For all the men out there - how do you prefer your woman's external look?

[Innegativeion]

I could care less about stature, in terms of height. She should be thin enough to look attractive. I just can't find myself allured by the overweight. Sorry. I like a healthy, well-proportioned body. And by that I do NOT mean boobs the size of her head. I'll actually prefer smaller ones if they better match her body. Ridiculously sized ones are a turn off for me.

I like her to have a cute face, and generally I prefer skin on the paler end of the spectrum. However, if she's tanned jut right that can be just as good, too. Smooth skin, satisfyingly curvy, but I don't need a swimsuit model. I'm not too fussy about hair color.

Hair length, however, I greatly prefer short cuts. Not crew cuts or anything THAT short, which looks weird on most people anyway, but a nice bundle of hair wrapping her head, framing her face. That's a preference; long hair wouldn't turn me off or anything. So long as she takes good care of her hair.

 

[Duck Soup]

I am very happy to hear you say that. I can't tell you how many times I have heard guys say that women without make-up on are "gross" or "fugly" or some other crap like that. Hearing men say that about women all the time makes it really hard to feel ok about going without make-up. In my head I know that I should be comfortable stepping outside my house without worrying about how I look but I'm not. Most women aren't. But that has a lot to do with much bigger societal issues than what we are discussing on this thread.

Seriously?

Do me a personal favor and punch him in the face next time you hear that. Or at least give him a makeup job when he's asleep.

Some girls genuinely look better with a bit of makeup (one of my friends looks permanently tired without it), but the VAST MAJORITY look fine without, or even better without. I've never seen a girl I would describe as "gross" without makeup. I HAVE seen women I would describe as "gross" WITH makeup.

So if you don't want to wear makeup, I'd stake my life on you looking great without it.

I know. It's terrible. But now that I think about it some of those reactions I've heard *might* be because I live in a city that really pushes the stereotypical idea of beauty. You know, tall, big boobs/ass, stick straight blonde hair, and of course tons of make-up. When that image of the "perfect woman" is being pushed on you from every angle it's really easy to fall prey to the idea that if you are a girl and don't look like that then you are not beautiful. And if you're a guy, girls who don't look like that are ugly. That's just a fact of life living in Las Vegas, I guess.

 

[Wadders]

Really not that fussy at all, but red/ginger hair is usually a good thing, as is clear skin. Other than that, I couldn't really say, it just depends on the individual.

A clear skinned ginger? Someone likes the rare goodies

Yah, I should've made myself clearer - I meant clear skinned as in not too spotty - freckles are all gooood!

 

[Xarathox]

Guess it's time to stop lurking and actually contribute something.

For me, it's ass. Kind of simple, really. A nice, round bubble butt sends me into overdrive. I also like darker hair and skin complexions, which is probably why I find Brazilian women to be the "go to" ethnicity for my tastes. Unfortunately, I live no where near the country, and probably a good thing too, because I'd be in trouble!

I also love me some gingers, too. Ah, screw it... I love all women.

 

[Dreiko_v1legacy]

I know. It's terrible. But now that I think about it some of those reactions I've heard *might* be because I live in a city that really pushes the stereotypical idea of beauty. You know, tall, big boobs/ass, stick straight blonde hair, and of course tons of make-up. When that image of the "perfect woman" is being pushed on you from every angle it's really easy to fall prey to the idea that if you are a girl and don't look like that then you are not beautiful. And if you're a guy, girls who don't look like that are ugly. That's just a fact of life living in Las Vegas, I guess.

I'll be a bit hard on you now, even though you don't really deserve it.

You're guilty of the same thing the guys who say this are guilty of. They're presented this fake image and they latch on to it, becoming unthinking sheep and limiting their options. You join in and feel bad cause you too buy onto this image as they have. Just...just reduce your number of fucks given about what "people" say and you'll feel better I think.


These guys think of their partners as status symbols and the women think of their looks and features as business tools. It sucks, it's a dumb system and people should just refuse to be part of it. The only people benefiting are the fashion and makeup industries.



