Girl gamers and their boy issues.
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I get the feeling that there are other ways to garner a guy's attention than relating on a gaming level. Obviously that won't hurt, and obviously it can mean everything to certain people, but it's sorta like music or anime or movies or whatever - you don't need to like every single thing they like. You'll find things to relate to them with, and go from there. And if they're open-minded (and not dicks), maybe they'll want to know more about the stuff you play.Ambi said:
Maybe they won't. It's not the end of the world.
But seriously, Alpha Centauri was fantastic, and everyone you're talking to should know that.
I mean seriously, just glance at the Greg Tito's review [http://www.metacritic.com/game/pc/sid-meiers-alpha-centauri]. Honestly, it's the highest scoring game in PC Gamer magazine, and for good reason.
But yeah, point is, there's more to a girl than the games she plays, and people will probably be attracted to you for other things, with gaming coming as an afterthought, unless you're looking at geek 2 geek or a similar dating website.
Normally I'd agree with you, but the environment and people at Supanova facilitates that approach really well.Nazgual said:
Kragg said:go for it !Wereraccoon said:Haha I've driven my room mate insane with mass Effect... xD I'd say it's one of my favourite games... But I guess I could say that about most Bioware games... So I'll just say that I really like Bioware gameslithium.jelly said:
Yes but the trick is to FIND a nice gamer ladThere is one nice lad working in my local game store... But eh... No courage 8D
You dont need a gamer though, i prefer my partner to not be, to (in an overly dramatic way) pull me out of the gaming world and into her world, but thats me! When i think of 2gamers i think of that 45 year old couple with kids in an MMO, that let the tv raise their kids while they do raids in warcraft for 5 hours a day ... scares me
If you do want a gamer, think that guys prolly have it harder ^^ hanging around the game store might help you find them, aslong as you dont turn into the freaky girl that rents 15 games a day
Now you are touching onto another issue though;
She will gladly take you into her world, girsl seems to love to "change" a guy.
But you can't take her int yours, because she is afraid to catch the nerd.
That is why I personally would like a girl with at least an interest in something geeky, so that I can share my life with her. Why the hell would I want to give up all of what makes me happy, for a girl (Who may or may not make me happy)?
Even better, Holland seems to be actually, from my experiences when I traveled there and the times I visited my oma, a lot more accepting and open minded than many other countries(except in the political/sociological context in one specific case, but let's not talk about that), although Europe is quite lacking in the acceptance of videogames as a recognized form of art/entertainment other than "kids stuff".Wereraccoon said:
Going back to the point and going off of what you said in other posts, I disagree with the fact that you should "hold back" whenever you hear somebody ask you about games or the games YOU play, it's your passion so why hold back? It sometimes scares people away because they don't expect the reaction, but when someone who does understand listens, like a passionate gamer, he can only be happy that there are women who are just as passionate about videogames as he is. And if you're talking to non-gamers, or non-passionate-gamers, the two outcomes are the awkward backing off, because he's a dick, and if he really wants the conversation to keep going he'll either listen to you or talk back, one way or another!!
Also, the guy that said that people can't take such passion without being slightly afraid or uncomfortable, these guys just show that they're not interested OR that they can't demonstrate their interest, any guy who is truly interested will endure awkwardness in order to talk to the person he's interested to.
Gosh, I feel lucky to have a significant other that's just as dorky as me. We actually met through a mutual friend, and hit it off because we both played Animal Crossing. We exchanged friend codes, and a relationship ensued. We have a lot of other stuff in common too though, like a love of reading, we enjoy cooking together, we love the same music, and a host of other fun things too. I think a relationship needs to be built on more than one mutual interest alone. Even if he's not much into gaming, maybe you can find another thing you have in common?
Gaming I think, could be replaced by any other activity and you might get the same uneasy reaction from whoever you're talking to. Some people just have no hobbies, or no particular passion for anything, so they'll feel uncomfortable when you begin talking about your passion, be it gaming or anything else.
