Girl Gamers - Y U No Around?

[taknarian]

Hey, this is my first real thread start, so I figured I'd go for the gusto. I live in a smallish town in Midwestern America and there are no girl gamers around here that I can find. Yes, I know this sounds like I'm asking for a handout, but honestly, girl gamers in my eyes are few and far between. Sure, I know they exist, but it makes me sad that they don't exist anywhere near / around myself. And personally, I think if a girl can destroy me in my favorite video game, that's one of the things I find most attractive in a girl. I guess I'm really just ranting here, but I have to say it: Dear Lord, please make more girl gamers, I really would like a TF:2 or CS:S partner, haha.

Signed,
Forlorn Gamer.

P.S.: No I'm not using this as a dating service, I just wanted to vent a little.

 

[Dyme]

Gaming and standing while peeing are the few things men still have. Hope it stays like that forever. Girls can play Farmville and Sims. Boys play Counterstrike and Halo. Men play Starcraft.

/edit: In all seriousness, when I play my competetive games, my opponents are my buddies. Don't want any sexual stuff in my games. And girls create that.

 

[Aurgelmir]

Gaming and standing while peeing are the few things men still have. Hope it stays like that forever. Girls can play Farmville and Sims. Boys play Counterstrike and Halo. Men play Starcraft.

And yet one of Day[9]s IRC moderators is a 16 year old girl

 

[Dyme]

Gaming and standing while peeing are the few things men still have. Hope it stays like that forever. Girls can play Farmville and Sims. Boys play Counterstrike and Halo. Men play Starcraft.

And yet one of Day[9]s IRC moderators is a 16 year old girl

Yea, girls in Starcraft can be mods, do interviews and art.

And less sexist: As long as girls don't call themselves "Girlygirl" and just play and try to win, that's fine with me. But I guess girls make up at maximum 1 or 2 % of the sc2 playerbase.

But I am really fine with gaming being "gender-free", "sex-free" or "male".

 

[Aurgelmir]

Gaming and standing while peeing are the few things men still have. Hope it stays like that forever. Girls can play Farmville and Sims. Boys play Counterstrike and Halo. Men play Starcraft.

And yet one of Day[9]s IRC moderators is a 16 year old girl

Yea, girls in Starcraft can be mods, do interviews and art.

And less sexist: As long as girls don't call themselves "Girlygirl" and just play and try to win, that's fine with me. But I guess girls make up at maximum 1 or 2 % of the sc2 playerbase.

But I am really fine with gaming being "gender-free", "sex-free" or "male".

Would be awesome with a female SC2 Pro

 

[taknarian]

But like I said, I just want to find a nice girl that I can go toe to toe with in my favorite FPS games, just so I know that some douchey little 12 year old is getting the boot out so the girl can play.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

There is no such thing as "girl gamer." There are just gamers, some of whom happen to be female.

Also, where are you playing that there are no females? I can't play one round of Halo without some annoying "GRRRRL GAM3R" screaming into the mic and hitting on everyone. They are annoying as hell.

 

[taknarian]

Midwest, I'm just talking local - And I've yet to find a woman that plays CS or TF2

 

[Tasachan]

There are some girls (such as myself) that might not be obviously gamers to other people. I don't wear "1337" shirts or whatever, I don't have companion cubes hanging from my rear-view mirror (though that would be sweet), I just look like an ordinary girl.
Have you talked to a large number of these girls to ensure that they are, in fact, not gamers?
Conversely, maybe some of them would love to play games, but have just never started. A lot of girls don't get into games until their boyfriends/brothers whatever start them off. If you meet a girl you like, if she doesn't game, why not ask her to play sometime?

 

[Stoic raptor]

I see a lot of players that are girls. Most of them are on tf2, but some of them play on counterstrike. They are usually quite good players too.

 

[taknarian]

I'm not exactly a ladies man... I can't really talk to them and I'm shy, etc... When it comes to women, I'm always stuck in the "friend zone". I know of girls that play video games, but there are none that are super close to me, like one that I can hang out with and rally in TF2 with.