That's definitely not the "perfect" woman in my view at all, that's a woman who is too obsessed over her perceived looks that will look in shambles in the morning and will be so obsessed with her makeup and clothing that it will consume the rest of the aspects of her life until she becomes a pretty husk of a person. Not quite "perfect" at all.

 

[lacktheknack]

I am very happy to hear you say that. I can't tell you how many times I have heard guys say that women without make-up on are "gross" or "fugly" or some other crap like that. Hearing men say that about women all the time makes it really hard to feel ok about going without make-up. In my head I know that I should be comfortable stepping outside my house without worrying about how I look but I'm not. Most women aren't. But that has a lot to do with much bigger societal issues than what we are discussing on this thread.

Seriously?

Do me a personal favor and punch him in the face next time you hear that. Or at least give him a makeup job when he's asleep.

Some girls genuinely look better with a bit of makeup (one of my friends looks permanently tired without it), but the VAST MAJORITY look fine without, or even better without. I've never seen a girl I would describe as "gross" without makeup. I HAVE seen women I would describe as "gross" WITH makeup.

So if you don't want to wear makeup, I'd stake my life on you looking great without it.

I know. It's terrible. But now that I think about it some of those reactions I've heard *might* be because I live in a city that really pushes the stereotypical idea of beauty. You know, tall, big boobs/ass, stick straight blonde hair, and of course tons of make-up. When that image of the "perfect woman" is being pushed on you from every angle it's really easy to fall prey to the idea that if you are a girl and don't look like that then you are not beautiful. And if you're a guy, girls who don't look like that are ugly. That's just a fact of life living in Las Vegas, I guess.

That actually would kind of explain it.

Up here in northern Alberta, there aren't tons of skinny people (partly because it's so bloody cold), we have mostly average and curvy girls who don't bother with more than foundation, if anything at all. And we all think that's just great.

Of course, I'm slightly expected to look like a lumberjack, but I've got the right build for it, so what's my excuse not to?

 

[Duck Soup]

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I'll be a bit hard on you now, even though you don't really deserve it.

You're guilty of the same thing the guys who say this are guilty of. They're presented this fake image and they latch on to it, becoming unthinking sheep and limiting their options. You join in and feel bad cause you too buy onto this image as they have. Just...just reduce your number of fucks given about what "people" say and you'll feel better I think.


These guys think of their partners as status symbols and the women think of their looks and features as business tools. It sucks, it's a dumb system and people should just refuse to be part of it. The only people benefiting are the fashion and makeup industries.



That's definitely not the "perfect" woman in my view at all, that's a woman who is too obsessed over her perceived looks that will look in shambles in the morning and will be so obsessed with her makeup and clothing that it will consume the rest of the aspects of her life until she becomes a pretty husk of a person. Not quite "perfect" at all.

I do realize that I'm just as bad as them for believing that crap. I realize it's wrong and I shouldn't care. But this is a lot harder to up-root than you might think. It has been ingrained into our way of thinking and while I have been working on it (I care a lot less about what others think of me now than I did a few years ago, for instance) there's still that nagging voice in the back of my head. I hardly ever listen to it anymore but I think it will always be there. It's like a form of brainwash. I know I shouldn't think that way and it's unsettling that I still do every once and a while even though I know it's not right. It's kinda hard to explain what I'm trying to say so I hope I didn't confuse anyone.

 

[Xarathox]

I am a girl but I have two questions for those of you who have been replying.

1. Those of you who say you like the natural "no make-up" look, do you really mean no make- up at all? Or do you mean subtle make-up? Most everyday looks I've seen are specifically intended to look like the girl is not wearing make-up when she actually is.

2. Something that hasn't been mentioned yet and I am kind of curious about is scars. How do you feel about a woman that has scars or stretch marks or the like? It may not exactly be a preference for most but I am curious if it is actually a turn off instead.