Gaming I think, could be replaced by any other activity and you might get the same uneasy reaction from whoever you're talking to. Some people just have no hobbies, or no particular passion for anything, so they'll feel uncomfortable when you begin talking about your passion, be it gaming or anything else.
dont know how serious youre beingKragg said:go for it !Wereraccoon said:Haha I've driven my room mate insane with mass Effect... xD I'd say it's one of my favourite games... But I guess I could say that about most Bioware games... So I'll just say that I really like Bioware gameslithium.jelly said:
Yes but the trick is to FIND a nice gamer lad
You dont need a gamer though, i prefer my partner to not be, to (in an overly dramatic way) pull me out of the gaming world and into her world, but thats me! When i think of 2gamers i think of that 45 year old couple with kids in an MMO, that let the tv raise their kids while they do raids in warcraft for 5 hours a day ... scares me
If you do want a gamer, think that guys prolly have it harder ^^ hanging around the game store might help you find them, aslong as you dont turn into the freaky girl that rents 15 games a day
but I mean really, sure peopel liek that probably exists, but "gamer" doesnt have to be that, its more about just having some common ground, and theres more to people than their interests/passions, I see no problem with both peopel in a coupel being into games because a realtionship would be built on more than gaming
I mean sure if gaming is the only thing that defines you...if its your world (as your example shows) thats a problem, but then again thats also more a sympton than a cause
The problem is that most non-gamer people don't quite understand why a person that plays videogames spends time on them, to them it's like a waste of time, that's why gamers look for other gamers, it's just easier to understand because it's a shared passion, while it's harder on a relationship when your girl/boyfriend thinks that you're wasting time on some "silly" thing.Vault101 said:dont know how serious youre beingKragg said:go for it !Wereraccoon said:Haha I've driven my room mate insane with mass Effect... xD I'd say it's one of my favourite games... But I guess I could say that about most Bioware games... So I'll just say that I really like Bioware gameslithium.jelly said:
Yes but the trick is to FIND a nice gamer lad
You dont need a gamer though, i prefer my partner to not be, to (in an overly dramatic way) pull me out of the gaming world and into her world, but thats me! When i think of 2gamers i think of that 45 year old couple with kids in an MMO, that let the tv raise their kids while they do raids in warcraft for 5 hours a day ... scares me
If you do want a gamer, think that guys prolly have it harder ^^ hanging around the game store might help you find them, aslong as you dont turn into the freaky girl that rents 15 games a day
but I mean really, sure peopel liek that probably exists, but "gamer" doesnt have to be that, its more about just having some common ground, and theres more to people than their interests/passions, I see no problem with both peopel in a coupel being into games because a realtionship would be built on more than gaming
I mean sure if gaming is the only thing that defines you...if its your world (as your example shows) thats a problem, but then again thats also more a sympton than a cause
Never knew that gamer women would have as hard of a time finding a mate as gamer men.
But then again, I got married at 17 to a very intelligent and loving gamer man (with parents consent, of course), so I guess I should count myself lucky. =)
EDIT: as of this post, I've been awake for almost 24 hours (hubby's putting together a presentation together for one of his classes, and I really don't like to go to bed without him, nor he without me.)
But then again, I got married at 17 to a very intelligent and loving gamer man (with parents consent, of course), so I guess I should count myself lucky. =)
EDIT: as of this post, I've been awake for almost 24 hours (hubby's putting together a presentation together for one of his classes, and I really don't like to go to bed without him, nor he without me.)
I'm getting married soon. I guess that you naturally start to moderate the amount of gaming you do, even if your spouse is a gamer. With work and stuff, I just said "Hey, if I wanna game, then why don't I make it something we can do together?" We're working on L.A. Noire right now, it's about 100 times more fun if you don't play it alone. The key is to make it something that strengthens the relationship, not a point of compromise or contention.
well its not that black and white and its not that she doesnt want to "catch the nerd" its that id prefer to do that part alone hahAurgelmir said:Kragg said:go for it !Wereraccoon said:Haha I've driven my room mate insane with mass Effect... xD I'd say it's one of my favourite games... But I guess I could say that about most Bioware games... So I'll just say that I really like Bioware gameslithium.jelly said:
Yes but the trick is to FIND a nice gamer lad
You dont need a gamer though, i prefer my partner to not be, to (in an overly dramatic way) pull me out of the gaming world and into her world, but thats me! When i think of 2gamers i think of that 45 year old couple with kids in an MMO, that let the tv raise their kids while they do raids in warcraft for 5 hours a day ... scares me
If you do want a gamer, think that guys prolly have it harder ^^ hanging around the game store might help you find them, aslong as you dont turn into the freaky girl that rents 15 games a day
Now you are touching onto another issue though;
She will gladly take you into her world, girsl seems to love to "change" a guy.
