Girlfriend advice; I cheated

[Smagmuck_]

Give her a cookie. People like cookies.

Your not helping! Boy, you've dug your self a deep, deep, deeeeeeeep hole, the best thing you could do is just tell her. Tell her when it happened and maybe, just maybe she'll still be with you...

 

[philzibit]

I remember cheating on my girlfriend and wondering what to do. My advice? Blame her for it. My girlfriend had recently gained about 5-10 pounds so I just blamed it on that. I mean, like the guy in the $5000 suit is going to sleep with that....COME ON!

She cried and told me she'd lose the weight, which she did. I then went out with her sister.

Dick move nerd

 

[ae86gamer]

Let me tell you now.. If you tell her the truth she'll be hurt and most likely break up with you. No matter how nice you say it or put it the end result is the same; You cheated on her.

If she forgives you then she's dumb, but thats just my opinion.

Anyways, tell her the truth and see how happens.

 

[GoldenCondor]

HOW did you cheat on her?
Kissed another girl?
Fucked another girl?
What?

 

[feather240]

I remember cheating on my girlfriend and wondering what to do. My advice? Blame her for it. My girlfriend had recently gained about 5-10 pounds so I just blamed it on that. I mean, like the guy in the $5000 suit is going to sleep with that....COME ON!

She cried and told me she'd lose the weight, which she did. I then went out with her sister.

Please tell me you're joking. You've got to be the most horrible person in the world...

Q: How did you cheat on her?

Q: Is this like a high-school relationship or what? I mean how long do you expect it to last?

A: I'd recommend being really nice for a week than for about three days don't act out the ordinary so it doesn't seam like you're sucking up. Than tell her, but not in a public place. She can't yell in a public place, but than she'll never get it out of her system and will hate you. Just like I hate you, and everyone else here. You've dissapointed us. Commence shunning! *shuns*

Edit:

HOW did you cheat on her?
Kissed another girl?
Fucked another girl?
What?

Ninja'd...

 

[The_Healer]

Well if its been almost a year since then, don't tell her.

Your dishonesty up until now will make her doubt everything you've ever told her...
Best thing to do is just to not tell her and try to make it up to her (for yourself) by being really good to her etc. That way you can perhaps relinquish some of the guilt.

 

[Shapsters]

You mean you didnt tell her when you did cheat? Tsk tsk. I always say honest is the best policy.

Yea I know I am idoit but I just don't want to hurt her so is it right not to tell her?

If she is already suspicious, just tell her, come clean about it or it will come to bite you in the ass ten items worse if you don't tell her.

 

[Emperor Inferno]

I remember cheating on my girlfriend and wondering what to do. My advice? Blame her for it. My girlfriend had recently gained about 5-10 pounds so I just blamed it on that. I mean, like the guy in the $5000 suit is going to sleep with that....COME ON!

She cried and told me she'd lose the weight, which she did. I then went out with her sister.

and ur a POS.

Ignore people like this. After you've done some serious soul searching and determined if you love her, if the answer is yes, then tell her. There it is. That's it. If you actually love her, tell her. And when I say tell her, I mean full disclosure. Of course, spare her the naughty details, but tell her every time and when it happened. Full honesty. It'll hurt (both you and her) and she will be upset and angry, and she will probably say "I knew it!" and things to that affect. But, if she loves you as much as you love her, she will eventually forgive you. Then, the healing can begin. If not, then it's not meant to be. If that's the case, move on and learn from your mistake.

 

[dsau]

My girlfriend and I have been going out for a year now. Recently she has suspected me of cheating on her ,but I haven't recently. By this I mean in the beginning of our relationship I had moment of weakness and cheated on her. I still feel guilty to this day now she is saying if I cheated on her to tell her. She has been hurt by past boyfriends and I don't want to hurt her and I don't know what the right thing to do is.
Can anyone help me out or give me advice? Should I tell her and hurt her or should I be quiet and let it fade out?

path of the honest man: tell her
path of the hopeful man: dont tell and never do it again

which is right? i dont know. you know her better than I

the important thing is your intention in the matter. for you do want the best for her, which is admirable. i wish you luck

 

[Skooterz]

I'd tell her, bro. Living a lie is never a good thing. Hopefully she'll forgive you, and you'll never do it again. (I hope.)

