Gamer Girlfriend?

[Direwolf750]

I've tried to get my girlfriend interested in gaming, and she seems to have somewhat taken to portal...she's very enthusiastic, but somewhat painful to watch, but she can be trained...

yes, I think it does matter. Your significant other should at least have a somewhat basic understanding of your hobbies, or they won't understand what you are talking about, which takes out a big part of communication.

 

[Sharky200]

I'm more of a PC gamer now. My brother usually has the 360.
I'm one of the Gamer Girlfriends you are talking about. I woudl play more if I had the time.
Team Fortress 2, Every Zelda game, of course Super Smash Brothers Brawl, and Elder Scrolls.
We have some differences in the games we like but most are the same games so we can talk about them. Or play against each other in multilayer games.

 

[superbatranger]

Although it would be nice, I don't find it to be that necessary. We don't have to share every single hobby and interest, you know?

 

[AndrewOfHell]

Mmm me and my girlfriend mainly play TF2 together, even if she is a pyro noob ^_^

 

[Justank]

I was in a decently serious relationship with a womangamer that was just as hardcore as me. It started nice and we had some romantic days and it went well. We talked, helped eachother out etc.
But slowly everything became multiplayer (no not that way). We'd plug in a co-op game and go at it and rarely talk seriously to the point I didn't even hear that her mother died because she didn't tell me. Yeah she looked distressed but when I asked she wouldn't tell me and just said she wanted to 'play some games' to distract her. Few weeks later we broke up and she suddenly told me 'oh yeah btw...'.

So for me, it doesn't work. Not just because of that experience but also because gaming is my escape. I don't want to (per example) be down/angry and log into WoW/ PSN to escape from everything only to find my girlfriend messaging me ingame to call her.
Sure she can game, just not that hardcore because i really need it as a private escape. And it's something she should respect as would I for her hobbies or escapees (is that a word?).

You need something to get of eachothers back every now and then. You don't see your dad constantly asking your mom "what's ya reading.." or my mom watching every tv-show your dad watched (just examples). Each partner needs his own escape hobbie to give some space to the other.

I suck at explaining I think, because rereading the above gave me headaches. Oh well. It will do.

Bottom line: Give me a girlfriend who respects my hobbie and doesn't mind that I do it. Sure she can join in if she wants, just not as hardcore. Interested is the word I think.

That's not so much a matter of how interested she is in your hobbies, each of you just needed to understand that you don't always have to play together. Everyone needs a little cave time, just have to let them know that's what it is.

 

[Sable Rhapsody]

*shrug* I happen to be a girl who games on multiple platforms (but primarily PC), and also loves board games and tabletop games. I have yet to have my boyfriend tell me he's threatened or anything just because I happen to be just as passionate about the same hobbies

I think it's awesome that we share the same interests.

 

[Shade184]

Personally, I wouldn't date a girl who was an uber-hardcore, or even someone who plays games regularly (by "regular", I mean more than 12 hours/week). I'd prefer a girl who maybe logs onto Facebook to check her crops (or whatever it is people do in Farmville) every now and then when she can get access to a PC.

The deal is that I'd prefer someone who would complement me: the Mary Jane Watson to my Peter Parker, or the Lois Lane to my Clark Kent. Someone who keeps me focused and grounded on things in the real world, someone who doesn't share my 4 hour/day habit.

Yeah, things might be rocky, but I always thought that you were supposed to work things out in relationships, learn to accept the quirks and habits of your partner and whatnot.

I agree, this would probably add a lot more variety to our relationship, and give me a chance to learn to accept other people's quirks as well. Except the Farmville part. Screw Farmville, I'd get her into Echo Bazaar!

And it'd be sweet if she was into anime and/or tabletop RPGs.

I guess geeky interests would be more important to me than gaming itself.

