For all the men out there - how do you prefer your woman's external look?
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Easier to describe the things I generally don't go for really, although I'm certain there are exceptions to this.
I generally don't find myself attracted to blondes. Massive breasts aren't really my thing either. Tattoos would also be a turn-off. Smoking and/or obesity would be huge turn-offs. Overly skinny ain't very attractive either.
Apart from the blonde thing, which is just personal preference, I mostly like things to be average. I do like my women to have a bit of ass though, ain't nothing wrong with some firm love-handles.
And out of practical considerations I'd also have to say at least average height. I'm very tall and kissing, hugging, cuddling and even holding hands can at times be somewhat awkward if she's very short.
I generally don't find myself attracted to blondes. Massive breasts aren't really my thing either. Tattoos would also be a turn-off. Smoking and/or obesity would be huge turn-offs. Overly skinny ain't very attractive either.
Apart from the blonde thing, which is just personal preference, I mostly like things to be average. I do like my women to have a bit of ass though, ain't nothing wrong with some firm love-handles.
And out of practical considerations I'd also have to say at least average height. I'm very tall and kissing, hugging, cuddling and even holding hands can at times be somewhat awkward if she's very short.
1. Yes. I understand this and have had several conversations with girls about it. I consider it quite harmful to think you shouldn't be seen until you can edit your appearance.Duck Soup said:
I don't at all mind make-up, and it's certainly fine to go a little extra if there's a special occaison or something, but generally I'd like someone comfortable without it.
However I might not be the best for this question since it seems like this must be that I find someone automatically more attractive with less make up. I might compared to them with more make up. This isn't always the case, but I encourage using less, and this is often a thought for me.
2. Depends what kind. Stretch marks that just happen to be there by growth, or ones brought out through weight gain or something? I probably wouldn't even care about the latter though if they were already a shape I like. Sometimes stretch marks even look cool. I have some on my back that look like an outline of my ribs.
Same with scars. What? Where? How big?
I honestly like healthy looking girls, if they look like they're healthy I can usually enjoy their outside appearance
1: Personally I prefer no make up at all though I admit sometimes girls and even guys can look AWESOME if it's applied correctly
2: Scars tell a story. Regardless of their reason (Either by accident or self) they are a part of that person and help better understand their struggles in life. I don't like that pain had to happen for the scars to be there but as I said before, I feel they molded the person I am enjoying at the time so I don't see them as a negative at all.
Also Stretch marks for many people are unavoidable so I'm not really put off by it. I woke up one day with them on the left side of my stomach, was shocked it took them so long and more so that I'd been losing weight. At the time I didn't realised it's not always about your weight(Mine was though).
Duck Soup said:
1: Personally I prefer no make up at all though I admit sometimes girls and even guys can look AWESOME if it's applied correctly
2: Scars tell a story. Regardless of their reason (Either by accident or self) they are a part of that person and help better understand their struggles in life. I don't like that pain had to happen for the scars to be there but as I said before, I feel they molded the person I am enjoying at the time so I don't see them as a negative at all.
Also Stretch marks for many people are unavoidable so I'm not really put off by it. I woke up one day with them on the left side of my stomach, was shocked it took them so long and more so that I'd been losing weight. At the time I didn't realised it's not always about your weight(Mine was though).
I'm pretty racist when it comes to looks. I rarely find a non-white attractive. I like black (like jet black) or red (darker red) hair most attractive. Hair should be longer than shoulder length and straight since I prefer long hair and I also find ponytails attractive.
For eye colour, I like the green spectrum. Anything from green to blue.
As for the body itself, too slim is bad, too big is bad. Anywhere from average to slightly overweight is fine for me. A little shorter than me is good too.
That's pretty much it, a white girl with jet black or dark red hair with green eyes of average weight. Of course, this would all be considering she doesn't look like a Picasso painting in the first place. That would probably be a deal breaker regardless of other features.
For eye colour, I like the green spectrum. Anything from green to blue.
As for the body itself, too slim is bad, too big is bad. Anywhere from average to slightly overweight is fine for me. A little shorter than me is good too.
