good at natural/unforced flirting, but nobody to do it with

I suppose i am as well. I have been perfectly confortable with talking to girls whom i fancy, however this usually lends me into their friendship zone. Back in high school, i was nice enough to be respected, but too nerdy to be date material. Now, in university, i don't have anyone to flirt with (which has struck me as being a bit surprising). I only know one girl who shares enough in common with me to make a relationship feesable, most other girls i know are so mainstream they would'nt know the difference between a PS3 and an Xbox, realise that Rick Ashley is actually an internet meme and never looked beyond the realm of pop-music. Due to these lack of common interests with anyone i know, (spare but one, whom i have mentioned, but she has a bf, and i have enough respect and dignity not to complicate such things) i have not met anyone suitable to flirt with.

Funny old world, and what's your situation radioactive chimp?