My fiance isn't a gamer really, but when I asked her how she felt about me gaming, she said she was okay with it because it's part of who I am, I like to do it and she likes to watch me play and cuddle me during my gaming sessions. :3

You lucky bastard. Cuddles from girlfriends AND video games? Doesn't get better than that. :3

 

[Fetzenfisch]

It is important that she does not have a problem with me gaming. That she wont make stupid comments or strange faces when i am out for a night of Pen and Paper or join friends to go to the game-expo (expo- like in "new games to be checked out early, not con- like in costumed crazyness ( i like certain ones of those too , though, but havent been there for years)).
I just get my moments of nerdy overjoy when she in her normally relatively ungaming life, gets all crazy if something x-men related is in tv or a store, or when we are playing old superhero arcadegames.
Thats mostly it with her and gaming, except wii-casuals and some boardgames. I got her to play Munchkin finally, thats a big win here. And since she at least got her own LotR Trilogy DVD set she isnt completely lost here either.

The next project is some simple Splatter stuff, House of the Dead kinda. She loves that in movies, so i might be able to finally get her in the gaming-zone.

 

[jumb]

I'm being very patient with her and it's hard to explain something over Xbox Live chat.

I tried getting my GF in to WoW. Because of the awesome new refer-a-friend or whatever system, it meant that we should spend the majory of our time in a group. So, I spent a month leading her by the nose to each quest zone, asking if she has the X number of enemy Y's skulls or breastplates or nosehairs or whatever, at which point she would say "oh I don't have that quest." When we got high enough, I would get to the point where I'd go "I'm busy now, you can go do something by yourself, you're alright!" at which point she would just sit in a city, jumping around and selling portals (she played a mage).

At this point, I realsied that although she did mildly enjoy the game, the only reason she stuck with it was she got attention out of me. This sounds similar to you; she can give or take the game, but she gets to talk to you from home. You get to play games, she gets your attention, everyone's happy!

While it did initally annoy me that my GF was tricking me to spend time with her, I didn't mind. I don't expect my partner to enjoy the same things as me. My partner and I should be the ying and the yang; opposites that complement and balance each other out as a whole. Also, when we spend time together in person, I get to stick my "ying" in her "yang"!

 

[Mcface]

My GF is obsessed with mass effect and fallout.
she plays Black Ops too, but rages too much.

 

[Bloodastral]

I had an ex girlfriend who started playing a mmorpg I used to play. Was pretty cool, so it's nice to have a g/f that has the same interests and plays games.

 

[SimuLord]

I'm single, but the girl I'm interested in (and curse her ex-boyfriend for screwing her up so badly that she could meet the man of her dreams and her heart wouldn't be open to him, so what chance do I have?) plays World of Warcraft and doesn't mind when I bore her with Fallout: New Vegas stories.

 

[Inuprince]

Well my girlfriend doesn't play games alone, but if it's some kind of co-operative TPS, she can really get into it.

We beat Resident Evil 5 and Kane and Lynch together and it was awesome

 

[MrEnigami]

I am currently single, and none of my ex-girlfriends (to my knowledge) have been gamers.

Having a girlfriend who plays games would be cool. Having a girlfriend who likes the same games as me would be even cooler (Shooter, RPG, strategy... I like alot of games...) and if she was better than me; that'd be hot pretty damned cool too. None of that is/would be necessary, but it'd be cool.

But that ain't happening any time soon. :/

 

[Sebenko]

When your pillow talk is about how awesome it was to powerslide a ship out of the warp and reduce the enemy to molten slag with six macrobatteries...

Yep, geeky relationship here.

 

[FrostyChick]

Well I'm a girl, I like games. Would I like a gamer girfriend?

Spoiler

[HEADING=1]HELL YES!!![/HEADING]

 

[dygros]

My girlfriend enjoys games for the environments. She's really into Assassin's Creed 2 & Brotherhood at the moment because she loves Italy, especially renaissance Italy. She just enjoys being able to explore a world that she'll never get to visit

 

[Halceon]

I'd like to believe that it doesn't matter, if the girl's not a gamer. However, I can't see myself being together with anyone who dismisses the greater part of my hobbies wholesale. Then again, I have no reason for worry, because my girl is an avid tabletop roleplayer.

 

[Psychemaster]

My girlfriend plays a mean Pyro/Engineer in TF2, so I can't complain at all