But you can't take her int yours, because she is afraid to catch the nerd.
That is why I personally would like a girl with at least an interest in something geeky, so that I can share my life with her. Why the hell would I want to give up all of what makes me happy, for a girl (Who may or may not make me happy)?
and NOT end up like that weird married couple i mentioned. I wouldnt give up what i had but enrich it whilest getting to know her, if that makes more sence
WolfR said:The problem is that most non-gamer people don't quite understand why a person that plays videogames spends time on them, to them it's like a waste of time, that's why gamers look for other gamers, it's just easier to understand because it's a shared passion, while it's harder on a relationship when your girl/boyfriend thinks that you're wasting time on some "silly" thing.Vault101 said:dont know how serious youre beingKragg said:go for it !Wereraccoon said:Haha I've driven my room mate insane with mass Effect... xD I'd say it's one of my favourite games... But I guess I could say that about most Bioware games... So I'll just say that I really like Bioware gameslithium.jelly said:
Yes but the trick is to FIND a nice gamer lad
You dont need a gamer though, i prefer my partner to not be, to (in an overly dramatic way) pull me out of the gaming world and into her world, but thats me! When i think of 2gamers i think of that 45 year old couple with kids in an MMO, that let the tv raise their kids while they do raids in warcraft for 5 hours a day ... scares me
If you do want a gamer, think that guys prolly have it harder ^^ hanging around the game store might help you find them, aslong as you dont turn into the freaky girl that rents 15 games a day
but I mean really, sure peopel liek that probably exists, but "gamer" doesnt have to be that, its more about just having some common ground, and theres more to people than their interests/passions, I see no problem with both peopel in a coupel being into games because a realtionship would be built on more than gaming
I mean sure if gaming is the only thing that defines you...if its your world (as your example shows) thats a problem, but then again thats also more a sympton than a cause
gamer is a pretty bad term for what we do anyway, if you meet someone who is a "gamer" you might have nothing more in common with them than with someone who is a non-gamer, someone who plays only shooters vs someone who only plays simulators for example. Theres always a tiney bit of common ground i guess. I see what Vault is saying
Same with 2 people liking music, one classic other rap.
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Wereraccoon said:
Well if you're all about storyline then I'm kind of curious in that regard
I'm quite a heavy based story gamer, just the only exception to that is Choices in game, it's not that i don't mind that, but it takes away what the game itself has to tell, instead of what i make of it. which i always have allot of issue with I'm more curious about different perspective then my own Choice in a game always makes the game by your own moral standards or more of ambitious path, or just evil. Own choices.... wait at least in my own experience is and feels always cliché I'll be honest haven't played Mass Effect yet waiting for a Trilogy box because this might be the exception i have been looking for.
I'm still way behind. I'm hoping this laptop can handle Bioshock with integrated graphics. I'm also contemplating installing XP to play the early C&C games and Deus Ex which I chanced upon and picked up for about $2 second hand. I don't know whether to hack away at that stupid HP case on the partially broken computer to get the DVD drive out or if I'm just an idiot >_<InterAirplay said:
I don't think I can be bothered trying to keep up to date, I can't miss superior graphics and all that when I've never played anything with them, and I should save money.
That's true. It's not exclusively gamers that catchy my attention, just generally guys who are somewhat intelligent and introspective with a little boyish immaturity and creativity. There are plenty of different ways to relate to people.Valiance said:
I have varied interests that I'm familiar enough with to feel like I identify with them somewhat, but I'm never fanatical or knowledgeable enough to feel like anything is a niche, if I could say that. Gaming is one of those things. I guess having a slight interest or even tolerance of games would be enough for some guys, though.
A reason I posted what I did was because I was thinking of doing games design at uni because I saw it as a very versatile art, despite not having played a lot of games, but I didn't end up deciding to do it because it seemed to be for people who were very fanatical and knowledgeable. It would be good for my social life if I was at uni.
Anyway, Alpha Centauri just doesn't seem to be popular with people my age, it's a shame though. I was lucky I had an older brother who put it on the family computer.
If I was at a party and a girl started talking about mass effect, I'd have thought I'd hit the jackpot.Wereraccoon said:
Just keep up with the mass effect talk, surely one day someone else will be into it.