And I guess I'll give my opinion since I'm here. I've always liked long, black, straight, Asian hair. Maybe that's because I'm jealous (I have mousy, brown, curly/frizzy hair) but I think it's just gorgeous.

Didn't see this as I skimmed through the first time.

1. I prefer minimal make-up. Most women really don't match it to their complexion types, so it can look a bit "clownish" sometimes.

2. Scars I'm completely fine with. Stretch marks, not so much.

 

[Dreiko_v1legacy]

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I'll be a bit hard on you now, even though you don't really deserve it.

You're guilty of the same thing the guys who say this are guilty of. They're presented this fake image and they latch on to it, becoming unthinking sheep and limiting their options. You join in and feel bad cause you too buy onto this image as they have. Just...just reduce your number of fucks given about what "people" say and you'll feel better I think.


These guys think of their partners as status symbols and the women think of their looks and features as business tools. It sucks, it's a dumb system and people should just refuse to be part of it. The only people benefiting are the fashion and makeup industries.



That's definitely not the "perfect" woman in my view at all, that's a woman who is too obsessed over her perceived looks that will look in shambles in the morning and will be so obsessed with her makeup and clothing that it will consume the rest of the aspects of her life until she becomes a pretty husk of a person. Not quite "perfect" at all.

I do realize that I'm just as bad as them for believing that crap. I realize it's wrong and I shouldn't care. But this is a lot harder to up-root than you might think. It has been ingrained into our way of thinking and while I have been working on it (I care a lot less about what others think of me now than I did a few years ago, for instance) there's still that nagging voice in the back of my head. I hardly ever listen to it anymore but I think it will always be there. It's like a form of brainwash. I know I shouldn't think that way and it's unsettling that I still do every once and a while even though I know it's not right. It's kinda hard to explain what I'm trying to say so I hope I didn't confuse anyone.

Right, I get what you mean. Even though you know it's BS you still kinda feel like it's true somewhere deep inside. It is kinda like brainwashing.

Well, it's good we talk about it here then cause that helps you be rid of it!

 

[Easton Dark]

Spoiler: Shallow ideals

Red or dark colored hair, extremely limited or preferably no piercings (a rarity, sadly).

Really no preference for height at or above me, they can a bit shorter, as tall, or taller, but the minimum height would probably be 5ft. Anything lower would look ridiculous in comparison.

Healthy skin definitely, I do prefer lighter skin tones, ones that can look non-bedraggled without make-up, and at least no tattoos on their face. If there's a tattoo on your face, nah brah. Don't like the over-body tattoos either. Just keep it to a minimum on the body art.

I am more of an ass man. Firm looking is good. Breasts a c-cup hopefully, or... a b+ if that's a thing. Not into the stonking great tits, and am confused why people are.

I do enjoy the bit of chubby rather than skeletor-like body compositions. Just... be the right height for what you weigh. I don't like worrying Unhealthy bodies on either end of the spectrum are reasons to worry.

Oh, and no eyepatches. No pirates.

Everything else deemed inconsequential. I'm thinking the stereotypical lasses O' Ireland are the right fit for me.

 

[Duck Soup]

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I'll be a bit hard on you now, even though you don't really deserve it.

You're guilty of the same thing the guys who say this are guilty of. They're presented this fake image and they latch on to it, becoming unthinking sheep and limiting their options. You join in and feel bad cause you too buy onto this image as they have. Just...just reduce your number of fucks given about what "people" say and you'll feel better I think.


These guys think of their partners as status symbols and the women think of their looks and features as business tools. It sucks, it's a dumb system and people should just refuse to be part of it. The only people benefiting are the fashion and makeup industries.



That's definitely not the "perfect" woman in my view at all, that's a woman who is too obsessed over her perceived looks that will look in shambles in the morning and will be so obsessed with her makeup and clothing that it will consume the rest of the aspects of her life until she becomes a pretty husk of a person. Not quite "perfect" at all.