That's pretty much it, a white girl with jet black or dark red hair with green eyes of average weight. Of course, this would all be considering she doesn't look like a Picasso painting in the first place. That would probably be a deal breaker regardless of other features.
Petite, pale, no specific breast or butt preference but there are of course a range of natural sizes for those things within the petite category so anything that would be outside of them would look just unnatural and odd and would usually be the result of plastic surgery, which is a turn-off for me.
As for other factors, I'm not much for makeup, high heels and fancy clothing. Things like big round earrings and stuff, I don't get it, they seem unnatural and just...weird. I only really get jewelry with meaning such as triforce earrings or a DMC necklace or something. I can understand it in that case, you wear the thing cause of a reason, cause of something about yourself which you wish to display to others. Typical jewelry was just how olden people chose to display their wealth and stature to the world...and I have no interest in those things.
I like long hair, some short cuts can look cute too but overall long still wins out, not a deal-breaker in any case but we're talking about ideal stuff here.
As for other factors, I'm not much for makeup, high heels and fancy clothing. Things like big round earrings and stuff, I don't get it, they seem unnatural and just...weird. I only really get jewelry with meaning such as triforce earrings or a DMC necklace or something. I can understand it in that case, you wear the thing cause of a reason, cause of something about yourself which you wish to display to others. Typical jewelry was just how olden people chose to display their wealth and stature to the world...and I have no interest in those things.
I like long hair, some short cuts can look cute too but overall long still wins out, not a deal-breaker in any case but we're talking about ideal stuff here.
I prefer long hair on a girl, but I've seen many girls that I find very attractive with short hair.
I prefer a girl that is close to my height, but a little bit shorter. If she is a foot shorter than me, thats a bit extreme, but I wouldn't mind too much.
I prefer cuteness over any other kind of attractiveness. I can identify when a girl is hot or sexy, but cuteness is just so damn attractive.
I prefer a girl that laughs and smiles a lot, but I'm not sure if that would count as an external attribute. I can tell when a girl is like that, but thats just a skill I've acquired over the years.
I prefer a girl with large-ish boobs, but I've seen very attractive girls with every size. I'd prefer a girl that doesn't have giant knockers though, thats just excessive.
I prefer a girl who has "girl thighs" as I call them, like... she has a really good BMI so she looks shapely, but isn't overweight or underweight. One big turn on/off for me is how shapely a girl's thighs are. For example, a lot of girls that are in kpop have really thin shapeless thighs, whereas a lot of girls that are in jpop have perfectly shaped thighs. Its kind of hard to describe it without saying, "I like fat girls" because it sounds a lot like that, but thats about the best way I can explain it.
Of course, all the above is moot if the girl isn't smart and kind. Personality is infinitely more attractive than physical attributes for me and I am able to overlook a lot of "negative" physical attributes if the personality is right.
I prefer a girl that is close to my height, but a little bit shorter. If she is a foot shorter than me, thats a bit extreme, but I wouldn't mind too much.
I prefer cuteness over any other kind of attractiveness. I can identify when a girl is hot or sexy, but cuteness is just so damn attractive.
I prefer a girl that laughs and smiles a lot, but I'm not sure if that would count as an external attribute. I can tell when a girl is like that, but thats just a skill I've acquired over the years.
I prefer a girl with large-ish boobs, but I've seen very attractive girls with every size. I'd prefer a girl that doesn't have giant knockers though, thats just excessive.
I prefer a girl who has "girl thighs" as I call them, like... she has a really good BMI so she looks shapely, but isn't overweight or underweight. One big turn on/off for me is how shapely a girl's thighs are. For example, a lot of girls that are in kpop have really thin shapeless thighs, whereas a lot of girls that are in jpop have perfectly shaped thighs. Its kind of hard to describe it without saying, "I like fat girls" because it sounds a lot like that, but thats about the best way I can explain it.
Of course, all the above is moot if the girl isn't smart and kind. Personality is infinitely more attractive than physical attributes for me and I am able to overlook a lot of "negative" physical attributes if the personality is right.
A woman's eyes are the main thing that makes me take notice. Beyond that, I prefer them to be a shorter than I am (which isn't all that difficult due to my height), but not so much shorter that I have to get down on my knees to look her in the eye.
