Girl: "I want you to play World of Warcraft with me." Me: "Umm...no."

[FieryTrainwreck]

It's a shame because the girl and I otherwise have so much in common, but as soon as it became obvious that she was still severely hung up on the guy, I knew "yeah, she's nuttier than a tree full of squirrels" and crossed her off the potential-romance list.

What I'm about to say is both extremely offensive and completely true: mentally unstable women are absolutely dynamite in bed. Don't make any hasty decisions there, guy.

On a more serious note, if you're remotely attracted to a girl, the last thing you want to do is play WoW with her. Yes, you'll spend a lot of time together - but you'll also eventually spend a lot of time with other people. People who are predominantly male and horny. She'll be getting nonstop whispers from untold hordes of guys, and a lot of girls (especially the unstable ones) really relish that attention - even if it's entirely brought on by boobies. Eventually she'll fall in with someone else, and then you're the third wheel to their steamy virtual hook ups.

I suppose everyone's mileage varies, but damn if my experience with WoW and girls wasn't fantastically scarring.

 

[jpoon]

Sounds like a massive waste of money, time and effort. Screw WoW, let the kids play that game.

 

[The Black Ghost]

Yay a Sim City 4 player! Good games never die.

 

[About 115 Ninjas]

Hmm my girlfriend and I game together all the time. We went to the Cata launch together, first in line and everything. We play more than just WoW together (we also play Reach, SSF4 and I helped her through her first runthrough of ME2). The couple that games together stays together.

For the record, we also go out. We hit art shows and clubs and other "normal couple" things. We're both also still in school, we hold down jobs and aren't (completely) broke.

 

[ExaltedK9]

I'm a rehabilitated WoW player, and I still miss it quite a bit. It seems like you have all the incentive you need to pick it up.

Just let it take you in.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

Brownie points aren't worth scoring if doing so would also castrate you.

You can quote me on that.

I don't get the connection there. How is playing WoW going to lead to castration?

OT: For myself, I typically hate MMOs, but if a girl asked me to play WoW I'd at least consider it before saying 'no.' For me to play WoW there'd have to be more in it for me than running around a virtual world with some girl's avatar for several hours (Esp. when I couldn't be 100% sure it's actually a girl behind that avatar).

 

[Entreri481]

first of all, people probably sink their money and time into it because it is a good game, and second, why are you going out with someone who loves some one else? You need to have some self respect, stand up, and tell her to choose, it's one or the other.

 

[Thaius]

I think it would make sense to play with her, but I understand your apprehension considering the game apparently played a part in ending your marriage. I would like to point out that it's the fault of the addict, not the game, but nevertheless I can't guarantee I would regard the game any differently after such an experience.

I'm holding the line simply because The Old Republic is coming out soon. I'd rather get into MMOs with a Bioware Star Wars game than WoW.

 

[Jekken6]

Ask her to play Civ 5 with you

 

[deth2munkies]

I play WoW (recently got back in due to extreme freeness, I wouldn't pay for this anymore), and I've seen WoW relationships that turned out really well, and those that fell apart in large part because of it. One relationship was the guy being all hardcore and the girl being more casual, she learned how to raid and raid well for him, but he kept wanting to get into more and more hardcore guilds and left her behind for progression. Needless to say, that one didn't work.

I've seen a couple work out their issues through a couple of trusted guildies they'd never met in person, came out the stronger for it, and get married. Still living happily today as far as I know.

In any given guild, there's usually at least one couple that plays together, as long as the game does not become the focal point of the relationship and becomes more of a communication/pastime than work, it'll be fine.

 

[Tron-tonian]

My wife isn't a gamer, so I haven't asked. She is interested (sort of) about the plots and stuff, and when I was playing WoW would ask how the guild was doing. That's about it.

Good on you for sticking to your guns with the gal, too - if you don't like the game, don't want to play the game - why should you play the game? Brownie points or not, it's not like she'll be hopping into bed with you for saying yes.

As other posters have mentioned, maybe she'll play other games with you. Co-op Borderlands, perhaps?

 

[Mr Pantomime]

Anyway, my point is that even though it would score me major brownie points with a girl

You know you can buy brownies at the store right?

 

[Danceofmasks]

Anyway, my point is that even though it would score me major brownie points with a girl

You know you can buy brownies at the store right?

Is that like .. err .. some sort of prostitution reference?

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

MY best friend and I started playing WoW at the same time and have played off and on for about 5 years. He really wants to start playing again but I just won't do it.

 

[burningdragoon]

She already plays WoW? If not I would probably be like "no... but how about xyz?" If she does, then bummer I guess.

I (probably) wouldn't start up an MMO, but I have started playing/bought some games in large part to a lady friend wanting to play it with me though (looking at you Little Big Planet). Can't say it won't happen again...

 

[Asturiel]

Yes, yes I have, some off my former classmates bought WoW + all expansion(Was up to Burning Cruse back then) + 2 month of play time for me. Sold it straight back to the store and bought a new headset instead.

Thats kind of a dick move mate.

OT: I've never tried to bring my significant other into playing WoW. Mostly because the perfect storm of a) Gamer b) Likes me and c) Willing to pay money for the game has not happened (yet).

 

[Iron Lightning]

Regular readers of my posts know my extreme distaste for Blizzard's money- and time-sink of a game. So imagine my surprise when a female friend of mine broached this subject over the phone last night (and worse, she's actually heard me say in so many words "WoW was a contributing factor in the demise of my marriage.")

Her rationale: She lives about 2,000 miles from me (I'm in Reno, she's about equidistant from Cleveland and Pittsburgh in southeastern Ohio). She thinks that gaming together will bring us closer. Never mind that she's rejected the idea of a romantic relationship on the grounds that she's still in love with her ex-boyfriend (who, by the way, is engaged to someone else---they've been broken up for almost a year!)

Anyway, my point is that even though it would score me major brownie points with a girl, I still wouldn't even consider playing World of Warcraft (my gaming time is valuable and I'd really rather be playing SimCity 4 or New Vegas or Civ 5 or any of the myriad other games in my collection, a collection guaranteed to grow with Steam's annual buy-this-stuff-now spree.)

For Discussion! If you're currently a WoW player, have you ever tried to get your significant other into playing it with you? Or, on the other side of the equation, have you run into the same problem I just described, where someone tries to get you to play but you hold the line?

I've got an idea, why don't you ask her to play a free-to-play game (I like Vindictus, but that's just my recommendation)? That way you can score major brownie points and still keep your hard-earned cash. Plus, Vindictus has a built-in mechanism that it uses to limit the amount of battles you can do, so it's not really a time-sink.

More on Topic: I've never really had the problem that you've experienced, nor have I tried to pressure someone into playing an MMO with me.

 

[katsumoto03]

The only thing WoW does is promote celibacy. At only a cheap price of $14 a month!

I am totally going to start using that.


OT: No. I've sunk four months into that game because I thought it would bring me closer to someone.

We hate each other now.