I do realize that I'm just as bad as them for believing that crap. I realize it's wrong and I shouldn't care. But this is a lot harder to up-root than you might think. It has been ingrained into our way of thinking and while I have been working on it (I care a lot less about what others think of me now than I did a few years ago, for instance) there's still that nagging voice in the back of my head. I hardly ever listen to it anymore but I think it will always be there. It's like a form of brainwash. I know I shouldn't think that way and it's unsettling that I still do every once and a while even though I know it's not right. It's kinda hard to explain what I'm trying to say so I hope I didn't confuse anyone.

Right, I get what you mean. Even though you know it's BS you still kinda feel like it's true somewhere deep inside. It is kinda like brainwashing.

Well, it's good we talk about it here then cause that helps you be rid of it!

Yeah, I started reading this thread thinking I'd know exactly the type of response most guys would contribute... And I was quite surprised at the amount of diversity in responses. And it kinda opened my eyes to exactly how much my environment has influenced me.

And gave me a bit of a self-confidence boost. So, go Escapist community!

 

[Xarathox]

Spoiler: Shallow ideals

Red or dark colored hair, extremely limited or preferably no piercings (a rarity, sadly).

Really no preference for height at or above me, they can a bit shorter, as tall, or taller, but the minimum height would probably be 5ft. Anything lower would look ridiculous in comparison.

Healthy skin definitely, I do prefer lighter skin tones, ones that can look non-bedraggled without make-up, and at least no tattoos on their face. If there's a tattoo on your face, nah brah. Don't like the over-body tattoos either. Just keep it to a minimum on the body art.

I am more of an ass man. Firm looking is good. Breasts a c-cup hopefully, or... a b+ if that's a thing. Not into the stonking great tits, and am confused why people are.

I do enjoy the bit of chubby rather than skeletor-like body compositions. Just... be the right height for what you weigh. I don't like worrying Unhealthy bodies on either end of the spectrum are reasons to worry.

Oh, and no eyepatches. No pirates.

Everything else deemed inconsequential. I'm thinking the stereotypical lasses O' Ireland are the right fit for me.

I knew an Irish lass once, while she was here in the states for school. By the Gods, her accent made me melt every time she spoke.

 

[The_Echo]

For me, pale skin. Not ghostly, but pale. I really just don't get what's so attractive about being tan. I don't care which hair color/style, as long as she wears it well, though I do prefer longer hair. A good smile. Height doesn't matter to me, but preferably between 4'10" and 5'8". Cup size isn't super important either (ideally, though, B or C).

Something that I really like is when a girl, er, "dresses down." Is that the phrase? [small]I'm not super sure...[/small] To elaborate: the 'just got out of bed' look. Hair might not be perfect, large shirts, baggy pants, etc. I dunno why, but that's a really attractive look to me.

 

[Nickolai77]

Having an attractive face i think for me is most important- after all it's what you spend most of your time looking at. That is closely followed by a healthy body weight- not too thin and not too fat. Excessive make-up's a turn off as well, i prefer it either subtly done or none at all.

Having nice legs, ass or breasts are certainly a bonus, but far from necessary for getting my attention- and if a girl shows them off too much then i tend to quickly lose any romantic interest because it sends out the wrong messages to me. By all means girls should display their "assets", just do so appropriately and leave something for the imagination! (Wearing leggings like trousers comes to mind)

 

[Easton Dark]

Spoiler: Shallow ideals

Red or dark colored hair, extremely limited or preferably no piercings (a rarity, sadly).

Really no preference for height at or above me, they can a bit shorter, as tall, or taller, but the minimum height would probably be 5ft. Anything lower would look ridiculous in comparison.

Healthy skin definitely, I do prefer lighter skin tones, ones that can look non-bedraggled without make-up, and at least no tattoos on their face. If there's a tattoo on your face, nah brah. Don't like the over-body tattoos either. Just keep it to a minimum on the body art.

I am more of an ass man. Firm looking is good. Breasts a c-cup hopefully, or... a b+ if that's a thing. Not into the stonking great tits, and am confused why people are.