When I was younger, it took long blonde hair and green eyes to turn my head. Now, I go for women with kind of an olive complexion and dark hair. I'm not into the long hair that much either. Around collar length, or with some asymmetrical cut/style to it, is best.
As for weight/build, it kind of varies. I don't want to be with someone who looks like they'd break in half when confronted with a strong breeze, but I'm not interested in a girl who really lets her body go. I guess I'd say I prefer a woman who is fairly fit, but that isn't a deal breaker. One girlfriend gained twenty to thirty pounds during our relationship due to medication, and I didn't really see it. Of course, me not seeing it didn't go over well either. I want someone who at least tries. I don't have a perfect body, so it isn't fair to expect one - I just want someone who tries as hard as I do, if that makes sense.
I also tend to appreciate a more natural look. I'm not saying no-makeup, but more along the lines of what she would wear for herself, as opposed to what she would wear to try and look attractive for someone else or to try and stand out in a crowd of others doing the same. There was this one girl I usually only saw at events, or in clubs. She was always made up, and always looked good. I ran into her at the store one weekend. All she'd applied had been eyeliner. She looked amazing to me, and I asked her out on the spot.
I don't really go in for women who are always dressed to the nines. I think I've only dated one girl who wore dresses regularly. A girl in jeans a t-shirt, or a babydoll shirt, gets me every time. Especially if there is a band logo on it someplace, depends on the band of course.
Tattoos don't bother me. Out of the last four girls I dated, three had at least one tattoo. Two of them actually had the same tattoo, which is kind of strange.
It isn't really external, but I also go for women with some connection to music. Singers, drummers, bass players, flautists, voice instructors, etc.
Smoking is a big deal breaker though. If I wanted to lick the bottom of an ashtray or watch someone else I love destroy their entire body, it might be different. Unfortunately, those two items are not on my list of things to do.
The same with drinking. I don't drink, I don't get drunk. I'm not saying a woman has to become a teetotaler, but the second or third time I have to literally carry her because she is too smashed to walk, or if a friend has to point out that the girl is falling over drunk while stripping in the parking lot to show some guy all of her tattoos, that is a pretty good sign I don't need to put any more effort into the relationship.
When I was younger, it took long blonde hair and green eyes to turn my head. Now, I go for women with kind of an olive complexion and dark hair. I'm not into the long hair that much either. Around collar length, or with some asymmetrical cut/style to it, is best.
As for weight/build, it kind of varies. I don't want to be with someone who looks like they'd break in half when confronted with a strong breeze, but I'm not interested in a girl who really lets her body go. I guess I'd say I prefer a woman who is fairly fit, but that isn't a deal breaker. One girlfriend gained twenty to thirty pounds during our relationship due to medication, and I didn't really see it. Of course, me not seeing it didn't go over well either. I want someone who at least tries. I don't have a perfect body, so it isn't fair to expect one - I just want someone who tries as hard as I do, if that makes sense.
I also tend to appreciate a more natural look. I'm not saying no-makeup, but more along the lines of what she would wear for herself, as opposed to what she would wear to try and look attractive for someone else or to try and stand out in a crowd of others doing the same. There was this one girl I usually only saw at events, or in clubs. She was always made up, and always looked good. I ran into her at the store one weekend. All she'd applied had been eyeliner. She looked amazing to me, and I asked her out on the spot.
I don't really go in for women who are always dressed to the nines. I think I've only dated one girl who wore dresses regularly. A girl in jeans a t-shirt, or a babydoll shirt, gets me every time. Especially if there is a band logo on it someplace, depends on the band of course.
Tattoos don't bother me. Out of the last four girls I dated, three had at least one tattoo. Two of them actually had the same tattoo, which is kind of strange.
It isn't really external, but I also go for women with some connection to music. Singers, drummers, bass players, flautists, voice instructors, etc.
Smoking is a big deal breaker though. If I wanted to lick the bottom of an ashtray or watch someone else I love destroy their entire body, it might be different. Unfortunately, those two items are not on my list of things to do.
The same with drinking. I don't drink, I don't get drunk. I'm not saying a woman has to become a teetotaler, but the second or third time I have to literally carry her because she is too smashed to walk, or if a friend has to point out that the girl is falling over drunk while stripping in the parking lot to show some guy all of her tattoos, that is a pretty good sign I don't need to put any more effort into the relationship.