 

[PhiMuLady]

Why, Why, Why! I am a gamer and a woman. I wanted to find other people to game with (mostly table top, but also 360 games) I used the magic that is the internet to find a local gaming club. What I walked into was a building of (mostly) single male nerds. All with poor or non existent social skills. I know that two of them like me, they follow me around and both try to monopolize my time. It is sad really because most of the guys here are great guys, they do not have the social skills needed to deal with women. Women for the most part try to have clear what the relationship is between them and others. If you do not let them know that you have an interest in them until after they label as just a friend it will nearly impossible to get you out of the "Friend Zone."

Also going to vent myself here a little bit, if for some grace of luck a gamer girl (that term bugs me) does decide to go on dates with you make sure you know what that means! I have dated nerd/gamers before that have done nothing more than hang out with me, we did the exact same things as before we dated just with a kiss good night (that is fine at first but not for months). I know most of you spend hours knowing what you should do to win your favorite games, you should spend at least a little time learning what would win over the girl you like AND THAT MEANS TALKING TO HER.

Lastly get out there! Humans need social interaction.

 

[taknarian]

I am at a loss for words here. Also, I pretty much live at my local game store and there are barely any women that come in there, and they are never single when they do. Also they only come in because their boyfriends do.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

I am at a loss for words here. Also, I pretty much live at my local game store and there are barely any women that come in there, and they are never single when they do. Also they only come in because their boyfriends do.

Suggestion...find another hobby! Am I saying you have to give up video games? Certainly not! But, find another activity you enjoy equally well that is a bit more social than video gaming generally tends to be. I love my games, but I have so many other things which I love equally as much, that allow me make some sort of connection with almost anyone I meet. (Seriously, if you are human, I will have something in common with you.)

Try getting involved in sports. They are challenging, many people enjoy them, and they have the added benefit of keeping you in shape. Even if you aren't very "athletic" by nature, you can play in intramural leagues, or just get pick-up games going with other people. There are also many sports that are fun to watch (football or lacrosse for example), and the games provide great opportunities for social gatherings.

If organized sports aren't your thing, running or biking could be for you. Or, maybe backpacking, rock-climbing, or parkour. Some sort of martial-art is always fun, or you could just make your own little "Fight Club" with some buddies.

Why, Why, Why! I am a gamer and a woman. I wanted to find other people to game with (mostly table top, but also 360 games) I used the magic that is the internet to find a local gaming club. What I walked into was a building of (mostly) single male nerds. All with poor or non existent social skills. I know that two of them like me, they follow me around and both try to monopolize my time. It is sad really because most of the guys here are great guys, they do not have the social skills needed to deal with women. Women for the most part try to have clear what the relationship is between them and others. If you do not let them know that you have an interest in them until after they label as just a friend it will nearly impossible to get you out of the "Friend Zone."

Also going to vent myself here a little bit, if for some grace of luck a gamer girl (that term bugs me) does decide to go on dates with you make sure you know what that means! I have dated nerd/gamers before that have done nothing more than hang out with me, we did the exact same things as before we dated just with a kiss good night (that is fine at first but not for months). I know most of you spend hours knowing what you should do to win your favorite games, you should spend at least a little time learning what would win over the girl you like AND THAT MEANS TALKING TO HER.

Lastly get out there! Humans need social interaction.

PhiMu is right, you won't ever meet anybody unless you put yourself out there!

 

[taknarian]

I honestly try every week but I feel it's a two steps forward, one step back kind of situation. And Im nowhere nearly "healthy" enough to be in true athletics.

 

[dmase]

Google is your friend, type in your state and gaming conventions. That or card games, board games, video game competitions whatever your poison is. You'll probably find a few groups that try to get people together and connected. You might actually get to meet a few gamers you would have never met in real life. It couldn't hurt... or if you really wanna find gamer girls i'm sure there are specifically websites for that.

 

[taknarian]

Yeah, they don't have any game competitions around here. We have a GameStop but I'm sure they don't have any at the one we have. And if it's a game, I play it, I love gaming.

 

[WingedIncubus]

They are around, they just mostly remain hidden so that they don't get targeted by sex-crazed, acne-filled nerd loser that say "omg I love you" just because she happens to play video games.

 

[Aris Khandr]

I'd say your problem is location. Not many people want to live in the midwest. Even fewer in a small town. Gaming is a technology-driven pastime. Small towns in the country aren't really the haven of people who embrace technology. So it's no wonder that you won't meet many gamers there.