I do enjoy the bit of chubby rather than skeletor-like body compositions. Just... be the right height for what you weigh. I don't like worrying Unhealthy bodies on either end of the spectrum are reasons to worry.

Oh, and no eyepatches. No pirates.

Everything else deemed inconsequential. I'm thinking the stereotypical lasses O' Ireland are the right fit for me.

I knew an Irish lass once, while she was here in the states for school. By the Gods, her accent made me melt every time she spoke.

Yeah. Accents are an attractive feature that can entice me to forgo many of those preferences. If I was there with you, I'd just have to go to bed after talking to her.

 

[Ryan Minns]

Yeah, I started reading this thread thinking I'd know exactly the type of response most guys would contribute... And I was quite surprised at the amount of diversity in responses. And it kinda opened my eyes to exactly how much my environment has influenced me.

And gave me a bit of a self-confidence boost. So, go Escapist community!

I am surprised you seem surprised lol, I've never seen a time or place where what men and women wanted wasn't varied as all hell. Granted you do tend to have people with agendas grabbing hold and force feeding others their crap.

As a man I know there is NOT a standard of beauty all men believe in. For every "Oh a girl needs to be stick thin!" there is a man thinking she needs to eat a sandwich. For every "FUCK YEAH LOVE ME THOSE BIG TITTIES" there are those who simply love themselves some cupcakes. For every lover of blondes you have your brunette lovers. I could go on but I think you already got my point thanks to others lol. Don't let your town or anyone tell you that there is some standard of beauty.

/random incoherent mumblings

 

[Cheesepower5]

While I'm not terribly picky I suppose the ideal would be a medium-height, leggy woman with a nice bum and deep red hair. I'm so original, I know.

Captcha: DO UNTO OTHERS

Guess it's time to tone the back-end and dye my hair.

 

[Marcus Kehoe]

I really don't look for specific external thing's in women, I find myself attracted to many different thing's.

But if I had to choose a few particular thing's I'd say a bob cut hair, not so much large breasts more well shaped breasts of any size, at least in average physical shape, healthy if you would.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

Clean, umm, not too angry looking, and uh, nice... smile? I'm really not picky, I mean sure there are some women I find unattractive but that's almost always due to them being total bitches, and has nothing to do with whether or not they look a specific way, there's a ton of features that when combined create a woman who is nice to look at, at least as far as I'm concerned... So yeah, I don't think I can add much relevant information here.

 

[Xarathox]

Spoiler: Shallow ideals

Red or dark colored hair, extremely limited or preferably no piercings (a rarity, sadly).

Really no preference for height at or above me, they can a bit shorter, as tall, or taller, but the minimum height would probably be 5ft. Anything lower would look ridiculous in comparison.

Healthy skin definitely, I do prefer lighter skin tones, ones that can look non-bedraggled without make-up, and at least no tattoos on their face. If there's a tattoo on your face, nah brah. Don't like the over-body tattoos either. Just keep it to a minimum on the body art.

I am more of an ass man. Firm looking is good. Breasts a c-cup hopefully, or... a b+ if that's a thing. Not into the stonking great tits, and am confused why people are.

I do enjoy the bit of chubby rather than skeletor-like body compositions. Just... be the right height for what you weigh. I don't like worrying Unhealthy bodies on either end of the spectrum are reasons to worry.

Oh, and no eyepatches. No pirates.

Everything else deemed inconsequential. I'm thinking the stereotypical lasses O' Ireland are the right fit for me.

I knew an Irish lass once, while she was here in the states for school. By the Gods, her accent made me melt every time she spoke.

Yeah. Accents are an attractive feature that can entice me to forgo many of those preferences. If I was there with you, I'd just have to go to bed after talking to her.

Thing is, I lived in a college town until a few months ago (only moved an hour away), so I've met many different women from just about every ethnicity imaginable. And while I've found their accents equally sexy, it's the Irish one that seems to really get to me, now that I've been reflecting a bit.

I may have to go Google some videos...