 

[Destal]

You mean you didnt tell her when you did cheat? Tsk tsk. I always say honest is the best policy.

Yea I know I am idoit but I just don't want to hurt her so is it right not to tell her?

I would say this advice is more for married couples, but I would say do not tell her. It's not her fault you cheated on her and you shouldn't relieve your guilty conscience by telling her. It is your own burden to bear. If you ever cheat on her again, just end it there.

 

[crudus]

I'm really not sure. You shouldn't go without punishment. However, telling her would be best but that could end too horribly. I think this is relevant [http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/drama.png]

I say just tell you did. If she really loves you she will understand.......

.....I think.

All bets are off when you cheat on someone....I think.

 

[KingPiccolOwned]

Well, as a female I would want my boyfriend to tell me.
Sure it will hurt. She will probably yell at you and get really angry. However, the longer you wait to tell her, the more pain it will bring.
If you plan on being with her for a while, it needs to come out someday. If she leaves you for it, you probably deserve it.
I'm sorry but I have no mercy for someone who cheats on their boyfriend/girlfriend. I have a feeling my ex cheated on me and it hurts like hell.

So my advice is tell her and don't ever cheat on anyone again. Take this as a learning experience. A relationship is based on honesty and if you can't be honest, you shouldn't be in a relationship.

How can they cheat on you if you're not going out with them? Isn't that called seeing other people?

 

[Samurai Goomba]

Do whatever you feel like doing.

In the end, all relationship advice threads can be boiled down to this one statement, because it's what they all end up doing, anyway. What does our opinion matter? We are not you.

 

[HentMas]

you my friend dont deserve a girl friend

 

[Kingsman]

Better be honest with her. If she gets bitchy about bygones, then there was never a chance at the relationship working.

 

[jboking]

My girlfriend and I have been going out for a year now. Recently she has suspected me of cheating on her ,but I haven't recently. By this I mean in the beginning of our relationship I had moment of weakness and cheated on her. I still feel guilty to this day now she is saying if I cheated on her to tell her. She has been hurt by past boyfriends and I don't want to hurt her and I don't know what the right thing to do is.
Can anyone help me out or give me advice? Should I tell her and hurt her or should I be quiet and let it fade out?

A question in order to gauge my response. When you say you cheated...how bad are we talking? If you got in bed with another girl...well things could be rather difficult to explain. You should probably practice the lines, "It was stupid of me," and "I love you."

Well basically your relationship is now based on a lie. Whether or not it hurts her now it is now more likely to fail because of all that insecurity and regret that came with what you did in the past. The only way to make it better, even though it may cost you the relationship, is to tell her the truth. Its lose lost in the long run if you dont tell her now. So take it as a learning experience.

This is unfortunately true, the best thing you can do at this point is fess up to your misdeeds and hope she handles it well. Really though, you set yourself up for this one, so you should have been bracing for impact for a while now. Good luck.

 

[Tdc2182]

I don't know this girl, but I'm assuming she's nice since you've been with her for a year. That being said, you're kinda sorta a total fucking asshole for cheating on her. My advice? Tell her. If she forgives you, you're lucky. If she doesn't and breaks up with you, sorry but you deserve it.

Yea I know I am an asshole and screwed up ,but she has had this happen before in past relationships more then 2 that I know of. So I don't want to tell her because it would hurt her more deeper then it would others. She is a good person I don't want her questioning herself. So does that justify me not telling her or is that a cop-out?

Tell her and if she breaks up with you, you learned her lesson. And that is a cop-out if you don't tell her. And later down the road she will find out eventually, and when you had a chance to tell her and it will be on your back as long as you guys are dating.

 

[Rigs83]

You were at the beginning so you did not know if it was serious so you slept with someone else. Do it now and you are a cheater but back then you were just amorous. If she asks say no but if she pushes say during the first few dates you were not exclusive.