I am very happy to hear you say that. I can't tell you how many times I have heard guys say that women without make-up on are "gross" or "fugly" or some other crap like that. Hearing men say that about women all the time makes it really hard to feel ok about going without make-up. In my head I know that I should be comfortable stepping outside my house without worrying about how I look but I'm not. Most women aren't. But that has a lot to do with much bigger societal issues than what we are discussing on this thread.Palademon said:
About the scars, I guess like a surgery scar or something. Most surgery scars will almost completely disappear if taken care of properly but will always be visible if you look for them. I have a couple surgery scars on my ankles which is not a very noticeable spot but they will always be there. Some people think they look cool (I do too, kinda) but others are grossed out. I guess I was just wondering if scars were the kind of thing guys wouldn't like on a woman because it's not...... Lady-like, I guess? That's not really the word I'm looking for. I don't know. Something like that.
A girl who looks good in suspenders and suits because damn..... piercings and tattoos don't bother me long as they look good on the girl. I've dated a girl with DD boobs before but I honestly prefer smaller because then all I think of is the problems they can and probably will eventually cause. And a girl who looks proportional. Curves are a plus. But then again being a girl who tends to look androgynous I also like girls who look androgynous. Everything else for me is personality wise and that's an even longer list. Because looks are secondary to personality.
2. scars/stretch marks don't bother me. I have plenty of scars myself(though mine are more from cooking or splitting open my knee or other shit like that) so I'm not going to say scars are a definite no. And I have stretch marks so I can't judge too harshly on someone I date having them without being a hypocrite.
1. On the topic of makeup as long as it isn't so caked on that running a finger down your face doesn't make a line down your face I don't care.(Obviously there is an exception if it is theatre makeup or halloween makeup or cosplay makeup because those in general tend to be very thick. But I'm more talking the girls who cake it on. It looks disgusting. Tried dating a girl who did that once and the one time I saw her without makeup....*shudders*)I personally don't enjoy wearing makeup unless there is a reason to it and then it's just eyeliner-mascara-eyeshadow but that's just me.Duck Soup said:
2. scars/stretch marks don't bother me. I have plenty of scars myself(though mine are more from cooking or splitting open my knee or other shit like that) so I'm not going to say scars are a definite no. And I have stretch marks so I can't judge too harshly on someone I date having them without being a hypocrite.
Call me shallow, but I prefer their skin to be on the outside of their skeleton. I know, I know, I'm being picky, but hey, a guy has to have standards.
I like longer hair on girls, I mean I also like short and etc, but long looks cuter to me.
If the hair was flax colored that would be awesome too.
I prefer when a girl is shorter then me, I don't really mind how short though.
I also prefer girls who are petite and have a flat/flat-ish chest.
Though I love it if a girl had a bubbly personality, she would like to smile and laugh a lot and could be sometimes a bit childish.
I don't mind a little make-up but I like girls who don't wear make-up all the time.
Also I couldn't tolerate if they smoked/do drugs or drank too much.
I hope I would meet a girl like this some day BUT hey... who knows, I might fall in love with a girl who is like this or not.
If the hair was flax colored that would be awesome too.
I prefer when a girl is shorter then me, I don't really mind how short though.
I also prefer girls who are petite and have a flat/flat-ish chest.
Though I love it if a girl had a bubbly personality, she would like to smile and laugh a lot and could be sometimes a bit childish.
I don't mind a little make-up but I like girls who don't wear make-up all the time.
Also I couldn't tolerate if they smoked/do drugs or drank too much.
I hope I would meet a girl like this some day BUT hey... who knows, I might fall in love with a girl who is like this or not.
this is surprisingly hard to answer, i've dated tons of different "types" of girls, and lots of girls I stare creepily at find attractive right now aren't necessarily the same in anything.
I will say though, a "cute face" is pretty key, and that can be any characteristic (eyes/nose/forehead+eyebrows/hair/smile/jaw structure), there are 3 girls i can think of off the top of my head in my classes where one has a very attractive set of eyes, i'd eye fuck the shit out of her every day of the week, another has a very cute smile, and another has a very nice shaped jaw + forehead (sounds weird, i know, but it is what it is)
i generally prefer a petite or sporty girl, i workout/play sports almost daily if not 3-4 times a week, i expect a girl to be in somewhat similar shape. I honestly don't like big breasts, some lifted ones might be okay to look at, but otherwise i prefer A to B cups, C being max.
I do like a cute lil booty, i can't tell you how many times at the gym yoga pants + cute lil booties have driven my hormones into super saiyan levels at times.
I used to date all kinds of girls, but now a days i seem to prefer pale/clear skinned girls, idk what it is, as I get really tan myself during the spring/summer, but that's what i've noticed.
disclaimer: All this means absolutely jack shit if you're a ***** without a sense of humor or are full of yourself, I'd rather date the most *physically deformed chick on the planet if it meant dating a nice and honest person.
*compared to the average human
edit: Typically longer haired girls, as in the hair has to at least an inch or two below their ears, but not so long that it's touching the highest point on their ass crack.
oh another one, no tattoos and minimal piercings. Not to say it bugs me when friends or people have them, it's just what i find very attractive in a women i'd want to date. Those are two big no no's, especially mouth/nose/tongue piercings.
I will say though, a "cute face" is pretty key, and that can be any characteristic (eyes/nose/forehead+eyebrows/hair/smile/jaw structure), there are 3 girls i can think of off the top of my head in my classes where one has a very attractive set of eyes, i'd eye fuck the shit out of her every day of the week, another has a very cute smile, and another has a very nice shaped jaw + forehead (sounds weird, i know, but it is what it is)
i generally prefer a petite or sporty girl, i workout/play sports almost daily if not 3-4 times a week, i expect a girl to be in somewhat similar shape. I honestly don't like big breasts, some lifted ones might be okay to look at, but otherwise i prefer A to B cups, C being max.
I do like a cute lil booty, i can't tell you how many times at the gym yoga pants + cute lil booties have driven my hormones into super saiyan levels at times.
I used to date all kinds of girls, but now a days i seem to prefer pale/clear skinned girls, idk what it is, as I get really tan myself during the spring/summer, but that's what i've noticed.
disclaimer: All this means absolutely jack shit if you're a ***** without a sense of humor or are full of yourself, I'd rather date the most *physically deformed chick on the planet if it meant dating a nice and honest person.
*compared to the average human
edit: Typically longer haired girls, as in the hair has to at least an inch or two below their ears, but not so long that it's touching the highest point on their ass crack.
oh another one, no tattoos and minimal piercings. Not to say it bugs me when friends or people have them, it's just what i find very attractive in a women i'd want to date. Those are two big no no's, especially mouth/nose/tongue piercings.
Seriously?Duck Soup said:
Do me a personal favor and punch him in the face next time you hear that. Or at least give him a makeup job when he's asleep.
Some girls genuinely look better with a bit of makeup (one of my friends looks permanently tired without it), but the VAST MAJORITY look fine without, or even better without. I've never seen a girl I would describe as "gross" without makeup. I HAVE seen women I would describe as "gross" WITH makeup.
So if you don't want to wear makeup, I'd stake my life on you looking great without it.
Duck Soup said:
I don't mind the subtle makeup as much as the full-on 10-yards with fake eyelashes to boot kind but I do prefer the natural look without any makeup at all. I don't even really care for painted fingernails much to be honest and painted toes baffle me.
As for scars and birth marks and stretch marks and stuff, uhh, it would depend on where it is and what kind of it it is, there's a difference between a marble-size dot in your palm and a frankenstein-style scar going down your face. I'll say that most normally run-into scars and other such markings are not a problem and may actually lend some character depending on their back story and how they were obtained. I have a scar on the top knuckle of my left hand, it's about as large as the outermost joint of my thumb so it's somewhat noticeable, I got it playing soccer when I was 11 after a sliding tackle which had my fist grind against the field. I know how it is to deal with scars that are on a rather visible place so I'm quite tolerant about that.
Around 5'8" with an athletic build. Breast size is irrelevant for me (I actually dislike larger than B). Bright eyes and a nice short haircut always grab my attention.